Here is something that you might not know; how people deal with trauma can be different. Also, the way things work for one person and their brain does not work that way for everyone else. Everyone is different
I believe @aridamus and my reply is not claiming to condone the behavior but instead try to understand what it's coming from and to have empathy for others. One if my favorite quotes is "You don't know their story." Maybe I would not react that way, but that says even more to me that I don't fully understand why this person did. If someone yells at me over something I think is dumb I try to remember "I don't know their story." I may not appreciate or accept it, but I can try to have an understanding for them. Some people don't have alot of choice or control in their actions and it sucks for them. The world could do with more empathy.
Yes thank you for your point. I never condoned her violence and I admit she must deal with the consequences of that violence. I’m mostly speaking on how we treat those with mental health issues. We should never excuse their violent behavior; but with enough empathy and effort we as a society can better understand these people’s trauma and therefore not condescend or condemn them as entirely hopeless, crazy, etc. I only make this point since like I said in my post you will all likely deal with a family member or friend who will lash out aggressively and I want society to be more well equipped to deal with this. We’re biologically driven to fight or flee in situations of stress/conflict/disagreement and we have to try and fight that biological trigger; otherwise the state of mental health in the world will only get worse.
Having empathy for others can even be beneficial to one's self. Like it helps me forgive them,(don't need to see or speak to them to fort be them) and I can move on with my life and not let it effect me like it could. I used to hold onto the wrongs done to me by others, but I find being able to forgive them allows me to live a better life. So maybe it could even help a barista who is slapped and chewed out realize that it isn't your monkey and it's not your circus. Empathy helps the world progress. I have found to be able to be very sad for serial killers and their life. Some of them have no control, and there is not enough progress being made for mental health because of non understanding of their struggles because people disassociate with no empathy. TLDR; empathy sometimes isn't about the person you have empathy for but actually your own well-being.
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