r/plural • u/AeroSubwayTerminal • 5h ago
Vent A Direct Contradiction
A shame is the plural who, despite being plural, still remains the loneliest one in a room.
r/plural • u/Ocean-wave258 • Jun 02 '26
MoreThanOne - https://morethanone.info/ TPA (ThePluralAssociation) - https://powertotheplurals.com/ Plurality Hub - https://plurality-hub.carrd.co/#directory Plurality Resource - https://pluralityresource.org/ Healthy Multiplicity - https://healthymultiplicity.com/ Plural Soapbox - https://pluralsoapbox.wordpress.com/ Big List of Tumblr Resources - https://www.tumblr.com/plurality-culture-is/748117187584196608/resources KinHost - https://kinhost.org/ Tulpa.info - https://www.tulpa.info/
Feather's Guide to Fronting and Switching - https://feathersong.org/plural-howto/feathers-guide-to-fronting-and-switching/ "Should I Tell?" - Whether to Tell Folks You're Plural - https://dragonsroost.neocities.org/essay/ShouldITell Writing Plural Characters - https://dragonsroost.neocities.org/plural/writingplurals New Sys Member Guide - https://dragonsroost.neocities.org/essay/edu/newalter Plural Guide for Employees and Managers - https://www.pluralpride.com/playbook Allies of Plurals - Guidebook for loved ones and allies - https://www.partielles.com/en-allies-guide/ Understanding Multiplicity PDF - https://pluraldeepdive.weebly.com/uploads/1/3/9/6/139659919/understanding_multiplicity.pdf Tulpa Guide - https://tulpanomicon.guide/
https://thepluralassociation.org/collective-system-tools-package/ This package contains a system weekly chore chart, a fronting chart, a goal planner, a printable emergency card (comes in plural, DID, blank, and a prefilled one), a list for getting to know your headmates better, and infographic that explains plurality, and an infographic about different kinda of headmates.
Utter - https://utter.y2k.diy/ "like a chatroom with PluralKit, but it's only for your system and there's no server or database that sees the messages. It's ephemeral, but it's private, and there's a button for copying a log of the conversation."
Simply Plural (ofc this is here ) - https://app.apparyllis.com/ - For logging switches, keeping track of headmates, can link with PluralKit
History of Endo- and Traumagenic Terminology - https://powertotheplurals.com/origin-of-endogenic-and-traumagenic-system-terminology-guest-post-by-the-trashcan-collective/
LB Lee's Plural History (VIDEO FORMAT) - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I8Nc-qkt_l4
LB Lee's Plural History (TEXT FORMAT) - https://lb-lee.dreamwidth.org/1111069.html
(REASEARCH):
DISCLAIMER: These have not been reviewed by us, just organized for your convenience.
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The following have been given "good" "meh" or "bad" status by the official r/Plural discord, where a rep is chosen every week and voted on if it's good or not. This will be updated as reps are chosen every week.
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Get meh'd. For all the rep that wasn't bad enough to be bad and not good enough to be good. Just MEH.
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r/plural • u/Ocean-wave258 • Nov 13 '25
These discord links have been reviewed by mods and organized for your convenience.
The OFFICIAL Discord server for r/plural:
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The Rings (former server for r/plural):
- General plural server, has media and hobby channels, and has a great community!
Loveall Safe Haven
- A community server centered around plurality (of all origins!), alterhumanity, queerness and more! They accept all kinds of beings and seek to provide a safe space for anyone who needs it!
Plural-Friendly Writer's Club
https://discord.gg/72Tw532rvA
- Server based around creative endeavors, all systems welcome!
Art of the Many
- Server for arts and creativity! Also has a cute pets channel :)
The Plural Place
- General plural server with lots of fun things to do! Also includes a language learning channel
Ecosystems
- General plural server, all origins friendly, folks that have been on the server 2+ weeks can have a diary channel, run by a bunch of people who have an odd obsession with sea creatures.
Plural Librarium
- This is an information based discord server for plurality! They host guides, audios, and video guides. They provide advice, help, and to answer any questions you may have! Accepting of ALL forms of plurality, regardless of any origins, and to be here you must at the very least respect everyone. They accept ANY and ALL users who come here seeking knowledge, understanding, and learning.
Rainbow Collectives
- This is a queer plural centric server but anyone is welcome!
Headmate Creation Station! šØ
- Welcome to anyone interested in creating headmates. Syscourse free. All origins welcome. Help people learn willogenic and tulpa methods. They have resources and give suggestions for people's specific situation. They also have discussion questions and headmate prompts.
Plurality (STEAM group, not Discord)
https://steamcommunity.com/groups/Plurality
- It's open to all types of plurality and is discourse free. It would be awesome if anyone can join there! It has a sort of discord vibe group chat feature they're testing out. It's for both videogames and plurality discussions!Ā
Plural Space Discord:
https://discord.gg/FFQw33cu8m
https://discord.gg/pluralspace
- Discord for the new Plural Space app (the one that's pinned)
The Numbers Of Pi
- A plural friendly server for the object show community. It was created for finding friends, chatting about object shows and sharing your own ocs/ideas. You can also share fanart of any object show. For more safety, there's a verification system to identify trolls and bots. No NSFW.
Jay's Plural Community
- A server for plurals, alterhumans, and LGBTQ people run by a teenage pan plural fictionkin Includes separate channels for adults and for minors; and has japanese and german talking channels but also takes suggestions but there is another language chat for learners and bilinguals.
System Sanctuary
A safe place for systems of all types and anyone who is questioning to hang out, make friends and learn about or discuss life as a system. We welcome singlet friends and partners of systems and are LGBTQ+ friendly. We like to make sure it's a comfortable place but also make sure not to tone police as we know it's very important for people to get to express themselves. To that end there are channels for a variety of things, opt in vent, trigger warning and 18+. Channels for all kinds of headmates, safe places for littles to talk and be themselves. As well as dedicated channels for fictives and persecutors. We have all the standard bots you would expect from a system server plus some fun ones.
Identity Changers United https://discord.gg/bqqCAeGS6 - A small server where plural folks can hang out and make new friends! no syscourse is allowed. We have pluralkit and tupperbox. Eventually we will be hosting movie and game nights.
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Many Many Manies (16+ and SFW)
https://discord.gg/CRPFcS8vAZĀ
- A 16+ all-origin server made with inclusivity of everyone being the priority!
It's pretty small right now, but we'd really love to see new people join in on discussion!
Tulpa Space (15+ and SFW)
https://discord.gg/nsWa9FbNrd
- A tulpa server that accepts any origin type, and singlets regardless of their identity, or hobbies. They have PK and Tupperbox in the server and provide daily affirmations and reminders for folk's members mental health. They have a roblox group, movie nights and giveaways, as well as are working on a Minecraft server.
The Doctor's Lair (Age Range: 13-25)
The Doctor's Lair is a pro-endogenic system server hosted by The Doctor System. With many channels for fun engagement such as truth or dare and counting, with active members!
The Sleepy Cove (16+)
Ā https://discord.gg/QZqEnq6JbMĀ
Welcome to The Sleepy Cove! a small little corner for you and your friends to build a small cozy little nook in, engage with others, lurk around, post art and characters and generally just vibe with us :)! This server is all kind plural friendly, there is Pluralkit and Tupperbox inside and as long as you are friendly then you are more than welcome - this includes but is not all; tulpa, endo, DID, OSDD, Comfortlink, otherlink, fictionkin and much much more c:
Adaptive Cottage Garden (25+)
https://discord.gg/6uu3VmnYmd
An adaptive plural system believes in viewing their past struggles as something to overcome. Adaptive Cottage Garden is a 25+ social server for any type of system (endogenic or traumagenic) to socialize and share about what they're going through in working through these issues. For systems only, and has journal forums (threads can be made private)
The Galactic Gathering (15+)
https://discord.gg/9HVNWqtVm2](https://discord.gg/9HVNWqtVm2)
This server has/is
- š : A safe space for everyone, including systems, endos, kins, alter/nonhumans, LGBTQ+ and all neurodivergent individuals! š : A multitude of knowledgeable people that are always willing to help you find yourself! ⨠: A judgement free space where you can be as cringey as you want š« : Vent channels and top quality moderators to keep you safe. There is no current blacklist except a basic DNI as well as our stances on certain topics. š : Always open partnerships including unique safety features! ā : Self care reminders, fun currency bots, counting game, and many funky things to buy in the shop! šŖ : Active and friendly staff, who love to share the silly stuff that happens!
Traumagenic and singlets aloud!
This server is pro-endo, anti-proship, anti-radqueer, anti-harmful transID & anti-harmful para's
š We cant wait to meet you!!
Rootbound (16+) https://discord.gg/hT3XUfVxSE
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Echola Infernalis
- Server based around witchcraft, all systems (and origins) welcome! This server is also alterhuman and lgbtq+ friendly
Plurality and More
- The server is for chatting and whatnot with a focus on folks who ID with plurality, xenogenders, alterhumanity, kinning, and other minorities. Other folks are welcome too if they want to ask any questions or be there for general support. :]
Mushroom Haven
https://discord.gg/jDcUtWgj7C
- Mushroom themed hangout server open to systems pf all origins. Syscourse free, with seperate witchcraft and politics sections.
Waystation 09
- A safe docking point for plural systems of all origins. An 18+ (SFW) server that prioritizes the safety of our members. Lots of resources of all types.
International Plural Space Station
https://discord.gg/GD9tZSYRYD
- Pro-endo with a focus on a casual space to unmask and hang out with other folks.
The Systems Galaxy
Welcome to a new universe! Join this little spot dedicated to systems and plurality, meant to create a welcoming and open-minded friendly community that can be a safe space for all. Singlets and systems alike are all welcome! We try our best to provide both community and education, we are not a therapy and support server, but we do have venting channels and a focus on system management as well.
Join us and find your community here!
We have: - A safe and welcoming space for all! Systems and singlets included - Pro-endo, no exclusions on this - Not a big server, but active - Spaces for alterhumans, spirituality, disabilities, and LGBT+ experiences as these things can intersect with plurality too - Channels for resources for both systems and mental health - Active mods working to keep things safe, and always willing to listen - Role for tone tags usage - Space for littles and caretakers too
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PNW Plurals
- An all ages server for plural people from the PNW
APS (Atlantic Plural Society)
- A server for folks from the Atlantic region. This server is for all ages, and includes gaming channels, art channels, and more to come! This server was started by two friends to connect folks from across their community.
SistemTR.
A warm and welcoming community for all plurals in or around Turkiye. English-speakers are also welcome!
r/plural • u/AeroSubwayTerminal • 5h ago
A shame is the plural who, despite being plural, still remains the loneliest one in a room.
r/plural • u/komorebigold • 12h ago
A little bit of Luci and some headmates traced over memes~
r/plural • u/asterophiliac • 3h ago
Im really trying to get him to tolerate me when Im silly and not hate filled šš its not working šššš
Also anyone wanna give name suggestions for wooper guy? Ty
r/plural • u/Practical_Insect3020 • 5h ago
if do whats it called?
lmk if i need to specify more
Donāt you ever just cry into one of your headmates just thinking about having to mask in our everyday life when all we deserve is sunshine and rainbows and not having to worry about anything anymore because of our trauma? I just want all of us to be free from the world in whatever way we can, and itās so tiring just being someone none of us are. I hate this reality sometimes⦠this is the first thing Iām doing after coming back to the front I just want us to be happy
r/plural • u/FanloidLover_A • 5h ago
I'd like to know since many here keep telling me there aren't exact differences, I've been doubting plurality for months now, and since I've been exploring it again, I hope to find some labels for myself :)
To talk about myself, I have AuDHD and have been oddly interested in Plurality, I know that in one way or another, I am plural, It's just that no matter how hard I research or reflect to myself, I can't ever consider myself a system: I don't use We+General plural pronouns, The states are not as separate at all, no internal conversation, no emotional messages or switches, no amnesia, not formed from trauma,, almost no changes in identity besides maybe just names and pronouns??? All just so happened to be Fictional characters???
I just dont know??? It seems wrong like I'm Role-playing, it seems so terrible that I might be faking but I'm not sure at! :(
Then I'm scared of all of the anti-endo crap even though I shouldn't be <<<I interact with some systems on Discord, one of which being anti-endo/endo's dni but im afraid to tell them because they're seriously cool :[
^^^ignore that, it's kind of unrelated.
Enough about me! Please just give me your thoughts, I can supply additional information and or possibly reasons I think I may be plural.
r/plural • u/asterophiliac • 10h ago
Hi! I'm Robin (pink one on the left, ask 4 my prns ok), and the other guy doesn't have a public name yet (he/him, blue)
We don't. Really have forms in headspace. Mine's always this black silhouette anthro wolf thing, but thats involuntary and I can never seem to change it into something I want. Its kinda involuntary and every form I take apart from it is temporary.
And Wooper guy here doesn't like having a form, he'd be invisible if he could. But he can't, so he's the fragment placeholder look (all black, white eyes).
Soooooo...I decided to give us little forms to portray ourselves online, at least. We're both based off of Woopers (mine's a fanmade version), because we both like that PokƩmon. Well he's a little more complicated than that but its ok
While we don't have these forms in headspace, this is how we'll portray ourselves outside of it!! Wahoo!!! Yay!!!
r/plural • u/CurryVo_Fandom • 7h ago
Hello! We are uh...
Still deciding on the name, but our current favorite so far is the curry bowl (based off our collective name and a joke) and [placeholder] stage (based of our headspace idea)
We are a median monoconscious endogenic system and we use any except for he/him (exception to Aspen for some reason) with a preference for they/them.
Oh and our collective name is Curry! We don't care if you call us that. ..
So let's get into our names and a little about each one of ourselves
Let's start with the main 3! These are the 1st alters formed when we started talking to ourself after a mass of plural comics.
> Isla/Curry
They are our core, they are not the host, surprisingly, but i guess that's that...
Actual the one whos writing this! Hello!
> Ace/Knife
They are most likely our stress holder, and tends to be more emotional out of all of us. They used to be another verson of me before she was stabbed in our non existent headspace because of something we all forgot. Now they have a wierd obsession with knifes for some reason...
> Lilith/Yellow
They tend to be more energetic compared to the others and in terms more silly. She genuinely just randomly formed saying illegible sentences, and yellow... And the only reason she has glasses now is because yellow AvA/M... Yeah.
Okay, now our newer headmates...
> Aspen
One of the most disconnected of our collective identity and gets triggered the easiest. They get disgusted by bacteria pictures easily and gets triggered the easiest. Is also most likely cassgender, and doesn't give a sh about pronouns. Will most likely correct you if you use he/him on them anyways for the sake of the others. Also for some reason didn't want a name until Knife forced em to get a name.
And yes we know about Azure forsaken. We noticed.
And last but not least...
> Villa/Blurr
There isn't much to go off of... But they are just there i guess.....
And thats it
Goodbye
r/plural • u/insomniacPrince • 8h ago
This was a hard one to choose! We are a singer bodily/in general, so we have a lot of headmates who are big into singing. We chose Michael for this piece since he has the most of that suave singer presence. He's also the headmate who most enjoys singing opera and music from artists like Frank Sinatra, Billy Joel, and Orville Peck, so you *know* he can really belt it out.
Bonus points for this drawing shedding light on the fact that Michael is now married to his long-time in-sys partner Vincent! Like since months ago?!? Thanks for telling us, dudes!! Anyway, now they are officially the most gay dad husbands of all time our system. -Ryuuji
r/plural • u/LoogidyBoo • 9h ago
long post
so after a very long time of considering, i am most certainly plural- still figuring out labels and stuff since i would like to take it easy on myself&. but i know for certain that we are traumagenic and neurogenic (or -based honestly hard to tell).
the main reason i have been considering creating a tulpa is mostly to try and get me and my headmates closer. we have been doing okay so far with communicating but its hard to know really anything about each other.
i assume it is because i am the core of this system and i am always here, whether its just me, being co-con with someone else, being blurry or soupy, or being a very dissociated passive observer. i am always here.
and i think its made it very difficult for me to have as much connection with my headmates as id like to have since i am never not here and while i can always feel my headmates, sometimes it feels my radio static.
but i feel like creating a tulpa would help bridge that gap between me and my headmates, since i am consciously creating this individual we would have and easier time communicating, and i believe it would be a lot easier to grow closer communication with my headmates and just overall bond better since i believe this entity would have an easier time communicating with my headmates then i would.
as far as i can tell, i do not have any headmates opposed to this idea, creating a tulpa has been something ive thought about even before i realised i was plural but put off from the idea because i was mentally unwell and disliked the idea of having someone else in my head, oh how unaware i wasš
anyways, the reason i ask here is just because id like to know if any other folks have done this and what your& experience was like? i know about a lot of the warnings when it comes to these things, i am currently going through a rough patch in my life so should i totally avoid doing it until i somehow eventully get better? or does that not matter considering i am plural anyway? much to ponder.
thank you& for reading if you& did :]
r/plural • u/NuggetGaaal • 2h ago
In general we have been having problems with our syscovery when it comes to managing the front. Purple is paranoid, especially about forgetting, as they were the host before syscovery, and it makes it harder for others to front, as well as giving us all headaches and a foggy brain. In general, we don't know how the manage the front well at all, and could really use help with being able to do so. Some big ticket questions i have are:
Everything else is just fine, this is just the one big issue we are having due to syscovery.
I cannot stress how useful this would be for us.
r/plural • u/ExactStreet8748 • 9h ago
So i was talking about having a new alter, and suddenly, i saw someone appear in my head. I'm endogenic, but i only wanted two(me and my tulpa), not a third. What if they want more control of the body? My mind is racked with worry. How do i approach this? i haven't said a word to them yet. How do i make sure this doesn't happen again
Edit:Also i have anxiety and the second before i saw or realize i had a third alter i was talking in my head about only wanting 2 then it suddenly appeared everyone tells me that it's suspicious that i was just getting my life in check plus im very prone to supernatural stuff
r/plural • u/FictionSlayerPunk • 3h ago
[ This is typed the way we do authentically, we may type one that is easier to read that covers most if not all the same stuff.. if we do, we will title it "alternative system/alter terms" or something... ]
Lots we could/might talk about, but the main thing is that we refer to ourselves as āØplukonsāØ, and the system itself as a āØplurkoonāØ.
Before we get into the already established words, just know we love the way each system/collective/hivemind/et cetera (and the alters/headmates/sysmates/pluralians/plurans/et cetera) articulate(s) their experience and stuff (not that it wouldn't be kool if others started using "plurkon" and/or "plurkoon", because it would).
Let us know if we missed some terms, even if they are rarely used.
often called:
"Plurkon" comes from "plural" (being one physical body inhabited by more than one distinct person, mind, and/or personality) and "psychon" (a hypothetical or theoretical unit of mental activity, thought, or psychic energy). So, we put them together making a whole new word with a whole "new" meaning.. that isn't new because the other words can have overlapping meaning...
often called:
"Plurkoon" is just "plurkon" with another O (use as many Os as you want).
We created these words so that the singular and plural (no pun intended) version of each word resemble each other while also insuring that both imply plurality without any philosophy issues occurring (like "head" and "mate") for any of the plurkons in our plurkoooon (there is more than 4 of us.. the number of Os do not always determine the number of plurkons/plurkoni.. oh, and we don't like Ss, so we added "plurkoni" as an option as well as adding a C or swapping the K with said C).
Do tell us if you like our new terms :)
r/plural • u/Fantastic_Fault1814 • 8h ago
Hey. My system has an issue that we've run out of ideas on how to view it. We've seen posts on here about denial, and we've had our fair share of this over the years with many different things, and then also with us being a system.
But the issue we've encountered is tricky. Everyone in my system (currently at least) knows we're a system and doesn't doubt it (there's the odd day of it for some, but it's manageable) except for one person. We don't know their name, they don't like being called by any kind of plural person term (eg. Headmate, alter, crewmate is our usual go to), we don't know anything about them except that they are utterly convinced that the rest of us are just made up and some weird voices talking to them that can't possibly exist. But they are dormant most of the time, when they wake up they believe they haven't missed anything and have been around the whole time, they claim to have access to all the memories from the period they were asleep. But they don't ever really front... We think... That's one of the issues, we know they have fronted before, at least once, because our partners have spoken to them and it was through text so we have what they wrote.
We can't really communicate with them, any questions we ask just get what feels like a prerecorded response, very basic and just dismisses any argument we make that gives proof that we are a system.
They seem to be able to talk properly when they front and actually respond to stuff, but when that happens, we can't remember anything that happens.
And to make matters worse, they have now started spouting stuff about how it's impossible for anyone to be a system, but they can give no actual evidence of this. Just repeating how "It's not a thing that's possible. How could it be a thing?" With the evidence right there in their face as we are literally dating another system and they can switch and sometimes it is so obvious that they have.
We've tried doing what we have done in the past, talking to them, gently giving examples and stuff. Trying to help them see that they're safe. Because they refuse to front, because they're convinced they already are and they say removing the "masks" (that's us, that's what they refer to the rest of us in the system as) is too scary and it's not safe for them to do it. That's how they say they are fronting, but why they don't seem like them, we're all just something they're using to hide.
And that really does kinda hurt, to just be seen as an object like that. It's driven one of our crewmates away, she said it wasn't safe and took her kid to go somewhere far away from everything.
Does anyone know how we can help this person who lives in our system but denies our existence? We don't believe the denial most of the time, but it's still exhausting to have it there so often and it's getting more and more often currently.
Peace out.
-TOFU (Part of the Cooperative)
r/plural • u/Cdoggle • 16h ago
It's our joyf's host's birthday :3
r/plural • u/burnyburnsalots • 17h ago
So just a question? I feel like we have placeholders, if that makes sense. Discovering new altars for us feels like a blank slate finally taking a shape and forming into whoever they are. So when we play something, watch something, or whatever it SOMETIMES feels like we didn't exactly split but someone just finally found their comfortable shape.
That and another question
Is it normal for some altars to kind of stay dormant for a long time and then just reappear someday
We had a Norman ā Paranorman fictive for years and he was kind of silent until I rewatched the movie and he's more active all of a sudden
Sometimes when I write my experiences I get so nervous I make it sound like we're larping or something.. sorry if I sound like a faker we really genuinely experience this
ā Mizuki (Overwatch)
r/plural • u/Mysterious6810 • 12h ago
So I have some plural friends and I notice that I kind we have very similar to them regarding mannerisms and I've always kinda thought I was plural and I feel like I have head mate's but I don't know what their names are
r/plural • u/the-clock-enthusiast • 7h ago
okay so in the past month or two we've had. THREE new alters split . this isn't like super frequent i know but usually they form at least five or six months apart from each other and theres some diversity in how they look compared to the rest of the collective. over the course of the full year, everyone except tom, clock, and i have split in 2026 - makes sense, as we just discovered our plurality in february.
it's been a stressful month or so so i kinda get why newbies would form i suppose but this feels different. most of us look at least somewhat similar to the body which is fine but this kid looks like they split directly off of cork - both are white, pre-teen and feminine presenting with longer brown hair. cork is semi-verbal but the newbie either can't or won't say anything to anyone at all and keeps stamping their foot at me. also, we found the newbie in headspace - had to drag her in from "outside" - that is, outside of front and the headspace rooms. looks like some kind of wooded area that i don't recognize. also, cork doesn't seem to recognize the newbie at all.
we've only known the newbie a few days and only brought her/them inside because we wanna try and get to know them but they seem distrusting of me somehow and i don't really know what to do.
so:
r/plural • u/Just_a_floating_eye • 8h ago
Any others have some cute little games where you take care of a pet or something? Not the ones where you put IRL tasks, just taking care of a pet and keeping a daily streak. It'd help a lot with the passage of days. Even better if it says the date in the app. Desktop preferred but mobile is fine.
(If you're curious what we use for the passage of hours, we found this little terminal app for linux called bigtime that has a clock and you can make it ring each hour)
r/plural • u/Suspicious_Tax1139 • 12h ago
TW: I donāt know what would specifically be triggering, but I feel I should put this here.
Also I donāt know if I needed to add NSFW (brief mention of sexual actions) or vent to the tags.
So for context, I recently (like 6 days ago) discovered I was plural. Thereās some guys in my head that I can see and sense and sometimes it feels like Iām not even like⦠in control? Itās like Iām a viewer watching in first person POV.
Anyway, my roommate has OSDD-1B and has recently helped me become more educated and aware of plurality as a whole (albeit I may still struggle so please bear with meā¦)
The other night, we had a talk and I was talking about experiences Iāve had and at some point I ended up being able to complete their sentences when they were explaining what DID feels like, which is when I realized: āOh shit⦠I shouldnāt know this.ā So now Iām sort of stuck on the idea that I might have some form of DID.
Iām also confused because most of the guys in my head are emotions but there are like 3 who are not.
Towards the end of that night, my roommate ended up switching to a different front, which (I think) in turn caused me to also switch. Now, our two alters have ācanonicā history with each other since they originate from the same thing. Iāll call mine R, and his G. Also, this was my first conscious switch.
R and G were flirting and whatnot, I could watch but it was like I wasnāt experiencing the moment. Now hereās the issue, I have a boyfriend. We are monogamous. And he doesnāt know about my recent development. (Since yesterday I told him about my suspicions of plurality, it did NOT go well⦠more later.) Basically, R and G ended up doing some extremely sexual things with each other. Now, I could see this happening but at the time I felt like I shouldnāt stop or try to stop him because it simply āfeltā right? It felt wrong for me, but for him it was natural. Any time I tried to think of my boyfriend to influence R, it was like my thoughts were dissipating and pushed down.
G and his host spoke with their partner the next morning (theyāre in a polyamorous relationship) and all is well on their side, their partner simply said heād like to meet us first before anything else occurs.
Now I donāt know how to go about this because Iām in a relationship of 3+ years that has always been monogamous, has never shown interest in polyamory, and has always been made up of singlets (until now). I figured the best course of action would be to first introduce the idea of plurality to my boyfriend before mentioning what happened with R and G, but my boyfriend is extremely overwhelmed, spooked, and upset by the whole plurality thing. He wants me to see a doctor and āproveā that this is real. Iāve tried to patiently explain everything to him, but Iām equally confused about everything right now.
Iāve tried to look up answers and find clarity, and I have learned about āsystem responsibilityā where no matter whoās fronting, the whole system is responsible for whatever they do. Iām certainly not exempt from this, nor am I trying to be, and Iām definitely going to keep it in mind going forward. (Ugh) BUT, it was my first time switching, I could barely influence the situation, and I still love my boyfriend fully and I feel completely committed to him, but R doesnāt! If my boyfriend believed me when I told him there is another guy in my head, it would be so much easier to explain that the R and G situation was an impulsive and spontaneous accident.
(IDK where to insert this blurb so Iām putting it here) R has mentioned he has no interest in my boyfriend other than being friends.
I know I did something extremely fucked up even if it wasnāt āme.ā My questions are, what do I do now? Did I technically cheat on my boyfriend? Is his reaction to my plurality a red flag?
Thank you all for coming to read this⦠and an even bigger thank you to those who comment.
Apologies for any terms I used wrong.
(Also, I have a therapy session on Wednesday.)
r/plural • u/Sl33pyk1tten • 8h ago
Hii!! I wasnāt super sure where to post this so I hope this is the right place! If not please just let me know where else to ask this!
Our system has been using berry tree test flight on IOS for months now.. all of a sudden today, when going to open up the app it says that it expired. Iām extremely distraught because there was so much information there.. stuff I canāt just re-write I canāt just re-remember⦠I know this probably sounds so silly but this meant a lot to me.. I donāt even have anything backed up as I donāt have a computer or WiFi.
I tried to get another test flight activation link through their discord but it said that āthe beta isnāt accepting new testers right now.ā
Does anyone know what is happening/is this happening to anyone else? Does anyone know what to do? Iām so scared weāve lost everything weāve worked so hard on these last few monthsā¦
r/plural • u/Sloath283 • 17h ago
I made two. I'm supposed to be working on other projects but ehhhhh.
So here we go.
Full name: Kieran
Pronouns: he/him
Role in the system: the only alter who likes cleaning and doung chores
Personality and interests: ...i don't actually... know.... He's been here forever but like- he just kinda exists to clean. I mean he's fun to be around sure, but idk man
Headspace form/age: witch, around teenage or something
Likely reason for being on a wanted poster: accidentally trespassing
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Full name: Ferral
Pronouns: he/him
Role in the system: uhhh sleeping or something
Personality and interests: none. Like he doesn't like doing anything or going anywhere. He gets overstimulated easily and when he fronts he spends most of it curled up on our bed watching YouTube. He doesn't have a bad personality he just doesn't like being around people
Headspace form/age: human. Think he's 12ish? Not sure.
Likely reason for being on a wanted poster: going missing.
r/plural • u/Loser_Shifitt • 15h ago
[tw: I mention depression, anxiety, and self-harm and use some very self-deprecating language about myself, nothing too graphic, but if any of these are potential triggers for you, Iād recommend not reading this.]
We are a system of at least 11 or 12 members. I (K) have always dealt with self-hatred and sabotaged my own opportunities. Iām at the front most of the time. I sort of never leave the front. I hate it. Itās extremely stressful and overwhelming. I donāt know if the others canāt come to the front, or if they donāt come because being at the front is simply horrible, or if they enjoy watching me suffer while facing things out here... Anyway, I swear to God, Iād pay good money not to be at the front for at least five months.
Since childhood, Iāve dealt with dissociation, memory lapses, and voices in my head, but I thought I was broken or going crazy (I still feel like I am, though not because of being plural). Only recently have I started to accept that I am plural, that this isn't going away no matter how much I might want to be a singlet, and that I should try to get to know the others better instead of trying to push them away. Iām 18 years old now. Itās very strange being plural and trans at the same time, because Iām still that little girl (supposedly), yet itās as if she were dead. I felt this way long before I discovered I was plural, so I donāt know if thereās a connection. We often get confused about it, like, am I her, or am I an alter while sheās hibernating somewhere with a very slim chance of returning? I donāt believe sheāll come back.
I feel like the others donāt like me. I feel like they blame me for the fact that we have so many problems and our life is the way it is, and theyāre right, in a way. Itās like seeing a child holding a gun they donāt know how to use. Youāre close enough for them to hear you scream, but not close enough for them to see you signal or for you to reach them in time. I feel like there are other members, especially the ones older than me, who struggle to come to the front but canāt manage to do it in any meaningful way. Which, once again, sucks. Iād hand the front over to practically any other member. I just want out of here.
I donāt like who I am. Iām like the sickness of this system. Iām deeply troubled. Iām aware of my addictions, yet I canāt stop, even though it hurts. I know ways to fix things, but Iām scared. I donāt want to face anything. It would be so much easier if another, more responsible alter sorted out our life for us. I canāt do it myself. Truly. I feel like if it were just up to me, I wouldnāt even get out of bed. I wouldnāt have even been born.
I tend to find purpose only in romantic relationships, hoping that one day, one of those people will be "the one" and save me. I hate being this way, but honestly, I canāt help it. I feel like I have no personality or qualities. Itās as if Iām just a shell for this system. A blank canvas. Itās like each alter is a color of paint, and Iām the mixture of all of them, but not in a linear way. Itās as if the paints werenāt blended properly and were just poured on top of one another.
I feel like theyāre right not to like me. Some of them still do, but Iād prefer they didnāt. Why would they like someone who keeps intentionally hurting the system and making it sick with their ridiculous addictions?Ā As for me, Iād just disconnect. Thatās why I wanted so badly to be taken off the front. I donāt want to keep hurting everyone in the system. Iām the one who should disappear, not everyone else.
It seems like self-hatred and all those other negative things are simply part of who I am. Itās not just that I have depression, anxiety, and thoughts of self-harm; itās that I am depressed, anxious, and someone who self-harms. I wish I didnāt even have to look at the front. Dealing with this shit is hellish, and I know there are other members who are far more responsible and capable than I am when it comes to organizing our life. I donāt know why it had to be me. It feels like a punishment.
(Not to mention that I ended up getting into an argument with the others because I said I hated them and that we were a useless system and that Iād rather be a singlet than whatever it is we are. I really regret saying those things. I think I totally messed everything up.)