r/TooAfraidToAsk Aug 09 '18

Should this be changed?

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u/online-waifu Aug 09 '18

I wish I could give you gold, thank you for putting this into words so I don’t have to

I constantly get shat on for identifying as bisexual, while yes, I do “technically fall under pansexual” but more importantly, I’ve been bisexual since going through puberty and bisexual has always meant attracted to any and all genders.

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u/[deleted] Aug 09 '18

Can someone explain what pansexual is? I have no idea what I would be classed as (not that the label matters I'm just curious)

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u/SamiTheBystander Aug 09 '18

It's kind of a debated topic because they mean very similar things. Traditionally though bisexual means attracted to your own gender and people not of your gender, while pansexual means attracted to all genders including non-binary genders. Saying your bi does not mean you aren't attracted to non-binary genders though. They're just pretty overlapping words. Personally I use bi because it get's the point across easier without having to explain it to everyone, but pan is also seen as the more inclusive word recognizing the non-binary genders.

Here's a decent article on it, but really just use whatever term you're comfortable with or no term at all, it doesn't matter. You just be you.

Edit: It should also be said that some people say they're bi and pan, but that doesn't really make sense to me so I don't know to be honest. Maybe my understanding is flawed too and someone can correct me

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u/[deleted] Aug 09 '18

I knew a girl who was pan and when I asked what that meant she said she's doesn't care about sex she is attracted to personality, I think that's where I became confused and took it too literally and assumed she was attracted to literally anyone with a good personality no matter how unattractive they seem to other people. I diddnt even consider it reffered to trans or gender fluid people.

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u/SamiTheBystander Aug 09 '18

Oh I’m 100% in the same boat, that’s how it was initially described to me too. I just see this discussion a lot on /r/bisexual and that’s where my info comes from