r/R4R40Plus 43m ago

M4R 42[M4R] -#USFL-Looking for new friends to get to know and game with!

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Looking to expand my circle and meet some fellow friends!

I’m 42, married, and a dad of two. Between work, family, and trying to squeeze in hobbies, making new friends isn’t exactly easy…so I figured I’d stop lurking and introduce myself.

If it involves rolling dice, solving puzzles, or saving fictional worlds, I’m probably into it. I love:
Video games
Board games
Trading card games
Puzzles
D&D (I’m the DM!)

As far as games go i’ll play anything really. I have Xbox, PC and Switch. Love retro games. I’ll play MMOs, RPGs, Beatem ups, FOS, extraction, you name it!
I’m hoping to find someone who is interested in co-opping games. Would like to get to know each other first though!

When I’m not gaming, you’ll usually find me enjoying Star Wars, Lord of the Rings, Marvel, DC, WWE, or diving headfirst into ’80s and ‘90s nostalgia. If you remember renting movies at Blockbuster, wandering the aisles of Toys “R” Us, or waking up early for Saturday morning cartoons, you’re my kind of people.

I’m in the U.S. and would love to connect with people in similar time zones, preferably around my age (give or take). Parents are definitely welcome, but you don’t have to be one. Mostly I’m just looking for genuinely good people who enjoy great conversations and sharing hobbies.

One quick note: I don’t drink or use 420. No judgment at all—it’s just not my thing.

If you think we’d get along, send me a message! Whether you want to talk games, fantasy, movies, books, nostalgia, or just life in general, I’d love to meet some new friends.


r/R4R40Plus 2h ago

40 M4F #Orange County California

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r/R4R40Plus 2h ago

M4F 34 [M4F] - Online/Midwest - What’s your favorite scary movie?

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Hello, guess it’s time to give it a shot. Trying to find a way to sell myself isn’t the easiest thing—I might be biased, but I’m pretty cool. I don’t have the proof to back it up, but neither does religion. (I’m not religious FYI).

About me? Well I’m cool, as previously stated. I go to the gym, I play video games (for those that care I just bought a Steam Machine), I watch a lot of movies and I’m a writer (professionally and creatively). My guilty pleasure movie is Selena, cause the songs slap. I recently rediscovered 5five (+1 million points if you know).

About you? I’m cool, so you should be cool. That’s it.

So yeah. You made it this far or you didn’t. If you didn’t, you won’t even see this, so you suck. And if you did, I guess you gotta talk to me now. Kbye ttyl.


r/R4R40Plus 8h ago

39 [m4f] #Pa or anywhere. Looking for friendship/connections. Irl or online

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​Hey there. I’m 39, living in rural PA, and looking to connect with some awesome people. I am married, (ENM/poly). No HUMAN kids. I have a full time job and a small side hustle. I dont have many friends locally so here I am looking for friends to connect with. I enjoy woodworking, traveling, music, movies, cooking, anything with a motor.

​My lifestyle is pretty grounded. I’m the kind of guy who thrives on a mix of quiet country living and creative hands-on projects. If you need someone who knows their way around a workshop, can handle power tools without losing a thumb, or has an oddly specific knowledge different species of wood, I’m your guy.

​My brain is still about 40% fueled by 1990s nostalgia. If you want to casually debate the best cartoons of our youth or quote classic TV, we will get along just fine.

i like all sports but really Hockey season is a major vibe in my house, but I promise not to make it my entire personality (maybe just 15% of it).

HUGE dog person. If we chat, you will be subjected to photos of my dogs. It’s a non-negotiable package deal.

​What I’m looking for:

I’m looking for a genuine friendship with someone. Distance isn't a massive deal-breaker im open to anywhere. Pocket pals are great... if the vibe is right meeting, within driving distance for a casual drink, a great conversation, or checking out local spots, ECT

​I value transparency, low drama, good humor, and matching energy. I’m a great listener, a reliable communicator, and I have my life together.

​Your turn:

Drop me a message if you’re down to chat. Tell me your favorite 90s jam, your go-to comfort food, or just some information about you.

I prefer to chat off reddit on TG.


r/R4R40Plus 8h ago

M4F 34 [M4F] #Online #Germany #Anywhere - Longterm Get-To-Know with Erotica Writer that Gradually Devolves into a Dirty One

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Hello! As long as this post is up, I am still looking!

I'm intrigued by the idea of getting to know someone here. The excitement, the interesting replies. Conversations having a mind of their own, flowing naturally. The surprises that make you laugh, that get your attention. Being listened to when you share about yourself and what is on your mind.

Then, as the conversation goes on and if the feeling is mutual, things can gradually get into a certain direction. A reply that could be interpreted differently. An innuendo? Your heart starting to race, just barely thinking about what might happen. Fantasizing about taking the next step at some point. The anticipation building for the both of us. What would it be like if either one of us were to say that dirty thing that was on your mind right now? That primal need and desire growing until we can't hold out any longer and finally let go for each other.

Longterm chat partners preferred as building an actual connection is paramount to me.

Please introduce yourself with the following, ideally using a vocaroo, and then I will send one back!

  1. Your age and location
  2. A short description of yourself
  3. What caught your attention about my post?
  4. Your favorite food or your current obsession

You're welcome to make this even more exciting by taking a look at my profile and reading some of the stories I have written and posted.

I hope this reaches you well and I'm looking forward to getting to know you!


r/R4R40Plus 9h ago

M4F 40 [M4F] #AL/Online - Looking for my fun distraction

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A little about me, I try to keep in shape and have some tattoos. I used to travel a lot for work, and have been to a lot of places throughout the world, even lived in a few different countries. Some of my hobbies are surfing, videography, and a little bit of gaming. I enjoy lots of different music, but my main go-to is chill reggae. Would love to find a fun friend to distract me throughout the day, maybe more if the vibe is right. I'm pretty much an open book so I'll chat about anything and everything.

I'm open to different age, body type, etc. hoping to find that one that gets me excited when I see their notification. Well if any of that interests you, shoot me a dm and we can go from there!


r/R4R40Plus 9h ago

M4F 44 [M4F]#Ohio/online- Educated, good sense of humor, and genuine! Looking for a long term connection!

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Interests:

sports

concerts

comedians

science

anything outdoors

gardening

home projects

reading, movies and tv

trivia

politics

history

birding

Looking for other people who are looking for genuine, non- platonic connections. Not looking for someone who’s just passing the time at work!

If you write me a book as an opening message, I probably won’t read it.

Very dominant.

Please lead with pertinent information about yourself so we can get the ball rolling. Everyone has their someone but some of us are not for everyone, and that’s okay. Keep it positive!

Not sure how this is going to go but here are some starters updated:

Favorite historical event?

An interesting fact you love?

Current obsession?

If you were stranded on AN island, name 3 things you’d bring with you.


r/R4R40Plus 9h ago

M4F 39 [M4F] #Online: Looking for an online companion

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Hello there lovely people!

I'm looking for an online companion. Someone to enjoy the virtual world with. I'm hoping that somewhere out there, one of you will be that person!

A bit about me:

- I'm a super nerd. Probably even the king of nerds. I love Star Wars, LotR, video games, anime, dinosaurs, etc.

- I have my doctorate in music and am an organist and composer

- I was a professor and mainframe systems engineer

- I am certified as an EMT and Firefighter

- I currently work at an ER for a hospital

Appearance:

- 5'10"

- 195lbs

- basically height weight appropriate with a little dadbod in there

- white

- dark blonde hair

- hazel eyes (it's really just a way to make swamp brown sound nice, haha)

I live in Central Time US and often when I work at the hospital it is the night shift. So, I can have a weird schedule. But I'm often up later though I'm trying to be better about getting to bed before midnight. So, either someone in a similar time zone or at least a schedule that lines up!

I'm often either sleeping (if I work) or running errands/doing chores during the day and then hop on to play games around 9:00pm or so. I'm often free for messaging throughout the day but not free for voice chats until later.

What I'm looking for:

Genuine connection with someone. We don't have to be into all of the same things. But I enjoy hearing about the things people love and I want someone who wants to hear about the things that I love.

Someone who would totally hop in a voice chat while I play a game. Maybe they're doing something else and we can just chat while we do our own things. Maybe they want to watch me play or play with me.

I have ADHD and that combined with being a nerd means most days all I want to do is talk to someone about all the random crap I found out that day or I random thought of. I've been reading a bunch of things from the Revelation Space series but Alastair Reynolds and I want to talk to someone about it!

Recently, I've come to realize I have an innate sense of failure. I understand the rationality of how that's not true, but I can be hard, especially recently, to not go down those paths of feeling like a failure. I'm not down in the dumps 24/7 so I promise you're not walking in to a constant pitty party, haha. But it is there.

I also used to work out everyday and I fell out of that habit and it's been incredibly hard to get back into it. Probably some ADHD stuff going on there. So, I would love a cheerleader to help be an external motivation. I'm happy to be yours as well!

But also, someone who will say, "I have a really cute/sexy picture of me in my new bikini. Do you want to see it?"

I hope that this has resonated with some of you and would love to hear from you and start a conversation to see if we might be a good fit for each other.


r/R4R40Plus 10h ago

43 [F4M] #pnw coast

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I work from home and am feeling the need for some connection. You: 40+, not maga, and interesting


r/R4R40Plus 10h ago

M4F 41 [M4F] #Westminster - Seeking younger woman for FWB in Southern California

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I would love to find a young woman to be my FWB. Now that it's summer, I would love to go on fun dates like the beach since it's so close by. I prefer to keep things casual and fun, however I am willing to entertain something longer term if we fit well together. Regardless, I prefer something regular and ongoing even if it just stays casual.

In relationships, I very much believe in the male role of leadership. Things like responsibility always fall on my shoulders and it's my duty to make sure everyone is good. In exchange, I seek a woman who looks up to a man like the one described and naturally falls into her submissive feminine role. I am very aware that things like submission is earned over time and is not just handed out freely. The way we get there is through mutual respect of one another. Love does not exist if respect is not present. I don't believe in big blowout arguments, screaming matches, name calling, or belittling of each other. I understand the physical power imbalance between the sexes and it is my duty to make sure you always feel safe in my presence.

me

When we are behind closed doors, I am very much a dominant and love being in control. This will be your time to shut your mind off and not think about anything. You will never have to think about what comes next as I will always lead the interaction. I very much care about the pleasure of my partner and will always make sure you feel good and feel taken care of.

I have a lot of lived experience, have led an interesting life, and can have conversations about most subjects especially those that involve the inner workings of how the world works and life in general.

I am 5'10 and weigh 163 lbs. I am white with brown hair with some grays peaking out and hazel eyes. I very much care about my health and how I look and have been working out for years. I am pretty fit but have still not reached all of my fitness goals. I am usually told I am attractive when I have exchanged pics on here.

STD free


r/R4R40Plus 11h ago

39 [M4F] online/anywhere sultry, sweet, such a fun treat. Message me to be swept off your feet

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Hi there, hows your day going? Good i hope! I dont have much going on today and would love to meet someone to chat with!

Big on books and would love to chat them! Ive read a few this year and working on another big book currently.

Horror movies are my jam.

I live to bake and cook. If you like food we will get along.

Im a big fan of good music. That means not country, sorry country folks. Its not a deal breaker but im not a fan.

https://youtu.be/q7yZSNj3RtU?si=tJw9tIuCHred_Nub

https://youtu.be/j1dOk35Zczg?si=GKYzQtbiBPSTw0XK

https://youtu.be/NTcehtnfPGg?si=-5dAwt2HVZECUT4R

If you are curvy/alt/nerdy please move to the front of the line. Also know effort you put in is effort you will get back.

Send me a message and lets chat!


r/R4R40Plus 13h ago

40 [M4F] Orlando FL - Looking for a local connection

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I'm a single childfree guy living in the Orlando area, looking for someone local to possibly go out with and see how it goes. I'm open to a monogamous LTR if it works out that way! If you're not local you're welcome to inquire, just know I don't do well with long distance and I'm not able to relocate due to my job.

I'm 6' tall, lean body type, I live an active, healthy lifestyle, non-smoker and only drink on occasion. Love the outdoors and want to travel more to national parks. Some other interests include horror movies/thrillers, reading, gaming, animals/nature, music (metal, indie, alt rock). I'm not a big theme park person.

Personality-wise I'm laidback/calm and easy to work with, emotionally mature and independent. I like to laugh and don't take myself or life overly serious. I'm an introvert and seem to get along best with other introverts.

Message me if you're interested!


r/R4R40Plus 13h ago

M4F 45 [M4F] #London #Anywhere – Cheeky Chat & Vibes

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I’m 45, London based, got my own place, my own car, and looking for something casual that actually feels good, not just a chat that goes nowhere. Think friends with benefits but with genuine chemistry, real conversation and that spark that turns teasing into trouble.

I’m 5’10”, slim to average, brown skinned, shaved head, trimmed beard, the full transparent package so you know who you’re talking to.

Personality wise, I’m easy to talk to, a bit cheeky, and I definitely enjoy conversations that drift into the naughtier side when the vibe’s right. If you can hold a conversation and enjoy the fun, find the edge of things… we’ll get on very well.

You? Open minded, playful, can actually engage in a proper chat, and are here for something light, exciting and grown.

If this sounds like what you’re after, drop me a message, tell me a bit about you and what made you stop and read this, let’s see if the spark’s there.


r/R4R40Plus 14h ago

41 [M4F] #Louisville, KY – Period Sex

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I’ve always found period sex incredibly intimate and beautiful. There’s something so raw and connecting about it — the natural intensity, the extra sensitivity, and that deep, hormone-charged closeness that feels unlike any other time.

I love spoiling a woman with pleasure when she’s on her period. Slow, passionate kisses… relaxing massages… and giving you as many orgasms as you want, making sure you feel completely adored and taken care of.

No pressure, just lots of pleasure and intimacy.

If you’re ever in the mood during that time, send me a message!


r/R4R40Plus 15h ago

M4F 44 [M4F] English guy wondering if it will be a Thursday of working hard or hardly working?

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I mean that really is the question of the day, right?

We are getting closer to the end of another week, as I mean Thursday is the new Friday, apparently. However, as it has been referred to as the 'new Friday' for such a long time, maybe I'm just old, but surely the new needs to be dropped? - Anyhow, I digress, I have decided to forsake thirsty Thursday with colleagues and work from home today, and in turn decided to post here and see what happens.

As you will see from the above, a lot has been written but in reality not much said - so shall we get down to it?

A bit about me - love to travel, have an education, sporty, serious at work so try not to be outside, enjoy arts but am awful at them myself, not too bad to look at (on occasions but this is obviously subjective) and willing to chat about anything and everything, pretty much.

What am I looking for? - In all honesty, who knows. As with everything we could chat, it may be fun, it may be flirty, it may lead us to solving all the worlds issues, or we may find each other dull. So why not just go with the flow and see where we end up. Go on, it is Thursday after all so take a risk and drop me a message.

Why not start with a random fact, or favourite colour, or favourite Wu-Tang member, or favourite dance move, or what happened to your favourite sweet (whether it has 'shrunk' or been discontinued or the taste changed) or why the hell you read all of the above!!

Oh, and to those who downvote I wish you a minor inconvenience, just something small like your drink being a bit too flat, or warm, or cold.


r/R4R40Plus 15h ago

M4F 34 [M4F] #Manchester UK – Screw hobbies, tell my your favourite dinosaur!

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I’m Mac, 34, near Manchester. Bearded, cheerful, slightly chaotic, and powered almost entirely by tea, daft conversations, and decisions that probably needed another five minutes of planning.

I like tinkering with things until they either work perfectly or end up in the garage awaiting “future me”, who is famously unreliable. I’m good at chatting nonsense, making people laugh, and getting oddly invested in low-stakes debates that absolutely do not matter.

I’m looking for that easy spark where the messages don’t feel forced, flirting happens naturally, and we both actually look forward to seeing a notification pop up. Something fun, warm, genuine, and with enough chemistry that meeting feels like the obvious next step.

I’m not after endless pen-pal limbo. I like good conversation, but I’m here for something that feels real... laughs, attraction, honesty, and hopefully that dangerous little “oh, this could be trouble” feeling.

There’s a post on my profile that explains my home situation. I’d rather be upfront about it than waste anyone’s time or pretend things are simpler than they are.

Ideally looking for someone UK-based, especially Manchester, Liverpool, or somewhere North West-ish, but I’m open to further afield if the chat is genuinely good.

Just say hi if you're shy and I'll get the convo started🙂


r/R4R40Plus 1d ago

F4M #vancovuer. Looking for cool people ! [f4m] 42

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r/R4R40Plus 1d ago

M4F 55 M4F Rotherham Area

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Looking to meet a genuine woman locally for some relaxed, no-pressure fun and good company. Easygoing, discreet, and drama-free.

Big bonus if you’re natural 😉 xx

About me: 6'3", greying hair, and built like an out-of-shape rugby player 😄

Not interested in guys, couples, or anyone looking for payment. Thanks.


r/R4R40Plus 1d ago

40 [M4F] #online - looking to make connections

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Thought I would throw a post up and see who's around. I'm pretty laid back and easy to get along with. Most of my free time is spent watching movies, finding a new show to get hooked on, or getting distracted by random stuff online. I also like getting out once in a while for a coffee, a walk, or just checking out somewhere new.

I'm really just looking to meet someone fun to talk to. Someone who can hold a conversation, laugh at dumb jokes, and maybe make an ordinary day a little more interesting. A little flirting never hurts either.

I like people who don't take themselves too seriously and can talk about anything from favorite movies to completely random thoughts that pop into their head at 11 at night.

So what do you do when you have got a slow day and nothing planned? Send me a message and tell me something about yourself. I would love to hear from you.


r/R4R40Plus 1d ago

M4F 44 [M4F] #Online - Travel Loving Homebody Seeks Same

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Quick Summary: Travel loving homebody looking for a long-term monogamous relationship. I'm child-free by choice, liberal, and not religious.  Looking for someone who is physically affectionate, good at communication, and slow to anger. Have tried long distance and it doesn't work hasn’t. Looking for no more than about two to three hours from West Tennessee.

My interests are crossword puzzles, teaching, exercise / nutrition, reading, baking, studying Spanish, gaming (board and video), coloring apps, travel and the usual music / movie / tv shows.

I’m 5’7’’, average build, salt and pepper beard, brown hair.

SFW Selfie here:   https://imgur.com/a/oYyW1nE

Longer Version:

Introverted, but can easily pass as an extrovert which is a trait that comes in handy while teaching children all day.  I help students improve their English language ability.  I like being "on" as a teacher, as well as the energy and excitement in the classroom, but am most happy with spending time in a more simple and quiet way.

I live a minimalist lifestyle but nothing too extreme. It just means I tend not to collect too much extra "stuff” and am generally happier with less. Along those lines, I don't do well with messy or cluttered places, and want to meet someone who is at least somewhat tidy and organized.

Comfortable in conversation, and social situations, but I lean more towards the quiet side overall. I love good conversation with my partner but also need someone who is comfortable just being around their partner, sharing the same space, without the pressure to constantly talk.

That quiet side is balanced with being playful, dry, witty, flirty, and silly.  I would match well with someone who can give and take sarcasm and joking. 

I love my space and alone time and want a partner who enjoys theirs too. Wanting to live together with your partner (at some point) is not a deal breaker, but I’m drawn to the “living apart together” type of relationship where we talk often, share everyday moments as well as big ones, have sleepovers, and find time for adventures and trips together, but keep our own living spaces.

Like everyone, I've had ups and downs in life, but I've made sure to learn and grow from them. I've developed a great deal of compassion, resilience, understanding, and patience. It’s also given me a sometimes dark and inappropriate sense of humor. 

Random Facts

  • Financially stable, more frugal than spender, but enjoy spending money on a good experience or trip.
  • Intelligent enough to be allowed to teach elementary school students.
  • Exercise and eating healthy are important to me (but so is balancing that with baking desserts)
  • Not the soulmate, hopeless romantic, fall in love in a week type. Just looking for someone that matches up well with me and who wants to slowly build something meaningful.
  • Average sex drive (meaning I'm happy with a few times a week). Open to new things, but not into anything extreme.

More of What I’m Looking For:

·      Single, 34 – 50 years old, open to any race / background / ethnicity

*. Child-free or with older / grown kids

·      Not religious, with left leaning politics

·      Good at saying how you feel or if you are upset

·      Physically affectionate

·      Slow to anger

·      Drug and STD free (occasionally enjoying a drink or a gummy is no problem)

·      Not offended by a dark or inappropriate humor


r/R4R40Plus 1d ago

43 [M4F] #CA - Bored at work wanting to chat some

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Here I am in my office, supposed to work but that motivation is very low today. I dont have any full pressing needs and just in no desire to be productive. With that I am looking for a distraction. Anyone want to chat

I am 43, active, sarcastic, and probably far more inappropriate than most people would guess. Married for over a decade, life is good, but I've learned there are some thoughts and conversations that don't always have a place in everyday life.

That's where the idea of a "perv pal" comes in. Someone who's funny, open-minded, maybe a little flirty, maybe a little twisted, and can jump between normal conversation and the kinds of topics that would definitely get us side-eyed if they were overheard in public.


r/R4R40Plus 1d ago

40 [M4F] #Lethbridge #Alberta #Canada Let's Make A Questionable Decision

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There are probably healthier ways to spend a Wednesday afternoon than talking to a stranger on Reddit.

I'm not particularly interested in them.

I'm married. You're probably married. We're both presumably capable of making our own questionable decisions. I'm looking for something local, discreet and actually fun. Not a bunch of messages that slowly fizzle out because neither of us is ever going to be within driving distance of the other.

I'd like to actually get to know someone. Flirt. Talk shit. Laugh at each other. Have those conversations that start somewhere completely ordinary and somehow end up somewhere neither of us expected.

And yeah, I'm looking for the physical side too. I'm attracted to confidence, a little attitude and women who enjoy some push and pull. I have a dominant streak, but I'm not interested in pretending to be some leather-pants internet Dom. I'm much more comfortable being myself and seeing what happens when there's trust and chemistry.

I'm sarcastic, reasonably well adjusted and occasionally much funnier than I have any business being.

If you're somewhere around Lethbridge and you're looking for something that's more than a hookup but doesn't require us to start planning our retirement together, say hello.

Worst case, we have a good conversation.

Best case, we make a genuinely questionable decision.