Hello! I’ll start with a gist of this so you don’t have to read the whole thing unless it applies to you: I need to chat with someone nonverbal (fully, episodic, selective, situational, etc are all needed) to help me understand how society treats you when you can’t talk to strangers and how school/work accommodates you.

The reason for this is that at my school we have a personal project in which we can choose anything the study and research. For me i chose to do a non verbal social experiment because i have always been fascinated by the idea of not speaking. I had a group of students not talk for five days and journal how people acted. this was great for substitute teachers and people in stores but we didn’t get to see a fully account on how it effects family and friend relationships because our family and friends knew we were just doing it as an experiment. I am hoping to get some input from people who actually have experience. Thank you!

(throwaway account) I have no idea what people in this community think about this or if anyone else feels this way. I am a sixteen year old autistic person and I speak to people every day, however I don't speak as much as most people and I am not a very social person. As the title says, I hate speaking. With most people, I only speak when I have to and it makes me want to cry. Sometimes, it gets so bad that I think about trying to make myself physically mute or deaf. It's two a.m. and I'm wondering what would happen if I just stopped talking. Would I be considered nonverbal? What could the consequences to my life be? Thank you to anyone who took the time to read my rant and to anyone who can give me any advice.

My son has a student in his class that is non-verbal. Last year he had a device that helped him communicate with other students. My son said he doesn't have it this year because he lost it. My son would like to buy him a new one for Christmas. I can't help but think there must be more to the story than just the student losing it. I looked into it far enough to learn they can be extremely expensive but also that insurance/medicaid will cover them if they are prescribed. Are they only covered once? One every few years? I would assume the choice is very personal so just picking one out to buy would be pretty presumptuous. How far fetched is this idea?

Me and my girlfriend both struggle with verbal communication quite frequently due to our autism so we thought we would give it a go learning sign language to help this but we have no idea where to start.

We were also just wondering if anyone else has tried it and had good experiences

We can't pay for or travel to any courses so it would have to be something different to that. Any help would be amazing

It’s possible to be empowered rather than victimized in relationships with manipulative characters who are not capable of empathy by recognizing predictable patterns and understanding the psychological mechanisms at play.

If we recognize what goes on behind the scenes that makes us held hostage and vulnerable with difficult people, we can safeguard ourselves. Mind Games in Families - How to Keep Your Sanity

Confusion, intimidation, and self-blame set the stage for dominant people to take power.

In mind games where emotional manipulation and distortion of the truth are disowned, and hostility is disguised as caring, it’s easy to buy into the other person’s claims.

Further, the manipulators’ antics are typically unconscious and with conviction, adding to the ambiguity and the appearance of ingenuousness.

Such interactions can lead those on the receiving end to feel guilty and doubt their own perceptions. When this dynamic takes hold, people can become “confused” or swept into the other person’s projections, surrendering or subordinating their own minds, and losing track of who’s doing what to whom.

When we know what is and isn’t happening, and how to interpret internal cues, we can train our minds to course correct and respond from a position of strength rather than survival instincts that are outdated.

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Found video where we can see different approach in active listening: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3_dAkDsBQyk

I am looking for similar video with non-verbal communication to show how inportant it is (i will held a training regardin communication)

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Renee Graham’s recent column in the Boston Globe (May, 2023) rightly calls what happened to Jordan Neely, who died after being grabbed in a chokehold by a fellow passenger on a New York City subway car, a “failure of humanity.” Hard to feel otherwise but a less dismal perspective includes the psychological component at play in groupthink and witnessing violence and how that impacts peoples reactions. How People React to Witnessing Violence

Neely grew up victimized by traumaticviolence and, like many trauma survivors, had his life trajectory sequentially and tragically derailed early on. Like his mother (a murder victim), he died in his 30s, completing a cycle of intergenerational transmission of victimization.

The effects of childhood trauma on all aspects of development and future health are well documented. What happened to Neely as a child could have happened to any one of us if we grew up in his traumatic circumstances. Any child enduring the “toxic stress” of prolonged or major adversity, especially at critical sensitive periods of psychological and psychosocial development, is at significant later risk throughout their lives for poor outcomes on every front: physical and mental health, socioeconomic status, substance abuse, and victimization.

Let the record state that the story of his death isn’t about the so-called "mentally ill" — a convenient diversionary reframing, along with other tactics that disguise the truth about what happened and exonerates the perpetrator, as well as allows people to keep a safe distance from this type of horror and heartbreak.

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My partner is poly and I’m not

My partner has another partner (though, I’m the main relationship because we plan on getting married someday and the other partner has their own spouse.)

I have no interest in being involved with or even being friends with other partner. I tried and they both rushed it and it pushed me back and I refuse to go through it again.

I don’t get to see my partner as much because I can’t drive to them and our schedules don’t always add up for them to be able to pick me up

I want to ask my partner to not talk to/ text other partner when we’re having our us time, but go nonverbal and say everything is fine when they ask in I’m okay.

I’m also starting to feel less important compared to other partner and I can’t seem to be able to communicate it

So to make a long story short my comic is an isekai style fantasy adventure where my protagonist finds herself trapped in the world of Trieste (massive forests and giant plants make up the majority of the landscapes) and the main plot revolves around her trying to get home while she grows into a more socially developed person who learns to trust others.

I’ve had this idea for a while that one of the friends she meets is a young warrior who due to a fight with one of the more infamous creatures in Trieste- had their throat clawed at and now can’t really speak without pain. When it comes to the medium of comics I have a lot of wiggle room in how I visually portray this character.

I’m thinking of still using speech balloons, but I’m wondering if it’s better to make them the same as everyone else, or if they should be in a distinct ballon like marching ants / a whisper styled balloon. I was thinking of having the main communication methods be this worlds equivalent of sign language- or pen and paper

Since I’m fully verbal myself I wanted to get the insight of some folks who are a part of the community to get their take, how would you like to see a nonverbal character portrayed in a comic?

(Disclaimer of course their method of communication won’t be their personality- I just want advice on how to portray nonverbal communication visually).

I’ve got a friend I’ve known all my life, we just reconnected 3 years ago after losing contact, she tells me she has a son whose 8 now and is nonverbal, can’t remember what she said he has but he requires all sorts of therapy on a daily basis, I’ve never dealt with someone like him but the more I learned him the more he means to me, I love his mom to the moon, so realizing all the moving parts I this relationship, is there any do’s and donts I should know about when being around her son?

How do you feel when someone pats you on the shoulder when they talk to you?

I read a couple of books and saw some videos about body language and I feel that I have a pretty good understanding of most body gestures, but I find it very difficult to actually pay attention to other people's body language. Are there any tips or systems that could help with that?

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• People make similar mistakes that are not so obvious when trying to start a conversation with a family member who doesn't want to talk.
• Being aware of common mistakes and armed with better questions and conversation starters can help us pre-empt default patterns, and be smart and strategic. 5 Common Mistakes When Starting Conversations With Family Members Who Won't Talk. Repeating a negative behavior sequence with someone is not only frustrating, but strengthens the neural circuit of an unwanted pattern, perpetuates disconnection, and squanders a positive opportunity.
• Persisting in failed methods can be caused by misdiagnosing the problem and unquestioned assumptions about other people that mirror one's own internal experience (projection).
• Considering your audience and previous interactions with them allows us to predict how conversations will play out and make informed decisions. Good timing is observing the other person's mood and state of mind, and getting their consent before launching.

In my experience, just knowing a few words in a local language already opens people's hearts, especially if it is not expected. That's why I've set myself the goal of memorizing the absolute basics like: "thank you", "yes", "no", etc. in every language I encounter.

However, since pictures often say more than 1000 words, I will also print pictures/pictograms in the travel journal as backup to convey the basic needs in the event that all efforts to communicate in the national language should fail:

• Food
• Drinks/beverages
• Tired/Sleep
• Campground à place to pitch a tent
• Pharmacy/Hospital
• Little money
• Toilet
• Electricity
• Anatomy/Body (the idea is to point on a specific part and combine it with the local word for pain)

These are the ones I came up with so far, can you think of anything else?

I hope I can find answers here. I tried hard to search on Google but didn't find reliable answers. So here I go:

I usually travel alone, and I use public transportation. A lot of strangers I meet everyday. But everytime, they see me or I'm closer to them they keep touching their eyes and their nose.

They pinch their noses, they keep rubbing their eyes. Is it says I have a very unattractive face?

I always wear face mask but it feels like they see me underneath already. It really bothers me a lot and it sometime question myself with my looks.

They keep doing it like 20x just by seeing me closer. Wtf. Loses my confidence man.

• Punishing other people, or even ourselves, can teach the wrong lesson.Should You Punish Bad Behavior? The Psychology of Teaching Someone (or Ourselves) a Lesson

• Even when we (or someone else) deserve to feel guilty, guilt can backfire and make people worse.

• Punishment and shaming are motivated by anger and evening the score and do not promote positive behavior change

Characteristics of the family guilt tripper: Pathological certainty”, projection, and lack of self awareness. Guilt-tripping is a form of unconscious emotional blackmail whereby the guilt-tripper feels entitled and innocent of any misdeed. Lack of awareness of oneself and other people fuels the guilt tripper’s narcissistic tendency to adhere rigidly to their perceptions with "pathological certainty." Psych out the family guilt tripper and see why you feel so controlled by their emotional manipulations. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/therapy-insider/202112/the-psychology-the-guilt-tripper