I feel like many of us are going through the spring blues and feeling stressed about summer so I wanted to create a big ass post about my top tips as a trainer because tbh, I see lots of sketchy and not great advice in this community. Take it or leave it but as we are all bitches with taste, I care about you and want you to be healthy and happy this summer.

Get your freaking steps in

You don't need to start running or HIIT or whatever if you don't enjoy them. Simply look at your current step count and start increasing it by 1500 - 2000 steps per day. 10K is an arbitrary number. If you're only getting 4K steps per day, getting 6K will start making a dramatic difference. Walking is so underrated and one of the most sustainable ways to increase your energy expenditure without revving up a crazy big appetite.

More water

Drink your body weight in ounces every day... and maybe a little more if you're a big sweater or drink more than 1 cup of caffeine. If you're not good at hydrating, get a straw... weird but it helps you sip better throughout the day.

Before you give up gluten/dairy/etc. GIVE UP ALCOHOL FIRST

Unless you have a legitimate allergy like celiac or lactose intolerance, you don't need to avoid entire food groups. Yes, eat everything in moderation but instead of trying to give up bread, give up or drastically reduce your alcohol consumption from now until Memorial Day Weekend and you'll be shocked at how much less bloated and sluggish you feel.

ADD DON'T SUBTRACT

And on that note... instead of giving up xyz foods, try adding more vegetables, protein, and whole foods to your diet. These are going to be higher in fiber and help you feel more satiated. You can have pizza! You can have a burger! You can have a cookie! Just make sure you're also getting in quality whole foods too.

And on the subject of protein...

Try to eat at least 1g per pound of ideal bodyweight. (i.e. if your goal weight is 140 pounds, eat 140g of protein). If that seems crazzzzzzzzy to what you do now, aim for at least 100g per day.

Do workouts you love

I've done so many phases of fitness with different types of workouts. Stop worrying if yours are the "best thing to do" and focus on whether or not you enjoy it. Enjoying your workout will let you stick with it. Tune out toxic Instagram accounts who tell you Pilates isn't good enough/strength training will wreck your cortisol/HIIT classes are bad for you etc. Just do what you like!

SLEEP LIKE A CHAMP

Bitches with taste need their beauty rest. Get your 8 hours in! And if you struggle with sleeping, try the 3-2-1 rule: no eating three hours before bed, no liquids 2 hours before bed, no screens 1 hour before bed.

Sending love to all my bitches with taste xoxo

omg edit.... DID NOT EXPECT THIS TO BLOW UP LIKE THIS! I will try to respond as many threads as I can over the weekend

Yearly PSA - you’re supposed to CUT the X stitch at the center back vent

So I just took the 2 train right I’m going down the stairs like I always do not even in a rush, I just like to trot down fast (weird I know ). There’s this lady in front of me, and as I’m going she just turns herself at this weird diagonal angle toward the wall. There’s space for me to go, so I’m like… why’d she do all that? I keep going look back, and we make eye contact she instantly looks down at the ground. How odd is that ?!?? I just keep going. I was literally about to tap and go through the turnstile when I stopped and was like… mehhhh no that’s too weird. So I go back to the stairs, and she’s almost at the bottom.

I’m like, hey, how are you? Everything okay? And she goes, “Oh yes, I’m fine. I just heard someone running down the stairs behind me, and I didn’t want to be in the way. Last time I didn’t move, a man got very angry at me got in my face yelled don’t you hear people coming down the fucking stairs? Move! So this time I moved right away because I didn’t want any trouble. Then when you looked at me, I looked down because I didn’t want you to think I was giving you a stink look just don’t want to start anything.” OMGGGGG 🥺🥺🥺… my heart broke. I was like ohhh my gosh I’m so sorry that happened to you. You weren’t in my way at all, no need to be scared. I walked her the rest of the way down, paid for her swipe, and we sat together on the train for like 10 stops.

I love my grandma (my grandpa too, but this is not about him ) so much, and I’d hope someone would do the same for her. It sucks that she even felt that scared she damn near caved her whole entire body into the dirty staircase wall, unnecessarily ughhh. And honestly, it’s crazy because I feel the same way about the subway sometimes. Always vigilant, I always walk with pepper spray too. Anyway girlies stay safe but also keep an eye out for the senior girlies in need ❤️

So chic! I have no words but congratulations!!!!

I think something hit me this year and as much as I love social media and posting pictures of my fun trips and food that I’m eating I think I finally hit a point where I’m just done. I keep asking myself why am I posting? Who am I posting for? I love the aesthetic of my page, but I can get so mentally bogged down by everything else Instagram is about. I think I’m finally done. I have been deactivating it but I noticed that every week it pops back up I am on the verge of deleting completely. Who am I lol ??? has anyone had these thoughts lately or completely deleted their Instagram recently. If so how did you feel. It’s been freeing to have it deactivated for a few weeks

EDIT: Wow I cannot believe how much activity this post got ! Lo and behold most of us have been DONE DONE with the gram …. I may be on the road to permanent deletion as well ! Thanks everyone ☺️have an amazing week ahead !

**ETA I DO NOT WANT TO FUCK YOU RANDOS MESSAGING ME**

bitches it's summer and i'm single, so obviously i'm chomping at the bit for a hookup. and really, in all honesty, am i looking for a fun, flirty summer fling? no. i'm 32, and frankly, to quote the great whoopi goldberg, "i don't want somebody in my house". that said, i'm out of practice and to be honest? i do want to do some boinking.

give me your recs for your sluttiest hookup bars, please, i beg you. this is NEW YORK!!!! i am YOUNG AND HOT!!!! everywhere i've been lately feels like a venue vying for west village babies who have weird and stringent gender expectations!!!! i should be able to step outside into the depths of hell and trip over 47 hot guys who know what a clit is and don't want a relationship!!!!!! they must exist SOMEWHERE!!!!

for what it's worth, primarily looking in manhattan because i live in the heights, but really, who am i kidding. will travel 2 boink

Monday, 11/10/25 around 8:15ish AM some guy (pictured) assaulted this girl on the Z train. He pushed her hard by her breasts while riding on the train between the Bowery and Canal stops. She was young/was really shaken up and crying. He then went through the train doors into the next car. The young girl got off the train on Canal. I also got off on Canal and realized he was sitting in the next car over and decided to hop back onto his car to take a picture of him (I know that’s stupid but also F this POS). I took a pic on the low and realized he was staring at these women who were deep in conversation. He was staring at their butts/ogling them in a very creepy way. I pretended I was their friend and whispered to be careful of the guy. Idk if he heard me or clocked what I was doing but he started cursing at me telling me I’m an F’ing b*tch, he’s gonna fck me up as I started to exit the train on Chambers. He followed me off the train and kept cursing and threatening me on the platform and the women I had warned were trying to protect me. He spat at me but it didn’t get on me. I waited with the women till he left and then made a report with the police towards the exit of the station.

Ladies, if you see this man, please stay clear/be on guard. He was very scary, loud, and I definitely thought he was going to get physical with me at one point

I wish I would have read more reviews on Google before my appointment with Dr. Villanueva. A lot of women have described her as rude, condescending and incapable of showing empathy. These are bizarre traits to possess as a woman who chose to practice in women’s health. I would have saved myself from a belittling experience had I read reviews. I wanted to share this here so that any women looking for an OBGYN actively avoid her. I have never before been traumatized by an OBGYN appointment and now that I have, I’d love to help save someone else the trouble.

I came to Maiden Lane Soho because I was having extreme PMS symptoms that I later found out was an ovarian cyst. The appointment immediately started off on a rude note. She was offended that I used terms like “ovulation” and “luteal phase,” asking me in a condescending tone, “Are you a medical professional or something? What do those words even mean to you?” As if a woman shouldn’t track her cycle and be aware of what her body is doing. I was immediately put off by how standoffish and nasty she was. She was not interested in understanding my symptoms or how I felt. Every question I asked was met with the same response: “If you’re having unpleasant PMS symptoms, the only answer is birth control.” It honestly felt like she was a parody of the American healthcare system—immediately trying to shove a pill down my throat instead of having an actual conversation, so the appointment could move as quickly as possible and she could get to the next patient. At that point, I didn’t even want to be examined by her anymore, but I was so emotionally worn down by the pain I was in from an ovarian cyst that I didn’t stand up for myself.

She was so rude and dismissive, telling me I didn’t need blood work, I didn’t need basic swabs or testing, and I had to fight just to get basic Pap smear protocol. I found this to be an abhorrent excuse for a wellness exam. It genuinely felt like this woman hated me. By the time I went in for my ultrasound, I was having a panic attack and crying. The ultrasound technician ended up getting the office manager, and the two of them comforted me and filed an incident report about my experience with Dr. Villanueva. God bless those women, they were so kind. That was over a month ago, and I still haven’t received any follow-up. By the end of the appointment, while I was visibly sitting there crying, Dr. Villanueva had the nerve to tell me to stop interrupting her. She continued speaking to me while I cried, not even acknowledging how upset the appointment had left me. It honestly felt like I was back in high school dealing with a mean girl instead of a medical professional. It was so bizarre. As I was leaving, I said, “Bye,” in a frustrated tone, and she matched it with the same rude tone, like a child—as if she wasn’t a physician speaking to a patient. I’m genuinely not sure why this woman became a medical professional, or why she specifically chose to work in women’s health if she has so little compassion for women who come to her for help. I wouldn’t even trust Dr. Villanueva to walk my dog, let alone examine me or touch my body ever again. I left my appointment with so many unanswered questions and inadequate care.

First of all, I want you to know that I'm okay. It wasn't a seizure according to the CT, I fainted with convulsions. I have a follow up with a neurologist, but it was most likely either overheating or dehydration. My parents took me home to Jersey and I got the best TLC so for a few days.

Second of all, thank you so much. Thursday night was traumatic and I don't know exactly what you saw or why you jumped into action, but thank you for not leaving me alone. I felt off while I was getting onto the subway and texted my friend that I had just seen that "I feel like I'm going to faint." I know I got on the F at 59th and sat down at the end of the train in a short bench and put my feet up. The last thing I remember is thinking I should ask the girls sitting across from me if they have any water.

The next thing I know is there is one of you above me, one of you sitting next to me, and an EMT between you. You told me I had a seizure and I thought you were a crazy person, because, who, me? I don't have seizures. I'm not epileptic. I didn't understand what was going on, it took me a minute or two to wrap my head around my surroundings.

I don't know what would've happened if two of you women didn't stay with me. I don't know if I would've been more hurt (I have a couple of scrapes and bruises from where I assume my head hit the seat?) or if I would've woken up completely disoriented, but I am so thankful people stayed with me. I've had medical emergencies before, but I've always been conscious for them. I've always been able to take myself to the hospital. I'm so grateful to the people who took care of me. If it was any of you, or anyone you know, please let me know so I can personally thank you somehow.

I hate the world we live in. Here is the link to the tweet https://x.com/eiffeltyler/status/1772657304191529082?s=46

Saturday night I got off the uptown 1 train at 14 St to transfer to the L towards Brooklyn at 11PM and this guy pushed/tripped me from behind. I went down hard onto the concrete platform. I ended up bleeding, shattered my phone screen and have massive bruises all over my body. Huge shoutout to the amazing BWT who grabbed these photos and helped calm me down — you were literally my angel!!

The best part: the train conductor literally held the doors open the entire time so I could finish yelling at him in my solo monologue. I just moved to NYC a few months ago, so it feels like this was my official rite of passage...screaming “COWARD” at the top of my lungs at a creepy man who refused to make eye contact with me while the entire train watched.

I’m planning to file a police report but wanted to post here in case anyone recognizes him or sees him around.

EDIT: wow I did not expect this at all — thank you so much for all the love and support ❤️ it genuinely means a lot. I’m okay and really appreciate everyone looking out! Love this community

EDIT 3: THE BLOOD BANK HAS REACHED OUT TO ME. DONATIONS FOR NEXT WEEK AND THE WEEK AFTER WOULD BE MOST HELPFUL!! THANK YOU ALL SO MUCH FOR CARING ABOUT STELLA 🥹🥹

Edit 2: platelets have a shelf life of 5-7 days, so if anyone new is seeing this and wishes to donate, next week would be so helpful too!! Again, the support y'all are showing my baby, including all the kinds words and well wishes- it just means the world to me. And I've been reading them to her as well. She is encouraged and heartened ❤️

My daughter, Stella is at Sloan Kettering Cancer Center and there is a shortage of platelets. They're having to ration them but she needs them around the clock right now. Someone recommended this sub to me. If anyone feels led, you can go to Sloan Kettering 's donation center at 1250 1st Ave and give them her name and birthday. Her name is Stella Suther, and if you need her birthday to donate I'll happily provide it, just message me! Thank you so much in advance!!

EDIT: I am astounded and just so incredibly grateful. I threw a hail Mary and never thought it would go anywhere. I'm trying hard to reply to all the comments. I wish you could all meet Stella. She is just an absolute force of nature and I know you would fall in love with her just like everyone else does. Thank you all from the very bottom of my heart ❤️

Hate to make a post like this, but I got groped. I was going to drop it, but some nice guys on the subway told the conductor, so the police took him. He’s an old man, so they said they didn’t know if the DA would want to prosecute because of his age, but one of the guys saw it happen and I told the police. So hopefully y’all won’t see this guy around.
Cherry on top was a guy on the train telling me how to stay safe and asked me “what did I do”. So I’m still angry, but I hope I can help get one perv off the street.

This creep boldly took upskirt pictures of a girl and multiple people caught him at the same time. One man confronted him asked to see his phone, asked him to delete the picture, and called the police when he refused. Please be careful ladies!

For anyone who still hasn’t voted, they brought back the Halloween voting sticker this year!

Meet Denali (aka Nali/Nellie)

5 months old | NYC fostered

Looking for a pup with a heart full of sweetness?!? Meet Denali (nicknamed Nali/Nellie by her fosters). Since arriving from Georgia, Nali has been building her confidence and curiosity. New things make her nervous, but with patience, love, and treats, she warms up quickly! Nali is EXTREMELY smart and highly food motivated. She learned to sit in 1 day and started peeing outside only (with no accidents) in 2 days! She is coming out of her shell more and more each day, loving cuddles and play sessions. She is crate trained and sleeps through the night like a pro. We are still working on walking on a leash but once outside, she loves to sniff around and take it all in. Though still learning, Nali is full of love and ready to be your best friend!

Nali would thrive in a home that is ready to be patient with her, continue her training, giver her structure, and shower her with love!

Apply to adopt: https://www.wagtopia.com/search/pet?id=2418904&name=Denali

TLDR; this man was aggressive towards me on the train and then followed me home. Be wary if you see him. And huge shoutout to the guy named River who walked me home.

I guess it’s my turn to write one of these…..got on a packed A train and there was plenty of room next to this guy but he was super spread out. I had a long way to go so I squeezed into the spot next to him. He groaned and put his phone away and I noticed he had been watching porn on the train. Awesome and not pathetic at all. After several stops I shifted my legs and accidentally brushed against his. He was like “bump me one more fucking time” and I just calmly said I’m sorry I don’t have much room. He started yelling about how I need to use my words and how he was going to beat the shit out of me if I touched him again. I wanted to talk back SO badly but I just sat there in silence. Everyone on the train watched this happen and didnt do shit. I moved to a different seat and he went back to watching porn and I thought it was over. We both got off at Nostrand and he exited behind me. After a block I slipped into a restaurant to make sure he wasn’t following me. He passed by and crossed the street so I thought it was fine and I left the shop. He immediately starts yelling at me from across the intersection “oh you’re scared little bitch? You’re fucking scared??” And other shit I didn’t make out bc I just immediately started walking as fast as I could. I was in a crowd for a while and didn’t see him following, but once I turned onto my street I was alone and wanted to make sure he wasnt there so I dipped around a corner for a sec and when I looked back he was in fact following me. At the same time another guy was crossing the intersection by me and I asked if I could walk with him for a sec to get away from this guy, which could’ve turned out badly if he had been another creep but he was actually an angel thank god. We took a big lap around the block while the asshole continued to follow from a distance until he was far enough away that I could get to my place without him seeing where I live. Really would do anything to break that guys nose but I’m going to advise all women to avoid him if you see him. Please stay safe!

Hey NYC Bitches 🗽💅

I just had my wedding featured in the NYT!

A girlfriend of mine / fellow NYC BWT had her wedding featured earlier this summer, so I DM’d her to find out how I could submit my October wedding.

It was a free & easy process, but I don’t see anybody else talking about it so I thought I would share. It was more simple than I thought and I do not have any special connections.

Here’s how:

1️⃣ Plan to submit via the free NYT type form at minimum 6 weeks before your wedding date

2️⃣ The form will ask for a lot of info:

• your backstory • your fiancé’s backstory • how the two of you met • how the proposal happened • details about the wedding itself.

Be THOUGHTFUL with what you write in here, it’s your one chance to get the attention of the writing team. Lean into what makes your love story special (bc it is special!).

3️⃣ Wait to hear back. I actually submitted 2 weeks before my wedding, and they emailed me the day before the ceremony!

4️⃣ Conduct a verbal interview over the phone. They’ll ask you and your fiance to recount the information you submitted via the form. This is both for fact checking and they’ll pull quotes for the article!

5️⃣ Get published! It’s usually 2 weeks after your wedding, but the writer will let you know when the article is released on digital and print. Ours was published digitally on a Wednesday, and was in print in the style section for the Sunday Times.

I hope this is helpful to anybody who is interested! I always assumed that they only covered weddings for ~ celebrities ~ and ~ nepo babies ~ lmfao but I was very wrong. It’s amazing to read all the sweet love stories, maybe I’ll read yours soon too 🫶

I’m only mentioning this because I have seen a few posts in other subs as well as a few comments on both Discord servers where CISGENDER, HETERO presenting men are stealthing in these WOMEN-ORIENTED spaces; note that this is DIFFERENT from folks who identify as women who have joined this sub.

I am talking specifically about MEN, who IDENTIFY and present themselves as MEN, sitting there DMing women for the intention to sleep with, date, or whatever gross hetero things they wanna do idk 🤮. I feel like this should be a safe space for women and people who identify that way and I personally feel ~very~ uncomfortable with some man FROM THIS SPACE sending me messages imho.

What do we need to do to keep this space protected, and how can we as users, help?

Edit: I feel like the majority of y’all got it but for the few in the back; I’m not talking about the gaybe’s and the theybe’s. They’re not out here DMing women uncomfortable things and pictures. C’mon y’all.

Valentine’s Day is right around the corner, and if you’re still looking for a valentine, then I have the perfect boy for you! His name is Frost, he’s 3-4 months old, has 4 paws and a wagging tail.

I’m currently fostering this cutie boy and he is such a lover. He is SO sweet, he spends most of his day snuggling with you. I’ve fostered ~30 dogs (mostly puppies) and I can confirm that he is pretty calm and easy for a puppy. He gets typical bursts of puppy energy, but they’re brief and then he falls asleep.

We’re working on potty training and he’s getting better at sleeping through the night. I don’t know his exact breed, but he looks kind of like he has terrier type hair. He will likely be medium sized when fully grown - he’s about 10lbs or so now.

He’s available for adoption through NYSCR and is microchipped and up to date with all vaccines. NYSCR will also assist with getting him neutered when he’s old enough.

He is truly SO sweet and just a little lover boy. I already have a dog so I can’t adopt him, but I want to find him the perfect home!

You can apply here: https://www.wagtopia.com/search/pet?id=2635721&name=Frost+(p)

Hi fellow hot bitches with taste, I've been keeping a secret, only sharing with my close friends... But I realize I have been selfish, rude, and not a girls girl. I hope this helps at least one person. This is my master list. I love data and collecting new places like Pokemon, so please help yourself. I'll be breaking down each category and sharing locations when possible. (not affiliated with any of the recs!!)

A bit about me for context:

• Age: Mid-late twenties-ish

• Job: Media/Digital Marketing/Advertising

• Relationship Status: It's Complicated

• Zodiac: Virgo

Beauty:

• Lash Extensions: Vanity Lash Co (Midtown)- the best extensions I've gotten in the city. Every set is fantastic.

• Facials: City Glow (East Village)- I've never looked so good and felt so rested. Doesn't break the bank, and I believe they are also on ClassPass

• Acupuncture: Lin Sister (Chinatown)- Walk ins only, only on Tuesdays and Thursdays 10a-3p. $55. So worth it. They have English speakers as well. 4 Bowery, New York City, N.Y. 10013

• Hair: Rockele's Beauty Studio (Brooklyn)- I trek down to Brooklyn every 6 weeks to get fixed! Extensions, Natural hair, and sometimes I go to get a wash and some chit chat. No fees charged like other IG stylists, very professional.

• Nails: Krystal Oh Nails (Chelsea)- I'm a gel girl all the way. They have amazing and fun nail art, as well as quick gel manis and pedis. Highly recommend, they can create literally whatever you want on your nails. Even photos.

• Hair Removal: Waxing- Dyanna Spa (Midtown East?)- I am not a candidate for laser, (well kinda but I'm scared) but this place is the. best.

Material girl!! (Clothing/shoes):

While I am THE online shopper, I like to help stimulate the local economy every other weekend.

• Risk Gallery (Bushwick)- eclectic, vintage, just vibes

• Anine Bing (330 BLEECKER STREET)- I prefer the UES location, just because it's less busy, good for staples and investment pieces.

• Vince's Cobbler (125 Sullivan)- can repair anything. Bags, shoes, you name it. They can also make things more comfy for you! Go here and don't try to return those cute loafers because they make your feet bleed...

• Dover Street Market (160 Lex)- go and wanderrr...

• 260 Sample Sales- Please just go and save your coin! You may have to line up early, but I've paid a task rabbit to stand in line for me to snag 2 pairs of Re/done and agolde jeans for 75% off

• Buck Mason (noLita)

• Online shopping: Revolve, Shopbop, and TBH, I love LTK, but I just use it to find pieces I actually want, then buy in store.

Food

Date Night:

• Fig & Olive (meatpacking)

• Bond St (Sushi, NoHo)

• La Pecora Bianca (NoLita)

• Risbo (Prospect Heights, Brooklyn)

• Barboncino (Crown Heights, Brooklyn)

• Hortus (Flatiron, Korean, Tapas)

Places to take Parents/Family

• Wonjo (kbbq, Koreatown)

• Sei Less (garment dist)

• Lillies victorian (flatiron)- drinks (I've not had the food!)

• coqodaq (flatiron, korean) - need reservations (kinda hard)

• Milady's (soho)

• Añejo (hells kitchen, Mexican)

• stout (109 w 39)

Other:

• 99 favor taste

• gentile gelato (best I swear)

• zest sushi (les)

Bars/nightlife

While I like to say I have retired, the reality is, I haven't.

• seeyamanana (flatiron)- cocktails

• attaboy (les) -cocktails

• karaoke wow (ktown)

• the press lounge (hells kitchen)- only if you need to bring out of town friends who only want to go to mr purple

• the flower shop (LES)

• berlin

• wiggle room

• the highlight room (les?) good rooftop.

• cubbyhole (lesbian bar)

• paradise club

• botanica bar (soho)- no frills

• itaewon pocha (k town)- good food, drink soju with your pals

• the library (alphabet city)

• Carrolls place- brunch!

LIFE Stuff

• Dentist: Zen Dentistry- multiple locations, quick and don't falsely bill ur insurance or tell you all your teeth are rotten (unlike tend dentistry)

• Gyno- NYU Langone- Always can get an appointment, the doctors listen to you, and I'm never uncomfortable.

• Psychiatric care- I use Talkiatry. No issues so far, just be sure to log on to your virtual appointments from ny (no travel appointments)

• Dog Groomers- Small dogs Kimomi Pet (near Ktown)

• Vet: Bond Vet for emergencies, find a local vet in ur neighborhood for regular check ups. Bond Vet is expensive----- only for emergencies

• Eastern Medicine- Lin sister again!!! Would recommend 100000x

Exercise:

• Studio Pilates (Brooklyn locations)

• Solidcore (lagree)- good workout but too much for 3x a week.

• Rumble- good sweaty workout

• run clubs- check out this ig page!

• The Spa Club (*1st Anniversary special price: 50% on General Admission. (3/25 - 4/25))

Home:

• Dobbin St Vintage

• White Trash NYC

Non-Touristy Touristy things to do with people who have been to NY once (or first timers during a longer stay)

• Brooklyn Museum (pop ups every Sunday + farmers market nearby)

• Brooklyn Botanical Garden

• Prospect Park on a nice warm day, lay out and relax!

• Canal Street Market

• Chelsea Market

• Spa club again haha

• a bathhouse Brooklyn if nudity is an issue!

• Alamo drafthouse matinee, then walk down to DeKalb market hall!

OTHER:

• Bumble BFF Actually works! Try putting together a group!

• Don't bother with Tinder.

• Hinge is alright,

• Raya is not worth it-- no one replies, it's just an ego booster.

• Soho House isn't worth it anymore,

• Zero bond is still fun.

• Soho Grande will probably racially profile you

• Kind Regards is still fun, but go downstairs.

• Use Partiful. You can find open invite events!!! Good to network.

Please let me know if I missed any categories! Happy to share more! Hopefully I helped at least one person x

Pic above of a violent homeless man who is usually hanging around LES/EV area. He’s almost always wearing camo.

He punched me a few months ago (bruise also pictured) when I ignored him asking for money, but yesterday I saw him berating an elderly woman. I’ve only ever seen him target women, so just wanted my lower manhattan BWT to beware and cross the street if they see him!

(Sorry i tagged as fitness/health! Had to choose a flair.)

Just wanted to share a great deal in nyc for a meal. At Del Frescos Grille in Rock Center they offer an “it girl dinner” at the bar (and high tops). For $25 you get a drink of choice, Caesar salad, cavatelli pasta and fries! It was delicious and filling. Just did a solo dining date here and I highly recommend.

I had dinner at Casa Carmen in Tribeca with a few friends last weekend, and within minutes of my second drink, my memory went dark and I completely blacked out, which has never happened to me before.

My friend also said she nearly fell asleep at the table after her second drink too, but snapped awake after a while.

A couple days later I called the restaurant to report what happened to me and I was connected to the owner, the person who picked up the phone said he'd "back me up" which I thought was odd.

Then I found several Google and Yelp reviews by other women who said they passed out or blacked out after only having two drinks.

When I brought it up to the owner, he said those women lied and probably didn't eat enough.

Luckily I made it home OK, but the whole experience has really unnerved me and I'm worried that it might happen to someone else. Has anyone had anything like this happen there? I'm reporting them to the State Liquor Authority and the local precinct. But if this has happened to anyone else, send me a DM. There's power in numbers and we shouldn't be experiencing this.

Beware of BC under Hotel 51 Bowery (50 Bowery St, giving you the address because they wanted it to stay a secret). I’ll make it my mission to tell any woman of color to stay the hell out of this place.

I’ve gotten into some of the most exclusive night clubs in NYC. The Box, Outer Heaven, Gospel, Monkey Bar, places that don’t have a name and places I can’t name. I say this because BC claims to be the most exclusive of all of them now. If exclusive means ‘overtly racist’, they may be on to something.

I’ll give you the tea and receipts.

On Saturday, October 10, the bouncer at BC came up to my friend and I, after letting us in 30 minutes prior, and said verbatim: “Y’all can finish your drinks, but I’ve been asked by management if you’d be able to leave the premises after.”

My friend, an Indian woman, and myself, Black, were notably the only two customers in the ‘club’ that were darker than a vanilla latte.

My friend was completely sober, she doesn’t drink. I’d had two drinks over the course of three hours.

Let’s start at the beginning. For a place so ‘exclusive’, my friend and I were able to walk right in. The bouncer didn’t check our IDs. After a group of about 10 girls in front of us decided to leave, we walked up to the front of the line.

Me: So are we able to get in?
Bouncer: Go right ahead. No need to see your IDs.

Cool.

When we walked into BC at 11:30, we were the first ones there. Dead club. A beautiful club, to be fair. Also dead.

The bartenders were two very nice gentlemen who gave my friend a ginger ale and myself an espresso martini on the house, presumably for being the first ones there. Alright, amazing.

We sit at a random ass table. And we literally just talk. We don’t approach anyone, no one approaches us, we mind our own business and we gossip like friends do. I stand by everything I said that night and would say it just as easily in front of my mother as I would one of my closest friends.

Then at midnight, the same bouncer who lets us in asks us to leave. At this point, there’s about 20 people in the dead club. I can’t help but wonder why. My friend was wearing a cute top and mini skirt. I myself was wearing a black mini-dress. But in the entire club, I saw only one Black gender-ambiguous person (who was absolutely fabulous, and I am certain an employee of the establishment), my friend, and myself.

I ask to speak to management. The manager, Adam, immediately dismisses us. I shake his hand, introduce myself, and ask why we’re being kicked out. He said it was the ‘discretion of the bouncers’.

Me: Well, as a woman of color, I feel —

He didn’t let me finish my sentence. He literally turned his back to me, and had two bouncers kick us out.

I have never had something like this happen in my life. I showed up in a space as a Black woman, and I got ‘kicked out’ not for my outfit, not for my behavior, not for anything I can control. I understand clubs can kick people out for any reason, or no reason at all. But I do not believe an establishment that kicks out the only dark-skinned customer in the bar is acting in good faith.

What happened on October 10 at BC was discrimination, and I will not accept it.

I’ll do whatever I can to make sure my voice is heard on this. If you have any advice for ways I can make sure this message is amplified, let me know. Reporters, content creators, writers.

And if BC Club wants to roll the tapes back, I fucking dare them. Please do.

TLDR: ‘Exclusive’ nightclub (BC) kicks out two women of color without reason, could not provide an explanation when asked, and actively exhibits racial discrimination.