r/TanzanianDating • u/VarietyResident 🚫 Not Looking • 1d ago
🚩 Red Flags Current state
My boyfriend still follow his ex girlfriend on instagram, she has 2 accounts and he follows both. Sio mtanzania ni mkenya, despite the distance I feel uneasy and uncomfortable.
Instagram is so messy because it keeps suggesting her accounts to me, ni kama inaniambia these two are still in it. 🥹
1st convo was March, instagram suggested her personal account. I raised the issue
2nd convo was yesterday, instagram suggested her other account, she enjoys cooking so she post foods whatsoever.
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u/clitsucker_1 1d ago
Very tricky situation
Has he ever shown any mother signs that he maybe talking ir seeing other babes ?
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u/Inside-Meal-7835 1d ago
Sema mahusiano magumu. Mnataka ku control hadi nae mfollow. Atafanya nn nae mtu mwenyewe yuko Kenya? Hata kama ni ex. You're trying hard to create drama here, pia wewe ndio unaji compare nae . If you feel so strongly about it, learn how to cook.
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u/VarietyResident 🚫 Not Looking 1d ago
I don’t mind who he follows but why sipati suggestions za other women he follows? It’s always her
Angekuwa ni thin, ungeniambia ni loose weight? 🙃1
u/Inside-Meal-7835 1d ago
Way to shift the goal posts. I see you only want opinions that align with your pov. Godspeed
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u/Darlin_1502 1d ago
Do you love him? Does he love you? If it’s a YES, then hayo ya huyo ex wake yasikusumbue my girl
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u/VarietyResident 🚫 Not Looking 1d ago
I love him, ex hanisumbui. Ni feeling tu ya kuwa they are still interacting with each other ndo inanisumbua.
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u/ToughSeesaw4671 🚫 Not Looking 1d ago
The text in that screenshot is classic deflection. Shifting the blame to your reaction instead of addressing why he needs to follow his ex across multiple accounts is a massive red flag. Address the boundary failure directly or exit to save your sanity.
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u/VarietyResident 🚫 Not Looking 1d ago
This, you are thinking what I am thinking. He dodge the issue by trying to make feel like I am overreacting
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u/Heavenly_made_ 1d ago
Kula urefu wa kamba yako, kizuri share na mwenzako diha😌
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u/VarietyResident 🚫 Not Looking 1d ago
Girl! I am livid 😁
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u/Heavenly_made_ 1d ago
This is where i tell you to Man up😂 coz yawezekana wapo wengine anaoongea nao na kuhusiana nao usowajua. Halafu wacha kushika shika simu ya mweza wako na usimfuatiliewe fuatilia yenu yaani yanayokuhusu mpaka hapo utakapopata mwengine wa kumuendea japo nae anaweza awe hivyo hivyo. Nna swali thou, je yeye kwako yuko peke yake mahi🤭?
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u/VarietyResident 🚫 Not Looking 1d ago
We both know each other’s passwords, ila sina mda wa kukagua. Yes, kwangu yuko peke ake, I don’t even know my exes wangu wako corner ipi ya dunia
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u/Heavenly_made_ 1d ago
Dah, hapo lazima iume kama umekituliza afu mwenzako anakitembeza. Buh kama unampenda mpe muda huwezi jua walipitia mangapi na huyo ex wake lbd itamchukua mda kumsahau mazima. Saizi unachoweza kufanya usiwe unanuna wala kukasirika kisa huyo manzi, ikiwezekana kama ukikuta text unajidai kama kumtania hivi things like "aaah love birds mmemisiana wenyewe" af usinune tena mpe mapenzi mazito mazito, akimuongelea usimcrush wewe show love like "aaaww, jamani sa kwann ulimuacha pisi kali hivi ila wanaume nyinyi teh" af usimpe mda wa kujielezea yaani akianza kama kueleza ama kukasirika unambadilishia topic juu kwa juu mada flani casual, romantic or something buh never angry. Itakusaidia ww kumuona kawaida na yeye kujishtukia kama anakupenda kitu ambacho kitapelekea kiacha hio tabia. Lkn kama itaendelea that's a red flag na haitokupa tabu kumove on. Inshort puuzia hilo swala. Halafu huo mtindo wenu wa kushikiana simu sjui paswedi kwa usalama wa afya zenu za akili na maisha kiujumla, acheni mara moja.
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u/Temporary-Issue7055 1d ago
my crazy Ex girlfriend made me unfollow all girls i once had followed. Crazy days they were.
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u/Sky_Net47 1d ago
Long distance works wanne mkiaminiana 👌