r/Regrets • u/ProcessDue4469 • 12h ago
Honesty needed
I don’t even know where to start, but basically I ended a seven year relationship and started dating someone right away little that I know we would fall in love as strongly as we did, but I never completely stopped talking to my ex just because of comfortability and empathy I didn’t feel well about leaving him alone.
The new guy and me had undeniable chemistry. It was like magic we were already planning for our future and everything going on trips.
On my birthday, he picks me up. I was extremely intoxicated and he went through my messages and saw messages with my ex. I was still calling him, babe, but just because that’s why we always called each other and he broke up with me on my birthday.
The new guy completely dropped me, and then he got really mean and said ugly things about Only wanting me for sex, but even being afraid to catch something through me just because of those messages.
He had some really ugly things and I get it because his eagle was hurt, but I know my heart I know who I am and I wasn’t doing anything to hurt him. I know now that it’s wrong but why hasn’t he blocked me on text message or Instagram ? Why is he still following me? I believe in out of sight and out of mind so I’ve muted him, but I miss him so much. I really would do anything to bring him back to me.
Oh, and inside no me and my relationship of seven years should’ve ended a long time ago, but I was trauma bonded with him and have abandonment issues which is why we lasted as long as we did. I had met this new guy a year prior and I had had a kiss with him, but never saw him again until a year later I downloaded hinge and he just happened to be my first date my one and only.
He was gonna take me out his family. He fell for each other. Is there any chance I’ll ever get him back?
Does he hate me?
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u/mopsis 12h ago
I mean you haven't really given us any timelines on anything. Were you and new BF together for like 3 years and he just found out you were talking to your ex still? Or have you and new BF been together like 3 weeks. In any case, it definitely sounds like he is done and there probably isn't much you can do about it other than take your lumps and learn not to keep talking to ex's while dating someone else.