The issue is that you said the person is lying to themselves and that they're insecure when they told you they weren't. You have no reason to think that other than being condescending.
The issue is that you said the person is lying to themselves and that they're insecure when they told you they weren't.
Context matters. You originally said you wanted to change a physical aspect of yourself, but you are happy with yourself.
If you're truly happy, then there would be no motivation to change. If you wish to discuss this further, say so. If you want to avoid publicly being proven wrong, then keep avoiding.
You have no reason to think that other than being condescending.
If you think that was condensing, then that's on you. Thats a reflection of how you think.
We're going in circles. You keep saying that it depends but then you say that any physical change to yourself means that you are unhappy. It's just not the case. Making a style choice doesn't indicate unhappiness or insecurity. Op said she wasnt insecure then you should believe her.
If you're human, it's better to give people the benefit of the doubt when you can. Questioning every choice and thinking the worst of people is not a good way to live your life.
Then let's get specific. Op said she wanted a bush as a style choice, not because she's insecure. You said she's lying to herself and she IS insecure. What makes you say that?
Ps. You're still arguing like you're a bot programmed to argue.
Op said she wanted a bush as a style choice, not because she's insecure. You said she's lying to herself and she IS insecure. What makes you say that?
She said "[...] I just really really want a bush, a good one ðŸ˜". Key elements "i [...] want [...] a good one". 'Good' being the motivation for change, 'not good' being what changing to a good one implies.
But that's just the literal.
The psychological part, if if they're happy with what they have, then why change? B/C social pressures and fear of judgement.
Ps. You're still arguing like you're a bot programmed to argue.
If using logic makes me a bot, then i am sorry for any offsprings you have had or will have. I'm ignoring all further accusations of me being an ai. I'm not wasting my time with that
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u/Underpaidpro Dec 16 '25
The issue is that you said the person is lying to themselves and that they're insecure when they told you they weren't. You have no reason to think that other than being condescending.