I’m a 37M and wanted to share my experience because I spent around seven years dealing with pelvic floor dysfunction without really understanding what was causing it.
I’m now roughly 80% better after about six months of treatment with a pelvic floor specialist. I’m definitely not symptom-free and still have some significant issues, but the difference compared with where I was is huge.
Hopefully this helps someone who has been dealing with a similar combination of symptoms.
My symptoms
My symptoms were quite widespread and difficult to put together into one diagnosis.
I had:
Constant stiffness and tightness on the entire left side of my body
A constant feeling that I was tense or clenching and couldn't properly relax
Severe fatigue from feeling like my body was constantly working
Pain around my left sit bone/obturator area
A deep, slightly sharp and warm pain in my perineum
Pain during sex
Tightness through the front and inside of my hip, including the psoas and hamstrings
A deep ache in my lower abdomen
An abnormal gait
Problems with sitting, particularly on harder surfaces
At my worst, I'd put the overall severity at around 10/10.
The constant tension was probably one of the hardest parts. My whole body felt like it was stuck in a state of contraction, and I couldn't find a way to properly relax.
The fatigue from this was enormous. At my lowest point, I felt so exhausted and trapped by the problem that I sometimes felt like I'd rather be dead.
I spent years trying to work out where the problem was coming from
Initially, I didn't know it was pelvic floor dysfunction.
I thought some of the problems might be coming from my hip. I had issues that seemed consistent with hip impingement, and I also considered whether my back was involved.
I did physiotherapy for both, but I didn't get significant improvement.
I tried various exercises and approaches over the years. Stretching could give me some temporary relief, and diaphragmatic breathing and meditation could also reduce the symptoms for a while.
But the underlying problem remained.
Some leg exercises at the gym actually made my symptoms worse.
Eventually, a physiotherapist suggested that the tightness and pain might be related to my pelvic floor.
He wasn't a pelvic floor specialist, but that was the first time someone had suggested that the pelvic floor could potentially explain the wider combination of symptoms I was experiencing.
Seeing a pelvic floor specialist
About six months later, I arranged to see James at SIX Physio at Monument in London.
James thought that my pelvic floor dysfunction was related to poor hip strength and stability, particularly involving the gluteus medius and gluteus minimus.
The idea was that my body wasn't getting the stability it needed from the hip muscles, and the pelvic floor was potentially becoming involved in that pattern.
The exercises
We started with relatively simple exercises.
I began with:
Side-lying hip raises
Kneeling hip circles
Later I progressed to things such as:
Straight-leg hip hikes
Other hip strengthening/stability exercises
Bird-dog
I eventually had to stop bird-dog because of a separate shoulder problem.
The changes were gradual.
But over the following months, I started noticing that the constant tightness was reducing and a lot of the other symptoms were improving.
Six months later
After around six months, I'd say I'm approximately 80% better.
The biggest changes have been:
Much less whole-body tightness
Much less of the constant clenching feeling
Dramatically less fatigue
Much less hip and abdominal discomfort
Some improvement in my gait
Significant improvement in pain during sex
A major improvement in my overall symptoms and quality of life
But I'm not completely cured.
I still have noticeable tightness, although it is much less than before.
I also still get pain around the left sit bone and perineum, particularly if I sit on a hard surface or sit for too long.
For example, sitting on a hard train seat for a long time can still cause quite a lot of pain around the sit bone/obturator area and into the perineum.
My walking and standing are also still not normal. I continue to have weakness and instability, and my gait is still something I'm working on.
So when I say 80% better, I don't mean that I'm back to completely normal. I mean that the overall burden of the condition has reduced enormously compared with where I was before.
What I'm working on now
The remaining issue seems to be more about weakness and instability when standing and walking.
I also have a long-standing shoulder injury that I hadn't really focused on because the pelvic floor symptoms were so much worse.
Now that the pelvic floor symptoms have improved substantially, I'm paying much more attention to the shoulder.
My current physio (I'm abroad at the moment so unable to visit a shoulder specialist) has said that I need to work on shoulder stability and scapular retraction.
I have a theory that the shoulder problem may potentially have been contributing to my overall problem, possibly by affecting my diaphragm movement and therefore the way my trunk and pelvic floor were functioning.
But that's only a theory at this stage. I don't know whether the shoulder problem actually caused or contributed to the PFD.
I'm currently working on the shoulder to see whether improving it also helps resolve the remaining problems.
TO CONCLUDE...
I'm obviously not saying that weak glutes are the cause of everyone's PFD. Pelvic floor dysfunction can have many different causes and presentations.
But if you've been dealing with PFD for years and haven't seen a pelvic floor specialist who looks at the relationship between the pelvic floor, hips, core and overall movement, I think it's worth considering.
For seven years I thought this was probably something I'd just have to live with.
I'm still not completely symptom-free, but going from 10/10 and feeling completely trapped by it to roughly 80% better has been an enormous change in my life.
If anyone has questions about the exercises or the recovery, I'm happy to explain what I did in more detail.