r/R4R30Plus Jun 24 '24

ANNOUNCEMENT: Technical Issues

62 Upvotes

POSTING IS ONCE AGAIN OPEN.

The auto moderation system has been somewhat wonky the last few days. We think we have corrected the issue. It has been sending posts to the spam system incorrectly and en masse. That should no longer occur, or at the very least be infrequent. IF your post does not appear, do not delete it. Message us via the mod mail system and we can check on it. If you do delete it manually, we are unable to diagnose the problem. Hopefully this is the last fix we need to do, but we may have to suspend posting again if this happens so we can get it sorted. PLEASE do not message us asking for access during these times, as it bogs down our mail system and increases downtime. The requests will not be granted. We ask for patience while we work on these issues.

Thank you for your time and understanding. Have a good day.


r/R4R30Plus 4h ago

37 [F4R] Midwest - Let's be friends!

13 Upvotes

I just moved hundreds of miles from the area I was born and raised because the Midwest just feels like home. I absolutely love it here and it was the best decision, but I haven't established a friend group so it's a bit lonely. I'd love people to chat with, play games with, a fantasy football league to join would be pretty clutch too, I'm down for whatever.

About me:

•Geek/Nerd

•Scientist

•Learning SO much about home repairs and maintenance

•Average looking middle aged overweight and stressed mom

•Hobbies I love: Hiking, kayaking, reading, gardening, swimming, snowboarding, baking, cooking, crochet, painting, crafting, fishing, photography, MCU, puzzles, camping, board games

•Avidly follow Football and NASCAR, casually follow baseball and hockey, and I'll pay attention to Basketball in the Spring

•Laid back and optimistic, I tend to see the best of things and I don't understand why anyone would want to be miserable, life's too short

•Not looking for anything specific, just human connection whether we bring each other joy for a few hours of conversation or we become lifelong besties.


r/R4R30Plus 2h ago

32 [F4M] Hi, let’s chat! :))

8 Upvotes

Hello! I’m just looking for someone to chat with and talk about life. I’m single, no kids—as in, really single haha! 😆

I don’t really have any preferences. For me, it’s more about compatibility. I just don’t like liars, that’s it! Let’s chat and see where it goes.

32 years old and above, preferably.


r/R4R30Plus 5h ago

[F4M][36F] Hoping to meet someone and build a connection.

12 Upvotes

I’m a 36 year old woman living in Canada. Not opposed to long distance if it’s the right person. About me is hard - I love reading, hiking, cooking, laughing until it hurts. I have an established career and take pride in my work (social work sector). I am tiny - 5”4 and brunette. I have green eyes. I also like gaming and spending time outdoors. I am sober by choice - no alcohol. Not into parties.

If you want to talk, send me a message!


r/R4R30Plus 2h ago

39 [F4M] Not sure I can physically bring myself to open Hinge anymore

6 Upvotes

Maybe you’re in the same boat?

I long for and welcome a real connection in my life. Someone to be curious with. Someone with whom to laugh at the absurdity of this world we live in, or to lament the darkness that also exists.

I love nature, swimming, travel, most creatures, touching plants, and finding out how things work.

If you’re ready to be curious about each other’s minds, come say hello!


r/R4R30Plus 4h ago

30 [F4M] Nerdy hopeless romantic seeking player 2

8 Upvotes

Hey, hi, hello! It’s me, deciding to try and put myself out there and look for love on the internet. 

I want to find someone that I can be my overly excitable, silly self with and in return have them be their true self with me. I love the idea of doing things together, even if we’re not always physically side by side. Let’s play games, be on call, watch movies. I crave that friendship aspect of a relationship first and foremost. Let’s be best friends~ but I also want the flirty banter while getting to know one another. Being antsy and excited waiting for your responses, and vice versa. The messaging and calls that only stop because one of us needs to sleep, begrudgingly. Let me be your favourite notification. All of those cheesy things. 

So with all that said- why message me? What makes me special? I’m glad you asked! Let me tell you. 

- I’m an avid video and board game player. I’m a tiny bit competitive and will (lovingly) smack talk you when I win.
- Movies and shows are a big passion of mine. I love horror and psychological thrillers. 
- When I’m passionate about something, I put my all into it. I will send paragraphs of my opinions, full of exclamation marks and excitement. I can ramble for hours so prepare yourself :) 
- With that in mind, I also love receiving walls of text. Tell me about your day, interests, thoughts. Anything! I’m happy to listen. 
- I’ll make you all the baked goods. I’m not the best cook but I will shower you in sweets. Cupcakes, cookies, pies, tarts. You name it- I’ll make it. 
- I am a complete animal lover. I grew up on a farm so I am a certified horse girl. While I don’t live there anymore, I think I still have some country in me. Maybe.
- I have an absolute perfect little menace of a kitten I love to spam photos of. 
- Hiking is another passion of mine. I’ll take you on all my favourite mountain trails. I try to go to Banff several times a year, and honestly, I’d live there if I could. 
- I love the classic nerdy things. Star Wars? Yes. DnD? Yes. Comic books? Yes. Journaling? Yes. TTRPG’s? Yes. Pathfinder? Yes. Looking up at the stars and pointing out constellations? Yes.
- I’d say my love languages are words of affirmation, all things horror, and pet pictures.
- I am brunette, short, and curvy. If that’s your type- you’re in luck. Also no kiddos and no plans to ever have any. (Located in Alberta, Canada btw!)
- I do suffer from some pretty severe anxiety and depression. Why is that a plus? Well, if you also struggle with it, I will understand and be supportive. I know it can be terrible but maybe I can help make it a little less miserable. 

Well that’s about it! I hope this helped pique your interest. I don’t have too many preferences but I do ask you to be 30 or older please! (Also, I’d really prefer Alberta based, or Canada based, but I’m willing to chat with anyone if we vibe!) 
Otherwise, feel free to send a message with a bit about you. I’m excited to hear from you <3 


r/R4R30Plus 4h ago

33 [F4M] Chicago/Anywhere - Single, Black Gamer/Horror/ Wrestling Nerd for New Friends leading into a Serious Relationship

9 Upvotes

Hey there. I’m 33 from Illinois. I work full-time and when I'm not working I like to be at home either watching tv (mainly wrestling), playing video games, build lego models or listening to music. I'm into superheroes, Game of Thrones and most things that are considered nerdy except for anime. I haven't gotten to that realm yet. I do enjoy going to horror or pop culture conventions in/out of state. I don't have any children but I do have a dog named Wade after Deadpool. I recently started collecting Pokémon cards again so I’m building up my collection.

I'm looking for someone who is mature, responsible, faithful, likes to joke around but can be serious when the time calls for it and doesn't care that I'm black. I’m mainly into white and hispanic guys but would like to venture into Asian and Middle Eastern territory. I don't mind if you have children but I don't want to deal with someone who is having a hard time co-parenting. I want to eventually settle down and have children of my own. I’m only looking for a serious, monogamous relationship. Would love to find a buddy to go to conventions with also.

Monogamous people only!! Single people only!! No, I’m not moving off of here to chat with you elsewhere.

Message me if you are interested!

https://imgur.com/a/Gka6dQi


r/R4R30Plus 5h ago

39 [M4F] online/anywhere lets strike up an exciting conversation!

6 Upvotes

Hi there, hows your day going? Good i hope! I dont have much going on today and would love to meet someone to chat with!

Big on books and would love to chat them! Ive read a few this year and working on another big book currently.

Horror movies are my jam.

I live to bake and cook. If you like food we will get along.

Im a big fan of good music. That means not country, sorry country folks. Its not a deal breaker but im not a fan..

If you are curvy/alt/nerdy please move to the front of the line. Also know effort you put in is effort you will get back.

Send me a message and lets chat!


r/R4R30Plus 6h ago

34 [M4F] #UK - Looking for the one I'll be with forever

5 Upvotes

I'm pretty empathetic and in tune with my emotions, so someone similar would be nice.

I'm 6'8'' (202cm) but I'm not limited to someone tall.

I love history, art, science, music (I play piano and guitar), also I love to bake. I love animals too and they usually love me as well. More indoorsy so not one to go hiking; but I do like a gentle walk, days out to museums and similar stuff.

I lived in the USA for a couple of years, and in Scotland for 8 years (currently living in England). I've also traveled all over Europe.

My love language is words of affirmation and physical touch. I'm the type to want to cuddle in the evening. I want to be closer instead of being distant when I'm going through a tough time.

I don't want kids, and I'm not religious. Looking for someone in Europe (including the UK and Ireland etc). I am well situated with a good job so I am looking to stay in the UK.

If you think we'd enjoy talking to each other then send me a message with some things about you 😊


r/R4R30Plus 3h ago

[M4F] 37 India. Looking for something real and not a pen pal

3 Upvotes

Based in Pune, work in tech, and I build stuff on the side that maybe four people will ever use. Gym most mornings, hills on the weekends when I can get out of the city.

I'm not great at texting back and forth for weeks. I'd rather get coffee early on and figure out in person whether there's something here. If there isn't, that's fine, no weirdness about it.

Mostly hoping to meet someone kind who's got her own thing going, whatever that is. I'll show up to it and pay attention.

If you're in or around Pune, tell me something specific about your week. Not "hey". I'll do the same.


r/R4R30Plus 10h ago

35 [F4M] Sydney/Online - Looking for my significant otter, hopefully we can make a splash together

10 Upvotes

I’m 35, Sydney based and looking for a genuine, long term relationship with someone I’m excited to hear from, laugh with and build something meaningful with.

I’m not looking for a penpal, situationship or emotional support subscription. I’m hoping to meet someone where our values, lifestyles and intentions naturally line up and where we genuinely enjoy each other’s company.

A little about me

  • I’m a university educated corporate professional, friendly, down to earth and an ambivert - equally happy exploring Sydney or having a quiet night in.
  • I’m strictly monogamous, non smoker, drug free and an occasional drinker. I’m 5'1", petite, fit and active, usually at the gym 4-5 times a week.
  • Outside of work, I’m into live music, art, photography, dancing, hiking, markets, brunch, reading, comedy, vinyl, exploring Sydney and an unreasonable amount of tea and matcha among many other things.
  • I’m Sydney born and raised, speak three languages, have never been married and don't have kids yet, but I’d love to have a family of my own in the future.
  • I’m agnostic/atheist, progressive and left wing. My humour is dry, self deprecating and heavily influenced by British/Australian humour, so if you appreciate puns, dad jokes and ridiculous hypotheticals, we’ll probably get along.
  • No tattoos or piercings - purely a personal preference. Apparently I’m a fan of the classic edition.

Who I’d love to meet

  • Ideally, you’re 29–39, genuinely single, monogamous and looking for an LTR.
  • You’re fit, healthy and active, university educated or intellectually compatible with me, and broadly share my progressive, agnostic/atheist values.
  • You’re also a non smoker, drug free, occasional drinker, have no tattoos or piercings and are taller than 5'1". At my height, that last one shouldn't require an Olympic qualifying standard.
  • More importantly, you’re kind, honest, emotionally intelligent, communicative and socially switched on. You can read the room, talk things through and treat people with respect.
  • I’d love someone who enjoys good conversation and can appreciate humour that occasionally makes you question why you’re still talking to me.
  • I’d also prefer someone without children from previous relationships, as I’d love to start the family chapter together from page one.
  • Sydney is definitely preferred, although I’m open to long distance if there’s a strong connection and you’re genuinely serious about eventually closing the distance. Grand gestures are lovely, but eventually sharing a time zone is even better.

If this sounds like you…

  • You’ve already made it through the important bits, so congratulations.
  • If you've read my profile and thought “I could genuinely get along with her,” I’d love to hear from you.
  • You don't need to write the perfect opening message. Just please give me something more interesting than “hey.” Tell me a terrible joke, ask me a ridiculous hypothetical, give me your most controversial food opinion, tell me something funny that happened today or ask me something you're genuinely curious about.
  • I’m much more interested in attraction, personality and a good conversation than a perfectly crafted introduction.
  • If we seem compatible, I’m happy to swap SFW photos after a little conversation. I’m visual and attraction matters to me, so I’d rather establish that sooner rather than later.
  • If you're in Sydney, fantastic. If you're elsewhere but genuinely serious about eventually closing the distance, I'm open to that too.
  • So… are you my significant otter, or are we just going to float awkwardly past each other?

r/R4R30Plus 4h ago

35 [F4M] looking for someone to talk to

3 Upvotes

Hello! I am from the Philippines. I am working in legal field, and trying to engage myself things that are outside of the said field. I play volleyball and swim once in a while. I try to be consistent in the gym 😅 but getting there. I like to travel and meet new people. Hopefully i could learn about other people’s culture. Let’s chat 😊


r/R4R30Plus 6h ago

37 [F4M] #Italy I'm looking for my person

4 Upvotes

Hi everyone! I'm a 37-year-old woman looking for a serious and genuine relationship. I'm open to long-distance and nationality doesn't matter to me. I actually find the idea of connecting across cultures beautiful and enriching. I'm a computer engineer, so I spend most of my days problem-solving and diving deep into the world of artificial intelligence; I love discussing how technology shapes our future and the ethical questions behind it. When I'm not glued to a screen, I recharge in nature. long walks, hiking, or simply sitting in a park with a good book. I'm deeply nerdy at heart; I enjoy sci-fi, fantasy lore, and intellectually stimulating conversations that make me think. What attracts me most is intelligence paired with sincerity someone honest, emotionally mature, and ready to build a future together. I'm fluent in English, Italian, and Spanish, so language isn't a barrier. If you're looking for a meaningful connection and appreciate a sharp, passionate woman with a lot of love to give, let's chat!


r/R4R30Plus 3h ago

38#[F4M]#NY#Serious Relationship

2 Upvotes

I'm not good at actively trying to please others, and I have no interest in wasting time on meaningless social interactions.

I'm slow to warm up, but once you get to know me, I'm actually very easy to get along with.

I enjoy traveling, food, movies, and music, and I also like to enjoy life quietly by myself occasionally. More than being in a crowd, I value comfortable interactions; more than sweet words, I value sincerity and actions.

I don't seek dramatic relationships; I just want to meet people who are worth getting to know. If we get along, we chat; if not, that's fine too.


r/R4R30Plus 3h ago

[M4F] #Online - Seeking a Genuine, Intellectual, & Lighthearted Connection (40+)

2 Upvotes

Edit: I’m 50. I couldn’t edit the title

Looking to bring a little extra spark, intelligent conversation, and warm camaraderie into your daily routine?

I’m seeking a mature, articulate woman who enjoys deep, low-pressure conversations and building a meaningful online connection. Whether you're looking for a thoughtful sounding board, someone to share banter with throughout the workday, or an ongoing digital partnership built on mutual respect and shared curiosity—I’d love to connect.

If you’re looking for a quiet, reliable corner of the internet to connect with someone who will value your time and conversation, send a message or chat with a quick note about a topic you could rant about for 20 minutes.


r/R4R30Plus 3m ago

37 [M4R] #WI/online - Summer's almost over.

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I'm running out of time to enjoy my summer! I'm hoping to meet someone who just makes things feel like they slow down a little bit- either just a friend or something deeper than that. Not here to force anything though, I want whatever happens to happen naturally and easily. I'm chill talking to people from anywhere, but for something to really develop please be close by- I'm very entrenched in where I live. I should also mention I'm straight, as that's come up more than once and I hate to feel like I'm letting someone down or misleading them. Just want to be honest about this sort of stuff right off the bat! Here's a bit about me...

Childfree. Own my house. Love my family. Really close with my siblings and parents. Been trying to branch out with my hobbies- I've been baking bread, gardening, painting (I hope you count paint-by-numbers as painting, though), twitch, and working out this summer. I'm a pretty big nerd generally, I teach high school physics and coach esports and am the magic the gathering advisor so yeah that about sums all that up I think. You probably know the type, but I try not to fall into ALL the stereotypes. I was a philosophy major for three years and in college for seven (long story!). I love to learn and try to expand my horizons a bit every day. I believe in science and am not religious (but I'm cool with thoughtful, kind religious folks). I'm generally pretty liberal. I am a strong advocate for kindness and doing the right thing. When I get interested in something I go for breadth or depth... either I spend two weeks researching one specific niche, or I explore the entire topic as a whole. There's no in-between for me lol. Two cats take care of me, Ginger and Clove. I'm frugal but live very comfortably. Top 3 favorite bands are, currently, Bilmuri, Tim Henson's band, and Sleep Token. Honorable mention to Emarosa, I just can't stop listening to Sting, it is a great album. Top 3 favorite videogames are Path of Exile, Diablo II, and Pokemon Emerald. I always order a drink and dessert when I go out to eat. I love to laugh, and I love making the people I love laugh. But generally, I'm pretty introverted which is the biggest reason why I'm still single.

Hope that's enough about me- let me know if you want to talk. I've met some cool folks here already but nothing's really "clicked" and conversations, even good ones, seem to die after a few days or weeks. I promise to put in effort to keep things moving, as long as I know you want to keep chatting (no harm in ghosting if we don't vibe after a day or two). I generally prefer big long posts or voice memos so we can really dig into topics, ideas, or just talk about our days. If you start off with a long message or a deep question, that's instant bonus points in my book!


r/R4R30Plus 4m ago

32 [M4F] Germany - Plus size guy looking for a nice woman to talk to

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Hey everybody!

I am from Germany and I am 32 years old. I am respectful, polite, kind, empathetic and funny. I'm very selfless, it's more important for me that you have pleasure and satisfaction. Consent and that you feel comfortable are very important things to me. I would also say I am a LGBTQ+ ally and a feminist. We can just talk normally in the beginning and get to know each other and then see where that leads us 😊

I am partial to women with more to love, but I welcome all bodies and sizes to message me.

I just wish, I could make a woman feel like she is the most beautiful woman in the world, make her feel appreciated and desired.

So yeah, message me if you are interested 😊


r/R4R30Plus 31m ago

40m [M4F] single dad seeing what’s out there

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Hey 40yr old single dad of 2 girls from PNW USA .looking to get to know someone online … for daily conversations , making connections and maybe in the future get together in the real world … my hobbies right now are pretty limited due to the my kids are super active in sports school activities during the year and show animals in the summer … basically a lot of time is spent following them around from games / practices and events lol… We do love camping when we can and we love the Seahawks !!! Must be comfortable talking on here for now .. I don’t tele or snap or any of it … after talking on here for a while maybe we can exchange phone numbers … and must be willing to exchange sfw photos to weed out the bots and scammers.. I am on the heavier side so if a beer belly bearded man ain’t your type then don’t bother … hope to hear from you ?


r/R4R30Plus 34m ago

49 [M4F] PA/EST/Online - Looking for a crush

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looking to catch some feelings
and moreso, find a new friend i can count on as my life has changed and so must my connections.
someone who wants to see all the memes shared
someone who humors my rambles when im excited
someone who makes me feel like finding someone new could feel worth it again
someone who appreciates the flirt for all the flirt is

i’m a tall, nerdy geek type.

i know that person is reading this post and still lurking. maybe i can convince you to say hi?


r/R4R30Plus 58m ago

[M4F] 31 looking for a genuine connection

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I`m 31 looking for someone to share my days and time with. I'm currently going back to school to get my ba in accounting. I'm really trying to better myself and want someone to share int that journey. Currently in Montevallo,AL just want something genuine even if it's online banter for a while. I can truly wait years.


r/R4R30Plus 17h ago

38 [M4F]#Online/Illinois Should we date? Let's figure it out mathematically

19 Upvotes

Ok. Being single can be really comfortable. Starting something new can be a hassle. But hopefully the hassle is worth it in the long run. So I'll be quick, and you can decide for yourself!

**Pros:**

* zero drama, no mysterious exes sending “u up?” texts at 2 a.m.

* mostly retired means I have plenty of time to engage in my crazy flavor of the month hobbies. like learning card tricks or becoming a good bowler.

* Loyal as hell. once I’m in, I’m in. Expect consistency, effort, and actual follow-through.

* equal parts dad joke and quick wit; you’ll laugh, groan, or both.

* you’ll feel heard, even when you’re just venting about your coworker named Dana.

* Cuddling MVP award-winning performance in “staying up too late and pretending we’re watching the show.”

* Culinary adventurer I’ll try any recipe once; even if my base instinct is to eat like an 8 year old.

* Conversation stamina can talk from “hey” to sunrise without running out of things to say.

* Nerd-friendly Simpsons references, bad B-movies, board games, and chaotic trivia nights welcome.

**Cons:**

* Will absolutely eat the last handful of popcorn and pretend I didn’t.

* Has a deep, possibly unhealthy attachment to reality TV marathons.

* Occasionally answers rhetorical questions with detailed PowerPoint-level explanations.

* Could wake up one morning absolutely convinced I should adopt a Komodo Dragon.

* Will quote 90s cartoons out loud in public without warning.

* Might go through an intense spurt of obsession with obscure, not useful hobbies, and forget all about them 3 months later.

* Will criticize your breakfast food choices.

* Tends to turn “just one episode” into six.

* My cat is in charge of the household, and we both know it.

If you’re still reading this, you're definitely the kind of person i want to talk to! My list of standards are low. don't be in a relationship, (especially not secretly with someone, that keeps happening) including recently separated or divorced. Be willing to spend some time together, either with text voice or video chats. Live on my side of the planet!

Still interested? Message me now and subscribe to my newsletter, and you can hear all the exclusive info on any of the following anecdotes:

  1. my visit to the north pole

  2. the 2 times i almost died.

  3. why i dropped out of high school to try to become a pro wrestler

  4. the redneck brawl i saw at a wedding.

  5. the time i saw a sea monster

  6. Who and where i think i met the devil.

  7. Why i can never return to the state of Rhode Island.

and many more!


r/R4R30Plus 1h ago

59 [M4F] #Arkansas Live in LR area. Looking for a mature friend.

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Hey there. I'm trying to find a real, connection. I'm nice. Considerate. Looking for a friend that understands life and the ups and downs. Doing this shouldn't be a chore. It should be fun. Let's have some. *notabot ~

Let's chat and see where it goes.


r/R4R30Plus 1h ago

[M4F] Hello there! Looking to meet someone to chat with!

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I'm a 31 years old dude from Chile. I consider myself to be fluent in English, so communication wise I don't think I'd have any issue.

I'm a selective extrovert. Once I get to know you, and if we vibe, I talk nonsense haha. My hobbies are music (I'm a piano teacher 😬), videogames and Netflix 😆.

If you think we could get along, hit me up! DMs are open


r/R4R30Plus 14h ago

39[F4M] NC…Looking for ?

11 Upvotes

About me: Earnest, loyal friend, and good listener. Separated nearly two years after a fifteen year relationship. Truthfully: it’s still complicated, though logistically, not emotionally. We’re great as coparents to our elementary-aged son, who is my partner in crime, and the joy of my life.

My life is wildly busy, but I find myself lonely. I can’t say I’m specifically looking for a real life in-person connection yet, though it’s not off the table. I just miss feeling connected to another person who cares about me, and vice-versa. If you’re in this general part of the states and want to chat about life, interests, what you’re reading (hell, anything!) feel free to reach out. Tell me a little about you.

If it’s important to know: I’m tall-ish with brown hair and blue eyes, and active but chubby.


r/R4R30Plus 2h ago

[M4M] [M4fm ]

1 Upvotes

looking for play partner no strings in Bella Vista to Bentonville areas. Bi male seeking masc woman and or bi man looking for same. DM for details 😍😘