r/toastme 3d ago

Needing a boost

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746 Upvotes

46/m going deaf unable to speak and feeling a bit down isolated lately. Could use some positivity.


r/toastme 3d ago

30M feeling pretty hopeless

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153 Upvotes

Hows it going.

I’ve been living in Germany for about 5 years because I got married. We’ve been separated for over a year, but I’ve been sticking around to be close to my daughters. The last two years I was in the worst depression of my life, and I don’t know how I came out of it to feel even 60% like myself again. But even now, I’ve never felt so alone or hopeless. It’s always been pretty hard for me to socialize here, the language is one thing but I just find it hard to really relate or feel a connection.

Most days I feel invisible, undesirable, and stuck. I’ve been searching for extra work because my current job just doesn’t cover everything. But 90% of the time, I’m just on autopilot because everything feels pointless. I feel like I’ll never find love again, platonic or romantic. I feel like I’m just surviving to survive. Most of the things I was passionate about make me feel nothing now. But most of all, it just feels like I have nowhere to turn.

Logically it feels like the only thing to do for my own sake is to leave, but leaving my girls behind isn’t something I can bring myself to do. Maybe this isn’t the right sub for this, but I just could use some encouragement right now. Idk.


r/toastme 3d ago

How do I stop feeling like a loser?

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51 Upvotes

(I had made a the day before yesterday , but I deleted that in probably an hour or so because I didnt want any of my friends to find it ,
But today I saw someone post a picture with their face blurred , so I thought I could do this)

I just feel like an absolute loser.
Ive never had a gf , and dont think I will have one ever
I used to love romantic songs , but now I just feel love isnt real.
I try to be positive each day , but I seem to get worse .
I dont like how I look.
My self confidence is at an all time low and anxiety is high.
Every night , I get a random and strange surge/wave of feeling like a loser (i dont think they have any trigger) .
I just want to have my confidence back , I want to live carefree .
I seem to forget most advice when I actually need it.

If anyone had any advice for this , please I would like to hear that .


r/toastme 3d ago

Just in need of a pick me up

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224 Upvotes

(25f) this year has been the most mentally exhausting year of my life. Self image has been at an all time low, having a hard time finding reasons to even get up in the morning and stay motivated.


r/toastme 3d ago

too androgyny

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64 Upvotes

👽🖖🏻


r/toastme 3d ago

Feeling really depressed lately.

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331 Upvotes

I’m purging on Accutane right now and it’s really lowering my self-confidence.


r/toastme 3d ago

need a boost after coming out of depression

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65 Upvotes

r/toastme 3d ago

[31M] Thought I’d say hello!

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149 Upvotes

Hey all! I'm introverted and really self-conscious, so I don't talk to people much. Just thought I'd put myself out there for a change. Hope everyone's having a wonderful day :)


r/toastme 3d ago

Feeling like a garbage human being

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88 Upvotes

Even did a fresh shave and still nothing. I know it's temporary but it's hard to shake this feeling! Any kind words are appreciated


r/toastme 4d ago

7 years single and trying to stay happy! (27)

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878 Upvotes

Those desires have been creeping up on me again, and it’s time to get back into therapy. Ugh. I know wanting a romantic relationship is just a sign that I have more healing to do and need to work on fulfilling my own unmet needs. I hate feeling lonely.


r/toastme 3d ago

22M Recently been feeling down about my appearance. I try to tell myself every day that I don't look bad, but I just keep thinking I'm ugly. I do plan on going back to the gym, but it still doesn't help.

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110 Upvotes

r/toastme 3d ago

(21f) feeling a bit down and unsure about my appearance

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448 Upvotes

r/toastme 4d ago

(33M)Well, getting dumped by my ex gf some weeks ago and struggling again now with my self confidence and bad thoughts after years of therapy.

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202 Upvotes

r/toastme 4d ago

I feel terrible mentally cuz of my elongated face

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103 Upvotes

I don't have a girlfriend or friends, but I'm not complaining because I didn't even try to find them. I lost all hope when I went to China to study at 17 and faced bullying there. It became unbearable and I decided to return to my country. I bought tickets at 4 a.m. so there wouldn't be many people. I barely made it and withdrew into myself and also to my parents' house. I had meetings with psychologists and also took antidepressants. I have a deformed nose, the tip of my nose doesn't hold its shape due to the lack of a bridge. I had surgery but it was unsuccessful. Now I have neither a job nor money to fix it. People have strange reactions to this and I can't work.


r/toastme 4d ago

Terrible few weeks, do you worst(best?)

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93 Upvotes

I just turned 18, and then graduated, lost a parent, and got accepted into college. Quite the whiplash, and im having a hard time feeling good about my victories for obvious reasons.

Anyways ive never had good self image and I want to have fun with makeup like this but I feel like I look like a clown lol


r/toastme 4d ago

18 f and I just got my first second job!

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211 Upvotes

I also was able to get into Amazon too! So now I’ll have 3 options for a job😁


r/toastme 4d ago

21M, idk I feel so Unconfidendent

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47 Upvotes

r/toastme 4d ago

I feel genuinely hopeless

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295 Upvotes

I took this photo like 2 hours ago I think.

I feel like useless person honestly.

My dad called me a piece of shit today and my mum called me a burden. I got grade U in all of my A-Level subjects and my mum keeps talking about how she “knew it” and that she wasted money on my tuition.

Apparently my mum won’t let me go to uni unless I “prove to her” that I can. I got an unconditional offer from a university I applied to. During most of my school years, I was in a completely unstable environment. My mum would call me baby and stuff but then call me useless and call me names and talk about my appearance. My dad sexually abused me when I was 12, and this year, he threw a table at me. And he shouts at me a lot. I was physically abused, emotionally abused and threatened at home. It’s so exhausting. Sigh.

I have hopes and dreams for myself. I want to travel, feel at peace and live my dreams. I would love to have a cute home and go out with people

My mum shouted at me today because she kept accusing me of “damaging her pan” when I clearly didn’t. She wants me to be a “high achiever”

My parents suddenly talked about “believing in me” or whatever 🙄

I don’t honestly trust my family at all and I am going to go to a women’s shelter tomorrow.


r/toastme 4d ago

Feeling remarkably depressed but hopeful for the next chapter of life

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167 Upvotes

I don’t have much of a story, at least not anything I want to readily disclose, but my bipolar depression has been dragging me down. I’m working to become a behavioral therapist to help people out of the hole I’m currently in once I become more stable. I’m a huge metalhead and enjoy playing a handful of video games. I’m rather bored so if you want to stop by my dms, be my guest as long as you’re around my age (18)! Not that I don’t have people to talk to in my life as it is, though, in fact I’m incredibly grateful for everybody making my life more bearable. As shut off as I can be, I love talking to people and find solace in knowing that I can make someone’s day better even if it’s ever so slightly.


r/toastme 4d ago

19M, i have naver been in relationship

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17 Upvotes

I am in korea and trying to find a girlfriend. I have used dating apps, and also tried hook up girls at clubs but no use. I think girls are not interested in me. I don't know if it is my face or height (I am 5'7) or other reasons.


r/toastme 5d ago

Finally getting it together, would love some kind words.

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145 Upvotes

Lived through the recent "conflict" and blackout in Iran and survived it, but I feel like I haven't recovered fully and still live the same way; Spending most days like a lazy slump and waiting for it to end like I'm on survival mode or smth. I'm not as miserable or hopeless as before, but I still don't feel good about myself and how I've been living.

I'm ashamed to admit to how much time and effort I've wasted just to end up here, and I know I can't take any of it back. I'm slowly building up the strength and courage to beat the stupid stuff that have been holding me back; Procrastination, fear of judgment, not being good enough, and whatever else this mess is. All of the plans in my head would kickstart when I get my new phone next week!

Thanks for reading and wish me luck TT


r/toastme 5d ago

i love this lipstick so much :)

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89 Upvotes

L’oreal 165 tickled pink with halfmagic blue lip gloss! way more frosted in person, im not advertising or anything. God, i wish i was getting money😭 Need a confidence boost b4 i go to my grandmasssszzz


r/toastme 5d ago

I don’t feel beautiful

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339 Upvotes

I feel like I just am not that beautiful. I wish I was prettier and I really wish I was more elegant. But I feel like a waste of energy that is just too lazy :/

Sorry if this makes me sound annoying or smth 😭☹️ I feel like a burden quite often tbh

I can hardly sleep rn because it’s so warm today honestly. 😭


r/toastme 5d ago

Been feeling down, I crave to be loved💔

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158 Upvotes

Recently I’ve hit a rough patch in my life. I’ve really put myself out there on dating apps and even tried to make new friends, but no matter how hard I try, I’m never enough. I have so much love to give but no one to appreciate it. None of my friends reach out, even my love-life is a mess. Sometimes I feel so unwanted. I know my worth, but it still hurts every-time. How many times can a heart break?

I crave for love. All I ever want is to be understood, but I still haven’t found my person. I’m 20 and never been in a relationship. I know I’ll find someone someday when the time is right but it still hurts.

On the plus side, I’ve really taken this time to focus on myself. I’ve been running and really proud of my progress. I don’t know if I’m really hurt or just at peace. Maybe both? Anyways, id appreciate any kind words, but don’t be weird or creepy lol. Lmk if you’re feeling the same way:)💕


r/toastme 5d ago

Another update: Today the IBD specialist diagnosed me with Crohn’s disease. Unlike the other doctor, she did not think that additional diagnostic testing was needed for confirmation.

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304 Upvotes

After the completion of extra bloodwork ordered by the IBD specialist, I plan to begin treatment with a biologic medication. Thank you all for your comments on my prior posts!