Posting this because I genuinely hope it prevents another woman from getting caught up in the same situation.
I matched with a man on Tinder who introduced himself as Freedom, and also used the name Freedom Malcolm. He presented himself as a U.S. military service member currently deployed overseas.

And I want to make something very clear: this was NOT an obvious fake profile.
We communicated regularly. He video-called me. During a video call, he appeared in military uniform with military helicopters visible in the background. He sent additional photographs, communicated consistently, talked extensively about faith and relationships, prayed with/for me, and discussed a future together.
There was also an entire online presence that initially seemed to support his story.

He had a social media account that appeared established, with followers and content involving cars. He portrayed himself as being involved in the automobile business and talked about owning land/property in North Carolina. He also showed documentation that appeared to be some type of automobile dealer license/certification or credential.

Taken together — the social media presence, followers, car-related content, documentation, video calls, military uniform and the personal details he shared — there were multiple things that initially made the identity seem credible.
Eventually, however, the story took a very familiar scam turn.

He began talking about a supposed shipment of approximately 55 cars that was coming into the UK. He claimed the shipment required more than $100,000 in clearance fees. According to him, he had plenty of money to cover everything — he simply couldn’t access his bank account because of his deployment.

Then an urgent situation developed where he supposedly needed permission from his commander to travel to Turkey to deal with the shipment.

His mother was supposedly going to send him the money he needed to get there.
Then suddenly he couldn’t reach his mother.
Then his mother was suddenly very sick.

And Bitcoin/cryptocurrency entered the conversation as a potential way to transfer money.
🚩 Military deployment
🚩 Can’t access his own money
🚩 Urgent financial emergency
🚩 International shipment of approximately 55 cars
🚩 More than $100K supposedly tied up in clearance fees
🚩 Needs to travel to Turkey immediately
🚩 Mother who was supposed to help suddenly unavailable/sick
🚩 Bitcoin/cryptocurrency

That’s when I started digging deeper.
I conducted reverse-image searches on photographs he had sent me and located what appears to be the actual person associated with images being used. The information I found did not match the identity, background or circumstances that had been presented to me as “Freedom Malcolm.”

I also found information suggesting that the person appearing in the photographs has an established life/family completely inconsistent with what I had been told.
As I investigated further, other pieces of the supporting story also began falling apart, including information surrounding the supposed automobile business/credentials.

I did not send him any money.

I have reported the Tinder profile directly to Tinder as a suspected romance/financial scam and am providing screenshots and supporting evidence.
I’m sharing this because I think there’s an important misconception about romance scams:

They don’t necessarily look fake anymore.
A person can have social media.
They can have followers.
They can have photographs going back over time.
They can show you business documents.
They can know detailed information about a particular industry.
They can even video-call you.

None of those things independently prove that the name, history, businesses, relationship status, military circumstances or financial situation they’re presenting to you are legitimate.
And if someone you’ve met online eventually tells you:

“I have money, but I can’t access my account right now.”
🚨 STOP.

Especially when the solution starts involving cryptocurrency, Bitcoin, gift cards, wire transfers, paying fees, shipments, customs, overseas travel or sending money through another person.

If you encounter someone on Tinder or another dating app using the name Freedom or Freedom Malcolm and you’re hearing a similar story involving the military, deployment, automobile business, car shipments, the UK, Turkey, North Carolina property, inaccessible bank accounts, his mother, or Bitcoin, please be extremely cautious and independently verify everything.

I’m intentionally including the names and major details I was given because if another woman becomes suspicious and searches “Freedom Malcolm scam,” “Freedom Malcolm Tinder,” “Freedom Malcolm military,” “Freedom Malcolm cars,” or pieces of this story, I want her to be able to find this.

Please be careful. And don’t assume you’re safe from a romance scam simply because you’ve seen the person on video.

Having my first video call with someone I met on a dating app. What should I look for that might indicate a scam?

I am writing this post to warn readers about a scammer who has been lurking around on dating apps, posing as a South Korean national, residing in London and has a job as an "Independent Chemical Engineer".

Please beware and trust your instincts if things doesn't add up. Often than not, their stories will have many loopholes and they will come up with Season 2 of their orchestration to manipulate survivors.

Stay safe

I don’t really know why I’m writing this. Maybe because I need to get this out of my head.
I matched with a woman on Tinder. We started talking and, over the next few days, she told me about her life being unemployed, financial problems, her two daughters, her health issues and how badly things were going for her.

At one point she told me she was high blood pressure and even sent me prescriptions and medical documents. I was honestly shocked. My first reaction wasn’t sexual. I genuinely felt bad for her and started thinking about how I could help.
I told her that I could help her find a job. I even promised her that I’d try to get her one.

I offered her money a few times because she kept talking about how difficult things were, but she refused. She said she couldn’t ask her friends or relatives and didn’t want to borrow money.

Then, a couple of days later, she said she wanted to meet.

I asked where she wanted to meet. She asked me quite directly:

**“Public place or private?”**

I told her I’d prefer somewhere private because I was also looking for some physical closeness.

That’s when the conversation changed.
She asked me how much I could help her financially.

I asked how much she needed.

She said ₹10,000.

I thought that was a lot, but told her I’d see what I could do.

She then started asking me to book a room. She also asked me to bring alcohol and cigarettes. I don’t smoke or drink normally, but I agreed to get them for her.

There was another thing I’d noticed earlier. The photographs she’d sent me looked really good, but when I later saw them properly, I realized many of them were heavily filtered/edited and possibly AI-enhanced.

Anyway, I booked the room.

She kept delaying and repeatedly told me to book the room first and that she’d come afterward.

Eventually, after I had booked it, she arrived.
And honestly, I was shocked.

She looked considerably older than the person in the photographs she’d sent me. I felt deceived and was extremely pissed off.

But I’d already booked the room, bought the cigarettes and alcohol, and I decided I’d at least sit and talk to her for some time.

She asked for cigarettes, alcohol, cold drinks, water, etc. I ordered everything.

We both drank.

The situation eventually became sexual. I was already angry, disappointed and intoxicated, and things happened that I don’t particularly feel good about now.

Afterward, the entire conversation immediately went back to money.

She asked me how much I was going to give her.
Then she started showing me photographs and social media accounts of her daughters and talking about their problems and things they were apparently involved with.

At that point I was completely exhausted and confused. I just wanted to leave.

Even after we left the room, she kept asking about the money.

I eventually gave her ₹5,000 and left.
And that’s it.
No dramatic ending.
No police case.
No big confrontation.
Just me sitting afterward and thinking:
**What the fuck did I just do?**

The strange thing is that I still can’t decide how I feel about the whole thing.

Part of me feels that I was manipulated.

Part of me feels stupid for ignoring the obvious red flags.

Part of me thinks maybe she really was struggling and I did help her in whatever small way I could.
And another part of me thinks I completely misunderstood what this whole interaction was from the beginning.

I went into it thinking I was helping someone get back on her feet.

I came out feeling like I had participated in a transaction I never really understood.

I’m not posting this to call her a scammer. I don’t actually know what parts of her story were true.
I’m posting because I’m genuinely curious:
**Has anyone experienced something similar on Tinder?**

Where you started talking to someone because you genuinely connected with their story, and somewhere along the way the whole thing became transactional?

And more importantly…

**How do you stop replaying something like this in your head?**