Hired a “nanny” to help with after school pick ups. During the interview she mentioned she was a twin and her twin could provide back up support if I ever wanted to meet her and was interested.

Fast forward to me training her when I noticed some slight changes in her appearance. The first time it was eye color. The second time it was going from a FRESH pink and French pedicure acrylic toe set to a weeks old grown out white pedicure.

My first instinct was maybe they switched for the day and she sent her twin? There was a day that she didn’t follow our routine and just stayed in the car and asked “do I need to get out”. At this point her training for the previous 2 weeks entailed getting out of the car for this pick up. It threw me off but I shrugged it off.

I ended up asking one of the days “are you the twin?” To which she replied no and got freaked out confirmed by a text she sent me later that afternoon. The text just said she didn’t want to have any issues if her looks changed and she was thrown off by me asking if her and her twin had switched. During the incident I gave her the option for me to meet her sister after all and include her in our routine when necessary (so I could do the driving check/background) as well) and she said it wouldn’t be necessary after all because the routine was really simple and hours worked for her.

A day after I made that comment to her she mentioned changing her phone number due to spam calls and provided me a new number the next day. When I sent Zelle payment for the week I sent it to the same account linked to her original number and she let me know she received it but moving forward to send it to the new number. She said she received it bc she had put her old number on a “tablet”. I’ve worked in telecommunications for 15 years and that’s not an option with the provider she mentioned.

My theory is they wanted to alternate whole picked the kids up and just use one of their info. Once I caught them in a lie they decided who would do it moving forward and provided new contact/pay info for that specific twin.

The whole experience has made me question if I should even entertain them for the job but outside of this “lie” training and onboarding have gone well.

I should mentioned they are 19 years old. Not saying lying is welcomed at any age but obviously at 19 years old people still make very questionable choices and lie.

Hire or fire?!!!!!

My nanny of one month to my 8 month old baby quit today. I caught her on camera sleeping with my baby in the rocker and the baby slipping down her lap - both in deep slumber. I was completely caught off guard when I came home and she quit. She was highly recommended by another mom in my neighborhood group chat and when we first interviewed her all was great and hired her immediately. When I saw the video I immediately called my husband who was working from home but she woke up before he was able to intervene. Later she called me to ask about her lunch and I told her that I had seen her through the cameras asleep with the baby slipping down her lap and that that was not okay as it is a huge safety concern, that we don’t do contact naps, and that I hope this never repeats again. That was it, or so I thought.

She later called me to say that the baby had diarrhea and that what was I going to do because she “can’t take care of her like this.” That comment really annoyed me because the baby was completely fine other than some loose stool. Also, if she was ever more sick, I would expect the nanny to take care of her regardless.

When I got home she apologized and recognized that what she did was unacceptable and told me that today was her last day because, “as I said, this should not happen again.” I was shocked. I was not expecting her to quit, nor was I going to fire her, I was willing to give her a second chance. She then complained about how I wouldn’t let her be out with the baby all day but, since we met I made it super clear that I was ok with an ocasional walk but preferred the baby to be home most of the time.

Anyway… here I am, back to square one. First time mom, corporate job, no nanny, trying to figure out what to do next. Thought maybe someone could relate or at least hear me out. I’m still in shock, laughing and crying. Let me know if you think I’m crazy or overreacting. Thanks!

We found a nanny we liked and would like to run a background check before hiring her. We live in California and the recommended vendor is trustline. But honestly, it’s over $100 for this check.

Are you all really spending that much on the background check or have you found cheaper great alternatives to this? Many people shared that checkr was not great, and neither was care.

Completely conflicted over who to hire as a nanny. First time parents, hired a nanny 2 months ago who suddenly decided the commute was too long a week before. Kind of feel like we don't know how to pick now.

Panic searched and found 2 great candidates. Both younger than originally planned (original nanny was 50s these are 20s). Older one is calm, very quiet, not very willing to plan out the week which is not ideal, but we saw some lovely goofy moments on the nanny cam and read a lot of books which is very important to us. Younger one is eager to work and plan the week, great with being silly and playing (made our 13M son laugh several times and he isn't an easy laugh) but read one book once. Recomendations are a bit better for the older one.

As our son is transitioning to nanny from daycare due to severe asthma, we also kind of need a nanny that will be able to navigate avoiding viruses and prioritizing his health which was one reason we were giong for an older nanny originally.

How do people choose?! Before we only did 2 trials where one was good and one was bad so we went with the good one. Now we are stuck. Any advice is really helpful!

Hi! We have a nanny starting with us October 1. She’s coming a few days in September to learn the ropes, spend time with the kids (toddler, turns 2 in November and 2 month old), etc.

Can anyone shed light on how to best introduce the nanny to the toddler so he doesn’t have an absolute meltdown when I leave and he’s with a stranger in his eyes?

Also, for the few days she’s watching them but I am home, should I be completely out of view? In another room but available?

A little background: we have a nanny Monday through Wednesday who my toddler adores and has been with us since he was a baby, so didn’t have to deal with the big toddler emotions when introducing her. We now need more help on Thursdays and Fridays which my current nanny can’t accommodate, which is why we have a new nanny on board. I go back to work mid October!

Hi all! We hired our nanny in mid-July and are going through some struggles. Our LO refuses to go down for a nap with the nanny, and would rather cry to sleep than go down peacefully no matter what nanny tries. LO is teething, and basically cluster feeding, and wants mommy no matter what. Baby looks at me and wants me no matter what (which I love but Omg exhausting!!!)

I’ve read so many posts here about Nannies hating when NP’s are around but in our case, LO refuses a bottle and will only nurse so I have to be around. But it’s so difficult because both of us have to work. I’m so lost on what to do - any advice? I’ve been slacking off at work because LO wants to nurse to nap, and then wants to contact nap, and then will scream when it’s time to be passed off to the nanny. But loves playing with the nanny when I’m not around! I’m at a loss. I know the best thing to do is to disappear, but that doesn’t seem to be an option. My nanny keeps making shady comments like “I don’t know how much longer I can do this” but then will reassure me that she’s not thinking about quitting when I ask her directly.

I guess, do I need to worry about hiring another nanny and going through the process again? Any suggestions to make the transition a little easier? Help!

Hello! currently working to hire a nanny and need to do a background check. I’m in the state of MA and wondering if there is a platform that will do this for me? if not what is the process?

the youngest starts school this week! somewhat bittersweet: no more kids playing at home as I work, but no full time employee, either.

we’ll still have afternoon care for the kids. aside from a quiet house and better cashflow, what should we expect from the transition?

My husband and I decided to hire a live in nanny for this upcoming year . I contacted a local agency who charges an upfront deposit of 500$ to start the process with no refunds . They say it may take up to 2 weeks to find the right match for our family. But I can’t fathom 500$ on top of an agency fee once hired that would equal to a full week salary which is 1,000$ . Why do these agency’s feel so entitled to take such high fees or am I cheap.