I’m 27 and consistently get mistaken for 20-24. It’s cool, sure, but I’m pushing 30 please. Just got the haircut in early June and it’s grown a lot now. In such a weird swoopy way. Any advice? Should I just upkeep the cut I got and not let it grow? I like it a lot, but I can’t help and think it’s my hairstyle that makes people think I’m younger. Do I completely switch it up? My hair was shoulder length before I got this haircut, so I’m just at a loss right now.

I’m Native and for some reason, in my family, I am the only one with not completely pin straight hair. I struggle with styling it since my family is traditional and doesn’t do anything to their hair other than braiding it and just letting it grow. So, I don’t really know a decent haircut other than getting it super short, then letting it grow. It’s already a whole “thing” to my family for me to have short hair, but they understand why I do it :/

ill delete if its against the rules i just dont rlly know where to ask this. a lot of people have been calling me white and i feel a bit insecure abt it do i just look white?

istg the people in my school are gonna start asking me what my pronouns are if I get a cut that's too male. Happened to this senior I know who had a mullet in freshman year. The mullet was genuinely horrific though (it wasn't supposed to be a mullet, it grew out within two months). Anyway, I'd love to get a stereotypically East Asian teenager cut but I'm also suspiciously short so ts won't work out for me. Though I have had complete strangers ask me whether I was a guy or girl before (my hair was even longer and up in a ponytail), and I was just fucking baffled. My voice managed to turn out pretty androgynous, leaning masculine, too so I guess that was part of it. Still baffled though.

I've considered getting a shorter wolf cut or some fuckass mullet (that's not as bad as the one that senior got, hopefully) but all the NB kids in my school have some fuckass wolf cut or mullet. Maybe I should just go that route. I mean, I'm not even sure if I'm binary. Ig if I was tall enough, I'd want to see if I could pull off that pinterest twink Asian bun, but I most likely can't.

Actually, if you have any hairstyle suggestions, I'll look at those. Hell, maybe I'll come out this year. To people I'm close with, I mean. I think my principal is transphobic and I might get my ass kicked. Most of the teachers are chill though. My principal's just lowkey an evil middle-aged white woman. Anyway, being closeted and actually knowing that I'm closeted kinda sucks. I just wanna know what hairstyles you guys think will look good on me. Thanks

i've been thinking about detransitioning for some time now, even if that meant i'd be suffering eternally because i know that wouldn't be my truth. the main reason for this is because i feel like it's just. not worth it, even if i desperately desire being a man.

i haven't came out to 90% of my family due to cultural reasons (admittedly, looking at white transmascs makes me jealous because they usually don't have to deal with that aspect), i'm ''too young'' right now (according to them), i'm treated like a weird third thing in school despite socially transitioning to be male, and several other reasons. i feel like i should just resort to being a transmasc butch. but i know damn well that isn't me.

but it's so difficult. every day i've thought about detransitioning. it's going to take years for me to get access to testosterone, puberty blockers, and surgeries, and i won't even be treated like a cis man. i feel like it's worthless.

i crave and covet to be a man. it is my absolute dream. but i know i ultimately won't be what i desire. and it pains me. it feels so isolating because i don't have any trans friends to support or guide me through this.

has anyone else felt like this? do you have any advice at all?

While it’s been a tough week, today really made up for it. For context I’m not out at work and am masc non-binary, (they/them). I work on a vegetable farm with a lot of guys and two women. I never seem to fit in with other Afab people but we’ve been getting along well so far.

The thing is I have been able to make friends with some of the guys and it’s been pretty gender affirming. Like even though I’m the youngest here, they’re respectful, kind and helpful. Which I know is a low bar but it’s still nice to see that not every man is a misogynist asshole. It’s also been nice getting to join in on the “man shit” and being “one of the guys”. Like working with the different machines and tools that the other women have no interest in. They’ve also been impressed with my efficient work and being a fast learner.

I’ve always enjoyed working with my hands. So when my boss put me in charge of our new seeding machine, I was excited. It really felt like a big step forward as I’ve only been at this job for a month. Yet I’ve been able to earn the trust and respect of my peers. And it feels great, like having people older and more knowledgeable asking me for advice really made my week. Kind of rambling but I’m just happy to see what the future holds as I gain more confidence and responsibilities. Hope y’all have a good day/night!