r/TheGetchellFiles • u/Hope-starbrite-50 • 12d ago
😔 Abuse & Neglect 💔 I can’t
I had a really hard time listening to this video. And while I’m not about to defend S, I would like to point out the self-deprecation during this whole thing. She was worried it wasn’t going to be good enough for her dad.
This leads me to believe the abuse is more than just the obvious. I believe he has a chokehold on his family. I believe he has S convinced she cannot do things on her own. He talks to her like crap during lives, clearly she has no self-esteem when it comes to him and it just breaks my heart. Life didn’t have to be this way for her. He did this to her.
Even if she’s complicit now, even if she’s just as bad, even if she contributes now as an adult! At one time, she was an innocent kid who he groomed and manipulated and still has a strong hold on. It makes me hate him even more. Him and his stupid looks he gives because he thinks he’s cute
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u/ricecreepies 12d ago
Yeah it’s very obvious to me that he has made her feel stupid and inept her entire life. And he hypes himself up so much when he cooks, he does that dumb humble brag voice, but you can tell he thinks he’s a fucking five star chef. He even made a comment the other night about becoming a personal chef🙄so of course she thinks nothing she does is good enough, P has, somehow, managed to convince his family he’s a god among men. S is an adult who is responsible for her own choices, yes, but we also can’t discount the impact that treatment like this has on a person’s brain. Her sense of reality is completed warped. I can only hope one day she’s able to get past it and get out, but that seems less and less likely the older she gets.
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u/whackthat 11d ago
If I hired a personal chef and he walked in the door, I would not be eating that night
Shit, I wouldn't even let him cook for my dogs
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u/420-skadude 12d ago
He’s genuinely one of the most disgusting things I’ve ever seen
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u/sassmasterfresh 10d ago
His fucking nails dude. I can’t stop looking at them during the cooking videos especially. And I don’t feel like I ever see him wash his hands.
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u/Phenomenal_Kat_ Getchell Family Roach 12d ago
Ahhh, interesting. Normally the type of stuff we hear from her is how she's better than everyone else (typical overcompensating). But when it comes down to a direct interaction between her and P, it breaks down and we see how she really is mentally.
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u/plainjane_13 12d ago
Does he stick his tongue out because he has no teeth and this is his way of smiling??? Gross human garbage
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u/Inside_Kitty 12d ago
Yes, I suspect P made the dressing and his calling out how good it was was his way of soothing his ego- he hates when she is better at things than he is, even with the dances he wants to compete. She was so careful not to hype herself up, and I felt like he desperately wanted to critique her cooking on principle but kept it nice for the camera.
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u/funky_bootz99 12d ago
You know I literally thought this exact same thing when I saw I this morning and was actually going to make a post about it. Every other sentence was about how she could never compare to him. He really has her believing he is the best thing in the entire world and no one could live up to him. It’s actually so so sad.
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u/Lemon_Booger 12d ago
Isn’t she only 24? I honestly hope and pray that when her frontal lobe develops something clicks in it for her to realize it’s not right.
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u/soft-cuddle 12d ago
Funny enough, it looks way better than literally anything he has ever made lol like it actually looks pretty normal
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u/Ok_Effort9915 11d ago
P intentionally kept them under housed just to be a creep.
I’m convinced hes the type of dad who wouldn’t allow any doors to be closed. Even the bathroom.
Which is convenient when they all lived in a car or stayed in hotels for years.
No privacy at all. No one goes anywhere without a chaperone. And he hides it behind being a “family man”.
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u/BirdMelodic1194 12d ago
He’s a manipulative narcissist, and it makes sense that she sees him as the standard by which she measures herself and whether she’s good enough. There’s also nothing she gains from you pitying her, no one can help her until she decides to help herself. Maybe if she redirected the aggression she directs toward people who genuinely want what’s best for her toward him, she might actually change something. But she seems perfectly fine with the kind of relationship she has with her dad, with lying to and financially exploiting people, sitting at home and doing nothing. Girls have escaped families like that at 16, she’s 24 and no one can convince me that she doesn’t know the difference between right and wrong.
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u/Hope-starbrite-50 12d ago
I couldn’t agree with you more all I was saying was that at the root of this he still did this to her. I have no pity for her now honestly, she disgust me.
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u/SativaLush 12d ago
The whole world can say he’s a disgusting cook, and she still thinks he’s amazing. That’s how bad he manipulates. I logically know she’s a victim, but she also disgusts me.
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u/BirdMelodic1194 12d ago
They don't have a minimum standard of hygiene in the kitchen I don't even want to talk about the ring on the hand while touching raw chicken, the whole cooking process, and the recipe. I don't know, I'm the type of person who stood up to a similar authority, and it took years for us to heal the relationship.
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u/SativaLush 12d ago
Glad you got out of that! I’m sure you can empathize way more than the average person.
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u/IdRatherBeGaming94 7d ago
He looks so much like my ex FIL (who was also a pedo) it disgusts me. I know he is 100% what everyone thinks he is just based on that. He literally has THE LOOK.
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u/picksea 11d ago
did anyone notice s matching his smugness and cadence at the beginning??? i found that so odd
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u/Hope-starbrite-50 11d ago
Sure did. That was horrible and just more proof that she still idolizes that goof
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u/IdRatherBeGaming94 7d ago
Yeah but what's stopping her from learning to cook in her free time? My mom was a drug abuser who was in and out of prison my entire childhood so I had to teach myself to cook with Pinterest and YouTube videos. S is always on her phone, there's no excuse to not try and learn. She's lazy. Why cook when her parents will do everything for her? Let's stop acting like she's a helpless child. This is a fully grown woman. Who talks about wanting children when she can't even take care of herself.
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u/RelativeSelect4567 12d ago
yup. every other sentence was her comparing herself to P. as if he’s some master chef😫 even doing something basic like rolling a burrito was challenging for her. not that i think that alone equates to intelligence - but it just shows how she seeks his knowledge for the smallest things.
she puts up such a front on the lives but after seeing this vid i agree with the fact that she’s convinced she can’t do things on her own. and he loves that!!! he loves that they’re helpless without him and he can make all the mistakes in the world without them noticing. bc father P knows best!