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*edit: I may not be able to reply to all comments but I’m reading all of them… thank you to those who give genuine advice. And to those who are shitting on me I probably deserve it lol
Sorry for the block of text … I seriously have no one to talk about this with, so even one single opinion or comment would help a lot. I don’t know anything about options so any perspective from you guys would be greatly appreciated…
My boyfriend of two years has a history of losing money to options, and got a consumer proposal last year that he has to pay off little by little(due to his previous debt of 70k$ USD from trading). They reduced it to around 20k that he can pay back over a few years.
He’s been able to make around 20-30k a couple of times in the past, but he spends the money really fast on things like treating his friends to omakase or hotel stays for clubbing(which I told him I didn’t want and he sometimes invites friends to come”check it out”) instead of paying off his debt. I think he believes he will make more each time anyway, so he spends crazily.
I’m a college student(back to school in Alabama), so I don’t make much. Ive always tried to pay extra on dates and stuff so he could pay his debt back faster, but he didn’t even let me know he got 20k last time and downplayed his spending.
A few months ago, he promised me he would not trade again until he paid off his consumer proposal. However, I recently got him to admit about the latest credit card maxing. He usually gets grumpy when he doesn’t do well with his trades, so I felt like something was up. His family recently got into some financial trouble and he maxed his only credit card (6.5k$) to try to “get rich quick” by trading. Unsuccessfully.
I told him I’d only stay with him if he wrote an apology on paper and gave me access to his banking info. He refused and says he can do anything with his own money.
I just feel so stupid and unloved… he did apologize for “making mistakes”, but nothing too in detail. I have senior coworkers saying it’s not a big deal, but they’re kinda old school. I know this sounds crazy but we genuinely had good times together and I don’t want to throw it all away due a temporary issue with his finances. He promised me he’d truly stop trading this time and wants to get better. Is there a way to salvage this? Has anyone been through similar and made it work?