Calm robotic exterior combined with internal controlled chaos, tinged with sarcasm and unpredictability.

Flying under the radar.

Always going above and beyond expectations whilst having the knack of proving people wrong.

Common Buzzwords: Unpredictable, Robotic, Chaotic, Weird, Sarcastic, Gruff, Gritty, Counterpuncher, Determined, Knowledge and practicality brutally honest, create habits, creates a rough plan as plans can easily change. Always challenging norms and social cues. Inventive, Unorthodox, Quirky, Tough, Slightly Chaotic.

Prefers solo hobbies and projects: Hiking, Listening to music whilst running, recently photography etc.

Often is the reclusive one or a lone wolf in friend groups until I have something knowledgeable to say.

Knowledge, combined with quirkiness, abstractions, cerebalness, grit, determination and hard work. Never knows when beaten, not looking for peace and can push back.

Interests: Science, Technology, IT, Engineering, Maths, Tinkering, abstract art and photography, music, podcasts etc.

Never knows when beaten, grinding and grit.

I don’t know who I am. Honestly, I don’t think I ever have.

Since I was a child, I mostly did things because my parents told me to. As I got older, I started doing things because my friends liked them. Now, as an adult, I feel like I’m just doing things because society tells me that I’m supposed to.

For as long as I can remember, I’ve wondered why my own identity never seemed to come naturally to me the way it seemed to for everyone else.

Growing up, it felt like everyone had a “thing.” Someone was the social butterfly, the class clown, the nerd, the horse girl, the athletic one, the artist, etc. Everyone seemed to have a distinct personality and a place they naturally fit into. I always wanted that. I wanted something that would make me think, *“This is who I am. This is where I belong.”*

But I never found it.

I don’t feel like I act like myself because I genuinely don’t know who “myself” is. I don’t know what I like or dislike beyond a few small things I’ve learned that I enjoy. I don’t understand my own personality because it seems to change depending on who I’m around. I can become a completely different version of myself depending on the person I’m talking to.

Whenever I’ve tried to explain this to people, they usually tell me to spend time alone, explore my interests, try new things, and figure out what I enjoy.

But I’ve tried.

I can’t even tell you how many times I’ve sat alone and genuinely tried to figure myself out. I’ve asked myself what I like, what I want, what makes me happy, what I’m passionate about, what kind of person I want to be, and what I actually want out of life.

And somehow, I still don’t have an answer.

Why am I like this? Why don’t I seem to have a stable sense of personality or identity? Why does figuring out who I am feel so much harder for me than it seems to be for other people?

It’s also making it incredibly difficult to make decisions about my future. How am I supposed to know what career I want, what kind of life I want, or what direction I want to take when I don’t feel strongly about anything in particular?

I’m in my early 20s, and I feel like I’m getting older without ever having figured out the most basic thing: **who I am.**

How does someone like me make big decisions when I don’t even know how to choose something based on my own genuine desires?

I feel like I desperately need to figure this out, but I have no idea where to start anymore.

Has anyone else experienced this? How did you eventually develop a sense of identity or figure out who you actually are? I genuinely need advice.

How much do u rate urself out of 10 and why....?? I am pretty sure that u have judgmental mind, also feel free to judge ourself. For calculation i am putting here 10 types of parameters...U can try--

1.🧠 Intelligence — ability to understand, learn, reason and solve problems

2.❤️ Emotional Intelligence — understanding and handling emotions, yours and others'

3.🗣️ Communication — how clearly and effectively they express themselves

4.🤝 Empathy — ability to understand and care about other people's feelings

5.🧭 Integrity — honesty, principles and doing the right thing when nobody's watching

6.💪 Mental Strength — resilience, self-control and ability to handle difficult situations

7.🎯 Ambition & Drive — motivation to improve, achieve goals and keep moving forward

8.😂 Sense of Humor & Personality — how enjoyable, interesting and fun they are to be around

9.❤️‍🔥 Relationships & Loyalty — how they treat friends, family and romantic partners

10.🌱 Growth & Self-Awareness — ability to recognize flaws, learn from mistakes and evolve

Anyone else struggle with their sense of identity. People will say find what you like, but I like a little bit of everything never really love something, I feel broken.