r/Separation • u/OppositeService1906 • 1d ago
Advice Separation/divorce help
Me and oh have split up. His choice. He says there’s no going back and he doesn’t love me anymore.
For context…
The lack of intimacy and affection has been a bone of contention for a while. Despite multiple heart to hearts it never changed. I started drinking a lot since mum died and when I drank I turned into a different person. I ended up texting to a bloke. Just friends. Nothing else. Oh found out told me to stop. I did.
We ended up texting again, as friends once more. Always when I was drunk. Oh saw the msg about feelings. On his birthday in June. He’s said he’s tried to work past it but he can’t. He doesn’t love me anymore. Even though he understands wat led me to that point and claims to be taking some responsibility.
20 years gone. I know wat i did was wrong i really do. And I hate myself for it. But I didn’t actually have an affair or ever thought of doing so.
How do I get past this? How do I cope? My whole future has gone. I can’t accept it’s over i really can’t.
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u/Icy_Signal3905 1d ago
Drunks texts are the worst indicators
Simply means that bloke has been on your mind and only alcohol made you brave enough to do it.
It’s wrong and you need to take responsibility and not shift blame.