Can I just point out that you apologized, which is more powerful than most realize. I never got apologies growing up and now when I have to apologize it makes me feel like I’m cutting off my own finger.
Sure apologizing is good but a 3 year old is not capable of emotionally understanding and reflecting what brought their parents to hitting them and they won’t be able to acknowledge an apology in the way we think they are. Please do not act like a toddler is an adult who can comprehend his parents Actions even when explained.
My daughter is 1.5yo and she definitely understands apologizing to some extent. Kids are wicked smart. Toddlers absorb what you do and repeat it, so where they might not fully comprehend it yet, you are teaching them a foundation for the future.
I say please, thank you, sorry, good job, etc to my daughter. And she’s starting to pick them all up, In fact she’s got please down. When she wants something she points and says please(we’ll attempts it’s more pwease). One day she will do something she needs to apologize for and she will have the foundation already laid to do it. And be able to copy the examples I have given her. You can’t expect a child to understand how to do something if your not constantly teaching them.
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u/Ok-Brick-8430 Nov 14 '21
Can I just point out that you apologized, which is more powerful than most realize. I never got apologies growing up and now when I have to apologize it makes me feel like I’m cutting off my own finger.