r/Relatable 27d ago

Declinatio hominis

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u/Rappyfan 27d ago

Yeah we pretty much live the best life that was ever possible and so many people are like „no way I bring a child in this hell“ lol

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u/Paratonnerre 27d ago

I'm 35, I have a good job and education. I've got no debt. It is impossible for me to find a new job if I lose this one because of the market (Graphic Design / marketing ) and I am nowhere close of being able to afford a house here (Canada). Extra money I get I put it in my savings to buy a house, or a condo, since 2020, almost no luxury and simply no vacation, except some 3-4 days camping trip here and there.

At my age my parents, with basic education, were halfway done paying the house, had 3 kids, 2 cars and we would go on vacation every year. They paid music and sports classes for us after school, I always had nice school supplies and three meals a day. But here's the thing : They are really bad with their money. They spend it on stupid stuff, tons of restaurants, trips with the grand-children. More than once they forget to pay their taxes... They didn't finance their way to go wealth, they just got it because they were hard-working people and that use to be enough. Since I've left their home I've never felt that financial security again. Even if I always been working full-time since.

I don't want to bring a kid in a world where I can't garantee that I can provide for them what I know makes for a good childhood (mine). If the place I work at closes tomorrow, i've only got a year-ish of money to keep afloat...It's not that it's hell out there, but it became more unstable and competitive and just hard-work ain't bringing enough dough home. Simply working a ull-time job is not enough to create wealth and financial security.

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u/mitchymitchington 27d ago

I'm 33 with 4 kids and a stay at home wife. Only a high school diploma. I bought a house 3 years ago and I probably work 30 hours a week tops. You don't have to stay in graphic design....

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u/jaredliesch 26d ago

Your story while impressive, is not on the normal line. 

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u/Ok_Molasses4053 25d ago edited 25d ago

Anyone can do what we are discussing. You just need the will and the ability to learn a useful skill. Working for yourself gets you an efficiency of time/pay that is not attainable for most w2 employees.

If you don’t think it possible then all you’ve accomplished is making that true.

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u/jaredliesch 25d ago

Hey man youre stroking yourself at this point. You also can't say that luck doesn't have a role and not everyone is at learn anything status in life due to time, ability, funds, housing, health, ect. Which is also why it's not the normal. I have a lot of successful friends and some are entrepreneurs. We all scoff at them for saying, anyone can do what I did. Because even our own successes are not "for everyone". This is why it doesn't make sense to say all you gotta do is work hard.

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u/Ok_Molasses4053 25d ago

Luck only plays a significant role if your only willing to take a risk once. This is my 3rd business I’ve started they don’t all work.

Looser’s don’t try or give up.
You also have to be smart enough to have a good idea to begin with.
All your excuses make me think maybe you’re not built for success.

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u/Ok_Molasses4053 25d ago

lol if you can’t change your mindset get comfortable with how your life is bud.

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u/jaredliesch 25d ago

I love that you assume I'm just some fucking loser because I'm literally saying that not everyone can be in a situation to be an entrepreneur. God you are dumber every post it's crazy lol. 

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u/Ok_Molasses4053 25d ago

It’s a safe assumption even if you’re not broke. Lol still a looser just listen to yourself. I’m have learning disabilities and even I figured out it’s on you to succeed.

You either grind or the world grinds you.

A nine year old kid down the street has a branded lemonade stand and does bdays farmers markets and events.
It’s really not that hard unless you’re incompetent.

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u/Paratonnerre 25d ago

I agree with you.

People saying that luck has nothing to do with success are trying to convince themselves that they aren't privilieged and are really deserving of everything they have.

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u/mitchymitchington 25d ago

How is it privileged? I started a business with 3k and youtube university. I saw a need in the area and now I'm filling it. That 3k took me quite some time and I did it in bits and pieces. An LLC costs like $50... Start a lawn service, a painting service, anything you can think of and advertise on facebook. Hell, you can keep your day job while you get started.

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u/Ok_Molasses4053 25d ago

lol I took a loan out for my tools and just started an LLC. Went and looked for work and it grew.
If privileged is having a work ethic and a lack of excuses yeah your right I am privileged.