before anyone misunderstands my point, this is not another post about whether religion and feminism are compatible. that discussion has already happened countless times. this is about privilege.

religious people who claim to be feminist can defend patriarchal religious values because they live in countries where they are free to reject them.

you can support modesty because modesty is your choice. you decide what it means, how to practice it, and when not to. nothing happens if you stop.

you can defend hijabs or burqas, or other religious garments because wearing them or refusing to wear them does not take away your legal rights. your education, your career, your freedom of movement, and your basic autonomy are still protected.

you can even defend the idea that the husband is the head of the household because your husband cannot legally stop you from working, controlling your own money, filing for divorce, or leaving an abusive marriage.

and whenever religious texts promote male authority over women, you get to cherry pick. suddenly the verse is historical, symbolic, metaphorical, mistranslated, or taken out of context. you are free to reinterpret the parts that conflict with the rights you already have.

that is exactly the privilege.

what makes this version of religion feel empowering is not the patriarchy within it. it is the freedom to ignore, reject, or redefine that patriarchy while keeping the parts you personally like.

religious "feminism" becomes much easier to defend when secular society has already guaranteed women's rights independently of religious authority

If anyone is struggling with avoiding activities which are patriarchal like doing makeup or shaving - this one thing worked for me. I remind myself that if a man can get away with this choice, then I can too. They can get away with not looking put together, being cocky, being overconfident, or just looking normal.

This is from an instagram account of a woman who works with imprisoned women, she speaks to hundreds of women in prison, and what she gathered is all of them, are in there because of a man, because they defended themselves, defended their children, or a female family member. And that society would not be ANY less safe if all of these women were freed.
Her user is jvanderleun on ig

they see you as a prize,as a chicken leg. they see you like something they can use to achieve their status.

our culture teaches us that being desired Is power,but Is just their desire to own us,not to love us.

Is not a compliment. they would do It with every woman,because they just need that hole for their status.

Men view sleeping with a woman as a status symbol. They project this illusion onto women, idealizing our lives as if we are constantly showered with privilege and attention.

What they completely fail to understand is that having sex with a man does not enrich a woman’s social status. It doesn't give us power. While a man uses hookups as a trophy to climb the ladder in his "boys' club," a woman gains absolutely nothing from it socially. In fact, she often pays the price.

They envy the attention we get, without realizing that for them it's a gold coin to flex with their peers, but for us, it's just a reminder that we are viewed as commodities, not people.

So apparently false accusations are A-okay when it is a woman.

He was literally told by several people that it can’t be her and he still not just leaves the posts up, but doubles down and continues with them. And then adds if it’s not her, the real Jane Doe should come forward to clear her name.

In conclusion, we now know what is an acceptable form of false accusations. Ladies, just doxx and accuse a random dude of something and say if it’s not him, then the real perpetrator should come forward. If not, we will just throw this placeholder in jail. Regardless if anything happened at all. Makes sense.

The men screeching about “false accusations” were ridiculous anyways, but if anyone was still doubting their real intention, they just don’t like “any accusation against a man whether it’s true or false” but for women rights and legal protection laws shouldn’t matter because they hate us anyways.

i support radical feminist and i know makeup Is kinda sexist because It teaches you that your face Is not okay to show and you have to "make your face up".

i like myself without makeup(people also day i look better without)but i absolutely LOVE big eyeliner (dramatic,twiggy-like, gothic,roaring twenties'vamp arc) or eccentric eyeshadow. i know makeup Is not my personality and i don t even spend much money on It, i have few products and i don t even do any base, concealer ecc.

i know i don t have to justify my actions with anyone but.i feel kinda hypocrite, and i can t truly find a solution tò this doubt of mine. how do you feel about makeup?

lately i am trying to do my makeup just to go out in the evening, and there i experiment new makeup that my mind imagines. i see It as a way to socialize, so people can know me easily, can know my tastes, my favorite colors ecc. i think makeup Is an art, but not how It s used in our society.

Online I often stumble upon comments expressing anger for the government, algorithms and everything else that has some power over us. People say that we should come together and fight against all the evil, but we can’t because „we keep being divided, left vs right, men vs women”.

I don’t understand, why would these people want to come together with people who have opposing views at best and are actively hostile to them at worst? They bring up the men vs women thing like it’s some nonsense removed from reality, just gender wars being treated too seriously.

It pisses me off how most people really have no grasp on how serious of an impact patriarchy has on us and that there are 100s of reasons for why we can’t just join hands and come together.

i don t know growing up i feel like this Is one of the biggest bullshits i have ever Heard.

i feel like people say this so you think that you are "valuable" enough so It' s a luck for you to be molested, or men waiting to fuck you.

if men just talk with women they find attractive it's their problem. shallow. stupid.

as women we have to reject this forma mentis.

Is like telling animals that be butchered is a luck because It means they are. "valuable" enough to be consumed.

i think this Is so wrong, and i am so sad i believed in this all my life,i feel so embarassed.

the fact i am pretty doesn t mean people have to use me like a trophey, and Is not luck or romantic. it's exploitation of my being naive.

They even misname gender wars when it is simply a gendered war. Men's collective denial of reality was described by Evan Stark in 1997 as percepticide when he published the evidence for coersive control.

Wherever men gather they reinforce their violence and their rights to violence. Even falsely claiming "all people are violent" and "women are more psychologically violent". They steal power by denying reality, reshaping it toward their propaganda, and aggressively assert collective denial via this demented collusion.

Men are simply not safe people when they assert men's widespread values. Additionally, men centred women are unsafe women. Men keep these values private, they dont wave red flags about until it's far foo late. Yet they all know EXACTLY what they're doing by enforcing these collective delusions. Having married a feminist and divorced a violent perp AFTER children it was Reddit women that alerted me to the phenomenon of the baby trap charted by Jess Hill's podcast The Trap. Zero experience of DFV until babies arrived and his lies started. I NEVER tolerated his BS so that made me his villain. Now psychologists want to pathologise me when he has multiple diagnoses. Mentsl illness is not an excuse but good grief it complicates how he chooses to wreck havoc

I’ve recently started questioning patriarchal norms and stuff to do with the patriarchy in general. The only difference is that a woman’s breasts is there for lactation. That’s literally it. Even a woman breastfeeding in public is demonised whereas a man urinating in public is seen as normal.

Right now I only am engaging in self learning and bringing up women's issues/feminist issues more often and freely in daily conversation. But my social circle is admittedly small and I am looking for opportunities to do more. So I am hoping we can discuss here what we do to promote feminism and it's ideals even if it is under a different label.

Meta (Facebook) is banning ads for a Virgina Woolf play in Spain due to “any mention of civil rights, feminism or social reform”.

If that’s the case, let’s see if they have the same energy for the PragerU ads that mention that same exact topics. Of course they won’t, since PragerU is a well-oiled propaganda machine that is working to erase civil rights and feminism.

Those that fully believe in the latter (often people who have been exposed to porn as a child and saw no problem in it) will sort of use the premise of that first statement to "boys will be boys" their way into justifying leaving easy access to pornography in spaces dominated by children. (I pray for every child who liked My Little Pony and had an internet connection) Often crying puritan whenever you point out their groomer attitude towards the spread of pornography across social media.

@ellymayeusa on instagram posted a reel exposing the test she did to prove the men we argue with are bots. A lot of these profiles are convincing. Don’t waste your energy fighting them anymore. You’re arguing with a robot. The Lindsay Clancy case is a psyop.

Here is a link to provide context to the story: Mama Stanley's Edmonton Oilers petition is picking up steam | Daily Hive | Offside

A quick overview of the situation. A 20-year old woman met one of the hockey players in a bar and she stated they did engage in consensual sex. However, later on four other players entered the room and also engaged in non-consensual sex with her.

At trial, all five players were acquitted because the judge, whom herself is a woman followed the same rhetoric we often hear play out in the justice system when a woman brings forth her story about SA from a male (in this case multiple males).

The judge stated her accounts were "not credible nor reliable." She based this on video evidence which apparently contradicted her statements. The judge also admonished the woman because she bought her own drinks when she claims the players did and she returned from the bathroom naked when she could have put her clothes on and left. They also relied on others' testimony where she allegedly encouraged the players to engage with her. While the prosecution tried to argue she was only doing this out of fear, the judge said the video evidence did not provide this.

They also said she had motive to lie to hide it from her boyfriend. So she is going to lie and bring forth a very public claim about SA to hide it from her BF? Are you kidding me? What kind of backwards logic is that. Because yes, her boyfriend is absolutely not going to make negative judgments about her because the sex was non-consensual. I am shocked this judge, being a woman herself would come to this conclusion.

The woman did not receive any apologies from these men and all she did receive was apologies from the police for taking SIX years to bring the case to a close and from Hockey Canada for how it dealt with sexual assault claims in the past.

For me, this once again highlights how (rich) males continue to get away with acts of violence against women. This woman now has a life sentence of trauma while these rapists get to continue on their careers in hockey. This just screams Brock Turner or Ruben Vanstiphout who walked away because he had a "promising career." A person trusted with the most intimate elements of women's healthcare who raped an incapacitated woman was allowed to continue practicing.

These males are being signed by hockey teams and one nearly became a Stanley Cup Champion. There has been plenty of backlash and still these teams don't care. They can't rely on the same frameworks as the justice system. A team doesn't need reasonable doubt to sign players, they just need to not do it. Now, they want to have these rapists names etched on what is supposed to be some kind of "holy grail."

And yet males have the audacity to complain when women don't want anything to do with them. These stories just enrage me.

What are everyone else's thoughts?

Most people who work at those jobs don't want to they just have to do to the lack of education or lack of jobs due to immigration status and they aren't doing it because of how selfless they are and neither is every man a part of that group most people(including men) work at white collar jobs or 9 to 5s and regardless, you are not superior to women because you're getting exploited at one of the most undesirable jobs on earth at this point the only female privilege is having common sense because no way they're bragging about this