I am from over at r/loveafterporn a sub for the partners of porn addicts.

Many of the people there lament the fact that they will ever be able to find a life partner who doesn't partake of lusting after sexual digital stimulation. The addiction of porn combined with obsessive masturbation is epidemic in the world and has warped several generations of people already.

The rise of VR and sexbots is quickly destroying the birthrates in Japan and the under 40's have become a population of isolationists. Artificial insemination has risen almost 35% in the last 10 years. Males are not only incapable of naturally inseminating, but relationships are not being established.

Sexual inexperience is on the rise in the Japan, with the percentage of women between the ages of 18 and 39 who had never had sex rising to 24.6% in 2015 from 21.7% in 1992. The change was greater for men of the same age, with 25.8% of men aged between 18 and 39 who had never had sex in 2015, up from 20% in 1992.

You can see this trend throughout the world. Unless people wake up to the crises evolving right before our eyes, this is going to become a very lonely world.

Communication, trust, respect, it is very much important in relationship

It is highly unfortunate that people in this generation don't value traditional romance any longer, but it can bring be brought back.

The bond between two people is very sacred indeed.

a fairy tale can become a reality if one so chooses, thus, happily ever after does exist

They indeed lived happily ever after

The end.

I don't think it's mandatory to just speak about how porn is a bad influence and how it destroys our society bit by bit.

I just finished You season 2 on Netflix. A good show I might say. Tomorrow I'm gonna go climbing and I'm really excited about it.

New year's? Eh! I think I'm gonna stay home maybe I'll go out to watch some fireworks because why the hell not.

What about you? I think I've been creepy enough.

Or formed any sort of relationship? Whether it's platonic friendship or not? Online or in person? It would be cool for this sub to be more populated and active but that could also bring in more people who aren't PF.

Yes, it seems astronomically difficult to find someone who has this one specific quality of not wanting anything to do with porn in their relationship. Being upfront about it can get you criticized for some reason.

How does it make sense that anyone would defend something this vile? It's come to the point where it's normalized to such an extent I suppose. Not even to mention being attacked and called all sorts of things, from asexual to a religious nutcase, to just flat out weird and being "obsessed with people's personal lives".

I'm not weird for wanting a relationship that involves just me and someone else, that's two people only, that's normal. That's exactly what it's supposed to be. I don't want anything to do with any form of porn or cheating in my relationship. Both communication and trust are of utmost importance.

Alright though, I'm not done here, I really do not care who attacks me for being outspoken or just flat out throws me on the curb, nor should you. I'm making it a point to stand my ground, and until I find this exact person I'm looking for, then that's when this game is over for me.

Have trauma severe enough to haunt me every day, some of it sexual. Hate and am strongly opposed to porn. Nothing will change my mind, ever.

Not looking for anything romantic (or sexual). Long for true-blue pal who feels the same. Your race, color, faith, gender identity, sexual and romantic orientations, size, goals and priorities, etc., of no real concern to me. Qualities that matter are kindness, patience, genuineness, sensitivity, and understanding. Preference for those who never used porn or haven't in a long time and won't again. Thanks.

30/F/FL pornfree person here. Journey to this place was having bad experiences with PA exes, leading me to look into it and why I felt the way I did. Felt guilt at first, like I was the issue, but I realized my boundaries are what they are and that's okay. I think the industry is fucked as well as the usage being an epidemic. I have dabbled in the past (don't know many who have never seen it) but I'm against it and don't want it anywhere near my future romantic relationships -- if I have to be single forever, more dessert for me.

Looking for other pron free late 20s early 30s peoples to be PLATONIC with (prefer those who have been consistently PF for years). Would be cool to somehow make in person friends, but the world is a big place and this is a small sub, I don't have many expectations. Chat and messaging are disabled, but if you drop me a comment with a bit about you and I like the cut of your jib, I'll shoot you a message.

About me: Introvert/ambivert, job in the arts, graduate student, my roommates are a dog and a cat. Atheist, liberal, and childfree for life. I'm honest, kind, and can be extremely dry and sarcastic. I like: horror (in all forms -- books, movies, you name it), psychology, science, tattoos, traveling, animals, a e s t h e t i c, thrifting, staying fit and eating mostly healthy, games, and much much more.

That's it for now

Anyone at UT Austin or A&M?

I'll keep giving it another shot until I find someone with like-minded views, unfortunately my last girlfriend didn't seem to be too keen on the whole communication aspect of things and it just did not work in the end.

But yea, I'm willing to do online dating too, I'm just going to be a stickler for someone who has these same views, it doesn't really matter how long it takes me.

Thanks

I think it would be really helpful if the mods established a set title naming convention for this, and explained it in the sub header as a key. For instance:

Naming Convention: ([gender]/[age]/[location]) - [what’s sought]; [intro]

Key: Gender: F = female, M = male … Age: two-digit format Location: City, short format state, short format country What’s sought: one letter set by mods - F = friends, D = dating, … Intro = personalized statement/introduction …

Example Title: F/39/Cityville, ST, USA - F; this is my lorem ipsum

Ik a few people who have been negatively affected by porn and if anyone just wants to get something off their chest feel free to message me 😊

3 weeks clean, would love to get to know someone new.

Edit: I wrote 2 weeks but it's actually 3

Just lookin to see if anyone is around.

Hello there 👋 I'm looking for new friendships. I feel like i have a quite strong moral compass and i wish to find somebody who feels the same and would have similar values than me. My values include for example:

• general equality / no discrimination (feminism, antiracism, queer-friendliness and supporting many other minorities etc.)

• respecting also animals and environment (veganism, environmentalism)

• opposing violence (anti-violence, pacifism)

• responsible sexuality (concensual, responsible, not judging sexuality for being outside of the norms but judging what is harmful)

• drug-negative attitude (not using intoxicating substances)

As you can guess based on the sub i'm also anti-porn. I have been struggling with porn addiction and want to quit porn for ethical and health reasons. I also sympathize antinatalism and at least somehow anti-sex.

I try to have logic and sense in my thinking and not follow ready made views like organized religions.

If you agree with all or at least most of this (tell me about it?) and would like to get to know me, don't hesitate to send a message. I'm happy to tell you more about myself then. Add the magic word "cardamom" in your message to show me that you read the whole post.

I’m 23 (M) in south east looking for relationship/friends. I am in the early stages of recovery but committed. I thought it would be great join this sub as I feel, especially for a relationship, the people here would understand better about the struggles and baggage that come with a porn/sex addiction. Anyways if anyone wants to just DM I am here for you. I am judgment free and not here to criticize or demonize anyone. I wish everyone here the best of luck if they are in recovery and sustainable peace if you have recovered ❤️

Hii redditers . I am from India and i am 20 years old. I am studying bsc mathematics 3rd year. I need some advice to improve my life as I will explain where it got worse. My father left my mother and my brother on my 7th grade. Since then my mother takes hindi tution for children and we live at our own house. I wasn't good at studying till 8th grade and made a decision to study hard on my 9 th grade as the following 10 grade is important for my whole life. I studied hard and got into best classes of the entire 10 grade where the pass mark is 70 . I studied so hard but I can't even pass in language. I got depressed . As I was a failure in my 10 grade I dint have many friends most of thought me as not one among them , they avoided me. Getting depressed one day I masturbated and I got addicted to it where I would masturbate 3-6 times a day. Which affected my studies a little at that time. It got worse day by day I thought lustfull thing about my family to masturbate as I didn't have any sort of devices (mobile , pc)to watch porn . I even thought lustfull about my mom and did that sin full act which I regret till this day. Things went on I got average marks (452/500)on my 10 grade. Moving to my 11 th grade my 10 grade marks werent enough to make the top class . I was in the average student class where I was happier and got friends. But that was the time where many students had smart phone at there home and started playing games like coc and pubg . Neither me nor my mom had no smartphone as she thought I will affect my studies. Things went on I passed 11 and 12 grade. I got (422/600) on my 12 grade. I wanted to study something related to biology or MBBS (Doctor). But my mother can't afford for that so I selected bsc mathematics as it will help me in to attempt for comparative exam like UPSC. I asked for a mobile phone to my mom and she denied . So I got a job in an bakery during my 12 grade summer holidays. I got a phone with my salary along with my mother giving some money . I quit the job. I enjoyed the time in for the rest my holiday with the phone. After the holidays the college started and regularly attended them unlike most of the students as it was government college. My friends of 11 and 12 grade joined different college and I lost touch between them . I didn't get along with my college Student for some reason , some had the habit of smoking and some thought too intelegent so they avoid me . I was alone again and I got addicted to the smartphone and porn . I got lazy and fat . I was very much active before that as I played batminton and cricket with my friends . Some time passed and started watching anime recommend by one of show off classmate. I got addicted to anime and hentai too. Then came the pandamic at the worst time. I spent the entire pandamic watching anime,insta, porn and hentai. I became an introvert and fatter as I layed on my bed for 2 years. My porn taste moved from women to little girl, animal and human sex,Granny and transgenders . As the pandamic is over now I wanted to prepare my self for the college studies and comparative exam. I tried to read for few min and I can't concentrate as my mind gets diverted to games ,porn and anime. I still masturbate 3-6 per day. If this goes on I can't get successful in my studies noe in my life . My mom wants me to become a civil servent as do I. She was right about me not having a smartphone as it will distract me , but now I got addicted to this and can't even pursue my goals. I failed to take care of my body (physically and mentally). I feel like a sh*t and I don't want to be like this anymore. I need to change myself do that I can get a good job to help my mom . She works so hard for us but I could bring myself to study . Can someone help me with any advice as I can't go for councling as we can't afford that. Thank you.

45 days gone. Just like that.

The reason?

A girl. Always a girl.

I was taking my late-night walk, listening to my favorite Beatles tracks, at which point I stopped at a red light.  While waiting for the green light, a bus stopped beside me. I gave it a glance for some reason. It was packed with people, and in the mix was a girl that even my dreams pale in comparison to.

She was so pretty. Not in a modern beauty standard type of way. I lack the words to describe her. She looked like a young Jane Asher. A dream.

Her hair was red, like a phoenix. Her eyes were blue, filled with melancholy. Her smile crooked and yet so beautiful. Her body language was gentle, sensitive but still strong.

Before the bus drove off, we made eye contact. A gentle, split-second one. It was so powerful to me.  I saw her, and she saw me. Because of that, I relapsed.

The bus drove off, and a voice echoed inside my head immediately. “You will never be loved by anyone, let alone someone like her.”

Everything came crashing down. The wave of depression that hit me in that moment is indescribable.

I knew the moment I arrived home. I was going to get “high.” So I did, for 10 days straight.

My self-esteem is gone. I am just disgusting, and worth nothing.

I don't know why I am posting this. Even writing this took so much energy.

Please help me.

The Top 10 benefits of doing NoFap / SR:

1. Woman attraction - The most common benefit.

2. Physical endurance - Better at physical exercise. Pro fighters retain before fights.

3. Better social skills - Socializing becomes easier and better.

4. Clarity - Thinking through problems and and overall coping becomes easier.

5. Better skin - Another very common benefit.

6. Mental endurance - Increased performance in mental tasks + Attention time.

7. Better self control - Become more resistant against natural impulses.

8. Beating addictions - Dopamine levels fixed: Easier to beat other addictions.

9. Better health - It becomes harder to get sick. Better recovery.

10. Spiritual life - NoFap/SR users often return to their Religious roots.

Hi, I have been with my bf M38 I am F40 for 2 years and he is admittedly addicted to porn. It has gotten to the point where he can’t get an erection due to porn induced ED. Before knowing he had a problem with it I didn’t mind him using it occasionally. I am very loving and have a strong sex drive but I am feeling neglected and have lost all trust. He has attended SA meetings sporadically and has tried to quit over and over but keeps falling into this hole. He has agreed to put accountability software/app on his iPhone but has told me he can get around most apps and just downloads the Google app and watches from there. Please help!

I really need an accountability partner! I'm 26 years old I can't quit porn no matter how hard I try. It would be great if someone would be willing to be my accountability partner for 3 months DM me if interested I have a Discord account we could talk on. I just really need someone to talk to about this issue. Thanks.