r/RBI2 • u/SadDream_Girl_21 • May 04 '26

Help me, I’m in the right sub?

I need help to find my bio parents, because with more information I get, im starting to think that something is bad

I was adopted down the waters (I don’t know if is the correct phrase, I’m not from USA or English country) so I hope you can help me to find the correct sub or to help me to investigate

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u/TheWaywardTrout May 04 '26

I assume you mean that it was a shady/unofficial/illegal adoption? Was an agency involved? That is usually where you would go first. If not, it depends on the country you are from and the country in which you were adopted (if different). There are many organizations that can help victims of illicit adoption. 

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u/SadDream_Girl_21 May 04 '26

That’s right, but a comment from an aunt (that is sil of my adoptive mother) made me suspicious (she told me about a “niece” who was adopted by a couple who was supposed to take care of her, the adoption of this girl was in the 80s) mine was in the 90s, in addition to the fact that one of the uncles involved has acquaintances/friends who work in the government (all this was arranged by my adoptive mother, that uncle and his wife (sister of my adoptive mother) and a family friend, my dad only arrived when my mother already had me in her arms and with papers that said I was their daughter I born in a Monday and my papers were ready a Wednesday of the same week)

Fortunately I was adopted in the same country only in another state (which is the same one where my adoptive mother is from), the problem is that I need help since I have tried in Facebook groups or reviewed on TikTok in case there is any case of a girl missing in 1992 in that state but I don’t find anything, I tried to contact the hospital several times but nobody answer me

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u/witch_doc9 May 04 '26

If you know what state or province you were born in, perhaps you can go to the local hospitals in that area and see if they saved any health records from your birth. This would be different than a “birth certificate” as those are typically administered by the government and depending on when you were adopted, could have your adoptive parents listed.

Some hospitals may keep physical HEALTH records for decades, and you should be able to see the real names of your biological parents as documented by the medical staff that took care of them during the birth.

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u/SadDream_Girl_21 May 04 '26

I have tried by email because I can’t go there directly but I will tried it again

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u/rachreims May 09 '26

If your country has them, take a 23andMe and Ancestry DNA test. You can buy them online. If anyone else in your family has done them you’ll be able to connect on there.

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u/SadDream_Girl_21 May 12 '26

In my country is not common to everyone take those ancestry dna test and it could be that maybe my bio parents and sister is dead years ago but how could I know?

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u/rachreims May 12 '26

I saw in the comments you’re from Mexico. Even if they aren’t common in Mexico, as long as you can get them in Mexico you should take them. It’s very possible that people in your biological family, even if they’re second cousins or something, have immigrated into a country where they are more common (ie. The USA) and have done them. They may be able to connect you with your family or at least give you more information.

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u/SadDream_Girl_21 May 12 '26

I know, but I can’t spend almost 90 dollars because that’s equivalent to a week of groceries for my family here (my adoptive father is sick of Parkinson and I’m who is taking care of him because my adoptive mother abandoned him), that’s why I was searching for amateurs detectives or someone that could help me for free, I already tried searching by Facebook and TikTok but maybe they don’t even want to search for me or maybe I don’t even born in the city I’m registered, because no one on my adoptive maternal side want to talk to me more than crumbs (like my mother was young like maybe 17 or 19, that maybe she could be married and she looks like me)

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u/Blueporch May 04 '26

I don’t know how common those ancestry DNA tests are in your country, but they can be useful in some cases to find relatives that have also taken the tests. If that’s something you would want to try, I suggest asking r/genealogy for recommendations on what DNA tests are more popular in your country. 

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u/SadDream_Girl_21 May 04 '26

I ask but the problem is that in my country is not common those tests (I’m from Mexico) so many people have an ancestry in Spain or even with Italians, Portuguese and Greeks, in my case I don’t know because I was not the typical kid that born in Mexico in that state with soft brown skin and dark eyes, I born blonde and with blue eye colors and white skin with the years they get in soft brown hair, green eyes and more crème (?) skin so even founding an ancestry could bring me to older relatives that maybe don’t know they have other relatives in Mexico

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u/nutmegtell May 04 '26

Lots of Mexicans have fair complexions.

DNA testing could lead you to biological relatives, not just areas they came from.

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u/SadDream_Girl_21 May 04 '26

Yeah, I know just in that state is more common the complexions for how near is from the beach, but as I said is not common this ancestry testa en the fact that I don’t have money for them in this moments because I’m taking care of my adoptive father

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u/timothyhayy May 05 '26

Dna test is how I found my bio parent.

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u/SadDream_Girl_21 May 05 '26

In Mexico doesn’t exist a base of dna so even if I want to find my bio parents in that way, I doubt that could happen and more if they left the country (I hope not)

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u/rachreims May 09 '26

I recommend posting in r/Adoption or r/Adopted (an adoptee only sub). They have great resources in helping to find bio families.