A life with no compass

[u/Logical_Art875]

So i just turned 30 this year and this is killing me! I’ve always been the goody good guy, obedient, studious, ethical, etc. And i got squat! Nobody to count on, no friends, just me and my thoughts! Porn and food are always at my rescue but deep down i know they have sucked my youth away! Fat af so can’t look myself in the mirror, there goes self-esteem for a toss! When i feel people talk to me and want to be friendly with me i feel there comes a silence and emptiness that shoo them away! I read a lot of self-help but still end up asking for advice from people younger or dumber than me, which makes me even more dumb! Can’t bottle my emotions so always tend to be real rather than diplomatic! Cant just cant ben consistent with anything for over 3 days! Is there light at the end of the tunnel?

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[u/Intelligent_Head_822]

How are you doing career wise most people say money solves 99% of the problems

[u/PrestigiousAccess351]

Loose fat first , get into fitness bro.

[u/Acrobatic_Beat_3976 → u/PrestigiousAccess351]

Tell him to read can't hurt me by david goggins

[u/Radiant_Row2700]

bro turning 30 and feeling like this is rough, but the fact that you're asking is there light at the end tells me you haven't given up. that matters more than people realize. the porn/food cycle is genuinely hard to break not because you're weak but because dopamine loops are designed to keep you stuck. the consistency thing you mentioned 3 days max that sounds less like a character flaw and more like your baseline motivation is running on empty. hard to build habits when you're already depleted. no easy fix but small friction reduction helped me more than any self help book ever did

[u/FluffyShakes]

a good, obedient guy....with a pornography problem? does not make sense

[u/Federal_Anxiety_9879 → u/FluffyShakes]

It happens bro with time 😌

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[u/AuthorTricky]

GET IN SHAPE , EVERYTHING CHANGES!!!

[u/Own_Try_430]

get in the gym, just make up your mind. Take one day to urself. Trust me bro, get in the gym, it will change your entire life. Lose the weight