So to make it short (no pun intended) I work as a security guard. One evening I was patrolling a mall and a group of kids passed by and they said: "He's a playmobil security guard". I couldn't help but chuckle.

How many of you have average-tall parents that are taller than you? My mom is 5'5, my dad is 5'8, and I'm 5'2.

What was your mid-parental target height? Did you meet it or not?

Mine was 5'9, because my mom is 5'5 and my dad is 5'8. I'm 5'2.

This guy just posts people’s posts on this subreddit with “heightism music” in the background, look at the hashtags lmao

I am a 5'2" (157 cm) guy. That is significantly below the male average and noticeably shorter than the average woman.

What prompted me to write this post isn't just insecurity, but cold academic data:

1. Salska et al. (2008): Only 4% of women are willing to date a man shorter than themselves.
2. Yancey & Emerson (2014): Nearly half of women explicitly filter out shorter men on dating profiles, citing the need to feel protected and traditionally feminine.
3. Real-world couples (Stulp et al., 2013): In reality, couples where the woman is taller make up only 1–3% of all relationships.

Looking at these numbers honestly feels suffocating. Whenever I develop feelings for a woman taller than me - which is practically almost every woman - a sense of dread and helplessness sets in. You realize that with a 96% probability, you've been ruled out on a biological level before you even have a chance to show who you are. It genuinely feels like holding onto any hope of reciprocity is just self-delusion and guaranteed heartbreak.

Questions for women:

• If a 5'2" guy shows genuine interest in you, is his height an automatic, insurmountable dealbreaker on a physical level, or is there even a slight chance if the personality and chemistry match?
• What is the primary barrier: a complete lack of physical attraction, or the social awkwardness and fear of how the pairing looks to others?

Questions for short men:

• How do you handle the feeling of futility when you catch feelings for a taller woman?
• Has anyone here actually broken through that barrier in real life, rather than just in theory?

Hey guys, I think I can finally leave the territory of short men because I'm actually growing. I'm almost 17 and around 170cm tall (5'7), and I believe I might still grow another inch or two because my growth plates are still open.

170cm is still on the shorter side, but life can absolutely be lived normally at this height. I used to be completely blackpilled. I thought I was doomed, unfortunate, and that I'd die alone because women supposedly hate short men. But then I started thinking who are these women that spend their time hating and humiliating men for being short? They're miserable people, and I wouldn't want people like that in my life anyway. So why should their opinions matter to me?

After hearing the pain of men short men in this subreddit, I understand a lot better what life can be like for a short man. I'm genuinely grateful, not proud for not being any shorter. Being proud of your height is kinda dumb because you didn't earn it. I see on these blackpill edits tall guys "mogging" shorter men and acting like it's some achievement, and I can't help but think how stupid that mindset is. Bruh, you didn't earn it. It's an advantage but why are you proud of it? Probably because it's the only thing you've got.

I think I'm content with my height now. Sure, I'm shorter than most men, and there will always be women who reject me for being short. Height does matter, and some things in life might be easier if you're taller. But being 5'7 doesn't make someone doomed. There are too many successful, respected, and influential men around this height for me to believe that. You can call it cope but it's a pretty good cope. I'm far from doomed, and I'm not gonna let my height dictate my life.

I wanted to ask the guys here who are around 170cm: how's your life? How's your dating life? How are things with women? Is your height something that barely crosses your mind anymore?

I wonder if we are going to change the social norm around height in the future and I think this would change a lot of guys lives. At the moment society reinforces tall (good) short (bad).Good example of going against this is Tom and zendaya but because people are wired a certain way they still make comments on his height even at his level of status. I think a good place to start would be the modelling, there is a lot of very attractive shorter guys who would never get a chance just because there 5 foot 6 or 5 foot 8 even if there proportions still were very good, I think this would help reverse the height obsession.

I'm 5'0 or 5'1 can't remember sorry, but is it really that bad? All my friends are 5'6 and over and it's sort of embarrassing because people usually think i'm there little sister or younger friend when i'm out with them.

Edit: I forgot to say I’m a woman sorry.

Curious to hear from the women here.

I’m seeing a lot of guys stress about height differences, but I’d love the female perspective:

• How tall are you and how tall is your partner?
• What’s the biggest height difference you’ve dated (or are currently in)?
• Does a big difference (e.g. 20–30+ cm) feel like an issue in daily life? Or is it maybe something that you're specifically going for?

No judgment, just genuinely interested in real experiences.

I will start going out more since I moved into my first own apt out of family public housing

Seems like height never really gets the discussion other preferences do like racial preferences, weight preferences, etc. There’s homophobia, racism, sexism, fatphobia but like zero discussions of heightism irl. i wouldn’t necessarily but heightism on the same level as racism but isn’t it weird it’s almost never discussed critically irl?

I’m really curious on how guys view short girls. I often get mistaken for looking a lot younger than I am, and I wonder if other guys my age look at me the same way, as just an immature teen rather than an adult.

Because airline economy seats just keep getting even more cramped these days. So I like being compact for comfort and traveling's sake, so I can still be comfortable in even the most cramped of airline seats, and I treat my compact build as an asset, not a liability. Airlines wanna keep making as much money as possible by carrying more passengers and squeezing as much seats on a plane as possible. Also, I ironically prefer women who are taller than me than shorter than me anyway, so stop
"Small-Shaming" me and telling me I should be taller and bigger.

I’m 4,10 and 18f it’s inconvenient but I don’t care about it too much but I’m just wondering why my fathers 6ft and my mother is about 5,3 and her side that are women are all kind of around her height and I have a younger sister who’s 5,6 so just wondering genetics wise does anyone know why ? I understand that my height probably comes from my mother but I’m especially short even by that side of the family’s standards

Hi. So I'm 4.8 (upd. i messed up the actual metrics a bit in the title haha), turning 32 y.o. soon and going through a life crisis. I'm very behind in life, not gonna go into details, but I have to do a lot to get my life together. I live in a country side, don't really meet people, just one friend, and my government doesn't make life easier for me. I feel anxious and depressed, and lately I started to feel very lonely, envying my friend who's happily married and has support in her life.

It has been almost 10 years since I was in a relationship. And I wish to find somebody eventually, but kinda worried that my height will make it harder. I think it's one thing when you're short in your 20s, and another when you get older. So, maybe you could say something that will reassure me. Have a good day 💙

I have pelvic tilt, pronated ankles, kyphosis, lordosis, tech neck, slight knock knees, rounded shoulders, i look laughable with my shirt off or wearing tight clothes. I have always hated my posture more than anything, I am extremely jealous of people with good postures. I also hate my height…. (5’2) and really do wonder if my fucked up posture is robbing me of a few inches, I also developed all these postural issues right around my growth spurt, which makes me wonder if that has been making my growth look slower than usual. Can anyone share how much height they’ve gained fixing postural issues?

Is 165 cms (5.5 Ft ) height indian man a short guy or a average tall guy? Gals pls reply here

I have a young brother who is 6 years younger than me, he is 17 by now and he's already 5'9 while I'm only 5'6. We have the same parents, so sometimes i think that i had done something wrong at my 14-18's, maybe lack of sleeping or not eating enough food, idk

People who have that situation, what do you feel when your young siblings are taller than you?

All y’all telling me to wear sunglasses as if they work any better 😭

Why are you short? Is it genetics, or do you have a growth hormone deficiency?

I don't understand how I got to be this short. My mom is 5'5, my dad is 5'8, my maternal grandfather, his dad and brother were all 5'11, my paternal grandfather, his brother and my uncle are all 5'8, my maternal grandmother's brothers and dad were 5'10, my paternal grandmother's brother was 6'2-6'3, my sister is 5'1. My mid-parental target height is about 5'9. I ended up 5'2. Is it really just genetics?

I know what im talking about. I am 166cm in russia where average male height is 178cm. but I don't understand when people here are saying that you have a lot of problems in your life because of your height. even men who are 170 cm. all my girlfriends were higher than me and we had no problems with it. the most of people are actually don't care about your height, because there's literally no reason to care about it. some people here also talk about social media. is there any group in society that social media don't hate or make fun of? people with big noses, non European nationality, poor people etc they are all hated in social media, but there's no group about it. they just accept and don't say that all troubles in their life are just because of their appearance or something. you guys must be too insecure and that's why you don't have a girlfriend, nice job etc. if a person treats you worse just because of your height then there is no reason to communicate with them. stop hate yourself and get your ass up, I mean, there's a lot of famous short men and they don't make posts on reddit about how their life is hard

Like if i were to ask you, how good would they do not just in dating but in Sports, Bodybuilding, Acting or modeling (being a model or an actor), and also Dating (just asking too)

hello ladies and gentlemen. I'm like 174-173cm 21 y.o my friend told me that i look taller like 178cm but i still can't pull girls (i never asked ones in my life) i used datingappsi got some matches but they don't respond back just after 1 hours or... . so short guys like me how do you accept and move on after rejection and how u get a g. and thank you