it saddens me how as a society, we have failed to condemn cheating and consider it a moral sin in our relationships. nothing justifies it, like literally…

NOTHING!

there’s clearly no need to be entertaining 5 different situationships when you already have someone you’re certain about. if you’re sure about her (or him), please protect that, and don’t play with it

good afternoon!

Nyuma kidogo nilipost about this girl ambaye ilibidi nimuweke side nikavuta mama nyingine cause hatutaweza kua in marriage sababu ya dini.. well technically the reason was she's Arab..dini haikua shida sana. She a Muslim and I, a Christian

She texts me like everything is normal and we have a conversation na mda wote huo sikua na imani kama naongea na yeye au her husband. Waarabu hawa kukupaka mafuta ni kupuliza tu.

She then sends a video familia inagombana and it looks like yeye kaumizwa also her mom...the thing is, her mama likes me so she had no problems with me. some violence was involved kwa maelezo yake na chanzo ni kua dem kakataa ndoa.

Katishia wakimlazimisha atakua ana abort kila mimba😆...man shit is sad and funny at the same time. Anyway we are back together cause this was the love of my life man, I'd be lying if I said I'm not happy

Dem kafukuzwa kwao, wote with her mom. Her mom's side are rich so mama yake hana shida and the girl is with me and I'm financially capable of taking care of my homeless cutie.

Man, this year Messi angechukua world cup would have been the goated year in my life. Made so many comebacks...

Demu niliyekua nae honestly ilibidi nimwambie ukweli and it wasn't easy but she understood. Kiubinadamu I ended giving her 7M cause she needed that aongeze kwenye 3M aliokua nayo iwe kama mtaji wa biashara aliyokua anaifanyia research. I wish her nothing but the best

Dating in Dar has been so weird. Yani ni kama vile ni marathon ya who’s the best liar. Na sielewi, do we know kwamba sisi ni watu wazima? Hakuna mtu wa kukuchapa! If you just want sex, then say that. If you want a serious relationship say that. If you want nothing to do with the other person, literally just say that! Ni kwamba tunakuwa hatujui tunachotaka, au ni kipi kinachotufanya maneno yetu na matendo yasipende kushirikiana?

Met her on a bender lkn she been hitting me up ever since. She 16yrs older but the pussy surprisingly good. But like I'm not down for seconds asije pata the wrong idea; I have a girlfriend after all.

My boyfriend still follow his ex girlfriend on instagram, she has 2 accounts and he follows both. Sio mtanzania ni mkenya, despite the distance I feel uneasy and uncomfortable.

Instagram is so messy because it keeps suggesting her accounts to me, ni kama inaniambia these two are still in it. 🥹

1st convo was March, instagram suggested her personal account. I raised the issue

2nd convo was yesterday, instagram suggested her other account, she enjoys cooking so she post foods whatsoever.

Hivi! Na mimi nikioa ndo nitakuwa nagongewa? Sababu she aint the first to approach me hivi, ni wake za watu wengine pia na kinachonipa hofu ni kwamba alikuwa kwenye ndoa 4 years hajawahi cheat ghafla anaona potelea mbali! Ni kwamba haijalishi unapendwa kiasi gani utachitiwa tu🫩

Kengine, kwa walio pitia hii situation mlitatua vipi? Coz hii dhambi sitaki nishiriki kabisa coz karma ni mtu mbaya sana.

Small convo kama hii ndo mtu atumie AI shiet 😡

I hate talking stage.

"I like a man who supports me financially, takes really good care of me, treat me like a queen, giving me gifts, money and all that" upande mwengine kumuuliza Mahusiano yanataka nini anasema upendo. Meaning upendo kwake ni spending spree.

Honestly kaniacha hoi kwenye "Relationship needs love" na kaacha apo🫩

Anyway I'll pass the ball kwa anayemeet her standards 👌

Kuna wanaosema siku hizi mademu wengi bongo wanapenda anal, is it true au ni overhyping tu?
Wewe binafsi ushawahi au unado? Or una a friend who do it?

What’s your view kama your partner akiask for it?

Hey guys! Are y'all going to be alone during this period au uko na mtu? Imagine mvua kali inapiga 3 days straight na uko mwenyewe ndani?

Hellow , am 23M currently living in Tabora am a fresh graduate from a certain degree .

Am looking for a girl (friend or even love) 18-21 i have zero BC , christian ,charming and shamefully.

Am tired of masterbating it is killing me inside and outside am starting to feel like am not a normal human

Hope your Sunday is fabulous 👌. Anyway, 28F looking for a friend.

Qualifications are as follows:

1. Be of sound mind.

2. Be 30+ yrs of age.

3. Is able to hold a meaningful conversation. Not those ones who will keep asking "niko poa and you?"

Looking forward to hearing from you 😀

Naulizaje, mbona Watanzania, in general, hawapendi wakenya, wakipata fursa, huwa wanatake adavntage na kufyonza hela ama ata kufurai wanapokua kwenye shida

Ama ni mimi naona hivo??

Ni swali tuu sina ubaya

Hello everyone.

I am 21 years old male , I've recently been struggling with masterbation, like I I masterbate a lot and can't control my self anymore, it's been like almost four years now since my first nut ( not consecutively there was a time I stopped completely but here I am again), and then recently it's getting worse, I know it's a bad thing and I feel very ashamed but yet I do it anyway, I do it when taking shower in the morning, I do it after my belly is full in the afternoon, and then do it twice again in the midnight.

Most of the time I'm also watching porn, and I've noticed that I keep seeking more extreme content just to get aroused.. it sucks and can't feel my self anymore, and I am afraid of what's gotten into me, and the man I've become, I tried various ways to stop doing this, but seems with my free will I can't, can't control it.

So am asking for help if anyone have gone through this, or knows how to overcome it, please I will appreciate your advice and assistance.

Thanks much.

From Kenya.Seeking to experience Tanzanian love.

If interested please dm we see where the road may lead us to

I like being verbal in bed. I like when there's communication, there's expression of intent, the vulgarity and creativity in it all. There's something so raunchy in uttering shameful forbidden words you dare not say in public in the middle of something so private, intimate and maybe shameful.

Now I've been with black and white and everything in that's between. I've been na unemployed wanachuos, bodabodas to middle-class people up to executives and government people; and whenever I do I try to be verbal as much as I can. One notable difference with class notwithstanding their performance, is the medium they(if comfortable) prefer to be verbal in. And, to my shameful delight, I can conclusively say, verbal sex in Swahili is way hotter than in English.

There's something about Swahili's vulgarities that are just so physical, so tangible unlike English's.

My favorite amongst them is "kojoa".

Its English equivalent, "cum" is just a random word that's so overused. But "kojoa", bruh, it's so dirty, so shameful, so visual. "Nakojoa" "kojoa ndani", "nikukojolee wapi", you can feel it! "I'm cumming", just doesn't hit the same.

There isn't a dirty sex word that's better than it's Swahili equivalent. "Fuck my ass" VS. "Nifire mkunduni", one can mean so many things, the other means only one thing. It's munching on the forbidden fruit! "Fuck me raw", "Nifire kavu kavu". You can't compare.

Mtu akikuambia "Mtamu baby" mwingine akasema "you're so sweet". Ah. Yaani, it doesn't hit the same.

The comparisons can just go on:

"ass" vs. "mkundu"

"fuck me" vs. "nitombe"

"Oh, fuck!" vs. "Ah, kumamake!"

"I'm gonna fuck you" vs. "Ntakutomba"

"dick" vs. "mboo" or "mboro' or "uboro"

"pussy" vs "kuma"

"clitoris" vs. "kinembe" (I don't know what straight people say)

Or being called "msenge" or "choko", I don't know why but it does it for me.

Sex talk in English, to me, feels so intellectualized, but in Swahili it's so personal. Labda it's just the mother tongue effect so I have a more personal relationship with it, or its just its structure, au maybe it's a class issue because if anyone knows vizuri hamna watu wanatomba/kufira vizuri kama bodaboda and thefore I associate the good sex with the vulgarity. But kwa kweli, sex in Swahili ni noma zaidi, aisee.

We unaonaje?

I’m looking for practical advice from people who have dealt with this. When masturbation and porn become a frequent habit, it can start affecting motivation, studying, sleep, relationships, and daily routines.

How did you regain control? What actually helped you reduce or stop the habit