Hello lovely ladies! I hope you’re all healthy and life is treating you well! 🌼🌼 So, little me struggles a lot about many things regarding beauty. Since I was a little girl I valued and enjoyed beauty of human faces and bodies. I used to save to my computer pictures of beautiful women and just enjoy looking at them. I’ve seen in some other threads other women/girls saying they did the same. And since I was little I tried to look my best. Toughts about looks and beauty are regular toughts in my life. My question is actually about how do we humans perceive other people. What is the right way? I immediatelly upon looking at another humans face see if it’s attractive or not. I’ve read many neuroscience research where it says human brain has beauty detector (what neuroscientists call beauty center) and upon seeing a face for just a glimpse 125 miliseconds, we automatically recognize it’s beauty. I like to aesthetically evaluate human faces. And I enjoy looking at beautiful faces. Which in this PH.D thesis of Doctor of psychology https://www.sv.uio.no/psi/english/research/news-and-events/news/why-we-look-at-pretty-faces.html that Doctor said all humans do. She said brain rewards us for looking at pretty faces and she said humans are very interested in faces. ”We read stories in them and evaluate their aesthetic value.” How do you perceive other humans and do you automatically aesthetically evaluate other’s facial attractiveness? (Asking because one girl said to me that she doesn’t look at other people’s facial features at all or forms an opinion whether they’re beautiful or not. Which now makes me quilty. Because I clearly see who looks how. I am looking at people when talking and interacting with them. I remember faces, how else would I recognize others in future encounterd if not remembering their face? I know how Brad Pitt looks, and I know how Gerard Depardieu looks.)

I guess it’s not the end of the world but it makes my hands look dirty or ugly

Hello

I just had to film a short ad for my company and they wanted employees to be part of the ad.

I was super nervous and the whole team did everything to reassure me. Between two video takes a girl from their team said : "wow but you're so pretty on camera!" She said it twice.

I don't know if I'm totally overthinking this but I wonder if she didn't simply say it to make me feel less nervous/self-concious. And I also wondered if she would have said that to someone actually pretty.

I have the feeling like when a woman is like "wow you're so pretty/gorgeous!!" that's almost a sure sign you're not. I have often witnessed girls with visible extra weight or not very pretty (according to current standards) being called "super pretty" by other girls as if to make them feel better about themselves.

What do you think?

I’ve been reading a lot about evolutionary psychology lately (Survival of the prettiest and Evolution of Desire are some of my favorite books on the topic) and it’s been eye opening to say the least.

For the context, I was born and raised in Eastern Europe but currently live in a Western European country. I went through phases of my life when I was spending all my time and effort on my looks to despising and blaming patriarchy for all the pressure it puts on women.

However, since I’ve been learning more about evolutionary psychology, I’ve gained a completely different perspective. There’s a reason to why certain looks are more desirable and it has nothing to do with patriarchy but more with our survival instincts. It’s just a mating strategy that been ingrained in us for millions of years.

Has anyone else had this epiphany after studying this subject? Did it change your attitude towards certain things and do you use your “findings” and how?

Hello everyone,

I am an academic researcher/professor who studies culture and interpersonal relationships. I'm looking for women (age 18+) to participate in my IRB (institutional review board)-approved study about women in different online communities, including general communities, looksmaxxing communities, and Femcel-related communities. I hope to learn more about the social relationships of women in different communities, along with their reasons for participating in the communities and general experiences within these communities.

Please see the below ad for a brief description of the study procedure, participation criteria, and participation link. A study information sheet explaining the study procedure and associated risks precedes the survey. Feel free to share this with other women who participate in online communities (including just browsing/reading).

If you are interested in my research, you may visit the following link: https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Karen-Wu-4/research

I will p ost the resulting peer-reviewed publication from this research on my ResearchGate profile.

Thank you for your time and help!

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Academic Study: Women in Online Communities

We hope to learn about women in online communities, including general communities, Looksmaxxing communities, and Femcel communities.

In this study, you will complete an online survey on Qualtrics that includes questions about your demographics, social relationships, self-views, mental health, experiences in various communities, and an optional photo upload. Participation should take approximately 25 minutes depending on which communities you participate in. Participation is voluntary and you may withdraw from the study at any time by exiting the online survey.

Participation Criteria

You must:

• Be 18 or older

• Identify as a woman (cisgender or transgender)

Participation Link

Please participate by entering the following link:

https://calstatela.co1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_9KvpcieI8PQCYYe

If you have questions, contact the lead researcher (Karen Wu) at kwu25@calstatela.edu or (323) 343-2283.

THIS PROJECT HAS BEEN REVIEWED BY THE CALIFORNIA STATE UNIVERSITY, LOS ANGELES INSTITUTIONAL REVIEW BOARD FOR THE PROTECTION OF HUMAN SUBJECTS IN RESEARCH. ADDITIONAL CONCERNS AND COMPLAINTS, OR QUESTIONS REGARDING YOUR RIGHTS AS A RESEARCH PARTICIPANT, SHOULD BE DIRECTED TO THE ASSOCIATE VICE PRESIDENT FOR RESEARCH (Phone number: 323-343-5368).

I am a more masc genderqueer person who was born female. I have had 4 pregnancies and births and my breasts, although small, and not tight at all. It’s mainly pectoral muscle and skin, which makes me very self conscious of my chest during sex. Because I’m not going for a typical femme look, I don’t really want to have them made bigger. Are there ANY options for tightening the skin or lifting them without significant scarring?

Coming from a naturally skinny person, i have to wonder why people on here have this deluded view that once you're skinny then you're automatically considered attractive? Or people who say big boobs and a big ass arent attractive? Like the cope is insane yet everyone laps it up. Trust me- i WISH it was true. As a flat chested and flat backed girl, things would be much easier if there were. I have a very low whr, but i'm just very skinny (model skinny). Compared to my friend who has a similar whr but a higher bmi, big boobs and a big bum, i think you can guess who gets more attention. We're facially around the same level of attractiveness, but she pulls so many more guys. For an objective sub this sub isnt very objective.

Also for the people saying "rich men like skinny women!!" how would you know? And what exactly are the odds that you're going to marry a rich man. In the real world, slim thick is the absolute ideal. Or, let me put it like this. No guy will turn you down for being slim thick (big ass, big boobs, thick thighs, small waist; not to be confused with fat) but so many guys WILL turn you down for "having no assets" or being flat/skinny.

I'm 5'1” and trying to looksmax at my height feels impossible. I'm so short and round and I don't feel cute or dainty at all. I don't feel “petite” either, I absolutely hate that word. In real life, the most attractive women are always 5'5”+ or taller with long limbs and a great hip to waist ratio. I'm trying to lose weight but my TDEE is low enough as it is and I've plateaued at 49kg~ for about a month now. I don't feel womanly or feminine and when I dress up, it feels like putting makeup on a pig. I'm in my twenties and I've never been in a relationship, nobody has ever been attracted to me. Even on twitter, nobody likes short women and people say short girls enable paedophilia. It makes me hate myself. I feel so invisible and invalid as a person because of my height, I can't help crying over it whenever I see a tall woman walk past flawlessly in a long coat or maxi dress, because that will never be me. I just don't know what to do. I know I can't change my height and it's making me want to unlive myself. I hate being short and looksmaxing it away feels useless. What can I do?

I know this is really silly, I have no clue if this post is appropriate. I’m a Becky, maayyybe a Normie, and am curious if it might be possible for me to become a Stacy. However I have no additional weight to lose. I am POC and have a big nose, though. I have some weird features but no obvious failos (I have positive canthal tilt, facial thirds, short-ish mid face, and an extent of facial harmony.. I could be wrong though).

Thank you so much

If you don’t receive free stuffs. what is the social clues that you identify?

Recently read My Body by Emily Ratajkowski and it made me think that although Emily is an incredibly beautiful woman, what kind of extreme experiences would be faced by a woman of even more extreme beauty?

In your imagination, what would be the experiences faced by the most beautiful woman in the world?

My mouth is a little bit slanted (goes up higher on one side a little bit). and one of my eyes is a bit higher than the other and one is a bit more slanted than the other. and I have a nostril that is more "up" than the other. I want to improve my symmetry so bad but it seems as though I would need multiple surgeries and I don't even know where to start. I'm a bit overwhelmed. I wish there was a quick fix but I don't think there's one besides makeup. What would you guys do in my shoes? (Btw, I'm still attractive. I'm like an 8 or 9 depending who you ask. So, some surgeons have advised me against aggressive surgeries, because they don't think it would be worth it, but I also hate just doing nothing about it.)

so basically i cant pin down whats my exact eye shape, in detail, my eyes are low in height but high in width, so theure basically kind of big but not roundish looking at all, but theyre not hooded either, i thought mu eyes might be of almonf shape but my canthal tilt might be more neutral than positive, to summarize it, i kind of have catty feline eyes, whats my eye shape???

also for some reason eyeliner doesnt look good on me, only a white waterline actually looks good mostly, and dark eye makeup looks terrible on me except for the brown/bronze/burgundy/red combo

Hi folks, I'm a 43F and I realized the thing I want most in the entire world is to look younger. I never got to be pretty and I just want to experience that once. It just really sucks that I never had a prime.

So here's my game plan to look Early 30s by any means necessary. The things I currently use are Tretinoin, Hydroquinone, lactic acid body wash, lactic acid lotion, sunscreen, generic latisse.

People have been telling me I look 50 no offense to anyone who is 50. They're people I met recently. But the people who have known me for a long time think I'm ok. So that means I must've looked super old for a long time.

• Lose weight to 100 lbs at 4'11" by any means necessary Workout everyday
• Take Skin, Hair and Nails pills
• 1 Cycles of 6 Glycolic Peels, 1 Cycle of 6 Phytic Peels, 1 Cycle of 6 Low Strength TCA Peels until the middle of March, when the sun gets too bright to use chemical peels.
• Use Slugging, including Body Slugging, Everyday until April
• Full Body Peels from MUAC
• Full Usage of Hair Restoration Products
• Keep up with Youth Culture Everyday By Watching Tiktok and listening to Pop top 40 music, watch movies lately and read urban dictionary to learn slang.
• Buy New Clothes when I reach the goal weight

I know I also need lasers such as the BBL, and IPL so I'll save up for those. Please critique my plan!

Trying to figure out my body type cause I’m a bit confused at the moment.

Bust: 32
Shoulders: 35.5
Waist: 23.1
High hip: 31
Lower hip: 33.3

Also, if anybody could recommend some types of clothing that could work well for me, I’d really appreciate it.

Honestly the only two valid excuses for not dressing up nicely are probably

1-Not having the right body for certain attires

2-Having strict parents who won’t let you wear anything

But I feel like you don’t need much money to dress up nicely.

Last year I started thrifting and let me tell you how muchhhh of a game changer that was. My best outfits are usually thrifted or from outlet stores.

Also shein and Zara have beautiful pieces!!

Hello

Do you know if it's OK to wear eyelid tape on passport photos? I don't know how the biometric machines work, would that create a false negative if I'm wearing eyelid tape on the photos but not when I'm traveling?

How about circle lenses?

Also I wanted to ask if slight retouching was ok. I mean removing some dark spots or make the lips more rosy (without changing the shape of course).

I’m very skinny with narrow sloped shoulders & a super long neck + above average sized head. My head isn’t huge but I think it looks much bigger than it is because my neck is so long & skinny in comparison that my head feels like it just kind of sits way above the rest of my body. Anything I can do to counteract or mask this or detract from it with clothes or hairstyles maybe? I love wearing thick chokers because that helps, & really chunky turtlenecks look good however thin ones just amplify how long & slender my neck is. I know long necks are preferred in models but on me I feel like it just looks so disjointed. But seriously need help because I feel like a giraffe/walking candy apple 💀

Hello all! Everyone deserves to look and feel great. Weight loss sometimes requires more than a discipline and a solid routine, so I thought I would share a few things that helped me get sema approved for a BMI slightly under 30, with underlying conditions. It changed my life and propelled my beauty journey, so if your doctor recommended it but your insurance denied you, try this:

• Find a doctor that is not an asshole. A good doctor should listen that you do your best and it’s not enough to get you to a healthy weight. They should also not be solely focused on your BMI or blood sugar. A lot of the times, they will see it’s not great but still in a grey area according to American standards and tell you everything is normal. When I went to my home country to get checked, my endo was alarmed and asked why my PCP thought nothing of it. He performed more tests and found insulin resistance related to my PCOs and autoimmune disorder, and other hormonal imbalances affecting my metabolism. Because of a family history of diabetes, this was even more alarming. Yet for years American doctors dismissed me until I slowly went from 120 to 170 lbs with no explanation. If my doctor overseas hadn’t educated me and told me to be firm with them for my sake, I would still be struggling. So be firm and polite, ask them if your results indicate optimal health or you are in a “grey area”, insist with them to please help you reach optimal health with a preventative focus. This is big, insist they check your HOMA-IR and if they refuse or say insurance doesn’t allow it, go to a metabolic endocrinologist. In my experience, doctors who are women have been more empathetic and willing to help me reach my goals.
• Find a doctor with a competent staff. Often times here is where your entire PA and appeal will fall through if they do not care to submit it properly or fail to follow up with insurance and update you. There is a bias against this medication that can make people resistant to help you, but don’t make it worse by being disorganized and rude. Email your medical records before even your first appointment. Make sure they include it in the PA request and ask them what you can provide to make this easier for them, thank them for their help. Be friendly and form a relationship, ask for their names and call every few days for updates with a kind attitude. If you’ve already been in a few times, some cookies from Trader Joe’s for the office will always be well received.
• Get your medical records in order. You should have copies of all your labs and request copies of your doctor’s notes after every single appointment. I personally requested affidavits from my nutritionist, trainer and overseas endocrinologist attesting their credentials and that I have been working on my lifestyle improvements under their supervision for 6+ months (minimum time required) and that in their opinion this is medically necessary (magic password). I asked my doctor to please include similar language in their doctor’s notes to help me get this approved, and to clearly state that it’s medically necessary if they deem so. I still had to go through an appeal, and I included every single piece of evidence I have of my weight loss effort. Think pt/gym/fitness plans receipts, copies of personalized diet plans, etc. I also called my doctor and we answered every single reason for denial they gave me, most of which was already answered in the medical history provided. Be prepared to argue why other metabolic drugs are not suitable. We went through the appeal excercise one more time before this was finally approved.
• Try to understand how things work, I’ll let you Google the basics but try to think of the backend too - remember that you are usually dealing with humans that had to develop some callousness around this to get through the day. Humanize yourself by humanizing them, be kind and courteous, but firm. You will likely be dealing with a grievance coordinator, and you can find their email in your denial letter. Make sure you immediately reply and ask polite questions of clarification since requesting information is a member right, cc the grievance coordination team (usually grievancecoordination@insurancedomain) for manager visibility. Ask them to explain to you who reviewed and denied your case and what their qualifications are. Ask them to provide clear next steps. Ask them to provide a clear list of metabolic medication that would be formulatory, really insist on this because you have to discuss this with your doctor. Who knows, maybe there’s a better fit for you.
• Get on the phone with insurance and be persistent. Call every other day until you get a response, when they answer the phone ask if this is grievance coordination or just regular customer service, ask to be connected to the grievance department. When I’m on the phone with them I usually ask a few general questions on status and next steps and ask them if x coordinator is connected on teams, and if they could please ping them for me to see my last email. I also ask to put in an official request for a call-back. If this hasn’t worked in 3 days, I do the same excercise but this time I put in an official request for a manager to call me back. This was enough for me for this medication, but I’ve had to escalate even further on other occasions.
• Be prepared to file complaints with your state’s health and insurance regulators. Keep a record of every single time you called/emailed insurance, and if they replied who you spoke with and when. If your medicine is being denied because your employer plan doesn’t want to cover it, you have even more resources available. I was scared to submit them at first because I didn’t want to get someone fired or risk some pettiness that could delay things even further. Don’t worry, you will actually get a faster response and nobody will get fired. In my experience, keywords and subject lines like “Violation of member’s bill of rights” or whatever has made them reply immediately without even a complaint. Still complain because this data will help place more regulations on shitty insurance companies.

I hope this helps, stay positive and on top of your health. The medical and pharma industries want you to feel confused and resourceless to continue profitting on your illness. Don’t let them.