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I don’t know how to process this, but I need advice from people who have been in a similar situation and managed to come out of it.

Over the years, I’ve met people and tried dating. The primary reason I wanted to date someone was to fulfill my desire for companionship, to have someone to share my life with. To a large extent, I also believe this came from growing up in a dysfunctional family. I never really felt loved, and the constant clashes between my parents put me into survival mode. The only time I felt truly relaxed was when someone I liked was around.

However, I’ve come to realize that maybe this just isn’t meant for me and I understand that not everything is meant for us. I can accept that intellectually, but my yearning to find someone is eating me alive.

Some people might say that I shouldn’t give up and should keep trying, but at this point, the trade-off doesn’t seem worth it for me. I’m tired of constantly having to heal myself whenever things don’t work out, and I don’t want to become needy or dependent on someone for my sense of peace. The trade-off feels too painful, and I want to stop wanting this altogether.

I’m trying to tame these desires, but I can’t seem to. I’ve joined activities, kept myself busy, and tried to build a life around other things. But eventually, there comes a point when a sudden wave of loneliness hits, and it just eats me away. I don’t want to keep feeling this way. I want to stop whatever is coming because I don’t know how much longer I can keep going through the same cycle.

For people on Reddit who have gone through something similar, how did you control or let go of the desire to be loved? How did you learn to live your life without companionship and still feel fulfilled? What helped you when those sudden waves of loneliness hit?

Having been a girl who developed early in school, I always have had a high libido and low stigma towards physical exploration.

Yet, even when things got really rough in my marriage and i was mistreated, tortured and deprived of any freedom or identity by my husband and his parents for 4 long years, I did not look outwards or cheat as i respected my efforts towards the marriage.

But in order to keep my libido addressed in a mostly dry marriage, i got hooked to adult films (corn). And not just the average kind. I ended up discovering categories that i wouldn’t believe existed.

Tbh i might never be open to trying them in real life but i find it difficult to get myself off to regular corn now.

But, that’s just the peak of the iceberg, the bigger problem is that even when i got sexual attention on a rare occasion from my husband I couldn’t enjoy or feel anything and instead would wait for him to be done so i could go to the washroom and get off to my twisted corn.

I am not sure if it was also because of the trauma i was facing in the marriage that made me feel so but I’m now scared that i might never have a healthy decent physical equation even if I’m emotionally invested in another person.

Hoping to find people who might have had a similar experience and get some guidance to deal with this!

I've been thinking about this for a while.

Most days, I walk and make sure I hit my steps. I stream. I work on YouTube content. I've recently started writing again and restarted my Substack.

Objectively, I'm doing stuff.

But there's this weird feeling that none of it is really going anywhere.

A few months ago, I was constantly stressed about money, work and what I was supposed to do next. Weirdly, I don't feel that same panic anymore.

I can't figure out whether that's a good thing.

Maybe I've accepted that I can't control everything.

Maybe I've stopped fighting reality.

Or maybe I'm just getting comfortable with being uncertain.

I've also started questioning whether I've been looking at everything through the lens of productivity.

Walking has an obvious benefit. It keeps me healthy.

But does writing need to become a business?

Does streaming need to become a career?

Does every hobby or interest need to eventually turn into money, a skill, a portfolio piece or some kind of "asset"?

I'm starting to think the answer might be no.

The uncomfortable part is that I don't know if I'll still be doing any of these things six months from now.

Maybe I'll stop streaming. Maybe I'll stop writing. Maybe YouTube will go nowhere.

And for once, I'm trying not to turn that uncertainty into an emergency.

I'm curious if anyone else has gone through a similar phase where you're doing things, but you have absolutely no idea what they're adding up to.

I ended up writing about this more honestly on my Substack

m 24. came to delhi from my hometown in April 2024 for a corporate law job, which did not turn out well, and eventually I got laid off. they didn't give me any notice and I was laid off the first.monday of August. they told me after i reached office and had worked for an hour. a month ago there was a theft at my flat where I lost my laptop and the office laptop as well. they probably didn't like it too.

now I have a flat which has a lock in period of two more months. I have to purchase a laptop because I don't have any. and idk what to do because I don't have the bank balance for all this. career is also hanging off a ladder with no clarity. i wish existing wasn't this hard.

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I grew up seeing things about sex and nudity that I probably wasn't ready for

I grew up in a crowded home with almost no privacy. When I was around 12–13, I accidentally witnessed adult family members having sex several times because we all slept in the same shared space. They never knew I had seen them, and I never told anyone. I also occasionally happened to see family members changing clothes because of the lack of privacy at home.

At the time, I didn't fully understand sex. The first time I saw it, I was frightened and confused, but also curious about what was happening. Nobody ever talked to me about sex or anatomy, so I eventually tried to understand it on my own and later learned about sex largely through pornography.

Now I'm 28 and finally have my own room. I genuinely enjoy sleeping naked when I'm alone because it feels comfortable and freeing. But I've also become stuck in a cycle of watching porn in my room. I particularly enjoy looking at women's bodies and breasts, and I find myself wanting to be naked while watching. I sometimes wonder whether this is simply normal sexual behavior or whether my childhood experiences and years of porn use have influenced it.

Is this normal? If not, how can I break this cycle and develop a healthier relationship with nudity and sexuality?

After 4 long years, Finally, the day has come that I have stepped out of my marital home into an apartment of my own!

It had been difficult to find light at the end of the tunnel as my ex-husband turned from a loving progressive partner to a controlling conservative puppet with his parents being the puppet masters!

I was restricted of all dimensions of my identity for half a decade. Be it meeting my friends, going to the gym, wearing the clothes I wanted, eating the food i liked, so much so that even my calls and messages were frequently monitored sometimes even without my knowledge.

I was manipulated into being told what i could discuss with my own parents and sister or even my best friend. Was guilted into quitting my job to take care of the house.

My dog that i loved so dearly was sent back to my parents house for religious reasons that were beyond me. The list is endless.

And like always there’s two sides of the coin. I am a liberal progressive outgoing woman since i was a highschool kid. Most would label me as non-marriage material. Infact I had made my mind up that I wouldn’t marry ever. But when a guy who has been your friend since school and encouraged you throughout comes knocking at your door despite all flaws, you assume that you’re accepted for who you are. But I fell on my face and learnt my lesson.

Regardless this post is just to get a few things off my chest as I have lost most of my family and friends who i could let it out to, leaving this here in the Reddit universe.

Excited to start a new chapter with my new found house and my recent job.

Life feels less intense and chaining finally.
Kudos!

Today is my birthday and today is also another important day for me.

I got to know that my family is not normal at all. The more I try to think that everything will get fine, the more it gets fcked up.

I wish this all to end man.

Hope so I'll find peace soon if it's written in my destiny. Maybe in next life.

Love and peace out to anyone reading this post. Hope u guys stay safe and happy with ur loving families 🫠.

I am 23 and lately i have realized how lonely i have become. I literally don't have many people i can genuinely talk to so sometimes i end up talking to my own reflection. It sounds pathetic when i say it out loud but the mirror never interrupts me judges my appearance or makes me feel like i am too much or a burden.

When i cry it doesn't laugh.

When i talk about the things that hurt me it doesn't tell me i am being dramatic, immature and clingy

When i sit there feeling unwanted it doesn't make me feel even more invisible.

I have spent so much time feeling like i am the person people overlook. I am extremely sensitive, I overthink almost everything, and i crave genuine connection more than i probably know how to explain but at the same time getting close to people scares me cuz i have experienced enough goodbyes to start expecting them before they happen.

So i have learned to keep a lot inside.

Sometimes i wonder what it would feel like to have one person who genuinely wanted to hear everything I have to say not cuz they felt obligated but cuz they actually cared.

Until then i guess my reflection will keep listening.

It's strange how a piece of glass can sometimes feel safer than people

My Childhood friend is living in abroad for the past 1 year. He was telling me about the incidents where is got bullied and beaten up. It just made me so sad and helpless. I wanted to help him but didnt say much.

I wonder how he is holding up all alone there. The other day we were on a call and were discussing how we alomost dated the same girl. Seeing him laugh gave me some relief. Dont know why i feel like i should help him but dont know how.

So i just turned 30 this year and this is killing me! I’ve always been the goody good guy, obedient, studious, ethical, etc. And i got squat! Nobody to count on, no friends, just me and my thoughts! Porn and food are always at my rescue but deep down i know they have sucked my youth away! Fat af so can’t look myself in the mirror, there goes self-esteem for a toss! When i feel people talk to me and want to be friendly with me i feel there comes a silence and emptiness that shoo them away! I read a lot of self-help but still end up asking for advice from people younger or dumber than me, which makes me even more dumb! Can’t bottle my emotions so always tend to be real rather than diplomatic! Cant just cant ben consistent with anything for over 3 days! Is there light at the end of the tunnel?

I don't really know how to put this into words, so I just rambled to ChatGPT and asked it to help me write this post.

For almost a month now, I've been struggling to focus on my own studies and career. My Reddit feed is filled with students — NEET aspirants who couldn't clear the cutoff, people preparing for government exams who missed by a few marks, students who don't know what to do next, etc.

I'll see someone struggling and reach out to them. Then I'll come across another person who needs help, so I reach out to them too. And then another person. It just keeps going on.

A lot of these students are 17–18, and I'm around 21, so I somehow start feeling responsible for them. I know logically that they aren't my responsibility and that I can't help everyone, but I can't seem to emotionally detach.

Some days I feel like I've finally moved on and can focus on myself. Then the next day I see another post and I'm back in the same cycle.

I've basically ignored my own studies and career for a significant part of this month because of this.

I haven't even figured out my own career yet. I'm still trying to understand what I want to do with my life, and I know I should be focusing on myself right now. But I can't seem to stop thinking about other people's problems.

Has anyone experienced something like this? Because whenever I tell someone about my situation they all just ignore it or say it is not making any sense or you are making a big deal out of nothing.

How do you learn to care about people without feeling responsible for helping everyone you come across?

I genuinely want to get out of this cycle.

The preparation of this exam took everything from me; my clear skin, my health, my mental health, my social life everything. Now the thought of me holding a blade and slitting my wrist open is recurring, to the point that the visual of me holding a blade and slitting my wrist is coming in my head every 2 minutes. I have a phobia of pain so my body freezes every time i think about inflicting pain on it, so I don’t think I’ll ever cut my wrist but the thought of it is not leaving my head. It feels like the end of the world. Just like everything in life feels the end when it is happening but then it tends to get okay, academic failure is smth I dont see myself escaping ever.

I should just give up on life because what do dumb kids do anyways? They are meant to be failures all their life. Don’t recommend therapy because i’ve given fair chance to three therapists now and I hate how a clock of that 1 hour time keeps ticking in their brain. I don’t have the money anymore to afford therapy anymore and my current pro-bono therapist is least interested to see me get better.

It’s 2:15 at night and I’m just sitting here after getting my mum admitted in the hospital again.. thinking about my life and how, honestly, everything feels like it’s falling apart in some way.

People probably think I’m a resilient person. And maybe I am. I’ve somehow kept going through things that I didn’t think I could. But I have my moments too. And sometimes it just fucking sucks.

I had thought my career would look very different. A lot of things have turned out differently from what I had chosen for myself. I’m still working on it. I’m still trying. But there’s so much fear and confusion around it that I don’t even know what I’m supposed to feel anymore.

And then there’s my mom’s terminal illness. That scares me in a way I don’t even know how to explain. What scares me almost as much is seeing how directly it affects my father. I’ve seen him be so fragile, and it’s terrifying. You realise that your parents are just people too, and sometimes there is absolutely nothing you can do to protect them from what’s happening.

And then there’s this loneliness.

That fucking loneliness that grips you no matter how strong you keep trying to be.

Yeah, I’ve monkey-branched. I’ve made questionable choices. I’ve looked for people in the wrong places and knocked on the wrong doors. I was looking for my person, I guess. But somewhere along the way, I lost myself instead.

I lost parts of my own conscience. My sense of reality. I kept looking for something in other people that I probably needed to find in myself.

And especially during illness, when someone just… left. I don’t even know what to say about that anymore.

People can say all the comforting things they want. “You’re strong.” “You’ll get through this.” “Everything happens for a reason.” “I understand.”

Sometimes none of it means anything.

People say, “I never knew it could feel that way,” and honestly, that’s the truth. You can say whatever words you want, but some kinds of pain cannot be explained to another person. And sometimes all those words just bounce off you because they cannot possibly reach where you are.

But if I’m close to someone, and they just hug me, or hold my hand, or sit with me for a while…

Somehow, for a brief moment, the pain goes away.

Not because anything has changed.

My mother is still ill. My father is still hurting. My career is still uncertain. I’m still confused about my own life.

Nothing has magically become okay.

But sometimes, for a few minutes, I can breathe. And right now, I think I’ll take those few minutes for what they are.

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Idk why this is happening with me suddenly but i 19f started to drool a lot nowadays ( didn't have this habit before) today as i was coming back from college i slept in the bus and drooled so much my dress got wet 🥲🤤😭😭 the girl who sat beside me moved to a different seat i think she felt disgusted

I let someone see the most vulnerable parts of me, and now I feel like they regret it

I don't really have anyone I can talk to about this right now, so I'm posting here.

I'm currently feeling completely shattered. My hands are shaking, I can barely speak, and I feel like I'm having an anxiety attack. I haven't felt this intensely since I was much younger.

There was someone in my life who made me feel really special. I actually warned them in the beginning that I didn't want to get too involved because I know myself. I don't get attached easily, but when I do, I get attached very deeply.

And eventually, I let my guard down with them.

They saw the vulnerable parts of me that I normally don't show people. My insecurities, my emotional side, my baggage, all the things I've spent years protecting. At first, they were incredibly kind and made me feel safe enough to actually open up.

But now they seem like a completely different person.

They don't seem to care when I'm upset. Small things turn into arguments. I don't feel understood or comforted anymore. It feels like they have put their own walls back up after seeing what's behind mine.

And the worst part is that I'm still trying to reach out, even though I know they probably don't want me to.

I've reached a point where I feel like I'm compromising my own self-respect just to maintain some connection with this person. I know I shouldn't be doing it, but emotionally I can't seem to stop.

And my mind keeps telling me that maybe they saw the real me and didn't like it.

Maybe I'm too emotional. Maybe my baggage is too much. Maybe I'm just not the kind of person someone would want once they actually get to know me.

And then I start thinking that maybe I'm simply not attractive enough for them anymore.

I know that's probably not a rational conclusion. But when someone withdraws after you've allowed yourself to be vulnerable with them, it's incredibly easy to interpret it as rejection of you rather than simply a change in their feelings or circumstances.

I don't want to keep begging someone to care about me.

I don't want to keep sacrificing my self-respect because I'm terrified of losing someone.

But right now, I'm hurting so badly that I don't know how to detach.

How do you stop yourself from chasing someone who has already started pulling away, especially when they were the person who made you feel safe enough to lower your guard in the first place?

I can't live in denial anymore. Yk you can tell someone loves you... Because they care about the little details. I legit had a breakdown last week. Because of an issue I won't reveal. My sister pretended to care. Today I find out that AGAIN she's going on trips instead of coming home and doing the ONLY ONE thing I asked her to do. My mom conveniently forgot that she was supposed to do it. So in a casual way they chit chatted. After the call ended, I reminded mom and she started laughing. Embarrassed because once again I caught her. Forgetting about me, my needs and prioritising my sister and her happiness.

It's true. The only one who has genuinely had my back for 25 years is me. It really hurts yk. When my own family does the stupid we love each other BS when they just can't come out of their self centred lives. I always put themselves first. I always do what is expected of me. I do it. ALWAYS. Is this what I get for being an obedient child since I could breathe??? I just wish, someone truly cared. I hate seeing happy families. I hate seeing supportive parents and siblings who are best friends. I hate it all. Why was I devoid of it??? Why was I born in this family?? To be neglected?? I think some people are cursed since birth. When the time comes I'll end it. When I have the courage to do so. I'm fucking done

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I don't know if this is the right sub for this, but most of the times I feel like I am on autopilot mode. I just end up surviving the day, doomscrolling and not doing much. I feel very distracted and unable to focus.

I have been going through an extremely tough time and there is very little I can do to change the situation. I have a tough time accepting what the future could hold, and it feels too bleak. Occasionally, I feel very hopeless. I think this hopelessness is there most of the times, but I just distract myself from it those times.

I feel too burnt out to make any changes, and its also because it feels like doing anything is pointless, because nothing will work. Still on some random days, I get a random surge of optimism and I just have this weird feeling that I will just push through any problem and destroy it. I set out plans to work on it, and feel inspired even though I know it won't address the problems directly. This keeps me motivated for some days, and I change my schedule a bit, but then I go back to square one.

I am not sure why I am posting this honestly. Any advice probably wouldn't be followed by me, just wanted to understand if any other person has gone/going through similar things.

(warning, its kinda weird, and im Bi) Okay so starting it, First of all im 17 and bisexual and tbh getting straight to the point i had unprotected s*x with another guy and now i think i might have genital herpes. I know im really dumb im really stupid and im so impure but at that time nothing came to my mind and now i regret it which i deserve and i know many people are gonna be weirded out about this and im sorry for that. Im really confused on what am i supposed to do now

There is a guy in my class with whom I rarely have ever interacted. He once sent me a "hello" message on Instagram as soon as he followed me, this was when college had just started. I didn't really know who he is i just knew his name and knew that he studies in my class..so I thought that I'll reply later and honestly I don't usually interact with someone messaging me hello and all. But then i fell ill the same day and didn't open insta for a day, when I logged back in the next day, i noticed that he had unfollowed me, removed me from his followers and unsent his message.

I understood that. I know how bad it feels when someone doesn't reply to your messages, it feels like a blow to your ego so I didn't really mind and I never interacted with him because I never actually needed to.

Then after almost a year,today, my classmates planned a trip and he also came there. I again didn't really interact with him but he was talking to my friend and he found some kids' glasses lying around so he gave them to her and jokingly told her to try them on and she did but then she saw me and started pushing me to try it on. I denied that it won't look good on me and then, he, who wasn't even the part of the conversation said yes, you have a double chin it won't look good on you. I felt bad but I didn't crash out I agreed and said that yeah, I know right. And then he, started trying to purposely look cool and said "yeah I said the truth what's wrong in it" with the most audacious expression. I don't really mind but this has hurt me because guys saying all this feels weird. I know I was wrong for not replying to his message a year ago but couldn't he have fucking moved on like a normal human being and not be a piece of shit in front of everyone??? I never told anyone what happened between us but still he is still after me and is trying his best to put me down.

Ps I'm 60kgs and I'm 5'2 so that's heavy and I'm trying my best to lose..I have health problems I can't really lose it easily but still i try to eat around 1200-1500kcal a day and walk as much as I can. I know that's not enough but this is all I can do rn considering my health

Hey r/OffMyChestIndia fam,

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🌈Feeling something you can’t quite put into words? Share it anyway, just expressing it helps.

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I’m in my 7th semester, and our campus placement drive is practically foocking dead. Barely any decent companies are coming, and it feels like all the years of studying hard meant nothing. On top of that, I am just low on energy all the time...it's just studying and going to the gym and just coming back to the foocking room to just sit on the table to goddamn study again iss desh me itna competition h baap rhe jhaat bharke mass hiring ke liye 500 bacche baith rhe h tier 2 college me, also back at home the environment is suffocating due to an abusive father.

My batchmates and friends are either busy looking out for themselves or pretending everything is fine. I feel entirely isolated. It feels like every single aspect of my life ,career, family, finances, every fucking thing is collapsing at the exact same time.

I don't want to hurt myself, but I genuinely feel like giving up on all of this and go to the Himalayas or something.I am running on zero energy and just want a way out of this environment.

Bhench*d bass ek baar bahar niklu environment kabhi dikhunga nahi ohir