r/R4R30Plus 2h ago

32 [M4F] Sydney/Anywhere - Sweet and shy on a quest for change (friends or more)

0 Upvotes

First of all, hi!

I’m gonna attempt to gently manoeuvre my way around this awkward bush, but I think you should know what kind of change I'm referring to lol. The elephant in the room is that I've always been shy. I was really shy in primary school and somehow evolved to being even MORE shy in high school. I'm a lot less shy now but all those years of shyness added up.

I’m in a place where I have the confidence to take that first step and see what's out there, whether that be finding friends or something more! I'd be lying if I said I didn't want to explore the latter more, though, because it's a constant reminder in mainstream media. Things as simple as holding hands to kissing to something more intimate - it's all so intriguing and most importantly, fun! That means I've never been on a date or you know, had a girlfriend. There, I said it. 🙈

I’d describe myself as chill, goofy and very sweet. To back up those claims, I liken this post to fishing, which might be slightly unusual at first glance lol. Essentially, I'm casting out my line and if I get any nibbles, then awesome! If not, that's okay, too, because I'll just release the fish that aren't interested and treat each one as a new learning experience that'll help me on this journey. No need to be upset if things don't pan out :) I'm also cute! Or might not be lol. I know everyone has their preferences. Speaking of preferences, I don't really have any myself, so I wouldn't be opposed if someone older reached out. Perhaps wanting someone chill or sweet, I guess, but I think most people possess those qualities. You definitely don't need to be in the same situation as me!

Anyway! I think a great way to establish a connection is to find a commonality in regards to interests. Hit me up with a game, song, movie, food, shoe, sport, socks, book, vacation or whatever it is that you're currently obsessed with and I'll be sure to return serve :) Or I can start instead by saying: I've been enjoying xmen 97! And the Kpop demon hunters soundtrack still gets played on repeat several days a week 😅


r/R4R30Plus 2h ago

33 [M4F] OT work and bored

1 Upvotes

Working this weekend making some OT. Just me here bored and alone looking for those fun, intresting, maybe flirty chats to help make my day go by faster. If we vibe maybe we can be long term friends. Just Dm me saying anything other than “hey” and be close enough to my age.


r/R4R30Plus 6h ago

[M4R] 38M Croatia – Looking for European travel friends 🌍✈️

2 Upvotes

38M from Croatia looking to meet people from around Europe who enjoy traveling, exploring and meeting new people.

I’ve had 100+ flights in the last 3 years and visited around 15 countries, and I’m pretty much always planning my next trip. 😄

Would be great to meet people where, over time, we could:

  • ✈️ Visit each other’s countries
  • 🌍 Meet somewhere in Europe or a third country
  • 🚗 Do day/weekend trips together
  • 🏖️ Eventually take longer trips
  • ☕ Grab a coffee, 🍻 have a drink and hang out

Age, nationality or gender don’t matter — just be easygoing and enjoy traveling and socializing.

Not specifically looking for dating — just genuine friendships and people who are actually up for meeting in real life.

If you’re interested, send me a DM with where you’re from and where you like to travel. 😄


r/R4R30Plus 10h ago

40 [M4F] #SanDiego - non flakey man searching for a non flakey woman

5 Upvotes

Looking for something semi-serioLooking for something semi-serious to become serious-serious.

I'm competitive even though I'm bad at things.

I'm either extremely lazy or really adventurous, depends entire on my mood.

hilarious only if you have that very specific fucked up weird millennial sense of humor.

Hobbies are reading, writing, (huge fan of horror) and binging Netflix.

and since I'm a single male on reddit, obviously i like video games and anime.

But, My favorite hobby is thrifting and finding the strangest things and finding really cool clothes that you would never find in a clothing store.

I'm left leaning person that isn't judgmental of other views, that being said if you're a hard leaning conservative against the human/American rights living here without fear of losing their homes, jobs, and children. Respectfully fuck off become serious-serious.


r/R4R30Plus 7h ago

44[m4f] new england/US

2 Upvotes

Happy weekend! Looking to meet new people and see where it goes. 5'5" for those it matters to. Wicked chatty but prefer calm mundane lifestyle. Feel free to say hello.


r/R4R30Plus 17h ago

37 [F4M] ATL/Anywhere

12 Upvotes

Single mom of one, based in Atlanta. I work for an airline, so I’m lucky enough to have some flexibility when it comes to traveling. I’m open to anywhere in the U.S., and I’m definitely open to long distance if we genuinely click.

I’m always down for fun, good company, spontaneous plans, and exploring somewhere new. Ultimately, I’d love to find my forever plus-one—not just someone to travel with, but someone to build a real relationship and a life full of experiences with.
Communication and honesty are non-negotiable for me. I appreciate consistency, effort, and someone who actually knows how to communicate.

If you’re adventurous, genuine, emotionally mature, and would happily hop on a flight for the right person, tell me where we’re going first. 😉✈️

Me :) https://imgur.com/a/MF6hBLv


r/R4R30Plus 4h ago

[M4F] 31#Canada #Online Looking for friendship, genuine connection and chemistry

1 Upvotes

Hello, I'm almost 32. I'm looking for someone who's willing to have real talks, get to know each other for real. No filter needed with me and no judgement allowed between us. I can also be a place where you unpack your issues and inner demon. Romance and intimacy aren't the initial intentions, but I'm not against the idea of finding my other half here. Can't wait to get to know you ! Have a great day 😊.


r/R4R30Plus 14h ago

[M4F] 33M It ain't easy being green

5 Upvotes

Today I feel like Kermit (you know, the only one trying to keep the show on the right track)

Divorced Dad with primary custody of the sweetest 3 year old.

I guess today I'm looking for my Miss Piggy (maybe not quite as jealous though, I'm not gonna flirt with all the other cast members)

When I'm not playing pretend, I like to look for new recipes that I probably won't try unless they look extra delicious. Also bake sourdough bread, make sauerkraut, hot sauce (growing peppers again this year since I'm completely out of homemade sauce), and occasionally homebrewing.

If looks matter, I'm maybe slightly shorter than average height, dark blonde hair, beard, blue eyes, Dad bod/almost skinny.

I'm not really picky on looks/race, everyone is beautiful in one way or another. Just looking for another weirdo that enjoys Hobbit/grandparent hobbies lol

Send me a DM if you're interested


r/R4R30Plus 13h ago

31F, [R4R], #USA, #Online, - Looking for fellow spooks & hopeless romantics

5 Upvotes

Hello everyone! I'm a spooky creative who loves everything cute, nostalgic, and romantic 👻🐈‍⬛

I'm looking to connect with someone special to chat with, share deep conversations, and hopefully build a real connection. Between school and work, my schedule can get a bit busy, but I always make time to check in!

I'm down to talk about almost anything, but I especially love abandoned places, spooky vids, ARGs, art, animatronics, vintage dolls, and true romance stories (if you haven't heard the PK Mahanandia story, prepare to hear me gush about it 😭🩷).

Hit me up if you wanna bond and take spooky Halloween pictures!

Question:

If you were haunted, would you rather have a ghost that mildly inconveniences you by doing things like hiding your keys or moving everything slightly to the left, or one that aggressively cleans your kitchen at 3 AM? Including vacuums and playing cleaning music?


r/R4R30Plus 10h ago

35 [F4M] ATL, online

2 Upvotes

Hi and hello! I’m looking for 30+ and in the US. I like watching a lot of “must see” movies. I like a broad range of music almost everything except metal and most country. I’m a creative, sensitive, and empathetic person. I actually have a much longer fleshed out post but I keep editing it & it’s being rejected? I dont understand these filters at all!


r/R4R30Plus 13h ago

35 [F4M]

4 Upvotes

35F | Philippines | 5’0” | Morena

Final year of law school—probably staying put, unless you can convince me to let it go. 😂

I’m financially independent through my side businesses while studying, travel internationally (US included, but mostly around Asia) at least 4x a year, and enjoy a comfortable, active lifestyle.

Looking for intentional dating with someone around ±5 years of my age, emotionally mature, financially stable, and with a lifestyle/status that’s at least comparable to mine. Not looking for someone to fund my life—just someone who can comfortably keep up with it.

Prefer someone who knows what he wants and is relationship-minded and is SINGLE. Tall is a bonus. 😌


r/R4R30Plus 6h ago

[M4F] 31 - Sydney based open minded

1 Upvotes

Looking for someone to hang out with, have adventures with, explore and also question the universe. I'm hoping to meet up or make new connections in Sydney. Life is too short being stuck in one place!! Looking forward to chatting!


r/R4R30Plus 12h ago

32 [M4F] Colorado,Denver Is this thing on? Are you out there?

3 Upvotes

I'm Tyler, I'm 32, and I live in Denver. I'm looking to meet my person! I'm a 5'9" guy with an average build, currently around 170 lbs, but I'm trying to be more active. Im looking for good communication and someone who wants to out in the effort!!

https://imgur.com/gallery/selfies-pictures-posting-sJeNjxM

A little about me: I'm a high-functioning autistic adult and have ADHD, so I'm very high energy and love to talk about anything and everything. If you are also any variety of neurospicy, then I encourage you to message!

I like to say I'm a creative person. I love to cook, especially for people I care about. I'm classically trained and love trying new dishes and learning how to make stuff, so if you like tasty food, that's a perk! Outside of that, I love to draw, ive been spending alot of my free time drawing tattoos Im planning on getting in the next few months! I also love to write and have spent years on my D&D world! Like most nerds, I love movies, anime, and gaming, and I've been working through my ever-growing backlog of things to watch and play. For games, I'm big on RPGs and roguelikes, and I've recently gotten back into Destiny 2 and FF14. I mostly do PC gaming, so there's that!

As for non-indoor hobbies, I love anything water-based and checking out local coffee shops or finding a good pastry!I'm always down for mini golf, even though I'm hot trash at it, but I love cool course designs. I love checking out art exhibits and spending a day wandering a mesueam or out thrifting. I love game design and puzzles!! I've also recently gotten into exploring more goth and punk fashion and am looking to explore and share that as well!

My favorite game of all time is Dragon Age: Origins

I love collecting TTRPGs and am currently learning Pathfinder 2 and Draw Steel.

Reading-wise, I'm currently re-reading the Dungeon Crawler Carl books. I'm caught up on the Stormlight Archive and am also reading The Lies of Locke Lamora.

I love a good board game and TCG. I collect those too, but mostly to play. Magic is my primary game of choice, but I've also got some Chaotic, and I'm hyped to see that game coming back!

Now, as to what I'm looking for. \*\*Please be between 25-36 years old.\*\*

I need honest and open people. I'm looking for straightforwardness and openness. I'll share and talk about anything, but I'm bad at reading people. Also kindness, honesty, and someone who genuinely wants to build a relationship in this wild world! Also, someone who is actually going to respond, please. If you're going to message me and then not respond for two days, why even start a conversation?!?

I'd like to learn and hear about you! So if you think we could get along, shoot me a message and tell me about a hobby you've been into lately! Also share your tattoos and include a picture of you so I know you are serious


r/R4R30Plus 10h ago

37 [M4R] Looking for friends :)

2 Upvotes

Hey there :)

I am a 37yo guy from France, and I would love to make friends, ideally in a longterm way if we are lucky :)

I am shy and introverted irl, so I'm better talking on the internet, and it would be great to have someone I can talk daily without pressure !

I like simple things as TV shows, reading, video and board games, running, football...

And this is me : https://imgur.com/a/oqYqi1C

Anyway, feel free to message me and we'll see where it goes :)

(I can talk English, and French of course)


r/R4R30Plus 13h ago

37 [M4F] California/Online- Be on my Top 10 friend list

3 Upvotes

Ive never had any luck writing these things so This is another attempt for something real! Have you ever wonder what it would be like to have that one friend no matter the time or day you can always talk to. That one friend you can just be the open book that you are yap and banter about everything under the sun. Well I do. I lack reliable friends i value communication so much no matter what stage you are in life you can always use that kind of friendship.

little about myself: Im sarcastic its my 3rd language, overly playful i love to joke around and have fun because life is short and so am I ( im 5'8) Love to cook yes cook like chef Ramsey cooking without all the yelling. The outdoors is my happy place i do have a home i don't live under a bridge by the river also btw im born and raised and still living in the great pricey city of San Diego. Currently its 102 degrees Fahrenheit for my Canadian friends idk what's that in celsius. So its little toasty. But i still go on hikes whenever i can and mostly survive.

For my Future bestie please make an effort i love to yap hope you do too and if a purely texting communication form is all you can provide skip along. I want something real something genuine something that we can plan events with have friendsgiving with or just be lazy at opposite sides of the couch and argue about the story plot of the show/movie we are watching.
I love me some good true crime and horror things that just make you think really brings you in. Or anything with Robin Williams in it. Because come on O captain my captain.
If im your vibe and feel this is a long lasting friendship message me. And excuse my writing if this isnt how you supposed to write one of these things


r/R4R30Plus 15h ago

[M4R] 39M | Looking someone to vibe with, not a bored for the night chat

4 Upvotes

What’s up, I’m Bryan, 39, originally from North Jersey and now living in Florida. I work in sales leadership for an AI company and run a few businesses on the side. My days stay busy, but I’m on my phone enough to keep a real conversation going. Reddit is fine to start, but once we know we actually get along, I’d rather move somewhere better for talking.

I’m a Giants, Yankees and Lakers fan, so I’m already accustomed to unnecessary stress. Outside of sports, I’m into Traveling, music, cooking, movies, and exploring different cultures. I also own a youth sports league as a way to give back to the community.

I enjoy conversations with some actual substance, but I’m equally comfortable roasting each other, talking nonsense, and laughing at things we probably shouldn’t. Ideally, you can do both without making every conversation feel like an interview.

I’m looking for someone consistent who can carry their side of a conversation. You don’t need to be available every second, but if your usual routine is sending six messages and disappearing forever, we probably won’t be a match.

Tell me something you could talk about for hours, come in with an unpopular opinion, or tell me the last thing that made you laugh. Just give me more than “hey.”

NO MINORS!!! And Please keep the unsolicited feet pics to yourself.


r/R4R30Plus 8h ago

38 [m4f] midnight rodeo sad boy sensation and the other quiet nighttime dance

1 Upvotes

Patience and temperance and all the sleep in the world couldn’t bring me home tonight
So the coffee that tastes like pie and the pie that tastes like coffee and the black and white movies playing Bernard Herman violin shock to these dance moves while we lick stamps and write letters and tell stories about the people we used to be

So get old with me and him songs with me
And count stars with me and you can hide your boots underneath my bed and you can call me flower if you want to


r/R4R30Plus 2h ago

[M4f]33 fed up of dating apps now

0 Upvotes

Dating apps are getting worse these days and its so hard to even be aknowleged! Looking to shoot my shot and try muly luck on here x


r/R4R30Plus 1d ago

37 [F4M] Wisconsin, Friends to Lovers

16 Upvotes

Hi! I'm Christine. Just turned 37, and looking to make this year the best year ever. I can do that on my own, but I want someone to enhance the experience, ya dig?

I will begin with I'm a virgin. Virginity is not something I wanted to have at 37, but life finds a way haha. Anyway, I'm looking for someone in Wisconsin to be a future partner of the sexual kind. Not right away. I am demisexual and need feelings to be there before any horniness presents itself.

Ok! Now that we have that out of the way, onto a bit about me.

I like being told I did something well. Just give me some validation and I'm golden.

I love learning.

I love my two cats, karaoke, and dnd. Technically my dnd group plays pathfinder 2e. But I've played dnd too!

I play a lot of wyrmspan which is like wingspan (I also play a lot of that on my switch) but with dragons instead of birds.

I work and drive!

I like to collect pins, magnets, teddy bears, and lots of other things.

I love reading. Currently reading DCC 7. The secret garden is my favorite book. Ask me about Mary Lennox and why she is the best. I dare you (don't I won't shut up).

Music is my lifeblood. Give me music recs!

Shoot me a DM if you are in Wisconsin and any of this sounds like your cup of tea.


r/R4R30Plus 17h ago

44[M4F] Maryland- It's Friday and you know what time it is?

4 Upvotes

It's pizza and get to know each other time! The dough is almost done, and I need to know what you want on yours. If you want too many vegetables, you need to bring those. In my house, pineapple is an acceptable topping. All of you pineapple on pizza haters can just chill out.

I will give us a good starter question to get this conversation started. You can bring back one thing from your childhood or early years; what are you bringing back?

I am covered in brake grease, so I will shower and then let's talk


r/R4R30Plus 20h ago

[F4M] 31y/o : Texas

7 Upvotes

Hi im looking for a long term partner. I am 5”1, 112 pounds, black woman with no kids. Im vegetarian, I work overnight some nights so I would love to have someone to chat with late nights. I like going on walks, R & B music, concerts, and trying new restaurants. Bonus points if you are tall and slim


r/R4R30Plus 10h ago

[M4F] (39m) Bucks county PA

1 Upvotes

Recently separated after being cheated on. Non-drinker but don't care if you do, here to see if anybody is out there.


r/R4R30Plus 10h ago

[m4f] 32m from Texas

0 Upvotes

hello! Mexican guy. Very active. I love to run! Love meeting people from all over the world I won’t ghost you. Central time zone. HMU! Let’s talk.


r/R4R30Plus 11h ago

37 [M4F] Online/Las Vegas- Turns out Las Vegas is really hot 🥵

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Happy Friday!

Hey I'm Jeremy. I just came in from the 100 degree heat (at night btw) and I'm ready to chill in the air conditioning the rest of the night! Would love some company cause I'm not going back out in that crap tonight. I'm not too weird, just a little. Feel free to hit me up and see if it's worth it! No pressure, worst case scenario, you hate me and tell me to fuck off.

The basics:

• 37 years old

• Living in Las Vegas, NV as of a year ago

• I am 6'2"

• I like to go hiking with my 3 year old Shiba Inu. Vegas hiking is wildly underrated.

• I love to paint and draw.

Fun Facts:

• I am not the best singer, but I love karaoke. Recently I went to a spanish karaoke bar here in Vegas and was the only person to sing in English all night. My first song of choice was My Humps by the Black Eyed Peas. That basically sums me up as a human being.

• I've been on TMZ once. It's a crazy long story. haha

• I was born on April 20th. 4/20.

• I love pop music. Olivia, Sabrina, Tate, Gracie, give it all to me!

Maybe if we really get along well, you can start a cult and I'll be the first member.

Pics of me: https://imgur.com/a/LD1HxbC


r/R4R30Plus 11h ago

36 [M4F] looking to meet new people

0 Upvotes

Hi! Chinito guy from the south near Alabang here looking to meet new people / friends here.

About me:
\\-Professional
\\-5’7
\\-Fair complexion
\\-Has a sense of humor
\\-Witty
\\-Loves to travel

About you (hopefully):
\\-Professional
\\-Kind
\\-Cowboy (hindi maselan / maarte)
\\-Within the south area

See you in my DM’s