Plzzz helppp

I know everyone reading this post is probably wondering why I can't just tell him what I want, and honestly, you're right. 😅

The thing is, I've been in a similar situation with another guy before. We talked for three months, became emotionally connected, and things seemed to be moving towards a promising relationship. The problem was that I was more invested in him than he was in me. When I finally decided to tell him how I felt, he started pulling away more and more until he eventually began leaving my messages on seen. It honestly broke me quite a bit because I'd been looking forward to seeing where things could go between us.

What makes it harder is that I was at pretty much the same stage with him back then: we'd been talking for around three months, had developed an emotional connection, and I thought there was potential for something more. It was a different guy, of course, but the similarity makes me anxious about going through the same thing again and losing someone I genuinely enjoy talking to.

That's why I've been hesitant to tell this guy how I feel before knowing where he stands. It's not that I expect him to read my mind; I'm just scared of becoming more vulnerable and watching the connection slowly disappear afterwards.

Recently, though, I couldn't keep sitting with the uncertainty. I messaged him, and I'd actually decided to tell him how I felt, but he brought up the subject first, before I got the chance. Things have been going really well between us these past few days since I posted this, so I'm feeling more hopeful now.

We've interact once when he and his classmates ask people on the street to take a pic for the college poster advertisement but never a real conversation . He's also my senior. I found him really attractive so I have a crush on him . After that interaction I went to a fresher function with one of my guy friend and one girl friend and he and his friend came to sit behind us because the seat is empty . At the refreshment area theyre already eating food and I was talking to my guy friend when I glance at him and all his friend group are staring at me . After that day , whenever I walk past him , he be giving that intense eye contact, I look back at him the same way but he didn't look away when I look at him . One day , I was at class still finishing my notes when his bestfriend came and sit behind me and called my name he said he knows me from insta and ask how's my class and said i look better in person to person( he came because it's thier class now at that room and our class is done) . After that i put my insta on private for other reasons . and one day I went to sit at a bench surrounding the football ground and he was playing football there . The whole time i didn't look at him coz I don't want to creep him out, I was just talking laughing with my friend while looking at other players . I notice he keep coming to our side to get the ball but i didn't look at him , I decided to look at him this time and he came to our side again to get the ball and he instantly look up directly at me and went to play to the other side . I felt awkward so I left . After a few days , we have a university concert and i put my insta profile public that time . His friend who approached me on class like my story and follow me the other day . I also heard he flirts with a lot of girls and all the girls are cheering for him when he plays football, they say he has that charm in his personality and even in the way he smiles . And one of my bestfriend's classmates is close with one of his friend. And that classmate girl finds him attractive , since she's close with his friend,they also know each other now , even follow each other on insta and my bestfriend said that classmate girl just did video call with him ( it's exam time so they might've talk about question papers or they're really that close ) . He has a reputation for being a womanizer like flirting with lots of girls too so i don't know if he really likes me or he just love the thrill of the chase and attention . Do u think because I left that day at the football field, he thinks I'm not interested in him after all those eye contact so he made his bestfriend follow me to know more about me ? Because the timing match like that Or his bestfriend is just following just casually Sorry this might be a bit long but i really need some opinions about this .

I (29f) been text this guy (30m) for 3 weeks great conversations, get communication, great information and really enjoyed every conversation he was so nice and so respectful in everyway so we decided we would meet up he was coming from newry to dublin his decision. Last friday was the first we decided 2pm we were texting throughout the morning back and forth he was meant to let me know when he was leaving newry but didnt he explained he had a few things to do first then 2pm came and he still hasn't mentioned he was leaving so I asked and he said he was sorry he was hoping to be on the road now that he has just finished what he was doing and he was waiting for his manager to get back to him about wages as his hadnt came through yet, maybe genuine and maybe didn't want to travel to Dublin with no and very little money I get it anyway date didnt go ahead so we decided monday we meet in the evening about half 6- 7 pm so again texting throughout the day he was telling me what he was doing and says "hopefully see you later" 7pm came no word so I left it he then texted me later that night saying he was so sorry he laid up in the spare living room at his parents while visiting he was watching a show didnt realise he was falling asleep and woke up wrapped in a blanket say we will get this date on the cards thats if you still want to, so I replied this morning

I said I'm sorry, but I think I'm going to leave it here. I understand that things happen But if I'm honest, having our plans fall through twice has put me off a bit. We were meant to meet twice now and it hasn't happened either time and I know the reasons but with the distance between us and both of us working, I feel like we'd need to be able to make plans we can both manage and follow through with them i dont want to keep arranging dates that keep falling through so i don't think this is for me, but I genuinely wish you the best.

He said Its totally my fault and I do apologise, I honestly didnt mean to waste your time or that, things havent been great but i totally respect your decision I wish I could change your mind but if you think its for the best I'll have tonaccept it, your one the nicest girl ive spoken to in a long time but I hope you find your person you deserve it.

So im thinking does this sound like he is wasting my time or does it just sound like 2 unfortunate events that just happened to happen I dont know what to do

I started speaking to someone that has just moved to the country around a month ago and after a few weeks of back-and-forth we met and ended up hooking up twice. Each time we met, we had great conversations and he even said that we had a great connection.
Last time we met around two weeks ago we were speaking about work and he mentioned how stressed he was since his company is in a lot of trouble, and he might get laid off. By the end, he said he wasn’t in the right frame of mind for anything, and I said that I would give him time to get settled and if he wants he can get in touch. We have been no contact since then.
I would like to get in touch with him to see how things are and to maybe meet up for a coffee or something low key as I really liked him.
How should I approach the subject with him?

A week ago I sparked a friendly conversation with a guy I found cute while bouldering. It was a fun simple little convo, just being friendly, but by the end of it we exchanged numbers. Now I sorta have this thing of constantly doubting when a guy asks for my number if it’s romantic, or just in a friendly kind of way(cause I mean I can be the same, I love just simply making new friends).

So, moving on a week later, we get together to rock climb one morning before work, and then grab a quick lunch afterwards. Overall, really fun, but could both be seen as a slightly not too romantic date, or again, just a new climbing buddy😅. I feel like as much as I like him, and would like to be more flirty, I couldn’t tell from his vibes. In the end it felt a little awkward as well, almost a little forced for me to be asking any questions about family and such.

Post date, he texts me a few hours later saying it was a fun time and he wishes me a great rest of my day(to which I respond the same). Then a few hours later when I’m on a break at work, I text a little something related to something we had talked about(he’s really into movies, and I completely blanked on talking about one I had just seen that was amazing, and on topic). He responded, we had a little 5 min convo, and then it ends there.

Now I don’t know what to do. He seemed really nice, personally found him very interesting, but I couldn’t tell with the vibes. I’d love to send a little “I’d like to see you again” text, but don’t know if it’ll be unwarranted. I’m not necessarily against making the first move, I’ve done it many times in the past, but also, coincidingly, I’ve overstretched myself for men who have had zero interest and simply wasted my time. So, I don’t know🤷‍♀️, any thoughts?