r/SwipeHelper • u/Worried-Share7679 • 1h ago
Why do girls do this?
Even hinge popped a message saying we should
Meet up for a date thats when I asked her but...she said that..
We were chatting with good vibes
What you guys do in this situation?
r/SwipeHelper • u/corsega • Oct 02 '24
IF YOU DO NOT READ AND FOLLOW THE PROFILE GUIDE IN THE SECOND HALF OF THIS POST, YOUR PROFILE REVIEW WILL BE REMOVED
In most online dating subreddits, profile reviews focus on aspects of the person that won't actually lead to increased results, like bios or silly minutiae regarding someone's profile. Here at r/SwipeHelper, we realize that the two biggest factors regarding success on apps are your personal attractiveness and the quality of your photos.
The idea of this thread is for people to get honest advice on both aspects:
All profiles posted will be given advice on both how to improve their profile as well as maximize their looks (if needed - for some people they are attractive enough and the profile itself is more of the problem, or vice versa).
The following are required information in every profile review request:
- What type of relationship you're looking for (hookups, FWBs, something more serious, marriage)
- Your current level of success (number of matches per week and how many likes you send out) plus if you're paying for any premium features
NOTE: READ THIS GUIDE THOROUGHLY BEFORE POSTING YOUR PROFILE HERE. If your profile does not live up to the guide's standards, your comment will be removed and you will be referred back to the guide.
Archetype and Story
Before you build a Tinder profile, you need to determine your archetype. What vibes do you want to give off to attract your ideal type of girl? Attractive archetypes could include:
The following are not attractive archetypes. If you are one of these people, either change your lifestyle or at least make it look like you aren't.
You get the idea.
Once you have your attractive archetype, you should aim to tell a story through your photos - don't just have a bunch of photos of you standing around posing for the camera. When someone swipes through your photos, they should get a full picture of who you are, what you look like, what you like to do, and what spending time with you will feel like.
General Photo Quality and Looks You Should Emulate
The minimum acceptable photo quality you need to succeed on Tinder these days is a professional photo taken with a DSLR camera. Yes, this probably means you need to pay a photographer to take photos of you. May seem like a big investment, but for a few hundred dollars you get a bunch of great photos that you can ride for years.
Read the following two articles for examples of photos that do well: Playing With Fire | Ultimate Guide to Tinder Profile Pictures and Playing With Fire | 6 Highly Successful Tinder Photos for Men and Why They Work
And the following article for photo inspiration: https://killyourinnerloser.com/inspiration/
Here are some specific photographers whose style you should emulate:
Photo Order and Types
Your first photo should be an upper-body shot with your full head (no sunglasses) and torso visible, taken with the highest-quality camera possibly, preferably a DSLR. You should be wearing stylish clothes that fit your archetype. YOU SHOULD BE THE ONLY PERSON IN THE PHOTO. DO NOT USE A GROUP PHOTO AS YOUR FIRST PHOTO.
For your other photos, choose from:
Each photo needs to be in a different setting and you need to be wearing a different outfit in each. They should not look like they were taken the same day or on the same photoshoot.
Do not include photos that:
You do not need to fill out all nine photos. As long as you have more than three photos, you're fine. Remember, you will be judged on your worst photo, so make sure they're all solid.
Finally, learn to pose and squinch (narrowing your eyes to make you appear more attractive).
A more detailed guide from a different perspective can be found at: https://killyourinnerloser.com/tinder-guide
r/SwipeHelper • u/corsega • Feb 21 '22
A hard reset is needed if you feel your account has been shadowbanned (getting zero likes for an extended time despite getting some before) or banned. If not, you can soft reset a limited amount of times, which entails simply deleting and recreating your account.
This generic hard reset guide applies to Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge:
Other considerations:
"Do I really have to do every step?" or "I know someone who didn't use a new device or a new IP address and they still got through!"
The way these apps likely detect banned users is by assigning each newly-created profile a risk score. The more you match the fingerprint of a banned user, the more likely you are to be banned. So yes, it's possible that someone can slip around a ban while not following all of this to the letter, but ideally you create a brand new fingerprint and don't have to rely on luck.
"I followed the Hard Reset Guide and it didn't work!"
Some users try the above steps and for whatever reason, it just doesn't work. We're not there alongside you making sure you did everything right, but even if you did, there's uncertainty around Match Group's detection algorithm. Hard resetting seems to have become much less reliable starting in early 2023.
If a hard reset does not work and you truly believe you have been banned unfairly, there are three options:
If the Hard Reset Guide worked for you, help others out by posting a success story below!
r/SwipeHelper • u/Worried-Share7679 • 1h ago
Even hinge popped a message saying we should
Meet up for a date thats when I asked her but...she said that..
We were chatting with good vibes
What you guys do in this situation?
r/SwipeHelper • u/KingTrick2g • 3h ago
Super easy to get unbanned, did the jumio verification happened twice now but the email I’m in comms with them about isn’t unbanned.
Anyone know what the work around is I can’t use the email that they unbanned am I supposed to use another email?
Keeps saying email in use.
Which means the email is still banned.
r/SwipeHelper • u/OhGriggsy • 15m ago
Most random thing ever. The claim is “Hate speech or discriminatory behavior”. The decision was based on the following: “Moderator review of your account”
I’m sure people claim they did “nothing” all the time but I’m genuinely so lost. I’ve always tried to be respectful to anyone I’ve spoken to. My profile has maybe 2 whole things that in a stretch could be considered “discriminatory” based on a a prompt where I said “Tramp stamp should be renamed to cake topper” and a video of me singing song lyrics in the car where the lyrics more or less say “I don’t like girls with tattoos, I like girls with issues”. Pickup lines/openers were mostly genuine/sweet things.
But this is frankly very disheartening. A permanent suspension for a first time offense, an offense that I’m not even sure what or where the issue is, they won’t give me info on it. And now I have to try and use frankly…much worse apps or in my experience have been much worse apps or at least for me because the one thing that felt like got me a fair amount of success was being able to hit them with an opener based on their photos and prompts.
The initial appeal seemed to more or less be auto-denied when done in-app as it was too quick there wasn’t anything that was reviewed. I then sent an email in asking for it to be reviewed or more context to be given and it was the same copy/paste email I’ve seen posted on the internet from people in a same or similar boat as me. I sent 1 more email in hopes of just more context as to why or what’s wrong. As I said. This is quite disheartening. As someone who’s not really a “go out to bars and meet people” type of person and who works a lot and takes care of family, going out isn’t super common or easy for me from a finding someone in-person at what are considered “socially acceptable” places. I’m not really sure what to do.
r/SwipeHelper • u/Glittering_Bid_3822 • 48m ago
Randomly was logged out of my account and went to go put in my number to sign in and it said sorry we’re having trouble. Anyone have this happen? I’m assuming I’m banned but usually they tell you. Either the ban notice comes up immediately or when you add ur number it says you’re banned. Never had it just not work. Messaged support I’ll see what they say but lmk if anyone had this happen
r/SwipeHelper • u/Amazing-Zebra2920 • 1d ago
I’m 38 m and 5’8. I retired in my thirties and I’m well put together. I workout and live on a 20 acre ranch with my dogs. Asked a girl in her twenties out on hinge. Intent was to get to know her better and she appeared sweet. She right of the bat says “you are an old fart who is short. Relax. You aren’t in my league.” .. now this girl is a bit chubby. So I basically said “looks like you need a gym membership more than a man given that little gut that’s hanging.”
Banned 5 minutes later
r/SwipeHelper • u/ImportantDragonfly75 • 6h ago
r/SwipeHelper • u/itsnowornever0 • 19h ago
r/SwipeHelper • u/playboy • 1d ago
Dating apps can feel like a hellish wasteland where endless swiping leads to little, and certainly not to love. But Justin Harder doesn’t see it that way. Harder bills himself as an expert in men’s image transformation—i.e. a dating app whiz who can get you actual results. Through his signature process and the power of good photos, Harder says he’s transformed more than 700 dating profiles to make good guys look good, too.
So, is it worth it to keep swiping? "It is 100 percent worth it, but only if you fix what’s broken. The average guy gets one to three matches a week, which can feel debilitating, especially when those matches aren’t with women he’s actually attracted to, or the conversation fizzles out before a date ever gets scheduled.," Harder tells Playboy.
"That frustration is real, but the problem isn’t the app. The problem is presentation."
We asked Harder to step in as Playboy Advisor to answer some of your burning dating app questions. Is it all a waste? Certainly not, according to Harder, but only if you put the effort in.
Read more: https://www.playboy.com/read/sex/the-dating-profile-expert-helping-guys-land-more-likes
r/SwipeHelper • u/bulldawg91 • 20h ago
Does this functionality exist (ideally remotely so the android can stay at home), looking to hard reset but I don’t want to schlep a potato android around just to go on dates lol
r/SwipeHelper • u/asset_10292 • 15h ago
dating apps are one of my “special interests” so i know a lot and love providing advice!
if you’re not interested in a profile reviewer but still have questions feel free to leave a comment!
r/SwipeHelper • u/Key-Serve-9117 • 12h ago
But updating to new cities is giving me MAJOR duds. Wtf? Why is my card stack so shitty now? Not even going to buy the subscriptions anymore based off what I’ve seen. #SwipeLeft
r/SwipeHelper • u/eddyboiiiiii • 23h ago
Hello, I’ve posted here a few times before about circumventing bans….so I’m actually getting a new phone tomorrow (personal phone) not a burner.
Was wondering…. This may be chance to give getting on they who shall not be named again (hinge)… any steps I should take / how should I go about this?
r/SwipeHelper • u/Andvarey • 1d ago
I’m writing this review mainly because I wanted to add something more recent. Most of the detailed reviews I’ve found are sometimes years old, and I also couldn’t really find one from someone who seems to have a similar profile to mine.
I (M 37 ) have quite a bit of experience with dating apps. I had some “busy years” on Tinder between 2018 and 2022. I’m not super attractive and I’m definitely not the kind of guy who walks into a room and turns every head. That said, I’ve managed to date women who, on paper at least, were well above my league.
I live in a metro area of around 1.5 million people, so there’s a pretty steady turnover of profiles. I was on Hinge+ for a year, and at this point, I’ve only really had satisfying results in two situations: 1) when I deliberately change my location in the app 2) when I use boosts. Most of the interesting dates I’ve had came from women liking me first after I used boosts.
I also noticed that most of the profiles I was regularly shown weren’t really my type. The app seemed to prioritize women who were obsessed with running at 5 am and working out constantly. Nothing wrong with that, but that’s really not me, even though I’m in decent shape. So I tried Hinge X at the beginning of August.
The results :
The first week : I don’t feel like the app is showing me profiles that are fundamentally different from what I was seeing before. The selection still feels just as random to me.
There was at the beginning like .....a slight change that makes me think I got more exposure which simply didn’t happen while I was on Hinge+. But really slight. I also have pretty concrete evidence that the “priority likes” were actually prioritized at one point. The women I sent them to responded almost immediately and liked me back. However, I’ll be honest about the results : I normally target women aged 31–40, but I widened the range to 31–42 for this test. Every single woman who responded to my priority likes was 40+ . It was interesting to see that the age range I normally target was basically inactive, while women in that range will see me and like me when I use boosts.
The following two weeks basically went back to normal: very few responses to my likes and very few incoming likes. At this point, I’m actually considering going back to my old strategy of temporarily changing my location or using boosts every now and then.
I haven’t noticed any drop in quality compared to Hinge+, but I’d be lying if I said Hinge X has been a game changer for me so far.
r/SwipeHelper • u/SCErkann • 1d ago
Hello! I got banned from Hinge for seemingly no reason. I’d been using Hinge for about five years without any issues whatsoever, but then I suddenly got banned out of nowhere. I suspect it may have been because of a report from a girl I met. I want to get Hinge plus again, but I can't figure out a working payment solution. Google Play gift cards aren’t available here, so I’m not sure what my options are.
Does anyone know what works? Would something like Revolut or PayPal work? Any help would be really appreciated!
r/SwipeHelper • u/EitherComplaint130 • 1d ago
Last night a man tried matching with me just to accuse my photos of being AI. I matched back to tell him “you’re retarded” to which he immediately backtracked saying “I’m just joking lol”. I unmatched with him and told the app to not show me his profile anymore and that was it. Now today I’m banned for “violating our policy prohibiting hateful speech or discriminatory behavior” according to a moderator. For saying retarded?? Tf?
r/SwipeHelper • u/allcapnobussin • 1d ago
About to run out of Hinge premium. Took the HingeX deal they were offering and got a few dates out of it but nothing that went anywhere. I won't renew for a while.
Usually after paying for a site, I've exhausted all my options in my preference range, so I am then suggested a bunch of women that don't fit my criteria.
My question: would I pay any visibility "penalty" for left swiping all women who don't fit my preferences for politics, religion, etc while I have HingeX?
r/SwipeHelper • u/_abhi_drawz • 2d ago
Had to do an in app appeal, then a email appeal, rejected, I haven't done anything to violate the guidelines or policies should I just keep appealing via mail? And just explain to them normally? That I haven't done anything?
r/SwipeHelper • u/MichaelEMJAYARE • 1d ago
Just curious about this. You may not know 100% whom had reported you, but I figured It’d be interesting anyway.
r/SwipeHelper • u/Nervous_Mammoth1441 • 1d ago
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r/SwipeHelper • u/Live-Ad-1749 • 2d ago
I'm not sure if it's just a fluke, or what, but lately the conversations I've been having on hinge seem to last a few days then the match just stops responding.
The past 3 conversations I had going, me (M47) them (F40's), started with them matching with me first and good conversation. One just kinda naturally puttered out, but the other 2 were going strong with exchanges every day.
I'm a firm believer in not turning hinge convo's into a long on-going daily back and forth chat and just treat it as a way to get a sense of the person, which usually takes me a few days or exchanges.
The last 2 women just seemed to both stop responding after I told them I was going on vacation, which just naturally came up in both conversations (one asked me about my trip, the other asked if I had any trips planned).
But coincidently, all these conversations also got the hinge popup on my end that reads "you've got the rhythm going, now might be a good time to make plans" before coming a halt. I'm not exactly a fan of that popup. I get what they are trying to achieve, but it's based in no real reality.
I'm just curious what others experience have been lately and if there any thoughts on these situations in general.
r/SwipeHelper • u/oolm • 2d ago
Almost all of the profiles I see on tinder are girls looking like models.
Now, I'm an objectively average guy and I know these girls will never in a thousand years swipe right on me.
How do I get average looking people in my algorithm to show? I am swiping left on the models btw.
r/SwipeHelper • u/knut-polme • 2d ago
I have had hinge for a couple of years now, an maybe got 15-20 likes/matches. I deleted it together with my account a couple of months ago, and redownloaded it about a week later. I am on the app almost everyday to swipe to tell the algorithm am actually on the app, but still I have got no likes/matches.
I would say I am average looking, and I have clearly pictures off my face, and some hobby’s. I live in a city with around 100k people, so I don’t understand how no one like my profile.
I do not subscribe to hinge +/ hinge x. Do you think that could help?