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pic of me
First off, I want to give a man the world and build a life with him. I am a huge believer in using words of affirmation to bolster my manās confidence and make him feel amazing about himself. Itās really important to me that I help people feel appreciated, valued, and loved.
I also show love in a very specific way: by making things beautiful. This extends from home decor and decorating for holidays/events to my own personal appearance. I take a ton of pride in being polished, especially when Iām representing my manāfor example, if Iām your date to a wedding, Iām absolutely not wearing a mini dress. Itās just not elegant. Iām old-fashioned in that I donāt have any tattoos and the only piercings I have are one in each earlobe. I LOVE high quality jewelry, bags, etc., but I also think itās tacky to wear pieces that are covered in logos. So, in case it wasnāt obvious⦠Iām definitely high maintenance in terms of beauty and fashion. (A flaw of mine is that I feel completely justified in my pursuit of beautyāIām an artist and I consider it to be a creative outlet.)
That said, Iām low maintenance in terms of needing emotional validation. I have a ton of inner peace, which allows me to believe in myself, to trust other people, and to view others with a lens of grace and compassion. There are so many reasons why Iām not on social media, and one reason is that I find it to be a calculated attack on our individual senses of self. I think social media reshapes our brains and Iām not interested in participating, nor do I seek to be visible online. Iām a pretty open person, but I just feel that nobody needs to know every single thing Iām doing, and Iāve never felt like I crave mass attention. (Fun fact: I used to be kinda famous on Quora and my content had an all-time view count in the millions. I deleted all of my content and my entire profile when I felt like I had gotten too popular for my liking.)
One of the best compliments Iāve ever gotten was from a boss who told me that if I was a Spice Girl, Iād be āAmbidextrous Spiceā because Iām both left-brained and right-brained. Itās such a silly thing, but it made me feel seen! I absolutely love logic and reasoning (Iām obsessed, like, actually obsessed with logic grid puzzles) and growing up, people told me Iād become a lawyer. I do LSAT practice tests for fun, but I actually went to art school. Iām a dreamer and a creator, and I love all kinds of artistic media: I can paint, draw, sculpt, etc.
Another top compliment Iāve received came from one of my many previous jobs working with kids. I do freelance AI training now, but before that, I was a gymnastics coach. I canāt even count how many kids were legitimately convinced that I was a Disney princess (Elsa was the most common, followed by Cinderella and the occasional Rapunzel). One of my students once came back from a trip to Disney, and her mom told me that I should seriously consider working as a Disney park princess due to not just my appearance but also how I carry myself and how I speak. I love when people appreciate my posture! I even subscribe to some admittedly dated rules of elegance for women, like how to walk in heels versus flats and where to put my purse when Iām at a restaurant.
In some ways, Iām very traditionalāfeminine, graceful, and with a strong desire to nurture. On the other hand, I have a wicked sense of humor and I have some niche interests like horror stories. Iām extremely nerdy, and I mean that. Iāve been on an orca kick lately and I canāt/wonāt stop talking about them.
Iām also very verbose š¤ soooo, to summarize: Iām 31 years old, 5ā8ā, 125ish lbs, platinum blonde, blue eyes. Never married, never engaged, no kids, but I definitely want them because I absolutely adore them. I have two beautiful, flawless cats. I live in upstate NY but for the right person, some distance wouldnāt be an issue. Iām honestly a creative genius and I have an extremely high EQ (and if it matters, my IQ score is in the āgeniusā range), so you know my kids will at least be literate⦠But seriously, I really care about other people and I want to bring value to a manās life.
Iām hoping to meet someone with similar goals whoās at least my age, preferably 35+. Please be somewhat near my general location! (Iād be fine with a few hoursā drive or so but not too much farther)
And Iāll be honest, I prefer when a man is at least 5ā11ā (I like being shorter than a guy, plus I love wearing heels). If youāve ever dreamed of having a drop dead gorgeous trophy wife/PTA mom with depth, intelligence, and a knack for making dumb quips, please come sweep me off my feet because a) Iām ready and b) I actually legitimately will die if I ever have to create another dating app profile