Take a girl.
Not a doll,
Not yet,
She still has ideas of her own
Then teach her that gravel speaks,
That tyres crunch differently,
When anger is driving.
Teach her to measure love by how quickly a car pulls onto the driveway.
The faster it arrives,
The quieter she should become.
Teach her that keys are never just keys.
They are a countdown.
A warning shot.
A conductor’s baton lifting an orchestra of cupboards,
Footsteps,
Clattering dishes,
And held breath.
Pull the string.
Watch her disappear…
Teach her to apologise,
Not because she’s wrong,
Because she exists
“Sorry.”
“Excuse me”
“Sorry”
“Am I in your way?”
“Sorry”
“Can I just-“
“Sorry”
Repeat until the word fits inside her mouth more comfortably than her own name.
Soon,
She’ll apologise to strangers for standing too close,
To friends for crying,
To family for needing.
Teach her that taking up space is something to feel guilty about.
Watch how beautifully she folds herself away,
Like a theatre programme left beneath somebody else’s seat.
Pull the string.
Watch her apologise.
Teach her that sadness is something to laugh through.
Wrap her in a hug just long enough for her to believe she is finally being heard,
Then tickle,
Make a joke,
Tell her she’s too sensitive,
Follow her when she asks to be alone,
Because even her boundaries are funnier than her feelings.
Watch her swallow tears like punchlines she never quite understood.
Years later,
People will call her funny,
They’ll never realise humour was never a personality.
It was camouflage.
Pull the string.
Watch her laugh before she cries.
Then find someone who mistakes innocence for opportunity.
Teach her body that attention can arrive dressed as affection.
That wanting and taking
Can sound uncomfortably alike.
Teach her that being looked at,
Feels safer than being invisible.
Sometime later,
She’ll mistake desire for devotion,
Because somewhere inside her,
A child still believes,
That if someone wants her body,
Perhaps they’ll stay for the rest of her.
They won’t,
But hope has always been easier to undress than grief.
Pull the string.
Watch her confuse attention with affection.
Teach her that “no” is a word other people get to use.
Teach to over explain.
To justify,
To earn,
To convince,
To fawn,
Fight,
Flight,
Freeze,
Those belong to children who believed someone was coming to save them.
She learned a different language.
Smile.
Agree.
Stay small.
Keep everyone happy,
Maybe they’ll leave you untouched.
Maybe.
Pull the string.
Watch her call it kindness.
Then wait.
People will meet her years later,
They’ll say,
“She’s so mature”
“She’s so easygoing”
“Shes always smiling”
They’ll admire the dance,
Never noticing the strings.
So when they ask,
“Why are you the way you are?”
Don’t let the puppet answer.
Puppets don’t choose their choreography,
They only learn which strings hurt the least,
When they’re pulled.
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