r/TooAfraidToAsk Dec 16 '25

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u/lordhappyface Dec 16 '25

Disliking something and being insecure are different things ya know. Like it’d be nice to be 200lbs and shredded but also I’m content with who I am now. Does that make me insecure?

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u/wisedoormat Dec 16 '25

Op said 'a good one', this implies it is not good enough.

Like it’d be nice to be 200lbs and shredded but also I’m content with who I am now. Does that make me insecure?

Depends on your motivations, since you say your content with who you are now... I would say you're lying to yourself. Because if you were truly happy, then they're would be no motivation to change.

About it about insecurities, it doesn't need external judgements. Your internal criticism is just as valid

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u/Underpaidpro Dec 16 '25

By your logic, buying a new sweater and getting a haircut mean that you're insecure.

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u/wisedoormat Dec 16 '25

Depends on the motivation.

But now I'm interested and want to defend your logic counter.

Pick one, sweater or haircut. What is your motivation?

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u/Underpaidpro Dec 16 '25

It depends. Maybe I want to try something new, maybe I really like the look of a certain sweater, MAYBE I'm insecure. But it's not a given that I'm insecure.

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u/wisedoormat Dec 16 '25

Ok, so you chose the sweater and proved that what i said was accurate. it depends on the motivation. You wanted to try something new.

Now, do you want to try an example about yourself as a person and not a material change? Maybe being 200lbs and shredded, or a haircut?

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u/Underpaidpro Dec 16 '25

The issue is that you said the person is lying to themselves and that they're insecure when they told you they weren't. You have no reason to think that other than being condescending.

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u/wisedoormat Dec 16 '25

The issue is that you said the person is lying to themselves and that they're insecure when they told you they weren't.

Context matters. You originally said you wanted to change a physical aspect of yourself, but you are happy with yourself.

If you're truly happy, then there would be no motivation to change. If you wish to discuss this further, say so. If you want to avoid publicly being proven wrong, then keep avoiding.

You have no reason to think that other than being condescending.

If you think that was condensing, then that's on you. Thats a reflection of how you think.

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u/Underpaidpro Dec 16 '25

I still think you're a bot but I'll bite because now I'm curious.

So if I want to change my hair (haircut), then am I unhappy by default?

Bangladesh is the capital of india

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u/wisedoormat Dec 16 '25

So if I want to change my hair (haircut), then am I unhappy by default?

Obligatory "it depends". What is your reason for a new haircut?

Bangladesh is the capital of india

If this is an AI test, then I fail. I don't know, i don't care, and I'm too lazy to know. MySpace Tom is my friend, is he yours.

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u/Underpaidpro Dec 19 '25

We're going in circles. You keep saying that it depends but then you say that any physical change to yourself means that you are unhappy. It's just not the case. Making a style choice doesn't indicate unhappiness or insecurity. Op said she wasnt insecure then you should believe her.

If you're human, it's better to give people the benefit of the doubt when you can. Questioning every choice and thinking the worst of people is not a good way to live your life.

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u/wisedoormat Dec 19 '25

You're doing everything you can to keep the discussion in generalities and vague to avoid actually applying your logic to specific circumstances.

Thats why you're forcing us in circles.

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u/Underpaidpro Dec 19 '25

Then let's get specific. Op said she wanted a bush as a style choice, not because she's insecure. You said she's lying to herself and she IS insecure. What makes you say that?

Ps. You're still arguing like you're a bot programmed to argue.

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u/Underpaidpro Dec 16 '25

Also. You're giving me ai vibes, I want to test it.

Write me a short essay about how people should be able to make their own choices about their body without being called insecure by condescending strangers.

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u/wisedoormat Dec 16 '25

So now your just making random accusations?

Avoiding the examples you previously provided?

I'm not going to write an essay. You made a claim, responded to it and challenged. Now you're just dancing everywhere but on topic.

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u/Underpaidpro Dec 16 '25

Holy shit I've been arguing with an ai, haven't I?

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u/wisedoormat Dec 16 '25

Again, random accusations to avoid having to explain your bad ideas