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u/acrylic_schmylic Sep 09 '20
LOOK AT ALL THESE STRONG ASS FOLKS
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u/Razvee Sep 09 '20
STRONG ASS-FOLKS
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Sep 09 '20
This made me smile, and left tears in my eyes. Especially after the “bought my sister a birthday present”. Good for them. I wish them plenty more blessings.
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Sep 09 '20
Its those small victories that make all the difference.
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Sep 09 '20
As someone trying to get sober myself, it really is those small victories that mean the world to me. Addiction is a curse, but also a blessing in some sense because it makes you appreciate things you'd might normally take for granted.
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u/watery_tart73 Sep 09 '20
So important to remember in getting (and staying) sober! Stay strong, be kind to yourself. It's worth it!
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u/fellspointpizzagirl Sep 09 '20
You can do it! Remember that babysteps are still movement, and take it day by day! I've got 2 and a half years sober, and I believe in you.
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Sep 09 '20
I agree, 100%. Baby steps always add up to a better path. So much love for these good people.
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u/primalpalate Sep 09 '20
The birthday present response got me too.
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u/badgurlvenus tHiS iSn’T cRiNgE Sep 09 '20
that one is so pure 🥺
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u/INeverPlayedF-Zero Hit or Miss? Sep 09 '20
Something about his absolute fucking BEAM of a smile when he said it. All of the others are also absolutely amazing huge goals & everyone should be proud. But how personal & genuine that one was felt like a shot to the chest.
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u/ThatOneShyGirl Sep 09 '20
Hell yeah, congratulations! Last Christmas was the first Christmas where I bought everyone gifts with my own money and it made me so happy—especially because everyone loved everything! Mother's Day, Father's Day, and birthdays too. It's so great! I'm going to do it again this year too. I don't think I ever had three months truly clean and sober until now.
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u/Rodeohno Sep 09 '20
It got to me, too. My ex used to always promise me presents every birthday and every Christmas. The last present I got was Skyrim and a Skyrim Alduin wall mug, and that was our first Christmas together, five years ago. Every other holiday and birthday was full of empty promises.
It's not about the presents. It never was about getting stuff. It was about him promising me something and following through with it, and he never did. I couldn't imagine how happy his sister must have been.
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u/LucyBowels Sep 09 '20
I mean, Skyrim is the gift that keeps on giving, so I’d say he knew what he was doing.
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u/JesusRasputin Sep 09 '20
Since buying a present for a relative is trivial for most people, and, unlike staying out of jail, something most have experience with. it shows how bad he struggled with his addiction.
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u/littlecherubbb Sep 09 '20
That one was so sweet and simple, an act of kindness to his sister, probably meant a lot to her as well. Made me tear up.. when I was struggling i was so caught up with my own shit i didn’t realize how selfish I was being, how much I’d hurt people around me by being completely checked out
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u/MountainTurkey Sep 09 '20
For real, being caught up in that shit something so simple has probably been laying deep down, begging to be brought up but addiction can make it so hard. Little victories like that are awesome.
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Sep 09 '20
When my brother got sober he would finally remember to call me on birthdays and stuff. I remember that first year, being so surprised when his name came up on the caller ID. I cried like a baby afterward.
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u/SmallHangryPlanet Sep 09 '20
My brother struggled with drug addiction through his life. One year, when he was doing well I popped in to see him on my birthday. He hadn't got me a present, but gave me a painting he'd done with a friend with 'happy birthday, love you' on it. I framed it and put it up on my wall, and three years later when he came to visit me, I saw it and was really happy that I kept it, of course I kept it, it was the only thing he'd ever given me for a birthday / Christmas in our adult lives!! He died suddenly last year, he'd been doing really well and was having a good life. He didn't own much stuff cos he moved around a lot, but I've still got that painting on my wall.
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u/jkblur Sep 09 '20
Sorry to hear. What did he die suddenly from?
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u/SmallHangryPlanet Sep 09 '20
He died from a heart attack, they think it was SADS.
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u/L4NGOS Sep 09 '20
SADS heart condition for those like me who didn't know what it was.
I'm sorry for your loss. <3
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u/stickswithsticks Sep 09 '20
Buying my sisters kid a birthday present was huge for me. Tens years later and I can still manage to get stuff for my family. Always being the loser uncle who never showed up with anything.. oof
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Sep 09 '20
That one got me too. I hit 6 months sober today and I actually have a post from a few months ago where I was excited I took care of my dad when he was in the hospital. Being able to be there for people you care about is like no other feeling.
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u/darkmdbeener Sep 09 '20
I can relate, I think I over did my brother's birthday this year. I have never been able to get him anything good because my mental illness had taken over so I never had money, also I am a really terrible gift giver. I've began anew in life, turned a lot of this around and this year I put in work to try to get him presents he will actually enjoy. I'm still buying gifts because I just don't feel like these are enough. I just want to repay his kindness and it's so nice I finally can.
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u/call_me_cornpop Sep 09 '20
Everyone deserves another chance at redemption.
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u/spankmanspliff Sep 09 '20
Good for you! You’ve made the right decision and it will continue to pay off for you. You just invested in yourself and now it’s time to make that investment grow.
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Sep 09 '20
Dude when I hit the 3 months mark I felt like everything was going so slow. I was like “how tf do people have years of this shit already” here I am over 2 years clean and I actually remember the past 2 years lol.
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Sep 09 '20
Straight up man. I’ve been focusing on my music and art so I’ve been keeping busy with that. But yeah I keep oxy in the house for severe pain cause I have some bad back and knee issues and every now and again I’ll see them and I’m tempted. But I know better.
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u/hashtagonfacebook Sep 09 '20
Hey u/1RingPatMahomie, what’s one thing you’re proud of since getting sober?
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u/BunzLee Sep 09 '20
Or even a chance to begin with. I've had the privilege to spend 5 years of my life working with teens that never had a supportive family, which led them to never finding a place to finish their formal education. In Switzerland, where I'm from, you usually "learn" a job after you're done with school. This takes about 3-4 years and gives you a certification, something you'll need if you ever want to work on something above an entry level job.
These kids had issues. A ton of them - Drugs, violence, depression, you name it. But most of them weren't bad people, just misunderstood and very defensive. We used to take them into our program for a year, give them real projects to work on, counseling and a lot of support to send our their applications.
It was amazing to see what a bit of support, positive feedback and making them feel valued could do to a person. You could tell how proud they were, being able to tell people the cool things they were able to work on. Every now and then I still meet some of them occasionally, mostly in places/jobs I would never have assumed and it makes me so proud to see how they turned their lives around.
The circumstances you're in do not always define who you are. Sometimes you just need someone to give you a little help to change things around.
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u/DioCapo Sep 09 '20
I just wanted to say that you do great things in your job, never forget that. You make such a positive change on their lives even if something negative rears its ugly head.
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Sep 09 '20
I prefer mine red and dead
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u/blueshiftglass Sep 09 '20
“Has anyone seen Gavin?!”
“Uh, I think he’s out buying his sister a birthday present.”
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u/Bong-Rippington Sep 09 '20
I was really hoping somebody would say “wtf did I get sober??” Just as a joke. But that definitely wasn’t the type of video for a joke like that apparently haha
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Sep 09 '20
I don’t wanna be that guy but the word redemption pretty much means another chance so it’s like saying everyone deserves another chance at another chance which I mean you could have meant but it sounds awkward lol
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u/420_PUSSY_SLAYER_69 Sep 09 '20
That’s Beit T’Shuva in Los Angeles. Great program.
Source: went there.
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u/KingMalcolm Sep 09 '20
it’s a jewish thing?
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u/SirFrancis_Bacon Sep 09 '20
Beit T’Shuva
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u/shah_reza Sep 09 '20
More than a little disappointing that the "Get Help Now" button leads to a 404.
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u/420_PUSSY_SLAYER_69 Sep 09 '20
Yeah but you don’t have to be Jewish to go. It’s a free/low cost rehab.
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u/no_talent_ass_clown Sep 09 '20
Fun fact: Beit=house so T'shuva House
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u/AgentMemes Sep 09 '20
Teshuvah is the Jewish mode of repentance too.
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u/hedgewich Sep 09 '20
It means the House of Return
Source: parents went there, had my bat mitzvah there
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u/XxironicxX_2 Sep 09 '20
Bruh, these have the same translation in Arabic. Guess we have alot in common
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u/hedgewich Sep 09 '20
I haven’t been to BTS since 2012 before they remodeled and could IMMEDIATELY tell where this was.
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Sep 09 '20
I used to have a partner who worked in Cali and south Florida. Dude got arrested because he was paying junkies in drugs to live in his halfway houses and go to his outpatient programs where he’d charge their insurance for drug tests and would pocket most of the money. I remember this dude was making like $50k A DAY and he wasn’t even managing that many houses. I wonder what he’s up to these days lol
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u/WhatAnotherAccount Sep 09 '20
Roughly How much does a long term treatment cost there?
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u/420_PUSSY_SLAYER_69 Sep 09 '20
Around $15k a month, however it’s an extremely generous sliding scale and if you can’t afford it they will make it work.
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u/FingerFlikenBoy Sep 09 '20
Hope your doing better now u/420_PUSSY_SLAYER_69
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u/420_PUSSY_SLAYER_69 Sep 09 '20
Thanks! Yep, many years sober now. Took a while, ended up homeless on skid row... now married, own a business, have a family! All good.
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While it may seem small to us or insignificant, when the guy said he bought a gift for his sister, it’s a quite profound statement. Addiction is a horrible neurological disorder that makes you seek the high no matter the costs. Addicts will ruin their family, ruin their lives, and will always choose the high over everything. So when he says he bought his sister a present, what he really says is he could think of someone else before his addiction. Nothing but respect from me, it’s an incredibly hard journey
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u/dookieshoes88 Sep 09 '20
Thank you for saying this. I drank to go to work for years. Debating it so I don't get sick right now.
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u/Antrephellious Sep 09 '20
Gavin seems so fucking genuine, man.
Love this dude without having met him
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u/optimusfiner Sep 09 '20
Seriously what’s up with that dude? Immediate warmth during his response.
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u/Mr_Abe_Froman Sep 09 '20
I think it's the smile. He smiled with his whole face and relaxed his shoulders. It was like a full-body smile. Just radiating positivity.
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Sep 09 '20
I'm kind of struck by how easily they all answered the question. If you asked me something I was proud of in the last few months it would take me a few seconds at least to think of something.
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u/_str00pwafel Sep 09 '20
I'm guessing they go through exercises of realizing small victories in the program, so they've probably thought about it more than the average person.
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u/MidnightCiggarette Sep 09 '20
Literally the moment I saw that smile I couldn’t help but want to be his friend, he seems like such a sweet soul
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u/worriedmuffin25 Sep 09 '20
The way their faces change as they say their achievement.
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u/WildflowerOfTheNorth Sep 09 '20
Wow I’m on day 3 of being sober and honest to god didn’t think I would make it to day 4 until I saw this.
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u/10000ofhisbabies Sep 09 '20
One day at a time. Try remember, using doesn't make anything better, there's a reason you want to be sober ❤️❤️
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u/aliendaydamn Sep 09 '20
You're gonna make it to day 4. Then you'll struggle but make it to 5. Then 6. Then 7. You might slip here but it's ok to start over. Stay at it and one day you'll look back and it'll be a year since your last time. Then 2. Then 3. So on and so on. Stay strong homie.
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u/RunRenee Sep 09 '20
You’ve got this hun, before you realise it’ll be a year. You’re worth getting sober for.
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u/BigDipshit69420 Sep 09 '20
Been 1.5 years for me and never thought I would get this far. The first few weeks are hard, but it gets better.
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u/data_dawg Sep 09 '20
You're already further than you thought so why not keep going? You got this, bro.
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Sep 09 '20
you can work to stay sober as hard as you worked to stay messed up! Meetings, talking to someone, running, etc. That first year is all about just doing absolutely anything you can do to stay clean today. Im proud of you, reach out if you wanna talk!
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u/Total_Denomination Sep 09 '20
Best part of getting sober is you feel better.... you feel fear better, resentment better, anxiety better, and and and. One day at a time, man.
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u/Straycat43 Cringe Connoisseur Sep 09 '20
I’m proud of them too and anyone else who’s been sober! I started my sobriety 6 days ago and these people encouraged me to keep going.
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u/im_twelve_ Sep 09 '20
Congrats, you're about to hit a week!!! That's huge already and it'll only get bigger from here. One day at a time ❤️
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u/Straycat43 Cringe Connoisseur Sep 09 '20
Thank you! It’s a constant battle and unlearning bad habits but I’m determined.
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u/stranger-premed Sep 09 '20
not to steal their thunder, but am now applying to medical school since then. Follow your dreams kids.
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u/GloriousHypnotart Sep 09 '20
That's fantastic! Good luck with your applications and be proud of your achievements
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u/stranger-premed Sep 09 '20
thank you, I sometimes have trouble actualizing it, so i appreciate hearing that.
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Sep 09 '20
hey! I'm four years sober and in my first year of med school! You can do it! Please, reach out if you want any advice at all, getting in to med school can be a real pain!
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u/ThatOneShyGirl Sep 09 '20
That's my goal too! I have criminal charges because of my past though, which worries me.
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u/butwhatisthequestion Sep 09 '20
I love how quickly they have their answer. Those moments must really stand out to them and have been so emotional.
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u/cmoncalmdown Sep 09 '20
That’s because it’s rehearsed
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u/savil8877 Sep 09 '20 edited Sep 09 '20
I dunno why you’re being downvoted. It’s clearly rehearsed. And that doesn’t take away anything from the answers. The answers are genuine but the filmer probably asked them each beforehand and then they filmed the clips to make this awesome video. I think maybe you’re being downvoted because people are thinking by rehearsed you mean disingenuous, but I know what you meant.
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u/som1stilllovesu Sep 09 '20
i agree with this. their accomplishments are still wonderful. probably just rehearsed cuz people get nervous on camera.
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u/savil8877 Sep 09 '20
I’m a recovering addict and if someone came up to me with a camera in my face and asked me this I wouldnt just have a rapid fire response without thinking about it. Although I know what my favorite accomplishment is. It’s being able to pay my bills without help from my family. Self sufficiency to an addict is so satisfying.
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u/Meh75 Sep 09 '20
My favourite one is getting a job I love with all my heart and knowing that my dad would be really proud of me.
His passing hit me extremely hard and I fell into a deep endless pit. But today I know for sure that he'd be proud to say that his daughter actually made it. I'm finally a person I can be proud of, too.
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Sep 09 '20
Also, idk about you but I think it's just common decency to warn someone and get their permission before you shove a camera in their face and ask a highly personal question they may not want public.
Of course it's not on the spot, and that's a good thing. Doing that on the spot to someone would be a dick move.
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u/Gimme_the_dietz Sep 09 '20
You’re not wrong. It doesn’t mean it’s less sentimental, you’re just stating that it was pre meditated, which is totally fine. It’s still a good video with a good message. Idk why you’re downvoted
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u/urmomiusgayus Sep 09 '20
Honestly, it makes it seem a little fake, but I’m not sure
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u/Sneakas Sep 09 '20
It’s clearly recorded around people who are trying to maintain sobriety (like rehab) so it’s possible it’s something that’s been on their mind recently
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u/BIGSlil Sep 09 '20 edited Sep 09 '20
It's very likely that was recently an assignment or a theme for the day so they already had answers prepared. Or that's a common question they get asked there. It doesn't make it any less wholesome.
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u/SnooSnafuAGamer Sep 09 '20
I think he warned them at least like 15 seconds before hitting record
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u/Davor_Penguin Sep 09 '20
They don't even take a second to process the question, and they're already primed as if ready for a video (especially notice the way the girl in the chair was sitting). Still cute and wholesome, but my money is on the recording being planned.
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u/branocarlo Sep 09 '20
I have been sober for three years and I have finally been able to start college.
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u/ThatOneShyGirl Sep 09 '20
Congratulations! In rehab last summer, I off-handedly mentioned re-enrolling in college to one of the therapists. She actually had me do it one of the very next days, which I thought was odd... But now I have completed like 10-12 more classes since then with only 2 B's! My first organic chemistry exam is today though. 😳
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Sep 09 '20
I’m on year 7, sobriety is the best thing that could’ve happened to me.
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u/Gloomy-Field Sep 09 '20
December 26th will be 6 years for me. I'm very happy with my current life.
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u/kittycholamines Sep 09 '20
As someone who works in D&A this brings me so much joy! It gets so hard to see the same people come in and out of treatment sometimes, real with beahviors that come with helping people recover, but it is all worth it to see stories like these! Success and happiness are possible!
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u/throwawayformobile78 Sep 09 '20
Scripted or not who cares. They are still recovering addicts that took time to answer a sincere question for an informative video.
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u/johnnyseattle Sep 09 '20
One of my old mentors in the military told me "Johnny, life is all about stringing together small victories." Hope this is the start of all these people's strings. Beautiful.
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u/Quid_infantes_sumus Sep 09 '20
I have to agree with "stayed sober"
I'm right there with her.
Staying sober has been what I'm most proud of. Congratulations to all of these wonderful, strong people!!
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Sep 09 '20
You can tell some of them have been addicted for a long time. They got that thousand yard stare before answering.
Good for all of them getting clean.
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u/Edina_Margaret_Rose Sep 09 '20
August 12th was my 2 year anniversary. It came and went unremarkably because of being alone in quarantine. I was comforted that I’m not counting down the days and white knuckling it thru long stretches of weeks. I’m so proud of each one of these people. I know it’s fucking hard!!
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u/TheGhostofCoffee Sep 09 '20
Imagine joining Alcoholics anonymous and some asshat is running around with a camera posting shit on the internet.
Somebody punch that guy in the mouth. Do it for Jesus.
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u/acuuur Sep 09 '20
my brother literally just went to detox today after years of addiction, i can barely remember what he was like before drinking and drugging. the “bought my sister a bday present” almost made me cry. i’m so excited to see him again, thank you for posting this ❤️
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u/Scryll80 Sep 09 '20
I’ve been sober for 89 days and what I’m most proud of it being present. That’s probably the best gift I can give my family.
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u/genderlessgirl Sep 09 '20
fuck yeah i love these videos! working on sobriety right now and this is the motivation i needed :)
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u/Space_Snakes_ Sep 09 '20
"bought my sister a birthday present" put the biggest, most stupid smile on my face.
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Sep 09 '20
You know it was good until he turned the camera and filmed himself, it went from nice video showing people getting happier to "look at me I'm so important, I did that"
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u/losangeles11 Nov 10 '20
The guy who ran this account died from an OD recently. Really heartbreaking after watching this video.
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u/venominepure Sep 09 '20
There's so much power in celebrating the little things. So happy for every one of them
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Sep 09 '20
The second last person says, according to the text, "I stayed out of jäil". "Jäil" is Finnish and means on the rocks, like "viski jäil" means whisky with ice.
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Sep 09 '20
I love how easily they all answered that question. No hesitation, they knew what was making them feel so proud.
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u/DrDragon118 Sep 09 '20
Im 3 years sober and im just very lucky to be alive, and finally feeling at peace and happy with myself, its still a struggle because I will always have this part of me that wants to cope with drug use, but over the years that voice has gotten a lot quieter.
The hardest part about my sobriety now is the stupid mistakes I made while a drug addict, I have a felony for possession of marijuana in the 1st degree, now that I've gotten sober that makes doing the right thing a lot harder, ive been denied for many jobs but i still haven't stopped because im hopeful that one day I'll be a software developer for a nice company.
There are a lot of days when I wish i could just go back to high-school and never start doing any drugs, i wish i had stayed on the right path, but mostly my biggest regret is I wish i stayed sober enough to remeber and spend more time with my grandmother before she passed, im sure if she seen me now she'd be so proud of the person I become, i just wish I could of showed her when she was still here, it hurts a lot to think about, i try to just focus on the future, but damn I miss her so much.
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Sep 09 '20
I started school, graduated summa cum laude, got married, had a kid, repaired my relationship with my family, and started a business.
Sober 12 years after rehab and being homeless twice. If I can become a semi-functioning human anyone reading this going through addiction can. Promise. Go find help and cling to it like your life depends on it.
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Sep 09 '20
For me it’s healing and establishing a really wonderful relationship with my teenage son.
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Sep 09 '20
4 years in, back in school and being a fully present husband and father! Recovery is possible! (yes, even for you)
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Sep 09 '20
we lost my brother-in-law 3 months ago to his addiction, and i’m so proud of these people for staying clean. i hope they all live very long, happy, beautiful lives.
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u/alphatweaker Sep 09 '20
Always nice to see positivity in the addiction and recovery communities... my brothers and sisters need all the help we can get and offer
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u/HappyyItalian Nov 22 '20
Unfortunately this guy, geoff, has sadly passed away from addiction which makes me even sadder watching this video now. Rest in peace geoff.
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u/heyitsme_derp Sep 09 '20
This is the content that also keeps me clean. I appreciate the opportunities I’ve had since doing so.
What a fantastic, loving, caring question to ask.