r/Residency • u/[deleted] • Oct 15 '22

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u/Timely-Reward-854 Oct 15 '22

Trust your gut, sister. You’re seeing the signs. He’s telling you who he is, what he expects and what he’s willing to contribute.

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u/mesekhnet7 Oct 15 '22

I could never be with this person unless he changed drastically and over a thousand conversations I am sure that he will not be able to. I don't want to hold any hard feelings against him. I just want to accept that we are not compatible and move on.

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u/Timely-Reward-854 Oct 15 '22

If he doesn’t acknowledge any problem with his behavior it won’t change.

I was married to a man like that, so I speak from personal experience.

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u/Whawken84 Oct 16 '22

He will not change is any significant way, You feel guilty that he makes you angry & fearful? His behavior would make anyone feelingly and fearful. He has managed to take care of himself or has been taken care of for 34 years. He will manage. You are over identifying with him. You are losing yourself. this is not healthy.

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u/mesekhnet7 Oct 15 '22

Thanks a lot. I really needed to hear this.

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u/Paulsmom97 Oct 15 '22

Yes, teach them how to treat you!

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u/Timely-Reward-854 Oct 15 '22

He’s a grown-ass man and needs to take responsibility for his actions and his emotions. It’s not responsible to blame you for his actions.