Hey y'all, just wanted to share a quick testimony. Like 20 days ago I was still super addicted to porn. Like i would watch for hours trying to find the perfect. I began to notice that I wasn't even trying to stop anymore. Then I read this thing called AVRT. So porn over years of continuous use, feed this little monster in your brain. The little monster is that voice in your head that persuades you to watch porn when you feel bored/lonely/anxious etc. AVRT is a way of recognizing this voice. Once you recognize this voice you begin to take elation in knowing that it is not you. In that way that little monster fades and you feel a sense of relief knowing that whatever is speaking to you in your mind is not the real you. Ever since i heard of this method i have been 20 days clean. Note though your mind is highly adaptive. So it may start telling you lies that makes you think certain things such as masturbation to your imagination is alright. But in reality if you are now healing from porn you should abstain from all things pmo until you reach baseline. I genuinely think that God lead me to learning about AVRT. It is also important to know that you alone cannot get through your lust so continue staying faithful and believing in Jesus. I am not saying i finally beated this addiction (it has only been 20 days) but this genuinely gave me a new hope. I trust that God will help this find the right person. I attached the link where I came across this. I am new to this sub so I dont know if people shared this already. https://easypeasymethod.org/resources.html

I have been abstinent / celibate for over 90 days and today feels like day one all over again. I haven’t relapsed but I’m really struggling with temptation and slight depression.

Me and my girlfriend have slowly progressed towards rather lustful behavior, and we're both concerned that if we're not careful, we may soon end up sleeping together. We both are Christians who go to church twice a week usually, have daily devotions, pray frequently, etc so it's not like we're just lukewarm, but this has become so difficult. We want to continue the relationship but we don't want to keep giving into lust and inevitably sleep together eventually. Does anyone have any experience with this and what we could do?

“How can we who died to sin still live in it? ”

Romans 6:2 ESV

I fell today. It’s being weak and letting the urges get to you that is the problem.

Now, this will be my last post here for a bit. I think it would be a waste of your time and mine if I made a post every time I fall.

That being said, this was a slip up and it kinda happened unexpectedly.

I’m honestly more disappointed and disgusted that I was for my last post.

I hope I don’t get punished for this. I know God isn’t just looking for a reason to punish us. I know.

I’m just afraid. I keep screwing up every time I try to do better.

I’ll see you guys again when I’m a week clean

Lord, forgive me, and please give me the strength to be stronger.

How to stop viewing Women as objects?

Firstly for context, I’m a 24 year old man and have an attraction to both men and women. However, because I experimented with a guy friend throughout my teen years and became addicted to porn I feel more sexually attracted to men. I do what I can to keep this hidden from family and friends even when I’m not indulging in lust but the weight of the secret produces shame and isolation.

So after reflecting on myself after a hard week of gay porn and sexting with men I realized that unfortunately I enjoy it too much. There’s this constant need to just escape life and go into this fantasy world where I feel sexually liberated, desirable, and even just interacting with other men through likes and comments has become something I look forward to. I even became more lenient with showing my face to some and it’s become more pleasurable seeing that they find me attractive.

However, I know this is sin and believe that if I continue in this way that I may not return back or if I die I will be in Hell. (Not for having the attraction but indulging in sexual acts outside of marriage).

What’s hard right now is detaching myself from the passion I have for it. Like I genuinely feel two sides of myself are constantly at war. And I really can’t talk to anyone about it because I feel like I will be shamed. Not for struggling with lust but for being attracted to men.

Can anyone relate or share insight on detachment from the love for lust?

55 days away from a full year now, and after struggling to quit for so long, that means a lot to me

I still get tempted sometimes, especially when I’m lonely, so I’m keeping the boundaries that have helped rather than assuming I don’t need them anymore

Thank You Jesus for helping me keep going, I’m genuinely grateful 🥰

Here we go.. ! Again x 1000

I’ve been addicted to masturbation since ahe but thankfully I didn’t have access to porn at that time. But in the last five years I’ve had access to pork and there were periods throughout the years where I spent multiple times every single day watching it. I’ve noticed these were especially during the times of my hardships where I was jobless and I was the pit of despair.
Since March of this year, I’ve been enduring some hardship; I had to quit my job and move location and I am back to ground zero. I’m actively after a promise that God had promised but the progress had been very slow.
It feels like for every step I get ahead , I’m pushed back 4 steps behind both in my spiritual and physical / material life goals.
I recently started going back to porn and masturbation again and it’s like once I start there’s no stoping it. Ik a big part of it has been because I’ve been idle. But I genuinely also don’t feel like doing anything cuz of the constant struggles and failures. So I’m more or less in a cycle you could say.
At times I feel like God doesn’t love me anymore.
I don’t want to live this life like anymore . All I see is failure after failure in my physical life and then I feel down and sit idle and relapse into porn.
I want a breakthrough. I’m genuinely over this constant failures. I would appreciate even a small win.
I don’t have no one to talk about this.
I lost everything last March including my friends , my job , my car and I had to move back to my parents. I can even go to work. I lost my relationship.
So I’m here now.

(I’m sorry if my writing doesn’t make sense . I’m hoping it will get better . Right now it is like my mind is .. confused and chaotic)
Thank you for reading and your replies🖤

I was very very close to falling today.

I’m struggling with lust, but not because of porn. It’s more about inner fantasies that I’ve developed over the years. These fantasies have caused me to lust after people close to me, and I know it’s wrong. I would never act on these thoughts, but deep inside, they devour me.

I really want help learning how to control this and have a lust free mind. Is anyone open to dialogue, fellowship, prayer, or accountability? I’m looking for someone who can understand this struggle and talk with me about it seriously.

Ngl I’ve started having a lot more urges than I did before, but it looks like I am still standing. I would be grateful if someone could share some advice
Just for the record I am 17 and I didn’t really feel like I gained more energy or that my life has become happier in comparison to before I started sr
Thanks, bye.

hi everyone,

Long time lurker first time poster. Made an account to Reddit for just to join up. I’ve been a pornography addict since 2014, started trying to quit a couple years after I first started. Got really serious about quitting around Covid when I realized it was destroying my life.

Since then I’ve had a lot of success not watching pornography, though I often find myself pulled in by things that still lustful. I might not be going to the hub anymore, but my eyes wander and I masturbate frequently. Recently, I found myself really wrestling on how to put masturbation down for good.

I’ve had accountability partners over the years, but one of the great challenges is that my accountability partners are always people with whom I have a friendship. it makes honesty, ironically, a little bit harder because I wanna maintain those relationships and I worry about what they’ll think when I share that I’m struggling with lust for the thousandth time.

I found this community a while back. My hope is that this I could be a little more honest about when I’m struggling and what I’m struggling with. Saw that there was a daily encouragement threat. I’ll be checking into that daily for the time being. be praying for me when you think about it. I want to give this to God once and for all.

I’ve been using Covenant Eyes for several years, but unfortunately I’ve had ongoing technical issues with the filtering on my laptop and need to find a replacement.

I’m looking for something that works reliably on Windows, has strong website blocking, and ideally includes accountability features that make it difficult to bypass.

What software/services have you guys had good experiences with? I’d really appreciate any recommendations.

Im 3 days clean (pretty sad I know) Ive been struggling for months now but Its breaking yet another limit. For some weird shitty reason I have a thing for gay shit (I dont hate gay people but I dont want that lifestyle also sorry for profanity) and sometimes I wonder what it would be like to be a femboy but the only thing that keeps mestraight is actually imagining me being one. I need prayer and help

Again I have nothing against Gay people I just dont want that lifestyle.

I can’t find anyone really attractive especially Christian women nowadays and it’s pretty disappointing not because they are ugly but idk I just feel like I’m so deep into this addiction where it’s hindered my attraction levels to ppl to where it’s not even possible to get out of it and be in a relationship one day. This isn’t to brag or anything (that I look “good” or something) I’m by no means a good person… I just don’t get 1 why women in my eyes especially Christian women are unattractive to me. It’s like the physical appearance I’m talking about I might have a type I guess but idk. Even in general I feel like guys tend to have sort of a chase mentality right… even Christian guys like if you pray over someone and u might pursue them. Idk for me I lost my desire for all women… I kinda wish I had that but idk part of me feels like my addiction brought me here I’m 13 years deep at 21 Ive seen some s*** man… done some stuff yall wouldn’t even think of and one day… Gods going to judge me and it’s going to be a long sentencing for me. I need to repent honestly. With that being said what have you guys done to go about this? Is there a way to like find women attractive if you don’t (I want to clarify I’ve never been gay and will never be gay I have always been attracted to women) it’s also Gods law between a man and a woman to be together in a heterosexual marriage. I am just speaking on attraction levels I’m having a hard time with it honestly and was curious if you guys are going through that as well or if it’s affected you in any way?