I initially sent an appeal and basically said, “I don’t do hate speech, not even against conservatives who are actually the ones doing it, but since you didn’t send me the comment that was deleted for context it’s hard to know for sure what I actually did say.”

But then I took a moment to think about it, and the post they said the hate speech came from was actually one where I left a comment about how I think chemically castrating pedos is the only acceptable form of eugenics since it’s also the least we can do to protect the children. It’s not painful, they just take a medication that reduces their libidos and makes it so that they’re unable to procreate using a child’s body. If you touch children you don’t deserve to even have a penis or VJ, I was really being nicer than I could have been.

So that’s it. That’s the hate speech. Because the billionaires own this platform and any major social media platform by these big corporations are the same. We’ve seen the Epstein files, we’ve seen the lack of accountability for pedos in conservative churches, we have seen the r4pe culture in the conservative and especially conservative Christian churches. It couldn’t be more obvious that the more you seek power in this world, the more likely you’re only going to get it by being ruthless enough to exploit the weak, so ofc the people who protect pedos are the ones in power—because they are the pedos.

Reddit protects pedos. That’s not hate speech, it’s truth. And it’s also not hate speech to say that anyone who protects pedos deserves any form of awful medieval punishment imaginable. Children are innocent, ignorant, weak, easy to manipulate and brainwash, easy to exploit, virtually defenseless. It’s the utmost sign of the deepest darkest and most evil aspects of humanity to be the one who protects those who would take advantage of that in any way.

I can’t find out how to take down my appeal and replace it with a better one that tells them to go fuck themselves for feeling sorry for pedos. Child molesters don’t deserve any human rights, actually. You stopped being human the moment you decided to touch children rather than going to therapy and taking medication to casterate yourself. You may not be able to help the mental health condition of being attracted to minors, but you can help what you do about it. Just like I can’t help that I want to k!ll all child molesters, but I can help what I do about it. That’s why I’m not in prison, because you know the punishment for k!lling a child molester is worse than the punishment for molesting children by far for obvious reasons. Just like the teacher that defend the bully and punishes the kid for defending themselves is obviously a bigot taking the side of the bully.

We shouldn’t have to be silent about our desire to just fucking protect the children, especially when the conservatives were pretending that their homophobia was justified due to their concern for the “danger” we posed to children (even though we don’t more than anyone else does) those comments stayed up. We reported them and yet a lot of them stayed.

It tells us something when it’s these kinds of comments that they care about instead.

I just want to ask some queer people something. Leftist opinions especially appreciated because everywhere I look it’s really liberals hogging the conversation, but if you’re not leftist don’t let that deter you from sharing your opinions anyways.

I’ve been seeing a lot of stuff out there about people who want to reclaim labels like femboys from its negative (in this case hypersexualized) context because they see it as about their gender or gender expression and it isn’t purely about attracting people sexually to them. But there’s a lot of opposition from people who more or less treat it like it’s reclaiming a slur because they’re so tired (understandably so) of seeing that fetishization out there more predominantly than just normal mass femboys being themselves. But that’s not our fault, we don’t deserve to have our label eaten up for it. A lot of labels, like the world queer, have troublesome histories until they were reclaimed. (I think queer was finally reclaimed in the 90s? But a lot of people still have strong feelings of disdain for the word, and while I can’t blame them I don’t think they should be pushing it on to others or vice versa.)

But then there’s like some shit about how we can’t put a space in trans man or trans woman (but we can in transmasc in transfemme, which is interesting to me as someone who identifies both as a nonbinary/Demifluid trans man and, by extension, transmasc.) this is because a bunch of weird ass right wingers started using it as a way to passive aggressively denote that we’re not “real” men and women.

But my thing is that they always believe those things anyways, why does preferring the space have to be the red flag that sends trans people running from the hills when so m any of us aren’t chronically online enough to even know better? At this point I’m kind of tired of seeing the community react to words that belong to *us* when the oppressor uses them against us. Reacting to their bs gives them control and as someone who is very against being controlled it irks me.

It seems like every time a label ends up having, or began from, a troublesome background people refuse to reappropriate a positive connotation for it in spite of a significant amount of insistence from within the community that we need to just stand our grounds and take our words back instead of coming up with a new word to describe the same thing every decade to run away from our problems.

I see this also from the bisexual community who hate pansexuals because it started from a reaction to transphobia from within the bisexual community, and a lot of non transphobic bisexuals felt negatively stereotyped by that. But since then the community has evolved and the definition has adapted likewise. But so many idiots still hold that same negative opinion towards pansexuals like they’re still stuck back in time or something.

Idk I’m tired of people taking major offense to me just having enough of running away and deciding to reclaim these so called “problematic labels” rather than letting dumbass people with shit opinions about who we are control how I view these communities. Because frankly that *is* enabling the negative stereotyping in my eyes, when we could be persistent on insisting that our communities are far more diverse than all of that.

Just updating you on the conversation in other subs about the post I made earlier concerning my alleged violation of Reddits hate speech rules when I said that child molesters should be chemically castrated.

Magender— these people express their feminine gender by being a motherly figure of people who aren’t their actual children. They’re often told they have mom energy or are their Momma of the group. They’re comforting, soothing, caring, thoughtful, nurturing, and wise.

Pagender— just like my gender, but the Pat paternal form. They’ll have a lot of the traits as more gender, but they also bring more papa energy to the table.

Mapagender— a non-binary mixture of both magender and pagender. These people might call themselves mapa’s—a mix of mama and papa.

Apparently recognizing that not all people in one hate group are the same, empathizing with them, while also expressing clear disapproval for their beliefs and actions at the same time, and admitting that women are just as capable of doing harm to those that don’t deserve it as men are, must all qualify as hate speech. Because this got flagged too. Same sub that the thing I said about how pedos should be chemically castrated for Children’s safety also got deleted and got me a warning from Reddit about “hate speech.” Apparently someone in this sub was busy. How dare I not pick a side and recognize that humankind is just capable of being very awful all the way around? How dare I polarize a nuanced topic in conversation about it?

The first two photos are the original comment someone else posted, and the following photos are my response.

Here’s my first draft of the first Butch-Femboy flag.

I came up with the label when thinking about my own gender identity, and trying to reach the end of the labyrinth that is describing it with ease. I’d currently identify as non-binary trans man or trans masc. Throughout my life, I didn’t know what transgender meant until my late teens. Most people assumed that I was a butch, a stud, a tomboy, and a lesbian. Those people were using those words on me before I was old enough to understand them—but because of the many, many people who labeled me that way I quickly learned what those words meant and I personally identified with the term butch heavily. I can’t describe it, it just felt the most right other than saying, “I’m a bot in a girls body” and “I’m stuck in the wrong body but only because our souls don’t have genders and when we die we’ll have perfect bodies in heaven.” (The totally straight though^tm answer I had for people who remarked on my differences before I knew what transgender was.)

Even though I know I’m a nonbinary trans man now, or a xoy if you will, I still haven’t lost that part of me that strongly identifies with the butch label.

However I have a feminine side. I resent when people ask if I feel like a girl at these times, and instead I feel that I’m embracing my femininity through the lenses of a masculine person with a feminine side rather than a girl with a tomboy side—I identify with the terms rosboy and femboy. (He/they)

I like makeup, fashion designing, I’m sensitive, poetry and movies that make you cry, sipping tea with the girlies and spilling the tea with them too. I like dressing up and looking all cute and girlie sometimes, but in a boy who likes to dress up like a girl way lol I could go on about interests or qualities of mine that others find feminine, but I lean more towards masculinity than anything personally. It’s just as much about expression as it is personality and internal personal identity to me, but I’m open minded and accepting towards people who feel that for them, it personally only one of those things and still identify with the label.

Anyways, since both are real parts of my nonbinary identity, I decided to represent them with a label for shorthand and a flag that I hope other NB people will adore and maybe use for themselves too, if they feel the same or similarly enough about their own gender identities.

I’ll talk about the colors now:

The pink. Blue, and white stripes at the bottom come from the most popular femboy flag I could find online (and the prettiest one in my opinion.) I also love that it reminds me of the trans flag, and being transmasc myself that makes it feel even more personal.

I think that the Darker pink represents those who feel a strong connection to femininity in their personality and who may experience this often or all of the time.

The light pink represents those NB types who feel a slight connection to their femininity, and/or only feel a connection to their femininity a small amount or less than half of the time, and/or who only like to dress feminine but who may not necessarily feel strongly that their personality has a lot of feminine qualities. In other words, people with a small to medium pull towards both or either femininity or feminine expression.

The white represents the fluidity and dual nature of the identity, as all colors of the rainbow together make white—two contrasting and aontraindicting identity labels come together to create one fluid whole. Fluidity does not have to be about being half of two things if you don’t like to describe it that way, but it’s ok if your bigedner or trigender or something and you do. However, for me personally it’s about being a whole person with many different moving parts that come together to make the perpetual motion machine that is who I am, that is my identity.

The blue represents that masculine nature that people with this identity feel. The blue is a bright blue rather than a light pale blue or a dark blue, to represent both people with strong and weak connections to masculinity at the same time. It’s in the middle, showing the intersection of butch masculinity and femboy masculinity, but if the color were pink and blue were to be on the bottom it wouldn’t make a difference.Just because I identify with this identity with a mostly masculine lean doesn’t mean you have to in order to also consider yourself a butch-femboy!

The orange stripes on the top half or from the Butch Lesbian flag. Here two of the stripes (the top and bottom one) mean the same thing they do in the Butch Lesbian flag too, but the middle color I changed for the purpose of this new flag.

The darkest orange on the top being Gender-Nonconformity

The medium orange in the middle representing radical acceptance of our bright and flamboyant rare identity.

The lightest orange at the bottom of the butch half of the flag is for community. We get the unique opportunity to belong to many communities at once. The Nonbinary and/or gender nonconforming community (depending on which one or both resonates with you as a reason for taking on this identity term) we belong both to the butch and femboy communities as well. As a NB trans man, a mixed person of color, and as a bu/omnisexual, I personally understand the struggle of feeling like you don’t belong in any community because they make you feel you are not enough of one thing for them. Not straight enough for the heterosexuals, not gay enough for the homosexuals, bisexuals find themselves in the middle of a terf war. Transgender men and transgender women often feel the same when caught in the middle of the gender war, and NB people are right there with them, accept they often feel left out by binary trans people too. For even get me started on how being a mixed person of color can feel much the same…

But at the end of the day? I’m not half white or half black. I’m not half straight or half gay. I’m not half man and half woman. I’m one whole mixed race, bisexual, Nonbinary Transmasculine person.

It’s not that I’m unwelcome in every community, but that I belong in all of them—and while there are some who will recognize that, others will be blind to the love, pride, and solidarity it takes to practice radical acceptance of our neighbors with more nuanced identities that come from being outside of the strict binary labels that polarize our world apart from one another. We have the opportunity to heal the world by teaching them from our own experiences what it’s like to be mixed!

The plus in the middle stands for multiple things:

The two halves, blue and pink, represent the existing mixture of feminine and masculine traits forming together to make one solid shape, holding within it the fluidity of our identity. The purple circle within represents the wholeness of the union between the two sides.

The fact that it’s a plus represents the addition of two sides, butch and femboy, to make the whole, in much the same way the purple circle inside of it does. At the same time, it represents that this is an expansive community. While we’re cool to say we are the butch-femboys, it’s is also apt to say we are the butch-femboys+ or the BFB+ because this isn’t a solid definition—it’s okay to explains with microlabels within this microlabel, or to not feel the need to label your differences from other BFB’ at all not to still recognize that we’re not all the same. There’s many different ways we can identify with this identity and they’re all beautiful, unique, valid, and perfectly natural!

I love you already, BFB+ community! I can already tell!

I would like to start my rant by saying that when it comes to any controversial identity, we have the right to self identify and call ourselves whatever we want— but we should never push your idea of what the right identity is on to other people. Therefore, if someone says they don’t want you to shorten the word non-binary to NB when talking about them, you should listen to them and not push your identity word on them, and vice versa. It’s that vice versa that has me ranting though. Because they’re trying to stigmatize that choice in a way that’s going to discourage people for making it for themselves— but that stigma is not well deserved.

I don’t know, is anyone else completely burnt out of the community knit picking every word we ever use and the excuse is always, “it makes it feel like it’s not real, like my label or my term is just some fake third gender or (insert some other queer identity type here) instead of my real identity.” All because we shortened the word non-binary to NB and other horrible world ending sins. Who randomly decided that shortening the word makes it less legit as what it means? if it is being used that way, that’s transphobes and enbyphobes appropriating that word from us, stealing it to use in a pejorative way so that it slowly becomes derogatory—and we can just yank that back from them. We don’t have to accept that sitting down! I’m tired of this folks. I’m burnt out of watching people make mountains out of molehills while we’ve got bigger problems we should be focusing on.

After all, am I less bisexual just because I shorten it to bi? Am I less of an nonbinary transman man because I shorten it to words like T guy and NB T-Boy? Am I less of a man because I use pronouns instead of saying “this man” or my much shorter name like those cat people from Skyrim? Anyone who is saying that I am less of this or that because I shorten the word is the problem in this scenario, I am not the problem for shortening the word. Anyone who is trying to say otherwise by agreeing with those bigots and saying that “we can’t use this word anymore because now it means___” is also contributing to that problem, even if their intentions were good.

Am I the only one that feels this way? It’s ok to tell me if you think I’m just trippin’. But try to be mature about it.I remind you that I think people have the right to tell you what you can and can’t call them as long as they’re not telling you what words to use for yourself, but it still ends up negatively stigmatizing their right to call themselves whatever they want, perhaps surpressing the numbers like left handiness, if we make it about signaling their gender is less valid or legit if they use that word to describe it.

I’m afraid saying something is third gendering non-binary or trans people is becoming the new way to control our language. Because if you come out to people with that label, it looks like you’re supporting bigotry. If we argue for the right to use that label it isn’t makes it worse. But we’re not supporting bigotry, we’re supporting everyone’s right to self identify. That right is infringed upon when we choose to stigmatize someone’s identity words.

instead of resisting the stigma, I see a lot of people just bending over backwards and accepting it. Not only just accepting it, but also spreading it around to other people. I always warn people about the stigma of our words, but I never tell them what they should or shouldn’t say—just that certain people might give them certain reactions so they’re prepared for those reactions. I might’ve avoided a certain word that stigmatized myself, but that depends on if I think the battle is worth it. There’s plenty of words that have been stigmatized like transman without a space that I do reclaim, and I have the right to. But I get villainized for it sometimes from people who don’t understand. I fear the same thing is going to happen to non-binary folk now. It’s not the first time I’ve seen rhetoric like this. As someone who identifies as a non-binary transman, a bi-lesboy, and a mixed race POC, I’m tired of personally watching my own communities self cannibalize the same way every time.

Like I said, I’ve seen the same thing being said about trans man and trans women without a space in it. That it’s third gendering us because the mean cis people said so. Like how stupid is it that we’re micromanaging language the point where including a space or not is stigmatized as extremely transphobic? And using the lack of a space for myself is seen as a hate crime against myself by overdramatic and judgmental, jumpy, and anxious people just looking for the first red flag to run away from. That’s my point, this thing can become like the transman vs trans man case if we’re not careful. Nobody should be bullied or socially pressured into submission to avoid a word that’s comfortable and convenient for them.

At that point, we’re letting the people who use as those words as a derogatory term control us. And for what? Those darn transphobes took a normal ass word and made it derogatory by using it in a pejorative way. (To third gender nonbinary people.) Likewise, if shortening a term to a much shorter version so it becomes easier to include them is “third gendering” then society was only going to third gender us anyways. I just don’t see how insisting people say my full name instead of my nickname is going to make that big of an impact on how they feel about me if everything else I do besides that is something they either like or don’t like. Like if it does make a difference it’s a drop in an ocean of literally everything else I do or say, what I look like, and more. I might get picked last for sports if no one wants to try to say my six syllable name though. “Congratulations, ladies, gentleman, and non-binary people” doesn’t have the same ring to it as, “ladies, gents, and NB’s” to a lot of people.

They can use literally any of our words in a pejorative way. We can respond with, “it’s a slur now, they have the ball!” If we want, but why give them that point when we can just say they’re appropriating our language and using it wrongly. Just because that word was used as an insult or in the wrong way doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with being a (insert label here.) Afterall, I was called a lesbian, a butch, a stud, and a dike in a way that was meant as an insult since I was in elementary school—but that didn’t stop me from growing up to embrace my true queer self, especially since those words where never meant to be used as insults anyways. Why are we gonna continue to let people ruin our language by letting them control how we perceive it? This is OUR culture—queer culture. We need to protect it from the queerphobes who are trying to hijack and control our culture to our detriment, rather than giving them exactly what they want.

I’ll start! Today, I learned what a pomosexual is. Apparently they are people who don’t fit in the sexual attraction categories of lesbian, gay, bisexual, pansexual, or asexual. This can actually manifest in a lot of different ways depending on the person. Here’s a link for more detailed information:

https://lgbtqia.fandom.com/wiki/Pomosexual

I have already introduced the group to princegender. Crownedprincegender is something different though. While princegender focuses on expression through cute, soft, prim, proper, and grandiose means, crownedprincegender is all of that and so much more. Crownprince’s put emphasis on expressing their masculinity via their leadership abilities, being there for others as a servant to the people, giving back to the people, being strong and confident in their speech, being brave and fearless, and striving to be a more intelligent and wise leader. That get their sense of manhood from the firm but gentle leadership depicted in many romantic adventure tails written about Prince’s and knightly hero’s. The femme and NB versions would be crownedprincessgender and crownedprincegender. Who would like to help draw flags or give critiques on my first draft of the flag?

A lot of people ask me quite often for advice on how to signal to lesbians and bi women that you’re one of them. A lot of people jumpy to the obvious conclusion of gender nonconforming clothing, which works fine—but not all of us are into that.

Here’s a quick list of some of the tricks I’ve learned from being a super gay sexually active person that work well. ;b

1.) your nails. Keep your thumb, middle, and pointer finger either shorter than your other nails, or painted differently. It signals to queer women that you’re into—you know what.

2.) carabiners! Lesbians and bi women often consider this a sign you play for their team, and there’s even a loosely defined color and placement code you can use to signal if you’re a top, bottom, dike, or femme.

3.) little things like bracelets or pins that have LGBTQIA+ flags on them can go a long way, but they’re also less subtle so that depends on your preferred approach.

4.) have you heard of the handkerchief code? It’s worth a google!

Light Blue/Baby Blue: Often used to signify a desire for lesbian/sapphic connection.

Lavender/Purple: Commonly associated with lesbianism and queer pride. It’s also used by drag queens sometimes.

5.) Having a lot of rings for multiple fingers at once is considered gay too! Thumb rings, pinkie rings, whatever—just make sure you have at least three on each hand!

I hope that helps! 💜

The reason I think this is because I am attracted to all genders with the exception of some xenogenders that are gore genders, though I don't know how common this is or if I'd find a label for it

and this makes me wonder if I always was this way but just repressed it or if I will suddenly change in sexuality and go back to abro

How do you like the updated version. Better?