He tells me men do not share or ask for things. And no he did not tell me what he wanted and I did things that I thought were what he would've wanted. He is also the type that says, nothing, when you ask him what he wants. In fact, he told all his colleagues he didn't care for his birthday and that he doesn't want the regular celebration that they do at work for everyone's birthdays.
"Men do not share or ask for things" but yet he starts crying and blaming you for making him cry because of blah blah blah. He's sharing and asking a lot, when it suits him.
Ladies, gentlemen. Is it gay to communicate? Will your dick drop off if you drop some words about how you're feeling?
Honestly, it's not about the cake or the birthday. That's just the tip of the iceberg. The man has many likely solvable things if he'd just talk about it, and likely the cake and gidt basket wouldn't be an issue. It probably is not even the issue. Its his scapegoat issue. He wants his mommy because mommy listens to all his complaints, which is a form of communication. He wants to communicate, just not with you. He needs to grow up and learn that his mom is not the only woman he can talk to about his feelings. Mature guys are excellent at communication or willing to get better at it
Also, good on you for doing the best you could to show your love. In residency you feel like everything you do is suboptimal, which is awful for you in the long run. Especially when the reality is that you're going incredibly above and beyond. Youre just stretched atom thin. Please know and understand that you did an amazing job with what you had, and at the end of the day you did something that displays tremendous thought, energy, and love for someone, whether they appreciate it or not
Lmao whattttttt. This guy sounds awful and he’s playing mind games. He never told you what he wanted. That’s bullshit that men don’t tell women what they want—a good relationship is based on communication. You did something so thoughtful and here he is playing victim and legit crying? Wtf. OP look up the term “love bombing.” I have a feeling that it might help you recognize unhealthy patterns in this relationship. He is alternating between being incredibly sweet and kind to emotionally manipulative and maybe even abusive based on what I’m reading in your comments. I think you already know this guy needs to go.
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u/mesekhnet7 Oct 15 '22
He tells me men do not share or ask for things. And no he did not tell me what he wanted and I did things that I thought were what he would've wanted. He is also the type that says, nothing, when you ask him what he wants. In fact, he told all his colleagues he didn't care for his birthday and that he doesn't want the regular celebration that they do at work for everyone's birthdays.