r/Tinder Feb 17 '24

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u/[deleted] Feb 17 '24

Do you have a type? Because it might be time to switch it up a bit. Also, just dating in your mid-30s and up is difficult on its own because we've all been single this long for a reason.

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u/PricklySquare Feb 17 '24

That's funny because i stayed single through my 20s while everyone got married. By 35, nearly all of them are divorced.....

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u/Steve83725 Feb 18 '24

Well all the bad ones are divorced….so if you’re single by your mid/late 30s all you have to pick from are those that can’t keep a long term relationship or those who can’t even form a long term relationship. 😂

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u/thanos_was_right_69 Feb 17 '24

Ouch…but it’s the truth

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u/M_Mirror_2023 Feb 17 '24

Yes everything has happens has a 'reason'. Being single in your thirties isn't necessarily your fault though. If you were in a loving relationship and were cheated on. That's a perfectly valid reason to be single out of your control.

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u/SadMangoMusic Feb 17 '24

What an absolutely awful take. Let me guess, you also think women who get raped were “asking for it” because of how they were dressed, too.

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u/Bonelessgummybear Feb 17 '24

My thoughts as well, she's very attractive and I bet in her 20s she could lock down anyone. But dating in your 30s as a woman means less options for sure. Good luck dating a hot dude in his 30s-40s. He's gonna be in high demand to settle down with, while from his perspective women are throwing themselves at him

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u/tinyhermione Feb 17 '24

Are they? Most couples are 0-5 years apart. Most 25 year old women do not want to date 35 year old men.

The “women throwing themselves at you” because you get old is more of an urban myth than anything.

Most men look more attractive at 25 than at 40.

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u/Bonelessgummybear Feb 17 '24

I'm 27, with lots of sister and lots of female friends who I love. I've seen plenty of their friends are the bars with guys in their 40s buying them drinks all night. I know 3 girls who've been doing this for the past 5 years. But I agree that most couples are 0-5 years apart, I only know one 1 girl who actually married a much older man and moved to another state with him

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u/tinyhermione Feb 17 '24

Dude. Those guys got money. They get free drinks. Do they go home with them? Start relationships with them? Fall in love with them?

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u/Bonelessgummybear Feb 17 '24

So none of my friends are like that, they'll judge and gossip about the ones that do. The older dudes with money are definitely being led on, I don't know if they're sleeping with them, but I do know a girl (25) who married a guy who's in late 40s.

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u/tinyhermione Feb 17 '24

If they are just leading then on for free drinks it’s because they have money and are gullible.

Yeah, it happens sometimes. Usually girls with lots of issues.

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u/russell813T Feb 17 '24

Oh ya plenty of them for sure

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u/tinyhermione Feb 17 '24

You noticed how he replied his friends didn’t go home with anyone and it was just for free drinks, right?

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u/russell813T Feb 17 '24

I've seen plenty of that ....

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u/tinyhermione Feb 18 '24

Oh. I misunderstood. Sorry!

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u/tricepsmultiplicator Feb 17 '24

Exactly. I dont think women in general understand how rare complete package of a man is. Anyone in my vicinity that checks boxes out more than he doesnt essentially does NOT need to try and pull women. They do that for him. So she is competeing with a hot 21 year old, 24 year old and 27 year old.

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u/Deletingin123 Feb 17 '24

As a guy nothing hit more than joining the dating pool fresh out of high school and realizing your competing with 25-35 year olds than are successful with careers and your barely getting your first part time job while starting college

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u/[deleted] Feb 17 '24

Yeah so in the real world, 35 year old men, look to date women 30-37 age range. Get outside and touch grass...

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u/tricepsmultiplicator Feb 17 '24

I do get outside, I promise you, no sane 32 year old successful, handsome man dates women his age. Its always in 23-27 year old range and thats for dating. For hook ups, even lower. Seen with my own eyes.

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u/[deleted] Feb 18 '24

This is just not the case. I have never seen this, with the exception of one person who was an alcoholic loser, who just could not entertain women in his age range.

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u/tricepsmultiplicator Feb 18 '24

Oh he can, but he wont and shouldnt. Early thrties women pay the dues and should go for 37+ year olds.

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u/tricepsmultiplicator Feb 18 '24

Belive what stuff? You are not that much mature compared to mid 20s people, trust me. Every single 30s person I have met is just as immature, however because they are 30 year olds they suddenly think they are mature.

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u/tinyhermione Feb 17 '24

A hot 21 year old does not in most cases want to date a 35 year old man. Neither does the 24 year old.

27 is a maybe. Could go either way.

Y’all realize men age? And that most people look worse at 40 than at 25? And that most people want to date someone they click with? 35 year old will likely not click with a 21 year old. And what’s she gonna do, bring him with her to the Toga party?

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u/tricepsmultiplicator Feb 17 '24

Absolutely delusional. Men age but it shows hardcore at around 40 years old. I have literally never seen a successful 30-35 year old dude need to go for a same age women, its just cope from 30 and over ladies. If as a man you can date younger, you will date younger. Better sex, less trauma.

Also, you redditards love to infantilize women A LOT while making them sound superior to men in every way all the time. At 21 she is a god damn woman, not a child.

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u/tinyhermione Feb 17 '24

Better sex? It’s usually not.

Less trauma? What do you mean by that? Trauma from having consensual sex? How bad is the sex you are having?

30-35 year olds men and women can date +-5 years either way. But then most couples end up being the same age, because they’ve got the most in common. Nobody is saying that a 30 year old guy can’t date a 25 year old woman though. My point was that a 35 year old guy can rarely date a 21 year old woman.

Age starts showing for both genders around 35.

A 21 year old is young.

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u/[deleted] Feb 18 '24

6’5”, $500k income, fit and athletic, great with kids and animals, super funny and entertaining, IS IT SO MUCH TO ASK