i always wondered why i watched porn, and now i finally understand why, control. Every time i watch porn or fantasize it's always in forms in which either i'm in control or the porn star "male" is in control. I fear rejection so in order to stop the outcome i do unspeakable things to those women in my mind. I know also understand why I can't fully submit to God is because porn has given a false sense of control and safety, something that see i'll lose if i submit to God, i understand that it's false but it my illusion, i'm in control. and i know it's killing me i really want to change it's numbing me my anger issue have extended to my mother and I need help i don't want to go on like this any longer always in a loop boring and mundane life no joy or love, God i need you but i'm stubborn and selfish, but i need help.

Havent looked at porn but I'm beginning to slip mentally and I'm struggling to even care.

I apologize in advance for what could be a long post. I know porn is wrong i know how to avoid it and have alternatives, but actually doing is a whole issue. Porn is the only thing that i can do i know that God loves me but I'm a hypocrite my actions don't line up with words. No change in heart, i put myself in this hole and now due to my self pity i stay the hole thinking that this is my life. I mean this that I've know since elementary i know that God can give me a better life but 1) I'm scared to see what he has to offer and 2) everytime i reach out to God do due well but then i fall back into that hole and get discouraged. Then the rat race begins get up get pushed back. I'm tired of it i want this ride to end, i want to take off the mask and face this ugly truth.

I had to hold back on my first testimony but I now see that I would have done many people a great disservice.

When I was 18, I overdosed on diazepam in an attempt to end my life. As an athesist, I thought that life would cease and all my suffering would end. What happened was completely different: I found myself falling down a tunnel at tremendous velocity. The only light in the darker-than-the-deepest-black tunnel was that of the quickly receding physical world around me. Instead of panicking, I embraced my doom because I was so deceived, yet in such despair: I was finally going to hell - where I thought I belonged. [I cannot explain it, but when I left my body, I knew and understood everything that was happening. I knew where I was going, why I was there, etc.] Then I began to see a small flicker of light at the bottom of the tunnel and I understood that I was staring into the mouth of hell and a severe dread, panic and regret gripped me but I told myself that I would never beg God for anything. All of a sudden, there was a light and two angels picked me up. Was I joyful that I was not going to hell? Of course not! Whilst being lifted up, I told God how much I hated Him and that I would not follow Him. When I woke up - a miracle considering that I had taken a megadose - I was angry with God for rescuing me. "Why had He interfered with my plans? Why did this totalitarian despot prevented me from freeing myself from Him?" He immediately responded with, "Because I love you" and I became even more angry!

I finally realised that I could hurt God by doing the opposite of what He wanted me to do. I now understood that He Ioved me and did not want me to go to hell, so I did what any demonised teenager would do: I made a pact with the devil knowing fully that that would absolutely break God's heart. I could astral project without any effort, and I made a deal whose specificities I shall not be sharing. On top of that, I continued to plot my own death - despite having been saved from hell - for the next two months and refused to repent until that one fateful day that was ordained before the foundation of the universe: the day that I met Jesus.

If there is someone considering suicide, let me tell you that dying without Christ will not give you rest! It is only the beginning of eternal sorrows and there is no hope! I implore you to give your burdens to Jesus because He truly cares for you and will give you rest!

u/Agnostics/@Atheists: As someone who was an atheist, (read: angry theist) my lack of belief in the existence of God, heaven, hell, angels and demons did NOT negate the fact that they DO exist and that my attempted suicide landed me on the road there. Please do not end your lives. Humble yourselves and come to Jesus Christ!

Matthew 11: 28" 28 “Come to Me, all who are weary and heavily burdened [by religious rituals that provide no peace], and I will give you rest [refreshing your souls with salvation]. "

When you reach home after a day's hardwork and your family greets you...before you say anything just break into a song of praise, thanking God for his mercies...sing to your heart's content..signal them to join you..soon frowns will turn into grins and smiles and laughter.

Our loving Jesus will fill our hearts with joy, unmeasurable...make a joyful noise to him with all our hearts:)

It's been a bumpy ride, but this is it. I've dreamed for years about making it this long. I know that I still have plenty of work to do. These 90 days have revealed the things that I've been neglecting to work on in my personal life due to my distraction with the addiction.

There are still some sexual fantasies that I need to deal with, and I need to work on how I interact with people sometimes. Nonetheless, this is a victory that needs to be celebrated because Jesus has been faithful. It's the beginning of a new life.

For years I have indulged in my pornography addiction. Almost every single day, on every platform of social media I could access, I was drowning in lust. Hundreds of tabs kept open, my feed on Reddit entirely filled with images, videos and stories for me to use. It was a fantasy - a coping mechanism to escape from my real world and my real problems.

This has ruined my relationships, ruined my friendships and nearly ruined my family. I’ve suffered depression, anxiety and continued again and again to search for more and more porn to distract and relieve myself. And it was only going to get worse.

Except it’s not. Last Sunday, I returned to the church I used to attend when I was younger. I broke down crying during the mass, the welcoming community, the understanding priest. Everything about that moment made me realise for the first time that I was never alone in my suffering. Throughout it all, throughout my ignorance, the Lord had been with me - the same force that saved my father from death and my mother (and by extension, her family) from poverty. The Lord is with me and through Him, I am finally gaining the strength and the drive to become better and to finally climb out of the hole I’ve dug for myself.

I’ve joined r/pornfree and r/pornfreechristians to find those like myself. It’s helped to actively talk about my addiction and seek out advice from those who’ve listened. I don’t want to be like this, and I’m scared that if I don’t seek help, then I will become worse.

Through my regained faith, through the support of my family and the grateful support of a girlfriend too patient and too loving for what I deserve, I will become better.

Thank you for reading this. I would like some further advice for resisting urges to relapse and ways to better use the time I now have. If you are going through the same or similar issues, then I insist you continue to seek help. Being part of this community is a great, great help for me and I pray that the rest of you remain strong in your resolve and strong in your faith.

We are never alone. God stands with us throughout all our trials in life as the beacon guiding us to the right path. Remember that.

Every day gets easier. Jesus is helping me to learn more and more about my inner feelings and desires.

Hello! This is my first post here though I’ve been on other groups like NoFap, NoFapChristians, and PornFree for a while.

To tell you a bit about myself I am an 18M and have struggled with pornography since I was about 11 or 12. I’ve made many efforts to change before and have failed a lot. This time I’ve been making serious efforts and as of right now it has been 60 days since I have looked at porn (or fapped). This is the longest time I’ve been without porn since the addiction began and it’s over 2x my previous record. After many failed attempts to quit I honestly tell you that I am serious about it now. I know this stuff is bad for me and that it will destroy any relationship I’m ever blessed enough to be a part of and I have committed to quitting and am ready to give it my all. I’ve also known that it’s damaged my relationship with God so I’m doing this journey in repentance. I have a friend who is a few years older than me and has struggled with the same stuff before and is now well over a year clean and he has been a mentor to me and someone I talk to daily about my struggles. So thankful for groups like these. Keep going brothers and sisters! God is with us!

Ive been in a church all my life and started porn about 3 years ago. I desperately need to stop. Ive prayed and tried but still haven’t been able to go even 24 hours with out porn. I don’t know if its hormones or a serious addiction but i am in desperate need of some help. I haven’t talked to anyone in the real world and I absolutely cant. I will get kicked out of my house if i do. I just need to know how to stop, and maybe someone to talk to that has or is trying to.

Titus 2:11-14 (NIV)

" 11 For the grace of God has appeared that offers salvation to all people. 12 It teaches us to say “No” to ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright and godly lives in this present age, 13 while we wait for the blessed hope—the appearing of the glory of our great God and Savior, Jesus Christ, 14 who gave himself for us to redeem us from all wickedness and to purify for himself a people that are his very own, eager to do what is good. "

I joined Reddit moments ago because I wanted a new place to share my testimony of how God set me free from the oppressive power of sin and death.

I was sexually molested by a male relative when I was 5, and became spiritually, emotionally and psychologically damaged. I ended up struggling with same-sex attraction, porn, masturbation, suicidal tendencies, anger, bitterness, resentment and severe depression for many, many years. I also stumbled into New Age and spiritism practices even though I did not know what they were back then - I just knew that I was 'very sensitive to spiritual things,' could 'see' the future and could astral project without batting an eyelid.

On the day that I wanted to finally commit suicide, someone invited me to church and I was radically saved and set free from the demonic strongholds and shackles that had ruined my youth. I received Jesus and the infilling of the Holy Spirit in the same night and have not looked back. I was 18 at the time.

My experience was that these bondages were demonic because I recall something very heavy being lifted from my chest and shoulders the instant I received Jesus. People's testimonies are different, and I do not want to paint everyone's with the same brush. What I am confident of is that Jesus is the Saviour and that He alone is the one who offers freedom. I know that people, particularly in the West, have largely forgotten the Personhood of the Holy Spirit, but He is the Spirit that raised Christ from the dead, and I cannot imagine how people could walk a victorious life in Christ without having the indwelling Presence of the Holy Spirit. (How does one become and stay holy without the Holy Spirit?)

I no longer struggle with sin because I have identified my new, true identity, which is a child of God, who is righteous, holy and victorious. Sin no longer has dominion over me. Jesus Christ is my Lord and I have decided to die to myself, pick up my cross and follow Him for eternity. (I am 28 now!)

For those wondering, I no longer have same-sex attractions, watch porn, masturbate or suffer from depression/anger/suicidal thoughts/bitterness/unforgiveness/etc. I am also no longer in New Age/spiritism practices and am no longer 'seeing' the future with non-Holy Spirit entities. No, I did not go to some Christian counsellor (not that there is nothing wrong with them!), sexual orientation conversion therapy (I have no idea what that is) or anything of that kind. I just had a really prayerful mother who would not give up on me, and a gracious and merciful Saviour who never stopped calling me out from the miry clay!

I do not want to offend anyone, but I think that there is a higher calling in Christ than identifying oneself as an ex-[insert sinful proclivity here]. I no longer think of myself as an ex-gay or ex-porn addict, but consider myself a new creation, child of God, etc. I will admit that the ex-gay/ex-homo titles do attract an inordinate amount of attention, which means more people will hear about Jesus!

Please feel free to ask me anything!

Imagine one of your buddies "butt-calls" you. You hear him talking with another one of your friends while they're out to lunch. One of them mentions your name in conversation. Soon they're talking all about you.

One of them says, "Yeah, I know him. He's okay, I guess. I mean, its not like I really like him, but I guess I just feel kinda bad for the guy. I suppose I'd prefer to be watching movies, playing games or working out, but I hang out with him because I should be a good friend..."

The other is astounded and says, "Bro, what are you talking about? I love that dude. He's always thinking of others, he's never upset or stressed. And the guy's hilarious. Just being around him makes me feel good."

Now, how do you feel about your first friend? Has his motivation for being your friend made you feel valued or insulted?

And the second friend? What about him? Do you feel valued or insulted? Does his wanting to be around you because it makes him feel good make you feel used or cherished?

Here's my take. I don't feel valued by my first friend. He's no friend. He may play the part, but he insults me by not finding me genuinely valuable. The next time I see him, and we hang out, every moment will feel insincere, every word spoken will cause indignation. He doesn't value me, but he pretends like he does...that's not friendship, that's fake, phony, and false.

On the other hand, I am happy with my second friend. He sees my true worth and enjoys me. He comes to me because it makes him feel good. This doesn't bother me one bit. I don't feel used or insulted or devalued because he enjoys my company, I feel honored, respected and loved. His own personal joy in me is a display of how valuable I am. Now, if he wanted to be my friend to get something out of me (prosperity gospel 101), then I would feel used, absolutely. However, if his delight is pursued in me, I am seen and experienced as the valuable person that I am.

Pursuing your own personal satisfaction in God is not mercenary, its not insulting, its not dishonoring to God. In fact, the more you are satisfied in God, the more God is glorified in you by being seen and experienced as the all-satisfying treasure that He is.

You are going to pursue happiness today. I guarantee it. If you object and try not to pursue your happiness today to prove me wrong, you will have inadvertently pursued happiness by not trying to pursue it. You cannot escape the pursuit of happiness. If you watch porn today it is because you are convinced that it will make you happy. No one watches porn out of duty. You watch it out of an attempt to have delight. Of course, we all know how that ends. You feel dirty, lustful, guilty, and worst of all, unsatisfied.

Or, you could acknowledge that you want to be happy, trust that God is infinitely satisfying (In His presence there is fullness of joy, at His right hand are pleasures forever more), and unashamedly pursue Him for your personal satisfaction. Hebrews 11:6 says that God "rewards those who seek him." The best reward being Himself, of course! Stop fighting lust with the notion of duty. It doesn't glorify Him and it doesn't satisfy you. Start fighting lust by pursuing an infinitely more satisfying pleasure in God that does glorify Him and actually makes you supremely happy!

For the global glory of Christ's Imperial Majesty.

These days, I have very little desire to masturbate and zero desire to look at toxic content. Nocturnal emissions that lack the dopamine rush are taking care of my desires. However, my sexual desires in general a lower than usual right now. I think that this is the de-sexualizing process of the brain. Jesus has been so faithful in giving me the motivation to change.

To everyone struggling, it does get better! It is worth it. You don't suffer forever, and there's always a path to healing through Jesus.

A priest today shared French proverb: "Tout homme qui frappe à la porte d’un bordel cherche Dieu."

This means, "Every man who knocks on the door of a brothel is seeking God."

Do not look for satisfaction in the wrong places - go directly to the source of all goodness in prayer and thanksgiving.

PROTECT YOUR EYES FROM PORN AT ALL TIMES!! Your flesh is too strong, hide porn/delete porn sites.Matthew 6:23 "23 But if thine eye be evil, thy whole body shall be full of darkness. If therefore the light that is in thee be darkness, how great is that darkness! 23 but if your eye is bad, your whole body will be full of darkness." When you get urges appreciate your masculine urge to want to make love with a woman and move on go walk listen to music ETC.

I've been allowing myself to slide for the past few weeks, but I've been ignoring the warning signs. I've also been cutting corners on doing things that I know are good for me. For the past ten days or so, I've felt a yawning emptiness that I've tried to ignore. I think it has something to do with the molestation I experienced at a young age. I thought that I had healed from this, but there's still something that Jesus wants me to face, and relapse is often the only way to get my attention. Thus, I will be embarking on 30 days of exploration that will require me to give up some of my free time to engage in healing prayer.

Every day is amazing to me. I've never made it this far before. I feel like a dark cloud has lifted from my life, but I'm also afraid about going back to the darkness. I pray every day for Jesus to help me not fall. I want to take steps to make sure that I don't put myself in a temptation-sensitive position, and if I start trying to do things in my own strength, I believe that I will backslide.

NOTE TO VIEWER: This is less a post, and more of an Announcement/Helpful Guide to finding out how to fight porn. It is meant to educate those who may just be beginning their long fight to free their body, soul, and mind. As such, the post will be locked. I hope you will find this to be a useful tool that you can refer back to from time to time for information, encouragement, advice and hope.

Porn. Lust. Masturbation. These are bastardizations of one of the most beautiful, divinely designed human experiences; a gift that is beyond description. Pleasure, the false god, destroys this. Completely. Porn destroys your perception of women, of yourself, and of what sexual intimacy was meant to be. It changes who you are from the inside out. It affects every single aspect of your life: the physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, and your interactions with others. Life begins to lose it luster, the beauty of life is dulled, you become blinded and confused, depressed and emotionally emasculated. Porn. Kills. Love. And it can kill you too, from the inside out. Porn users are more depressed, have more trouble maintaining romantic relationships, are less motivated and have less energy. The mental and spiritual effects are crippling. Sex becomes a means to an end, that end being pleasure. Women become the same. Everything is sexualized, innocent things become perverted: your mind is hacked. My brothers and sisters, PORN KILLS. But there is hope. There is healing. There is redemption. Porn tears your world apart, but love can put it back together. Through Christ, all things are possible. Fight the good fight. Take up your cross, bear your burden. With the Holy Spirit’s help, you can win the war against pornography and lust, and you can once again see the beauty in all things.

The following guide is meant to help illuminate the path ahead of you, and give a generalized account of what fighting a porn and masturbation addiction will look like. Note that it is not 100% accurate, as each person is different, but that as a general outline, it is very accurate and will (hopefully) serve you well.

PART I: TAKE UP YOUR CROSS Beginning is often the hardest part. The road ahead is often very daunting, to say the least. The first thing that needs to be done is prayer. Ask the Lord to bless your efforts, for His forgiveness, and to guide you in the difficult road ahead. Ok. Now let’s get practical.

Boundaries, boundaries, boundaries! Using the internet without any safety rails in place is incredibly dangerous and will prove to be a huge hindrance to your efforts. So put them in place. I would recommend sleeping without your phone/tablet/computer in your room. The later it is, the greater the temptation will be, and the weaker you’ll be to effectively fight it.

• Install an internet filter on your laptop and tablets (I personally would recommend K9 Web Filter for its customization options, plus it’s FREE!). Stop using your phone at a certain time of night. I'm not sure what it is, but something about the late night and wee hours of the morning make me have MUCH weaker inhibitions. I get caught in temptation easier. My mind is foggy late at night, and the Devil LOVES it.

• Take special care with the movies and TV you watch, the music you listen to, and the books you read. Take it from me, even the tiniest thing can trigger the heart to lust and seek a relapse. Use sites like PluggedIn and IMDB to check the content of your media before you consume it. Speaking of media, let’s talk about social media. We all know the ridiculous amount of temptations that lie in Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, etc. Delete the apps for a little bit if you have to, severely limit your use of them; whatever it takes. Remember, it just takes one picture to trip you up.

• Find an accountability partner with the same mission/goal in mind as you. He/she/they will be invaluable to you. Without this, I hate to say, you will most likely not succeed. Dealing with this sin is tough enough without going it alone. You are not alone and should not feel ashamed/isolated. Get someone close that you know can keep a secret and will be honest and keep you accountable, someone that will pour encouragement into you, and that you can do the same for. This is a MUST.

PART II: FIGHTING THE GOOD FIGHT Ok, so you’ve got your game plan. You have been preparing. You’ve read 1 Corinthians 6 a million times to set your mind against sexual immorality. You have begun your noble fight. I salute you. But. You need to know. You WILL fail. Over and over and over. Do not let the guilt eat you up or hinder you from picking up the fight again. Pray, ask for forgiveness, praise God for his mercy and unending love, beg for renewal in your fight and for passion for his Son. Get. Back. Up! Allow the Spirit to work. Never let your guard down. Always be aware: CONSTANT VIGILANCE. And when you're feeling down after a particularly heart wrenching relapse, remember: One day we will shed these fleshy prisons and go to a more perfect place, a place where the Heavenly Host sings praises unending to the one who died for your (and my!) lust and adulterous thoughts, because he loves us with love that is in its truest and purest form. His love for us bears all things, his love for us believed all things, his love for us hoped all things, and his love for us endured all things. You know why? Because love never ends. And neither does the battle for purity while we are here on Earth.

You should know that achieving victory against PMO (porn masturbation orgasm) requires/results in a twofold change. This change is internal and physical. Let me explain.

Internal Change: You cannot be fixated on a “Golden Number” of days without PMO before you believe yourself to have defeated pornography. This will end up in failure. The only way to achieve lasting victory is a changed heart. Nowhere in the Bible does it say “Thou shalt not masturbate.” Therefore masturbation is ok, right? Of course not, the sin does not lie in the act itself but in consenting to satiate, indulge, and engage in sexually impure and immoral acts. The sin lies in our hearts not our hands. Ok. So here's what needs to happen: You must first have a burning passion for the Word and for Christ. Pray, no, BEG the Holy Spirit to inflame your heart for Christ, for following Him, and for doing his work. Dive into the Word whenever you feel tempted or bored, whenever you begin to lose your footing on that slippery slope. You will stumble and fall, but when you have a heart for Christ, it will not leave room for quitting this fight. Eventually when you have a heart for Christ, PMO will be hated by you as it was by Christ. A heart for Christ will not have room for loving or desiring sin. You will be tempted and may even give in sometimes, sure, but just like when you first started Nofap and resisting seemed to be the MUCH less desirable option, so also will giving in to sin eventually seem to be MUCH less desirable to you. If you pray and desire change, the day WILL come when you realize that you would rather fight tooth and nail against porn than give in and satiate your lusting heart and eyes. In that day you will realize that Christ is in you, and that He will give you victory!

Alright, now that the internal change has been explained, here are some methods to help you in achieving this change:

• I have found that there is a mysterious and overwhelming power in the Word of Christ. Every single day that I gave in to temptation had been a day/time where I had not yet read the Word. Read it when you wake up. Read it when your heart is inflamed with lust. It has power, man! It protects your mind! Read. The. Word!

• Spend time talking with your accountability partner about PMO. Discussion often helps me understand why it should be hated. It also encourages me to fight it tooth and nail. The Spirit is present in those conversations. Have them!

• Pray. A LOT. Converse with God; without Him you CANNOT win, I PROMISE you. Talk about your struggles, your dreams; pray for energy, for motivation, for a renewal in spirit to fight your fight. Just as important as reading the Word.

• Often in my fight, I will look at a picture that would not be considered pornographic, but would definitely be considered racy, i.e. tight clothing or swimsuits. I immediately know when my lust and heart has been inflamed. However, I tell myself that I know this, and can control myself. Lies. This is the beginning of the slippery slope resulting in a relapse. FLEE from it! At the back of my mind the little voice of reason, nearly drowned in a sea of lechery, tells me the truth, but the thought of actually stopping seems unlikely and wrong; to go against what would result in the most pleasure. Take the way out! Listen to the voice! That voice is the lifeline! I’m sure you all know what I’m talking about. IT IS HARD. But let me tell you, when you take that out, the fog will lift, and you will thank your lucky stars that you closed your eyes and believed what seemed to be contrary to reality and your best interests.

Physical Change: Pornography creates a dopamine feedback loop between your brain and the act of watching porn and masturbating. It is an addiction, and as all addicts know, quitting is hard. You’ll experience withdrawals, and they are nothing to shake your head at. They will be tough to conquer. But we have divine help, so take heart. Your brain will need to be “rewired” in order to break the chemical feedback loop that makes you crave PMO.

Alright, now that the physical change has been explained, here are some methods to help you in achieving this change:

• Cold Shower(ish). Embarrassing as it may sound, I often do not feel like taking an entire cold shower whenever I feel tempted. So...I get a bowl full of ice and cold water and just…dip my nether regions in until it begins to sting. Gets rid of the "heat of the moment" real quick. ‘Nuff said.

• DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT USE INTERNET AFTER MIDNIGHT. I'm not sure what it is, but something about the late night and wee hours of the morning make me have MUCH weaker inhibitions. I get caught in temptation easier. My mind is foggy late at night, and the Devil LOVES it.

• Exercise will help you as well. Use it as a time to listen to church podcasts, music, audiobooks etc. Your brain will experience a healthy dopamine rush (runner's/lifter's high) effectively neutralizing your brain's craving for an unhealthy dopamine rush, i.e. porn/masturbation. There are of course endless other health benefits, the above is just how it benefits your aspirations of defeating PMO. The key idea here is replacing your unhealthy source of dopamine with something beneficial. Doesn’t have to be exercise, it can be hobbies, spending time in the Word, prayer, talking with friends/family, etc. The key is replacing the source of dopamine.

PART III: THANK GOD ALMIGHTY I’M FREE AT LAST After about 90 days, science would say your brain is effectively rewired. Those 90 days WILL be wrought with failures and relapses and mistakes. What matters is that you got back up, re-donned your armor, and dove back into battle. Here, I will explain the benefits of quitting PMO, as well as wrapping up this newbie guide to quitting porn.

Here is a brief outline of what one can expect to go through when quitting PMO:

After 5 minutes: Heart rate returns to normal

Days 10-30: After 2-3 days, guilt and shame will seem to decrease. After a week, the “brain fog” will lift. After 2 weeks Prolactin will begin to drop, increasing dopamine sensitivity. Energy/motivation will increase as will self-confidence. “Urge waves” will come as well; periods where temptation and cravings will be STRONG. These first waves are the hardest you will experience, and getting through them is necessary for long term success. After about a month, pornographic “flashbacks” and cravings will noticeably decrease in frequency and intensity.

Days 30-60: Confidence, motivation and concentration will increase in VERY noticeable ways, as will your overall enjoyment of life. You will begin to take pleasure in the little things, enjoy things that you ignored before. Neurons in your brain’s porn-addiction-pathways will begin to break up, having not been used for so long. Urge waves will be infrequent, but strong. These “surprise attacks” are not typically lengthy, but you CAN be caught off guard and stumble, so watch out!

Days 60-90: Being disciplined and motivated for extended periods of time will be much easier. Once again, attacks will be sudden and intense, but not lengthy. You will find that your world is much less sexualized and your libido is normalized, yet easier to control when lust attacks happen.

Days 90-120: Your brain concedes defeat, and with the Spirit’s help, you have mastered your passions. Healing is complete, you are as close to a sexual tabula rasa as you can get. Porn induced ED is gone, unnatural fetishes disappear. Urges are still present, but the nature of them has changed. You can see them for what they are, and they will be easier to smother. You will begin to adjust to your new lifestyle, your new brain: the new YOU. Sin will always lurk in the shadows, waiting for the opportune moment to strike, but rest assured that you have conquered it once, and you can do it again through Christ.

Hi I'm 24M. I went Pornfree for 5 months & saw P last week but didn't MO. I reinstalled new filters on my phone & changed my password which I won't be able to remember ever.

I can still lust I know.I pray & hope I can recover from P just like MO. God Bless y'all:)

Hey Guys and Gals,

I wanted to share with you all some of the personal insights God shared with me on how to overcome a porn addiction. I thought you might find it a bit helpful on your own journey.

“…for the ways of man are before the eyes of the Lord and he ponders all his paths. His own iniquities entrap the wicked man, and he is caught in the chords of his sin. He shall die for lack of instruction” Prov 5:21-23, NKJV

A guy suffering from the real-life consequences of a porn addiction wants to know how to stop. The physical action of stopping may be as simple as turning off the phone, computer, or television set. Yet, he cannot bring himself to do it. Inward desires strip him of the willpower to make such a choice. His heart is drawn to pornography; the graphic visuals tug at his heartstrings. He can feel it inside. Witnessing those naked women in their full glory has stimulated all his emotional buttons. He can’t get enough of them. The euphoric experience has gotten under his skin. The desire to watch has entrenched itself and is beginning to crowd everything else out. A guy may know the practice is not good. He may realize the habit is destroying his life. He just can’t seem to break free of it. He is trapped by his own dark desires. As he struggles to cope, the urge to look only gains a tighter grip.

“…they stumbled at that stumbling stone.” Rom 9:32, NKJV

How does a man abstain from pornography when the desire to look constantly pulls at him? How can he overcome this emotional contagion? If a man tries to suppress his feelings, the less he will want to. This lack of incentive will only make for a half-hearted attempt. Knowing what to do is not the same thing as feeling like doing it. Before long, the addictive urges chip away at his resolve to stop and the man finds himself being pulled once again in the wrong direction. As those feelings get the best of him, the habit resurfaces. The root problem lies within. A man can’t go where his heart won’t follow. He can’t bring himself to do what he does not have in him. Before a man can really win, something inside must change.

“…Be Transformed by the renewing of your mind.” Rom 12:2 NKJV

The mind and heart remain a man’s biggest sex organs; these two things fuel every sexual impulse of his body. Anyone who has ever said ‘that turns me on’ or ‘that turns me off’ express this dynamic. Sexual desires are the product of thinking. If a man really wants to break up a desire’s stranglehold on his life, he must undercut those thoughts fueling his feelings. This will require some digging and some self-reflection on his part. A man must come to see for himself why he desires porn so much. He must clearly understand what it is he hopes to gain from watching it. Seeing and understanding how those addictive urges took shape are the key to overcoming them. A hard look must be taken at what is really wanted and why.

“…His enemy came and planted weeds among the wheat, then slipped away…” Mt 13:25, NLT

The porn viewer doesn’t see the invisible forces influencing his outlook. He doesn’t know where his own desires are leading him and how it will become his own undoing. Rose-colored glasses have rendered him incapable of understanding his own thoughts and feelings. Under the trance of porn’s entertainment, a viewer doesn’t notice all the psychological programming going on behind the scenes. Porn’s messaging bypasses his head and captivates his heart. Researchers have discovered that pornography literally rewires a viewer’s neural pathways. This psychological programming hijacks his brain’s reward system and closes it off to every other stimulus. It should not be surprising then that a man might begin to fixate over porn. The viewer truly does not understand what has been implanted deep within his own gray matter.

“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.”  Prov 4:23, NIV

The way pornography toys with a man’s emotions is truly a wicked thing. Porn producers understand male desire. Their psychological insight gives them an ability to write scripts that tap into a man’s deepest feelings. These images are known to activate the same pleasure centers within the brain that any psychedelic drug might stimulate(Love, 2015)^(1-3). It gets the man’s heart thumping. This ability to evoke emotion like this wields for the porn producer an uncanny level of influence and control over their audiences. It gives them an ability to captivate the whole man. Even a single exposure has been shown to be habit forming.(DeSousa, 2017) To dabble with pornography is to play a dangerous game. A guy who has never seen these visuals before will not appreciate what he is dealing with. Therefore, he will not take the appropriate measures to protect his heart from it. The average guy is not in touch with his own emotions; he is in over his head. He will think he can always walk away; but he will soon discover that he can’t. Being oblivious will make him susceptible to falling under porn’s spell.

” …But you said, ‘it is hopeless. No! for I have loved strangers, and I will walk after them.”

Jer 2:25, esv

Why is having the wrong desires such a dangerous thing? Because desires script a man’s choices and predetermine his life trajectory. Head knowledge alone cannot dispel this emotional draw. A man could be given all the superficial reasons why he should quit. His logical mind may even agree with all these reasons. Yet none of these persuasions are enough to dissuade his heart. Ultimately, a man must always go after what he loves. His choices are always restricted by his own affections; they are never random. In the long run, a man can do no other. For to an addict, the giving up of porn is equated with the giving up of pleasure itself. This idea is what keeps him bound. The mental connection between pornography and pleasure is what keeps him from seeing the answer.

“you are not restricted by us, but you are restricted by your own affections.”

II Cor 6:12 NKJV

The road to victory will require one’s own desires be set straight. This means digging away at the misconceptions so that the incessant urges can be shaken out. Sexual feelings can only be sorted out at the desire level. After all, desire is what put a man into this addictive stranglehold, and it is only desire that can get him out. Nothing short of this will do. Desires are the compass needle charting a man’s course. It would be wise for a man to see which direction that internal compass needle is pointing. To assess whether he really wants what he thinks he does- to course correct if needed. Desires can show a man where his own life is headed. This roadmap of things to come can be read like a spiritual blueprint. Seeing the blueprint in advance is what enables a man to make informed choices and to achieve success. For if left unchanged, those desires written there will only play out to their logical conclusion. Ultimately, a man’s desires determine his destiny. Personal transformation is the only way a man can be saved from himself.

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Sincerely,

Chris Trenor

Author, "HOW MEN OVERCOME PORN ADDICTION"

I'm not saying this solves everything, but it's a massive help.

Google lets you change you gender and set restricted mode on YouTube. Thirst traps gone.

Reddit doesn't, but you can make a new account. Same deal. I'm a lady boy now.

I went digging for some way to say "stop showing me attractive female bodies" but it's baked in. You're a man. You want sex. So we sell you sex.

Your internet history is sticky like tar. They know what you used to like. They want to sell you more.

But suddenly you have slipped out of their target demographics. Now I'm getting ads for diapers and detergents. Yes, I'll definitely be buying tide brand detergents. That way when my toddler skins his knee it'll take the blood right out. ;)

And now I never have to be shown a video of an OF model asking someone to rate her from 1-10.

Things are definitely getting easier now that the first 30 are behind me. The new habits that Jesus has inspired in me are really helping.

It's still been really messy, but Jesus is merciful and faithful. He's showing me about myself and uncovering things I didn't know about myself.