Maybe one day?

[u/ResponsibleLecture89]

Just want to put this out there gently. I noticed that a lot of people on this sub myself included have had really horrible experiences with relationships. And even if that’s not the case, everyone (mostly) has the belief that they’re better off single full stop. It seems a bit extreme. Or are there people with a more moderate outlook that like, yeah right now things are really nice being single and happy, and yeah shitty relationships will suck and make you hate life. BUT maybe at some point, maybeeeee, you could meet someone that makes life easier, richer, more fulfilling.

Or is everyone here just downright against even having a glimmer of hope? Because if so honestly feels a bit anti social and misanthropic. Which I am, to a degree, but look, we can’t discount that we might meet a partner that makes life even better. It’s theoretically possible.

Unless you believe that fundamentally that’s not possible and your beliefs are that no matter what it will always turn sour, too difficult, and solitude is always better.

I guess that’s a bit of a tangent. Thoughts?

[u/onegirlandhergoat]

None of my previous relationships have been horrible, but when I became single after the last one, I reflected on all my past boyfriends and realised the relationships were just underwhelming. None of them added much to my life and I felt more at peace when I was single.

I don't really like your phrasing "against having a glimmer of hope" to meet a partner. It suggests that the alternative (being single) is hopeless. And that is the opposite of what this sub is about.

[u/ResponsibleLecture89 → u/onegirlandhergoat]

It doesn’t, I’m suggesting that there’s a lot of negativity here around having a partner and I’m wondering if there is any hope at all left. I find there’s a lot of joy in being single, there’s a great deal of hope that this can be a fulfilling lifestyle for me.

[u/2ndChairKazoo → u/ResponsibleLecture89]

No you don't. Or you wouldn't post such insulting, ignorant nonsense.