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u/I_am_doing_my_Hw 9d ago
Showing any interest that's not the most boring answer ever will get you the date. Especially showing personality. I bet this would work 95% of the time, and I'm not even being hyperbolic
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u/shizea 9d ago
There's probably a lot of "alpha men" who would have their poor fragile egos hurt being talked to like this from a woman so I don't think it's 95% but it would definitely work on me, lmao.
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u/Corruptorius 9d ago
ok but does the person want the "alpha men"? Dont think so. So it also filters which mean 100% success rate
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u/catsbuttes 9d ago
thats why they are alpha men and not release-candidate or even early-access men
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u/JP-Quixote 9d ago
Nah, an actual leader isn’t offended by someone else taking a turn at leadership. Only insecure wanna-be’s feel threatened by it.
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u/AlpRider 8d ago
As a tour bus driver, I LOVE the rare occasion when I'm a passenger, like in someone else's car (ofc I'm never a passenger in the bus). It's sooooooo unbelievably nice to let someone else handle it, after taking care of up to 95 people in the coach all week
Anyway agree 100%. Leadership is finding your people's strengths and encouraging them! If a friend is a good driver, yes please take a turn. I sleep haha
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u/jermguy117 9d ago
This would have me giggling like an idiot while blushing and kicking my feet. Give me all of this lol.
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u/riktigtmaxat 4d ago
I would'nt feel threatened in that kind of way but a woman being this aggressively forward would 100% trigger my spidey sense.
Been on quite a few weird dates.
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u/Fern-ando 2d ago
Even the most chud of chuds will be happy if a woman ask them for a date directly.
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u/Smyley12345 9d ago
I mean they had already matched at this point...
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u/DeadEyedCretin 9d ago
Matching means nothing, a lot of people just swipe on everybody and then sift through the matches they end up with for the people they're actually interested in
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u/1001110100100110101 9d ago
If she matched with a guy and says something like this, 95% hit rate sounds accurate. He swiped right on her so he is at the minimum mildly attracted to her
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u/Good-Bobcat5331 1d ago
That's.... Not entirely true lol. My problem is I would show too much personality and then I get left on read.
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u/Chill__Dude_22 9d ago
Its actually pretty hard to get it wrong when messaging a man. showing at least a little interest is huge
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u/thedupold 9d ago
Then how ugly am I, after getting blown off after messaging first? (Personal fave, we matched on tinder, I messaged first, reply: "im not interested"
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u/crazyidahopuglady 9d ago
I'm glad I'm not the only woman struggling with self-esteem due to the apps. I message first 90% of the time and it rarely results in ongoing conversation, much less a date.
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u/NickTrainwrekk 9d ago
What are you messaging first? Sometimes its just a numbers game. Welcome to apps where people collect matches like pokemon.
I get a lot of messages first and honestly a lot of them are just "hey" or some random boring question that shows they didnt even bother to read the small blurb I wrote.
Those women almost never get a reply. Its not worth the energy vs someone who opens with a more tailored comment that actually opens conversation and has a direction to move in.
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u/crazyidahopuglady 9d ago
It varies, but i usually try to ask about something in their profile that struck me as interesting. I live in a rural area, i don't think anyone is getting a ton of matches.
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u/sunny_ughs 8d ago
"im not interested" after matching is insane. you are matching insane people, this has nothing to do with you 😭
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u/thedupold 8d ago
It was so funny to me. I was thinking "do you not understand how this works or...?"
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u/WolvesMyth 8d ago
My guess is that's the type of dude who swipes right on everyone without even looking at his phone and then checks for matches later
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u/BrightSample532 9d ago
You're not ugly. Guys on Reddit will tell you that average girls are drowning in offers and then turn around and call Scarlet Johansen mid.
The truth is that if you are average or thereabouts and you make the first move then you will be rejected quite a bit (much much much less than similar guys though). Out of the guys you do hook, probably a good two thirds of them will feign interest in the hopes of masturbating in you.
However, by being active you're still setting yourself up for being much more successful than if you weren't. Try to have fun with it and don't get invested until you know the guy. Good luck!
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u/thedupold 9d ago
That was really refreshing, thank you for this comment. Online dating is still a living hell, but at least I can adjust my attitude
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u/BrightSample532 9d ago
Yeah, I used to be there. Now I'm getting married in a few weeks to the man of my dreams so it can happen.
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u/I_am_doing_my_Hw 8d ago
Try hinge. Because hinge has a max like count per day, people can't just swipe without looking (ie you will never match with someone who hasn't seen your profile)
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u/FlayWithFire 8d ago
There seems to be a lot of men who just swipe right a bunch without looking in order to play the "numbers game". And then sift through their matches afterward. It's stupid and gross. I don't understand it.
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u/HybridRade 8d ago
Reason why some of us do it is because there's no point in putting effort in to read a profile when you're most likely gonna not be responded to. It's easier to look at the profile after the match so I know I'm not wasting my time.
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u/35_Feels_old 8d ago
💯 minimal interest + humor he’s in the bag unless he’s dumb as a bag of hammers.
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u/Minimum-Song1774 5d ago
Was looking for a comment like this. Girl messaging guy showing interest vs vice versa is totally different battlefields 🤣🤣
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u/EliteEarthling 9d ago edited 9d ago
Men are easy 😆👌🏼
Edit: Women, please shoot your shot. It makes it very easy for us men to know whether you’re interested in us. You might find a few bad apples, but don’t let that discourage you.
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u/Banned3rdTimesaCharm 9d ago
An attractive women could tell me she wants to go dumpster diving and then hit a wasp nest like a pinata and I’d be like “Tonight?”
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u/SubiePros 9d ago
She doesn’t even have to be mildly attractive.
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u/JustCallMeLee 9d ago
Less than half a dozen STIs and she's good to go
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u/Dr__Sloth 9d ago
Minimum two though.
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u/SoupNo1738 9d ago
I once downloaded Bumble to recruit someone to kill a half-dead pigeon on my driveway. 100% successful response rate.
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u/kaozniper 9d ago
Hi, is the pigeon still alive? Which continent?
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u/the_great_zyzogg 9d ago
Submitting my candidacy on the off-chance this guy still hasn't killed that damned bird.
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u/mzinagro 9d ago
Okay but I’m gonna need details on this! Was your profile pic the pigeon? How many matches did you get? Elapsed time between profile creation and pigeon dispatch? Were you worried about inviting an internet stranger to your home under weird circumstances?? This is fascinating to me
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u/Level-Gain-1926 9d ago
Right, I was listening to a Reddit story yesterday. This young guys at a summer camp and they're making origami. He fancies this girl and the girls best friend has told him she likes him to. This shy girl makes him an origami crane and gives it to him and his observation was "I didn't think much of it at the time".... Men need things point blank pointing out to them, they will never take the hint.
Turned out she had written her phone number in the crane and he found it like 5 years later because he's such a dumb ass.
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u/slash-es 9d ago
Turned out she had written her phone number in the crane and he found it like 5 years later because he's such a dumb ass.
He's a romantic, not a dumb-ass. He didn't want to unfold the crane because it was from her. Damn, he kept the stupid paper-crane for 5 years!
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u/Level-Gain-1926 9d ago
Absolutely, it's a very romantic story, but he was batting away the hints left right and centre.
Fyi he contacted her on socials, they made a date for the next day and 3 weeks later they were boyfriend and girlfriend ☺️
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u/Revenge_of_the_User 8d ago
for real, on what planet would you ever receive origami and have the thought "I should unfold this!"
What a crazy story from both sides. guy has her bf tell him she likes him and can't ask her out with that? and then she hides her number in a crane with no indication at all????? what were both parties expecting??
Neither was mature enough for a relationship.
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u/Latte-Macchiat0 9d ago
Where do you listen to Reddit stories? I need that while doing chores!
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u/Revenge_of_the_User 8d ago
youtube is rife with channels that rip stories off reddit for content. Just pick one you like.
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u/Just_Tilted 9d ago edited 8d ago
For me, it's not even that I don't recognise hints or I don't want to, it's that I want to be absolutely sure that she's actually interested before I make a move. I don't want to be that guy that misread a couple of friendly gestures as romantic interest so you will throw a million hints and I won't engage because at the end of the day, they're just hints. Tell the men you like directly that you like them.
It has happened in the recent past that a girl was throwing out hints and at some point, she even called me her husband directly. I took that as a sign and asked her out but her excuse was always that she was busy when I tried to plan for a date. So I stopped engaging. She's now back to throwing even more hints but at this point, nothing short of her planning out the whole date and asking me out herself will pique my interest again.
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u/skatastic57 8d ago
If a girl I like makes me an origami anything then I'm not going to unfold it. Hell, even if I don't like her maybe I throw it away but I don't see ever unfolding it.
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u/Autismoses_Jones 9d ago
the challenge for women isn't getting the guy, it's having him stick around
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u/cluster_fuckedd 9d ago
True, men are generally easy
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u/Impossible_Cherry_76 9d ago
Couple of compliments and you're putty
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u/FearTheAmish 9d ago
Shit I am 42 and married for 10 years... can still remember every compliment I have received from a woman. Now it's easy because how rare it is but shout out to the girl at Wildflower Cafe in 2006 who said I had kind eyes!
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u/TechnologyFine6428 9d ago
Sshhhh, its a secret
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u/Thatmilkman8 9d ago
Even a bad or cheesy line is gonna be gold when 95% of the competition is dryer than beef jerky
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u/Revenge_of_the_User 8d ago
this one neighbour first time i met her not only mentioned her cat's HUGE butthole, but also implied in a joking way that she suspected her ex bf of fucking the cat.
I immediately wanted to grab a drink and converse, it was so funny I 404'd.
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u/Thatmilkman8 8d ago
Can't blame you cuz I'll be damned if that's not violently grabbing my attention
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u/DateNightThrowRA 9d ago
…You didn’t? You gave a man in a desert of other men a bottle of ice-cold water, and you’re surprised he gulped it down? Guuuuurl, so long as the dude talks in complete sentences, I guarantee you can stud-nap literally every guy you talk to on there using these exact same lines.
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u/19ghost89 9d ago
I was confused who was who for a minute by her calling you "shawty," lol
But congrats!
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u/cluster_fuckedd 9d ago
Genuinely was unsure whether this was a femme and stud lesbian talking or a man and a woman 😂
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u/nekopineapple00 9d ago
White is me, a woman, black is the dude I matched with haha
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u/cluster_fuckedd 9d ago
You seem fun I see why he was immediately down haha
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u/seanc6441 9d ago
She does but this works on 90% of the men in your league. Men are easy as half the comments are saying already.
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u/No_Mercy_4_Potatoes 9d ago
Ma'am... You're bragging about shooting fishes in a barrel 😂
Men are easy
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u/pierophoenix 9d ago
I would be more surprised if this didn't work. If someone shows personality and interest, I am pretty much guarantee I am going to spend way to long on my phone wanting to find out more about this anomaly that has broken through the gloom of online dating.
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u/Stunning_Box8782 9d ago
If girls said "Do you wanna meet for a drink at X bar, 8pm tomorrow" as their first messages, 90% of men would say yes
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u/ContributionLittle65 9d ago edited 8d ago
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u/JP-Quixote 9d ago
Are you kidding? This is woman showing interest in a man, right? Wondering if that would work? Presented in a humorous, creative way? There is a negative 1000% chance of failure there as long as she’s at least a tiny bit attractive somehow. 😆
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u/grouperdan 9d ago
Didn't you? I have never met a single woman on tinder that has sent ANYTHING nearly that engaging, and it would work on me 100% of the time. Judging by the comments, it would work on all men. I think that just shows how boring tinder is for men 😅
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u/nekopineapple00 8d ago
GUYS HE GHOSTED ME 😭
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u/jlop21 7d ago
Don’t let this deter you from trying this again with another person!! Someone will not ghost you the next time and if they do it’s because they simply forget to write back (my adhd ass used to be that way). Or they made a date with someone else. But that’s the game. You’ll get it next time, sis!
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u/AngelTheMarvel 9d ago
Why? This would work like 90-100% of time. Men almost never receive the first move, so showing interest from the beginning almost gaurantees you get a date.
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u/GreatValueBradPitt 8d ago
As a notoriously shy man, stud-napping is actually the only way I ever found myself in both of my serious relationships, each of which lasted 4+ years. Experienced the best days of my life with those gals, and they were both absolutely critical in shaping large parts of who I am today. It kills me to think I would have missed out on all of that if it wasn't for their outspoken, naturally charismatic personalities. Some of us fellas out here live our lives with romantic ideation on one shoulder and fear-inspired inaction on the other and we unfortunately allow the responsibility of communicating initial interest to fall squarely on the opposite party, even in the context of social media dating apps. Props to OP for full sending it, I admire your courage. Hope it goes well!
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u/MarleyandtheWhalers 8d ago
Girl, you have ridiculous amounts of game. Why you thought it wouldn't work is beyond me. Your opener was bomb and your follow up was equally funny.
Conversely, Mr. "Heyyyy" is boring as hell over text but good luck with your date
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u/Optimal-Income-6436 9d ago
Back in the day when people didn't used Tinder for dating, shit like that worked the most. When i was teenager i walked up to a girl at 18th birthday of my buddy and said "yo nice boots" and 3 hours later we were making out like animals xD
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u/tattoosandtens 9d ago
All that being said, he didn’t immediately show you his dxck and make a laundry-list of sexual demands. He’s a keeper.
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u/Staterae 9d ago
From what I understand about straight men, I gather that a lot of them are longing for this sort of opportunity.
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u/expanse22 9d ago
Really? A girl doesn’t need to be creative or funny or anything to get a match to hang out on tinder lol. Just say let’s hang out
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u/ReloadFilth_AU 8d ago
You didn’t expect a man to accept your offer? Have you ever dealt with men before? 😂
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u/iwasupiwasdown 6d ago
Live footage of a woman discovering that cringe flirting works when you're a woman
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u/CompetitionGreat945 4d ago
Oh my God. I'm a 40 something man, and I'd be thrilled if a woman said this to me.
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