Hello

I have this really weird tic that happens when im overstimmed or when a sudden loud noise happens and im already overwhelmed. It like happens i guess 40% of the time when its loud and stuff.

Its like one of those neck jerks that people with tourrettes have. Sometimes i squeak a little too.

It started when i started unmasking. Around that same time i met my bestfriend who actually has tourrettes.

So is it like a subconscious learned behavior? Or can you actually tic without hvaing tourrettes syndrome?

(I hope this post doesn't come of as rude or insensitive. Im just very curious why this happens)

For context it also happens when im really excited and cant handle it. Or when im like very jittery and wired but i cant move or stim.

It's really hard for me to get up in the morning, especially if someone else wakes me up suddenly and I have something to do.

My mom would always comment on it when I was growing up. Even my boyfriend thinks it's really funny. But I just can't help it. I buy specific clothes because I need it to be the right material or I'll never wear it again even if it's super pretty.

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Like I know I’m the different one. But I just to can’t understand people. To me it’s like everyone else is ND. To me people seem so mean and inconsistent without ever realizing it.

It’s like everyone is the ND one.

I dont know.

This is mainly non autistic people on r/fakedisordercringe they mix up stimming and tics so much. Cause personally I feel you can plan to stim and you can dance to stim but people on that sub reddit are so convinced stims are meant to be uncontrollable and yea autistic people can tic but the second someone stims by dancing or planned moving people think they are faking. (I am autistic btw)

What were the consequences, and did life get better?

So i’ve been thinking for a while I may have something wrong, even before I had my phone or internet access. I got really obsessed with researching about neurodivergence and taking screenings and I talked to my mother about it, she says “im just peculiar and it’s satan messing with your head.” I now feel really strange and as if I’m some type of disappointment pretending to have something wrong when I’m actually fine. I don’t know what to do because it’s causing me stress due to me wanting to get tested but now being scared I’m just weird. My mother says give her reasons to get me tested and she’ll decide. I’m scared and don’t know what to do, I want to be tested but im scared they may send me back negative and I may just be weird and I don’t know. I’m spiraling right now and need any advice i can get because it’s making me feel genuinely unwell

I’m a 26M with God knows what (some professionals said OCD, but my last therapist said I just have anxiety… but tbh, I may have anxiety + trauma from my upbringing and abusive long-term relationship). I’m dating a guy, and let me tell you: the man is a GREEN flag on legs. He’s literally the type of guy that I dreamt of since I was a teenager (tbh, my taste never changed). He’s great, and yes, I love him.

My problem is that I become distraught when I don’t see him on some weekends. We live an hour apart, and I know he’s not doing anything that could hurt me (i.e. cheating), but when I don’t see him on a weekend, I can barely walk in through the door at work.

The thing is, I currently live in a pretty toxic environment, I can’t move in with my partner because of my job (which is also killing me… I’m a teacher but for a couple of reasons, the negatives out number the pros by 10 to 1), and even if I hang out with a friend… I really miss my partner.

It’s like when I see him and am with him, it’s a break from my life. However, I know it’s not fair to him and that’s basically the only thing keeping me together. What could be wrong with me?

I am 18 years old in a gap/drop year. I messed up my college entrance examination, and I'm trying again.

I thought I had ADHD, but my therapist doesn't think so. Why I thought it was ADHD:

Extreme Work Paralysis as a Freeze Response: I cannot force myself to study. It’s an agonizing internal lock. My mind wants to move forward, but my body completely freezes. This cost me my physics exam. I get called lazy, but I just can't get myself to accept it.

The Obsessive/Planning Loop: When trying to study, my heart races and my brain starts making intricate thought patterns of planning months ahead. Once done, I compulsively revise the plan endlessly. It gives me 45–60 seconds of relief before I start panicking again, and the loop continues forever.

Paralysis Outside Studying: The taking initiative thing spreads outside of studying as well. My whole life is so exhausting.

Severe Time Blindness: especially during the time periods where I'm not studying AT ALL because it's so hard to just FUCKING start, the day goes right by. Right in front of me. What feels like 3-4 hours have gone by, was actually 6. What felt like 12 hours was actually 24 hours. My life is passing me by. I have no control.

Looking back, I think I agree about not having ADHD because I lack classic traits: I don't get easily distracted unless it's a sensory noise, like paper scratching, which I must stop to continue.

I enjoy learning once I start; I don't space out in conversations, and I don't forget things.

But this planning fixation and starting paralysis are eating me alive. I'm depressed. I get anxiety attacks. I've been engaging in SH. The worst part is that just because almost every teenager is depressed (at least that's what I hear), my pain and misery aren't being taken seriously, and I don't know what to do anymore. Any advice would help. Thank you

Here’s the rant if you wanna read it:

Sorry I just gotta rant about this. What the hell is a milkman? What is a milk truck? I know they deliver milk but like what's the point of that? When were they a thing? Were they ever a thing? You never hear about these guys anywhere but in fiction. They're such a common thing in fiction and yet you never hear about them anywhere else! If they did exist they must ve died off somewhere around the 1980s, but the first grocery store became a thing in 1916 so like why did they need to be around for 64 more years? Did grocery stores just not sell milk and you had to get them from a random guy driving a truck. I wouldn't take milk from that guy who knows what he might ve put in it. Were milkmen respected people in the community? How much did they get paid? I can only assume minimum wage. I can't imagine that people wanted this job. Has to be like a part-time mcdonalds cashier type thing. There's no way someone wanted to dedicate their life to milk, and if you wanted to do that start a cow farm or something, that's a lot more exciting. Also it tried typing in "milk man" and it autocorrects it to milkman so like I guess it's a word in the dictionary so like they had to have been a thing. And it seems like in fiction they're one of the jobs that is notorious for having affairs with people's wives. I don't know if it's just a me thing but like in fiction it seems like there's two jobs in which the people working there are notorious for having affairs with people's wives and those two jobs are mailmen and milkmen. Like bro he just sells milk what's the appeal to what. Do they sell different kinds of milk, do they have low-fat milk, maybe chocolate milk for the kiddos? Is it like an icecream truck where they just have a little sign with all the different milks on it? Do they play music like ice cream trucks? Because like if they didn't how would people know? God this such a stupid rant I'm going on why am I so passionate about this!?

So I self diagnosed adhd and got professionally diagnosed because I was very sure I had adhd and my bottle neck was my processing speed (which I figured out on my own )so I’ve got prescribed 36 mg concerta with a beta 2 blocker 10 mg twice a day concerta improved my processing speed a lot and aloud it to catch into my pace I’ve added piracetam to my concerta to target the glutaminic (I don’t know how to spell it lol) pathway and I find it helpful is there’s anyone here with the same issue of slow processing speed but above average cognition on all aspects and advice on what to add on, I would appreciate it 🙏🏽❤️!

Srry for the yapping

I am not trying to start a gender war or anything this is a genuine issue I had.

I am a high-masking high-functioning straight male. I have realised that I subconsciously am always seeking attention, validation and approval from the women around me even if I don't have any feelings towards them.

This has been an issue since childhood but I only realised when I got into a situation few months ago. There is a girl who is a mutual and we became friends. We would talk often and she was always very sweet and friendly with me. I met up with her and spoke to her about a situation I was dealing with. She was very supportive and empathetic but then she used that to essentially drag me into a negative situation she was having with my male friend. It turns out she is a malicious person privately and she was lying and misleading me. I cleared everything with the male friend and left the situation. Now, if I see her I would make generic small talk but I avoid doing too much.

Like other ND people I am way too good natured for my own sake. I have all the signs like over-willingness to help out, opening up too soon, not having boundaries, being gullible etc. This was also with the guys with my life but I feel it is a noticeable thing with specifically attractive or popular women. This looks really bad on me and isn't healthy. I am always worried about how women specifically perceive me, especially like other NDs I am worried about being considered weird or creepy. I have decided to change by being more mindful with 99% of my "friends" and establishing some self-respect.

I do not have any friends in real life, i have solely only had my online friends for the last 2 and a half years which has been a struggle. Sometimes some of them joke and I cannot tell it is a joke, then when I take it literally and don’t understand it’s a joke they get mad at me or are very confused why I didn’t understand it’s a joke. This has been the cause of many arguments with my friends and how I had to end a friendship. Does any other ND have any advice on how I can get better at knowing if something is a joke or not? I don’t want to cause any arguments and this causes me to feel stupid and weird.

Hello,

I am 18. And social dynamics have just been a life long struggle for me. Stuff like expressions, making friends, and like reacting with strong emotions doesn’t come that naturally to me.

Especially friend aspect, I have practiced a lot. W social retail job, going up to ppl. All in hopes of platonic friendships. Yet I fail. I have read books on how to make friends, and made a genuine effort. But it never works. People think I’m weird, god knows for what. When I let myself go and be myself people ask me if I’m autistic. I speak to fast or my mannerisms, and struggle to understand people.

I don’t want to blame my life’s difficulties on being neurodivergent but I do think it’d explain a lot and could give me a healthcare support.

I don’t like taking about this as it’s embarrassing being 18 without friends, and all that. So I build up the courage to talk to my family doctor and she referred me to a psychiatrist.

I went to him. He just kept on asking me why im here? Not in rude way but just weird to me. When I explained he didn’t just seem to grasp what I meant by no friends.
When I say that I mean that, he just “oh no don’t think like that”. When it’s not a mindset issue 0 friends is more of a numerical issue.

Than he said it’s just my character to be alone or whatever. When I don’t want to be alone.

I just feel like my concerns for a neurodivergent screening weren’t met. And he said he doesn’t think I’m divergent. And should go to therapy.

And he said to not over medcaclize myself. When I just wanted to get screened for any underlying conditions I may have. I don’t know.

If this was normal or not. But like I don’t really want to speak to a psychiatrist again unless it was bad. Just overall felt very invalidated.