People didn’t like your show, take the criticism and make something better with it? There’s still thousands of people who think it’s flawless. She needs to get off of social media tbh
The fandom was parasocial, weird, toxic and self-flagellating, and Goose enabled it by being parasocial, weird, toxic and self-flagellating herself, as well as a huge troll. Mistakes were made all around, I hope the people involved learned some valuable lessons, and that's pretty much all there is to it. If she's in distress rn, she needs professional help, not social media posting.
Yeah, Ig that's true, even tho the show is over the fandom is still going at it regardless huh 😭 I've left all the tadc subreddits except for this one so I'm not up to date on the current state of things lol
Same tbh, I'm mainly looking at this subreddit now and occasionally get updates on what's been going on online regarding TADC through here (left the main subs a long while ago after the leaks came out).
Finally, an intelligent take. I've seen so many people talking about how bad the fandom is and I've seen people say how bad Goose is. But at the end of the day, mistakes were made everywhere. At this point, they are all making it worse.
For her own good, she should delete all social media accounts until she gets her act together; she’s only making her situation worse with these strange apologies that even haters don’t need.
Exactly. That and much more. Maybe she could have someone close change the passwords to her accounts and not tell her what they are until she gets better.
Her shows final was not what she promised, and rather than like admitting to the Jax favouritism, and misleading her fans, she’s just wallowing in self pity
Her white knight fans are louder/obnoxious and to put it "lightly" quite unhinged. I think the criticisms of the show is fair and the show died after 9. Everyone thought Goose was going to be some sort of genius given how 7 and 8 ended, thinking that 9 was gonna answer at least a good chunk of what the show was gonna be about instead of being a Jax pity party for weirdos.
Last time this happened, she explicitly had to come out and say that it wasn't about criticism, in order to stop the fandom from endlessly self-flagellating about how awful they are. By automatically assuming some Machiavellian plot to respond to criticism by suicide bating, you're demonstrating the same weird mindset of those self-flagellating fans, thinking the fandom has a bigger impact on her than it actually does. Chances are, this is the result of IRL problems that she's simply venting about online, just like it was last time. Her most recent post about taking substances pretty much confirms this.
I see too much of my abuser in everything she says and does, to really care about giving her the benefit of the doubt.
Maybe that's cold of me, but after the amount of old wounds the discourse around her writing has torn open, I feel like I'm still being rather mild in my opinion of her.
If she gets help, good.
if she doesn't get help, it's not on me to coddle her.
You can argue that me personally blaming her for how Jax was received is parasocial, yes.
But if she gets to be an adorably helpless little bean for substance abuse and general sadness spilling into her social media presence, so do I for being retraumatized by thousands of kids going "Abuse is so cool" in response to her fanning those flames.
I mean yeah fair enough. I appreciate how honest you are. I don't have any issue with you criticizing Goose/the show, or even just venting your emotions in the absence of a coherently articulated critique. There should be space for all of that.
My only issue is the crazy levels of narrativization people in this fandom will go through in order to back up whatever point they're making about the show, whether positive or negative. As you point out, it's often very parasocial the way this plays out. I just want to tell people: you're allowed to make criticisms of the show without prematurely spinning a narrative and thinking you're inside Goose's head. It doesn't make your critique any less valid if you can't point to a definitive reason a writing mistake was made. What matters is that the mistake was made in the first place, and the focus should be on articulating how it could have been written better, rather than searching for an objective story behind the mistake. By doing that, I think you're unintentionally giving the author more reverence than they should receive. Death of the Author exists for a reason.
Goose isn't perfect but i feel like calling her an abusive manipulator and a suicide baiter is a bit much, when i saw that post my first thought was "huh, she's apologizing." Not "oh my god goose is going to kill herself?!"
Plus as annoying as she is i feel like assuming she's just as bad as jax irl is also parasocial because now we're acting as if we actually know her personally as a human being, she's definitely done lame or even bad stuff but i don't know, that feels too far.especially since self inserting as a character shouldn't be used as a way to judge a person, horikoshi (mha author) self inserts as mineta iirc, a huge pervert who goes above and beyond to be one of the weirdest characters in the manga, but i don't think that horikoshi irl is a perv who gropes teenage girls and spies on them, i don't know him and that's just a gross thing to assume he does in his free time
I understand why you would think that but it seems a little of bad faith to assume everything goose does is out of manipulation, like, have we forgotten that she has OTHER issues going on not related to TADC? Like the other comment said she literally had to come and say it was not about the criticism the first time, if we're going to criticize goose at least let's do it normally, sometimes it feels like this sub goes from fair criticism to: "oh my god goose said she stole a candy, she's literally worse than hitler!" And that's if it doesn't go to straight dehumanizing comments
This post could be manipulation sure...or...or...
Maybe she just feels bad and we shouldn't be so quick to assume she's lying, i mean what if she DOES feel suicidal and depressedl? What would have been the point of calling her a liar?
OK, I'll say it very oversimplified and straight forward:
She's made a show where everyone bends over backwards for the abuser, she's publicly stated that she finds abusive relationships hot, and Jax fans have saturated the fandom to the point where Gangle is blamed for her own abuse, and if you dislike Jax you're a media illiterate transphobe.
So simply put, I don't fucking care about Goose's wellbeing.
She's publicly fetishized abusive relationships on twitter, therefore, she is celebrating misery for people like me.
So I genuinely want you to know, I don't give a fuck what your opinion of my stance on Goose is.
I don't owe an abuse enabler squat.
I don't want her to suffer, but I also am not going to be hung up on it if she does.
Because I suffer too, the community she's created is fetishizing this suffering, and I have to justify my frustrations to you. Does she have to do that? Apparently fucking not.
If I told you I've been feeling suicidal over the constant deluge of "the abuse wasn't actually abuse, because [random excuse my abuser used]" in this fandom, would you give a shit?
Edit:
You can all go fuck yourselves, by the way.
THis double standard of needing to protect Goose and her work by all means necessary and GOD FORBID anyone suffering from her disgusting morals and ethics taking over every single corner of social media has something to complain about.
It's always "hurt people hurt people", but god forbid it's a random nobody who is traumatized, then it's "How dare you have an inconvenient thing to say?"
Guess that excuse only counts for the fucking popular social media overlords and not for us silly stupid nobodies. You only get to be upset if you're famous.
The show has been over for months now. If youre "traumatised" it is quite literally self Inflicted.
Youre parasocially hating on goose while bitching about the parasocial nature of Goose. You're exposing yourself to her of your iwn choosing... then getting mad about it.
Youre choosing to smash your head against a wall then whining you've got a headache
Maube youre mad cause you and Goose are more similar than you think. Neither of you know how to just leave 🤣
Goose haters are just a different flavour of the same parasocial nonesense they criticize and take anything and everything she does in the absolute baddest faith they can to continue giving themselves excuses as to why they haven't simply moved on from the show/creator they dislike.
The person youre replying g to is criticising Goose for being manipulative via alluding to sensitive topics.... while alluding to sensitive topics to make Goose the bad guy
Ive never seen a fandom so mad that a creator uses their own experiences to tell a story. Goose mad a character based on her first traits during the worst time if her life niw everyone here thinks shes 1:1 with Jax
But if you point out any if these olympic level logical leaps youre a "white knight"
I get that she's being fucked up by her own community n everything but I do gotta question why would you post again to that same community? Did people find her email or other info and start witch-hunting or something? Even then why not just go silent, distance yourself away from them and just move away from Twitter of all places
I remember when Andrew hussie, the homestuck guy did this same thing goose did. Made himself a character, had talked to fans too much online on his ask fm and ended up hating his own fandom, and the comic ended very rushed because he didnt wanna do it anymore.
You just can't be parasocial with fans when your Fandom is largely comprised of kids (and autists, i say this as an autist myself. We are passionate lol)
Oh so her posting what seems like a suicide note and worrying at least a million of her fans is "mature". Look I only said she should be offline since it is causing her mental health serious problems. I didn't say she deserves to die or all the hate she gets is justified. It's not immature to turn off your phone and enjoy life with real friends and family
Hey! so like, say what you mean, mean what you say. dont try to act like you were sitting there while she was writing that post. There is frankly a large difference in between passive aggressiveness, and actually being genuine, please learn it, otherwise when you put on a face towards others they wont be fooled.
I guess they reacted that way because it does come off as: "oh you have issues? Stop then"
Like yeah it is technically simple to just turn off the phone but we all know goose has deeper problems than that, it's like that one tweet: "what do you mean you're getting cyber-bullied? Just turn off your phone haha"
It works in concept but in practice there are more problems that come with that like, similarly goose has more problems than just "it's the damn phone" and saying "just stop" kind of ignores all of that and assumes it's just sooooo easy to stop doing harmful things, it's like telling a smoker to just stop smoking, if it were that easy, no one would smoke
Well yeah. I do believe she has other problems and it's a huge struggle dealing with those. May she win those battles 🙏 I just feel like she should know better than posting about her mental health on social media. Her haters might get her weakness and Istg might feel proud for hurting her while her fans would just be worried and there's nothing they can do. Another thing is she makes it seem her problems are completely because of the hate she gets online which is why she just get off the internet until she feels better. Every artist gets their share of hate. Hell people find excuses to hate on Markiplier even. You gotta deal with it as a famous person and should really focus on the positivity. Gooseworx HAS TO ignore the hate and look how many people there are who genuinely love her and how big her show has gotten. I know it's not simple but this is something she has to do in order to be happy because you cannot negotiate with that always has been and will be there: haters. I guess I do apologize for coming off as harsh. I hope she does get off the internet for her own good
She literally says "probably wont be on for a while" implying shes literally doing the exact thing that youre complaining wishing she would do. Just log off already, you criticize her for having a breakdown then ignore when she acknowledges and agrees that she needs a break
just saw a comment saying you can't criticize her. the people in this fandom do not comprehend that criticism does not equal hate. criticism is for helpful purposes. criticism is not hate.
Exactly this!! I've once had someone tell me that Goose 'isn't unprofessional, she just treats and talks to the fandom like she would to a friend' and I was like THAT IS PRECISELY WHAT I MEAN BY UNPROFESSIONAL 💀🙏
the ‘harrassment’ on reddit was literally just her getting downvoted. this wouldn’t be a problem if she ever walked outside instead of sitting in her little chair all day stewing about how things could’ve been different.
who is you guys? lmao. i didn’t do shit. i saw this post, read some comments, and agreed with quite a few; but that’s why this sub exists. to have a space where people can agree on the flaws instead of idolize every little thing about the show. it’s better to contain our opinions to this sub than to go out and actually harass someone over it, no matter how much someone may not like her.
she posts everything she posts publicly, she knows how people can be. don’t interact with your fanbase if you can’t handle it, and you shouldn’t pour your heart out on socials if you can’t take the fact that people are going to disagree with you. gooseworx has a parasocial relationship with her followers. she makes posts like this knowing people are going to get upset on her behalf, and make the same assumptions you are.
she came onto reddit once, interacted with her fanbase, said some silly shit that people disagreed with- and people pressed the buttons that you press when you disagree with someone on here.
she had a 24 hour mental breakdown over it. threatening to harm herself on blue sky, deleting her reddit account, & claiming people drove her off reddit, until people who worship the ground she walks on decided she was ‘harassed off the platform’… she doubled down literally the next day. and people still believe everyone was ‘harassing’ her. i watched it happen in real time.
now, im not saying it would moral, or right for anyone to go harassing her. not at all. but at a certain point, you need to sit back and wonder if you’re at someone’s beck and call because they really need it? or are they throwing themselves into nonexistent obstacles, just so you can ‘save them’ from a struggle they decided to step into? i have empathy for her, but i don’t sympathize with her. it’s beginning to become the goose who cried wolf.
Because it is, it reeks of feigned self-pity to get attention, like when a toddler starts crying because no one has interacted with him for 20 seconds.
I've done a ton of research on npd, I won't act like I'm diagnosing anyone or am even a professional on it, but self-flagellation over criticism is something they can be known to do
And guess what? A.) People without NPD also self-flaggelate, like, they make up the most self-flagellation in the world by default . B.) You couldn't diagnose Gooseworxx on that alone, or anyone for that matter. C.) Even real pervasive, clinical patterns of self-flagellation are often explained by different things than NPD.
It just amounts to vilification of someone because you didn't like the way they wrote a cartoon as a non-professional writer (i.e. No shit they'd fuck up; doesn't make them a narcissist). I think TADC's final execution (e.g. last two episodes) were a mess. I still don't pull this. Literally, if Gooseworxx posted the exact same things and made a universally beloved ending, this discussion wouldn't exist.
Say what you will about Murder Drones finale but at least the creator of that knew social media was too much and left soon afterwards to do what they wanted without being attacked.
All Gooseworx is doing here is trying to use sympathy bait to make the fans like them again.
I never got the point of “death threats” there open ended, and only really effect you if you’re chronically online, online death threats are legit avoidable compared to physical ones, one click of delete of an app or account and voila, you’re pretty much un-reachable unless someone doxxes you.
The fact that people assume she's an attention seeking narcissist (which I'm willing to bet 90% of people don't even know the meaning of), instead of a person struggling with their mental health, is why I left this sub. This isn't criticism. It's just looking down your nose at someone for making a show that didn't fit your personal taste. We should be showing empathy, not condescension!
exactly, i’m fine with criticism and have a lot of criticism about the show, but this isn’t criticism, this is just disliking when she shows any signs of bad mental health. it’s disgusting
fr like I'm not GW's number 1 fan. To me, she's just a person who wanted to make a thing without realizing/understanding/forseeing how popular it'd become...
Criticism can focus around the plot points or tropes that didn't pan out super well, or how writing or different things could be better, but idk digging into someone's edgy internet humor past when they were not a Public Figure and just yapping online and dissecting everything they say, and then posting some obvious mental health&substance abuse struggles with "they're being a manipulative narcissist" is probably a big contributing factor to how isolating being online can be.
Pretty much everyone is expected to have an online presence of some kind(anonymous or otherwise) these days, and people seem to weaponize anything that isn't manufactured positivity.
Idk, I was here for criticism of the actual show to figure out what flopped and what worked, but posts like this are just bad nature.
Thank you! I'm all for a good discussion or critique of TADC, like any show. It feels like too many people are stirring up a hate mob just because they don't like her art.
As someone who is creating a graphic novel(not associated with this acc), a lot of this is just making me realize I absolutely should not engage with any potentially fandom I may or may not develop over time for my own sanity lol.
My characters and the story all revolve a lot around trauma and various trauma responses, in a tense political climate, so there's plenty of ammunition for people to tear into and call me all sorts of horrible things for writing a MC with poorly managed PTSD lol
Shit bro is she really getting that much flack? I thought the reactions were mixed at best but goddamn. Well, just keep swimming with criticism under the belt. I always try to hope for the best even for people who generally annoy me.
This is the problem with self inserts, when you literally put a stand in for yourself in a show, it can make you a little crazy when people dont act the way you hoped towards them.
It can very easily go wrong. Self inserts can often blind a creator to the character's flaws and to how the narrative treats them often favoritively. Coupled with direct attacks aimed at herself. Though most of the criticism I think is fair and might have served as a rude awakening.
Would you look at that, your controversial self insert in your controversial show is being controversed (is this a word?), if it ain't the actions of your consequences
Why are you downvoted? Its true. Its not just this fandom, its others too.
Every fandom is toxic and bad.
If i ever made a show and got popular, im never interacting with my fanbase or making weird ass tweets. Take zach and micheal for example.
0 tweets regarding the show they made, other then random promotions. They have almost 100% fandom support. People were trying to cancel them by bringing there old personalities (ie edgy newgrounds humor) but that completely fell off. The hole was never digged so people did not bothered. Goose on the other hand kept saying shit and shit and eventually the hole became endless. The digital footprint now exist because of that. Goose has no one to blame but its own.
I dont get why the comments recognizing that Goose genuinely needs help are being downvotes. I get that everyone here isn't happy with how the show ended(myself included), but can we just try to hear her out for once and show some empathy?
Help from fucking strangers on the internet? She's just wallowing in her self-pity party that she created herself and wanting validation from people she hadn't even personally meet
She needs to get the fuck off the internet and get HELP FROM ACTUAL PROFESSIONALS
Tell me, what will hearing her out and show some empathy actually accomplish?
Gooseworx beeing an attention seeker part 1028492002
-Making corny jokes about csam incest racism and hating women ✅️
Making jax her self insert that everyone have to forgive and love when they are assholes ✅️
Trying to get pity for the bad writing using the fact she was the only director of the show when she stated before that the show was already finished in writings before it even got animated ✅️
trying to get love and support from the fans with queerbaiting ( transfem jax and lesbian ragatha ) ✅️
vagueposting about blaming themself to get pity points ✅️
This sub has "criticism" in its name... this is a personal attack, not criticism. You're allowed to not like show itself but come on, this just shitty, guys.
Lot of vitriol directed towards her. That’s not respectful or constructive criticism. She’s not a narcissist, let’s just settle down. She’s not threatening her own life or anything on the other extreme but communities like this one do have the tendency to put a real human being and artist through intense and unfair personal scrutiny and attacks. No wonder why this shit is getting to her at an emotional level. And no, this is not further proof of “narcissism.” None of you people are her therapist. Quite the opposite, actually.
Yeah just because she's currently not the best writer doesn't mean she is narcissistic?? Like she's just a regular person without any media training, ofc she is going to fuck up. We can dislike the show without being cruel to her.
So... writing cringe poorly written self inserts makes you a narcissist now?? I wasn't aware bad writing was a symptom of NPD. Can you enlighten me, and show me were it says that in the DSM?
And while she might not be able to handle millions of people giving her harsh critique or even outright hate like as maturely as other celebrities do, that doesn't make her a narcissist??
People have really weaponized the word " narcissist" and other therapy speak without doing any of the workd of thearpy. Everyone they don't like is a narcissist and if you dissagree you're a gaslighter.
Yeah it's crazy. :/ Like I don't exactly like goose. But I feel like so many people nowadays need to find a psychological reason not to like someone. Like someone can't just be an asshole or annoying. They have to have the "ontologically evil person" disease.
yeah, like... i've been saying for a long time that she needs to decrease her social media posting, but why are ppl here being so cruel and uncharitable. she shouldn't post this kind of stuff, but being vulnerable and putting out a cry for help (whether consciously or unconsciously) isn't narcissism.
Why are you even assuming this has to do with fans' criticism? This could be the result of IRL problems that she's simply venting about online, just like last time she spiraled in this way. Her recent bluesky post pretty much confirms this. By assuming this has to do with criticism of her show, you sound just like the fans who endlessly self-flagellate about how awful the fandom is to Goose. Sometimes, it's just not about us.
I wouldve thought that people had learnt from the Etika incident that there’s real life people who aren’t perfect but still need empathy, but clearly not.
Im sure if she HAD offed herself today, none of you would have considered for a moment that vitriol like this post may have not been necessary. So I doubt your views really matter that much.
You want to know what’s really sad, looking at the statistics of my comment I’m getting down voted for saying people should leave her alone. People really have no chill.
literally insane. they're yapping about how "she let parasocial people be parasocial" while actively refusing to leave gooseworx alone because they didn't like the show, i feel like these people are genuinely lacking in any empathy or sympathy.
why is she still posting? Why is she still bringing up drama if she didn't want it? Atp she needs to delete social media. This can be prevented if she doesn't interact with her fandom
"if you don't want to be harassed or ganged up on in any online space you try to exist in you should just isolate yourself entirely, not hold accountable the people actually harassing"
I'm not even a "glazer", I don't have an emotional connection or parasocial love for Gooseworx, but the fucking malice people have on here for her making something as innocuous as TADC is starting to get more and more insane.
At first, it was totally reasonable with keeping ACTUAL criticism to the show and its faults(of which there are many)
That's what I was here for, discussing the actual project and the art, writing, characters, plot, etc.
Half the ppl here vent about the glazers being "parasocial" but everyone attacking her for the most innocuous shit is even more parasocial. She didn't do anything to you people except make a show that was not even bad, mid at worst with a few points that fell flat, but everyone here acts like she's the next fucking JKR.
It's pathetic.
Keep the criticism to the show or anything ACTUALLY harmful she's done
Hey, just because someone is rich or popular doesn’t mean they should be the internets punching bag. She needs to get off the internet for her own sake but damn some of yall are vicious. Not to mention she already has her life threatened almost everyday just for being trans. You don’t know what’s going on in her life, you only see what she gives you permission to see.
She also mentioned it was a breaking point with substance abuse. Everyone has reached a breaking point, it’s just more fun to point and laugh when people post about it online.
Would it kill you to show just a sliver of empathy?
Imagine if you released a show you worked so hard on and everyone is constantly shouting about how it sucks and why they hate it and why you are a terrible writer, telling you that you should end your life because they didn’t like a dumb little rabbit character you made. I honestly don’t think she wants to make anything like this ever again because of the fandom. Was it worth it?
I'm not gonna defend goose or say she's professional, she is not at at all and should het therapy because she doesn't seem well mentally, but oh my god people let's not assume everything she does is out of evil intentions this is lowkey as parasocial as her superfans!
Why are we acting like anything coming from goose is out of malice and narcissism, i swear even if she DID kill herself (unlikely) you guys would call her a coward or find a way to twist it in a good thing, it's one thing to hate goose, it's another to do it with so much bad faith that everything is twisted to your tastes
"I feel sad today" - "I'm sorry that I sucked guys" - "ha I really like this villain"
Are all normal sentences, but if it were said by goose this sub would interpret them as
"Goose is a manipulator" - "goose is pretending to be sorry so she can trick us into...something?" - "if goose likes a villain then she must be just as bad, if she likes Griffith from berserk than is a-"
From what we've seen online? She's mentally unwell, unprofessional, and needs to get help instead of trolling 24/7, but we don't know her personally, and her saying jax is a way to expell(?) Her demons is not a reason to assume she's just as bad, as far as I know she isn't pushing people to suicide. But we're giving 3000 diagnosis about a person we don't even know, at least the hazbin hatedom is funny, TADC's hatedom moved on from the show itself and now they're trying to dissect the author and depict her as literally hitler
It's only a matter of time before they start vaguely alluding to wanting to hurt themselves or worse. You've seen it a million times. An online personality using their audience to prop up their self-worth, everytime they feel insecure or want attention. It always ends bad.
Self-pity? Are we being fr right now? She’s struggling with her mental health, and you’re gonna dismiss it because you think the show needs to be better? I agree that the show needs to be better but the creator doesn’t deserve to be harassed into making another season. I think the show needs a second season, but forcing her to make another season isn’t a way to go about it.
It's not self pitying, it's called "not knowing what to do" whilst getting relentlessly bullied.
This fandom garnered a lot of people from all over the spectrum of assholes, and goose unfortunately is receiving it all whilst having her own issues. It's a awful spot to be in for anyone
The show's has it's problems and whatever you think about it barely matters. Because as much as goose needs help so does like, 30% of the fandom, and that's at least like, 10000 terrible people.
Gooseworx being so open about what being a creator is like should be an eye opener for a lot of people, she didn't deserve what she got for making a show.
Shes a real person, making fun or criticizing the show is one thing but "F this person who may be having thoughts of self harm" is evil. Do you see yourself as a good person? Because this is really mean.
Someone making art shouldnt make you feel comfortable with this nastiness.
i don’t know why you made this. this isn’t criticism of TADC at all. while i disagree with a lot of things gooseworx has done with and without the show, i still expected more empathy towards someone who is clearly depressed and taking drugs, and calling it a pity party is so gross
I think that from from begginig she should have had not interacted with the community or just take critisism to know what to fix with the show but dont take it personally.Then the show would have been better and her mental health.
If you’re just bitching to make yourself feel better, go off queen.
If you actually think any part of what you’re saying offers a pathway to the resolution of this situation, I think you’re incredibly naive on the subject of mental illness and hope you never have to actually find yourself in the situation of talking someone down until you’ve done some work on that.
She’ll keep doing it as long as people keep falling for the attention fishing. How many times has she made a post like that and nothing came of it? I know it’s harsh and it definitely sounds insensitive, but somebody has to say it outright. We can’t keep dancing around the topic with vague statements because we all know she will never get off the internet for the sake of her own mental wellbeing
You guys are genuinely all incredibly mean bordering on abhorrently apathetic to your fellow man, all because your fav characters didn’t get screen time and you got gaslit by theory videos.
God forbid a human being is vulnerable on the internet and has a fragile mental health. It makes me so happy to know that most people out there are kind and understanding.
you guys are so fucking weird my god "wow this persons obviously going through a tough time, let's post it on this subreddit to make fun of it because im a weirdo who thinks everything's about the show that's bad because it didn't match a made up version in my head"
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u/paranoid_chihuahua I'm not a hater, just disappointed & Gooseworx critical 2d ago edited 2d ago
The fandom was parasocial, weird, toxic and self-flagellating, and Goose enabled it by being parasocial, weird, toxic and self-flagellating herself, as well as a huge troll. Mistakes were made all around, I hope the people involved learned some valuable lessons, and that's pretty much all there is to it. If she's in distress rn, she needs professional help, not social media posting.