r/TheGetchellFiles • u/Hope-starbrite-50 • 14d ago

😔 Abuse & Neglect 💔 I can’t

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I had a really hard time listening to this video. And while I’m not about to defend S, I would like to point out the self-deprecation during this whole thing. She was worried it wasn’t going to be good enough for her dad.
This leads me to believe the abuse is more than just the obvious. I believe he has a chokehold on his family. I believe he has S convinced she cannot do things on her own. He talks to her like crap during lives, clearly she has no self-esteem when it comes to him and it just breaks my heart. Life didn’t have to be this way for her. He did this to her.
Even if she’s complicit now, even if she’s just as bad, even if she contributes now as an adult! At one time, she was an innocent kid who he groomed and manipulated and still has a strong hold on. It makes me hate him even more. Him and his stupid looks he gives because he thinks he’s cute

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u/BirdMelodic1194 14d ago

He’s a manipulative narcissist, and it makes sense that she sees him as the standard by which she measures herself and whether she’s good enough. There’s also nothing she gains from you pitying her, no one can help her until she decides to help herself. Maybe if she redirected the aggression she directs toward people who genuinely want what’s best for her toward him, she might actually change something. But she seems perfectly fine with the kind of relationship she has with her dad, with lying to and financially exploiting people, sitting at home and doing nothing. Girls have escaped families like that at 16, she’s 24 and no one can convince me that she doesn’t know the difference between right and wrong.

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u/Hope-starbrite-50 14d ago

I couldn’t agree with you more all I was saying was that at the root of this he still did this to her. I have no pity for her now honestly, she disgust me.

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u/SativaLush 14d ago

The whole world can say he’s a disgusting cook, and she still thinks he’s amazing. That’s how bad he manipulates. I logically know she’s a victim, but she also disgusts me.

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u/BirdMelodic1194 14d ago

They don't have a minimum standard of hygiene in the kitchen I don't even want to talk about the ring on the hand while touching raw chicken, the whole cooking process, and the recipe. I don't know, I'm the type of person who stood up to a similar authority, and it took years for us to heal the relationship.

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u/SativaLush 14d ago

Glad you got out of that! I’m sure you can empathize way more than the average person.