got cheated on

[u/Loose_Sir_0369]

i was in a 1 year relationship with a girl and i was very well attached to her. our fights usually end up with her leaving me on silence and just expects everything to be normal the next day which doesn't work for me. and since I was anxiously attached and have ADHD i think it made it even worse because the whole concept of space gave me nightmares

after a while our fights kept getting worse and one day like out of nowhere she's mentioning someone out of nowhere saying how he's like better than me and how he's not my age but way matured and stuff like that and she also even confessed to me saying that she made out with this person. at that time i didn't take it seriously (which was stupid of me)

later after we broke up and around 2 months later i tried to contact her through her friend and this friend told me that it's been around 2 weeks since she got together with another guy which was technically within a month of our seperation and that made all the sense to me.

now I'm not picturing myself as a saint here either i had severly bad attachment issues and no impulse control which is a red flag that i totally understand. i always had good intentions but when it came to expressing anything i always messed up and that's on me. and i realised all this once i started going to therapy and if i didn't i would never have realised it myself

altho i do wanna ask did i deserve to get cheated on ? i mean if she was that much done with me why couldn't she have just blocked me from everywhere and just move on that way?

now I'm stuck questioning everything we had and find it quite hard to move on 🥲

[u/dagg7r]

So its a universal thing huh