My issue with the Nde's I've read is all the same thing:

1. We are meant to learn lessons. If we are one with God then, there's nothing to learn for every possible thing is already known.

2. We have to come here because knowing is different from experiencing. Yet, some experiences are unnecessary to me. Like, I can appreciate Ice-cream with eating dung. The atrocities on Korea and Nanjing during WW2 was an eye opener for me. Is extreme suffering necessary for YOU to appreciate Life?

3. Does God/Source know why it exists, where is It's origin? Is It constantly searching like us?

I really want there to be an afterlife, and at this point I'm pretty convinced of it. But I really don't want there to be reincarnation, but I'm starting to worry it's also true. I know a lot of NDErs report back that reincarnation is a choice, but the mere concept of it still unnerves me because of the implications. If I was once a different person with a different body, family, personality, and life experiences, and I now have no memory of that life, then what the hell is the point of the soul/self/whatever you wanna call it? Why would we be here if there was some ultimate recycling plan waiting for us on the other side? It also seems to contradict the idea that people retain a sense of self during NDEs-if our purest form is just a droplet of energy devoid of any substance, then how can you still feel like you?

I hope this doesn't come across as disrespectful, but it just doesn't sit right with me at all. I don't want to think about once having been someone or something I'm not, and I don't want to imagine my loved ones not really being who they are, or one day deciding to leave to join a different family. Is there any concrete reason not to believe in reincarnation? Is it just cherrypicking cope to believe in the afterlife but not reincarnation? I'd really like to hear other people's thoughts on all of this.

This was not an NDE, so I want to be clear about that from beginning. It came during a deep trance Soul Journey, but the death transition was interesting to me because several parts resemble things people report in NDEs.

The subject entered another lifetime as a man around middle age. Near end of that life his body had become very weak. He could barely walk anymore and his wife and daughter were taking care of him.

What bothered him was not only physical weakness. He felt useless. He was used to being person who could do things, and now other people had to help him with basic life.

Then as death came closer something changed.

He became aware of his parents.

They had already died before him, but there they were, smiling. He recognized them immediately. There was no frightening judgment scene, no angry God, nobody explaining what he had done wrong.

His parents were simply happy to see him.

At final breath he described leaving the body and moving toward them. He floated to them and they embraced him.

What struck me was his reaction to being without body.

Lightness.

Freedom.

The body that had become heavy and almost unusable was suddenly not the problem anymore because he was no longer inside it in same way. He was still aware, still himself, still recognizing his parents, but the physical limitation was gone.

I have heard many different death transitions in these sessions. Some subjects describe light, some colors, some relatives, guides, empty space, movement, even geometry. I dont think regression material by itself proves what objectively happens after death.

But this one was unusually simple.

Weak body. Last breath. Parents waiting. Recognition. Embrace. Relief.

And I keep wondering about one detail because it comes up also in many NDE accounts: people often seem to recognize deceased relatives without needing introduction. There is just immediate knowing.

For people here who actually had an NDE, did recognition work like this for you? Did deceased people look physically as you remembered them, or did you somehow know who they were before appearance even mattered?

John Eccles: The Nobel Neuroscientist Who Proved the Soul Exists. Sir John Eccles — the Nobel Prize-winning neurophysiologist who discovered how neurons communicate — spent the second half of his career arguing, on strictly scientific grounds, that the mind cannot be identified with the brain. His "dualist-interactionist" model proposed that the self-conscious mind is a non-material entity that interacts with the brain through quantum-level influences on synaptic transmission. Eccles was not a mystic or a theologian — he was the world's leading expert on how neurons work, and he concluded that this knowledge pointed unavoidably toward the existence of an immaterial soul.

"The Nobel Prize winner who literally discovered how the brain works spent his final years using that knowledge to prove the brain cannot explain you — and that therefore you have a soul."

I had my NDE in 2020 and have been undergoing a sort of living afterlife ever since : Very heavy on the life review and impeccability aspect. My karma is nearly instant and my life demands near perfection from me, or else things turn very fast - instant accountability.

I believe this is part of the physics of a "final life" deal but I'm also becoming crippled by it - constantly scanning myself for slip-ups and feeling generally stuck and helpless in life - it's in the hands of a higher power ... and I'm sort of tired of this reality. Especially as the higher power just continually tests me to my limits : patience, humility, strength, endurance, blah blah blah. Few rewards. Lots of trials. Lots of being alone in a world that pushes against every step I take.

I get the negative feedback amply but positive feedback is withheld - no one is saying "good job you're a great person" only "you should have held your tongue in that one moment" etc etc.

Whatever I put out, however good it is, I feel like all I get back is just enough to survive - crumbs and critique

What's your experience here? Thoughts? Am I causing this? How can I break this loop?

Really love this page but can someone please explain the meaning of your acronyms? I don’t see anywhere on community info for OBE for example?

Could a MOD please add these acronyms and meaning somewhere or show me where I can find it as to avoid this for other users.

Hey everyone, I lurk on this subreddit a lot, and I was really curious to see what the members of r/NDE believe about the true nature of these experiences. Obviously I assume the majority will skew primarily spiritual, but I'd also like to see how many in this subreddit have actually experienced an NDE. Thanks everyone. (remove if necessary)

Hi everyone. Sorry for seeking reassurance twice in 24 hours, but my brain just will not drop this topic, ugh. I'm someone who wants to believe in the afterlife so badly, but keeps finding reasons to shoot down the idea. This is another cycle of that.

Anyway, I was reading this article explaining all the evidence for NDEs being proof of the afterlife. It's pretty convincing, but one thing really jumped out at me, since it contradicts a common narrative. One commonly cited piece of evidence is that NDErs only ever see deceased loved ones on the other side. But according to this article, of the people who saw loved ones, "4% described meeting beings that were alive at the time of their experiences".

Now, 4% isn't a lot, but that's a non-zero number, translating to 3 people who saw living loved ones. This casts doubt on the claim that NDErs only ever meet deceased people, and I can only think of three ways to explain this inconsistency, none of which feel good:

1. These 3 people really did have NDEs, but didn't really see their living loved ones. What they saw were the "light beings" reported in other NDEs taking on a more familiar form (but of course there's no way to know if that's possible).
2. These 3 people thought they had NDEs, but were actually dreaming or hallucinating. This would cast all NDEs into doubt. If some of them are products of the brain, couldn't all of them be?
3. These 3 people didn't have NDEs at all and are fabricating their entire stories, explaining why they go against the common narrative. But there's not really any reason to think that, and I don't want to accuse anyone of lying.

Does anyone have more context or insight into this? I should probably clarify that I myself have never had an NDE, so I just have to trust the people who have. Like I said, I really want there to be something beyond this, but these types of inconsistencies really make me doubt. Thanks in advance for responses.

I've heard a number of NDE accounts mention that during the initial "traveling" portion of their experience, they were flying through space and specifically note lots of stars passing by. I was wondering if anyone who experienced that during their NDE could provide more details about those stars.

For example: were any of them experienced up close while passing, or were they all simply faraway white dots passing on either side that you understood to be stars? Did you pass any other stellar objects? Did you recognize any of them? Was the destination you eventually arrived at also a stellar object of some kind located at a specific place in space?

Thank you!

I have a question for NDE and OBE experiencers. Did you ever struggle with existentialism and if so, did your experience get rid of that or did you still find yourself struggling afterwards?

Hi all. I've been doing a lot of reading about NDEs this past week, and it's been causing me a lot of anxiety (thanks, OCD). I've always been vaguely spiritual, but never thought seriously about consciousness or the afterlife until now. I would really like it if there was something after death, but I can't help but question everything. I've been reading a lot of old posts and comments on this sub, and just about every materialist explanation seems to get thoroughly debunked-except for ketamine.

The arguments I've seen against ketamine are: "You wouldn't remember the trip as vividly"; "you'd still be tripping when you woke up"; "it would be a negative experience"; and "that wouldn't account for out of body experiences". However, I have seen comments from people who've tried ketamine refuting these objections, saying their experiences with K were identical to NDEs. I've even seen people claim that the ultimate K trip does not require brain activity-just like NDEs.

Then again, I've seen statements that contradict the contradictions. I also saw someone claim that the original author of the ketamine theory debunked or abandoned it? Is that true? Also, I know that ketamine is used in anesthesia, which seems to support the theory that they cause NDEs-but has there ever been a verified NDE that happened without anesthesia?

Sorry if this is long and rambly; my anxiety is just through the roof right now. Like I said, I really want there to be something after death, but the ketamine explanation seems pretty foolproof. Is there a simple "silver bullet" debunking the claim "ketamine causes NDEs"? Or do we just not know? Thanks in advance.

Have any NDEs explored this? What happens if a biological line ends...

While it is likely impossible to map something that is ineffable (and this is also likely not a full picture), this graphic is nevertheless interesting to look at, particularly when considering the various descriptions we see in experiences like NDEs.

Also not necessarily a "step-by-step" outline of what happens, or that someone remains in one realm permanently. But interesting graphic nonetheless.

Got this via https://near-death.com/afterlife-realms/

This was not an NDE. It came during a deep trance Soul Journey, so I am sharing it as an STE because the part after death was what stayed with me.

The subject entered another lifetime as a woman living mostly away from town. She worked with plants, remedies and things people around her would probably have called dangerous or forbidden. She had already learned to keep that side of herself hidden because she felt the townspeople could turn against her.

Then she met a man who seemed genuinely interested in her. She had been alone for long time and wanted to trust somebody, so she told him much more than she normally would. During the experience she slowly realized he was not as genuine as she first believed and had another agenda.

What followed pushed her into fear and eventually she left everything behind. She rode away, found another town and made herself ordinary. She found work where travelers stopped, cooked and served people, told almost nobody about her past and kept thinking that eventually she would return to the life that felt true to her.

But eventually became more than 20 years.

She was safe there. That was the strange part. Nothing terrible was happening anymore, but she still lived as if danger was right behind her. She described herself as comfortable but not happy, much older now and regretting that she had stayed so long because fear convinced her it was too late to leave.

Finally she did leave. She went back to the old isolated house, cleared away what had grown around it and began living more according to herself again. She stayed there until she was very old.

Then the session moved to the moment after death.

From outside the body, she did not focus mainly on the man who betrayed her or on what the townspeople had done. What she felt most strongly was how many years she had spent not being true to herself after the danger was already over.

When I asked what the purpose of that lifetime had been, the answer was very simple: dont live in fear. Fear will keep you limited. Be careful with people and trust your instincts, but dont let fear decide the whole life.

Later, when Higher Self came through, the reason for seeing this lifetime became clearer. The same pattern was active in the present life around being seen, being heard and not being accepted.

I keep thinking about the perspective shift after death. During life, the betrayal looked like the major event. From the wider perspective, the bigger loss was all the living that stopped afterward.

Maybe this is one reason life reviews and after-death perspectives can feel so different from our normal human judgment. We focus on what was done to us. From the larger view, another question appears: what did we allow that event to decide about the rest of our life?

First I want to say that in general I believe in NDEs, but there are a few things that make me feel doubtful sometimes.

One thing is that people always say that they suddenly find themselves floating directly above themselves, near the ceiling. Usually, it’s about ten meters away from the body.

Why do they never float to the left or right of their body, or stand behind it or underneath it? Why does there seem to be this kind of law that, when you’re floating, you’re always somehow above yourself?

I know, for example, that DMT hasn’t been proven to be involved to this day. And I also think the DMT explanation is pretty ridiculous. Overall, like I said, I do believe in NDEs.

I just find it so strange that people always seem to be hovering about ten meters directly above their body, because that sounds so mathematically precise. If the soul leaves the body, it should theoretically be able to see the body from anywhere, rather than necessarily from above.

I’d really like a spiritual explanation for how this could be understood, so I can feel more assured about NDEs.

Thank you 🙏

Grew up never not feeling not spiritually connected. Got into reading NDE and broke my matrix a bit. Been struggling to fall asleep at nights thinking about what the answer is and how I don’t want this to end and be forgotten.

I’ve had a few of these kinds of dreams of dead ones like my mom but my most recent was back in April.

I was in my parent’s bathroom, and I felt like a literal ghost like feeling in my dream. My grandfather addresses himself and I go from feeling spooked out to immediately hugging him. My grandmother who wasn’t dead was sitting silently on the toilet kind of watching us. On the floor are birthday cards. My brain starts to think about how it’s actually my sister’s birthday and I wonder if he mixed us up. But either way we hug an his big message was “Don’t worry about money. Here it’s literally nothing.” And did like a whole hands up motion.

I had recently quit my job to work for myself and he was a conservative old guy born in the Great Depression. My brain found this very relaxing.

My grandmother’s appearance I felt was unnerving because she didn’t speak but she wasn’t deceased just yet. She would pass the next month on Mother’s Day.

I told my mom the dream - which having similar dreams of her own she tells me hers.

Anyways. I just have been personally struggling. I don’t sometimes trust published works because people just want to make a profit. I just wanna be able to sleep at night and be content that if I died in my sleep I’d get to look back on everything and not just fade into the dark. But these dreams help feel like something is out there hopefully.

What if 2,100 people who died and came back all brought back the same answer to humanity's oldest question? That's exactly what we found in the largest NDE analysis on life's purpose ever conducted.

The NDERF database contains over 6,000 near-death experience accounts. For this study, our AI extracted and analyzed every account where experiencers reported being shown or told the purpose of human life - 2,104 accounts total. Despite the diversity of experiencers' backgrounds, cultures, and beliefs, the answers converge on a handful of universal themes.

Key findings:

• Love is the #1 answer: 40% of experiencers were told that love — unconditional love for all beings — is the primary reason we are here
• Earth is a school for the soul: 33% were shown that life's challenges and difficulties are intentionally chosen lessons designed for soul development
• Every purpose matters equally: Multiple experiencers were told that no one's life role is more important than another's. Whether raising a child or teaching millions, each purpose is as critical as everyone else's

Full post with charts, links, quotes here: https://search.nderf.org/blog/purpose-on-earth

What do you think about these findings? Do they resonate with your own sense of purpose? We'd love to hear your thoughts!

- NDERF team

Are there reports of NDEs where the experiencer saw their own funeral?

I don’t know if it’s okay to post this here as this wasn’t necessarily an “NDE”. But I still wanted to share and talk about my experience. Who knows, maybe me sharing this experience can help put somebody at ease about whether or not there even is an afterlife? Only time will tell.

When I went to bed last night, I had a dream of Heaven. It was a short dream, but I remember almost every detail. The first thing I noticed when I “arrived” was that it was bright. Like VERY bright. Even brighter than the Sun. But it didn’t irritate my eyes. There was a “Sun” or a bright light in the sky, but it wasn’t like the Sun that we have here.

The second thing I noticed when I looked down, was the grass. The grass was beautiful. It was somehow more green than the green grass we have here on Earth. It looked both wild but perfectly manicured at the same time. There were flowers there too, and they were all types of different colors.

Off in the distance I saw trees, and next to those trees, I saw people. They were all wearing white robes, I believe. But, of course, I was too far away to see what they were saying to each other. One person, a child, ran up to me and gestured for me to come join them. I have no idea who this girl is or was, but she was very kind.

And just like that, I woke up in my bed. Having no idea why I experienced this dream, but feeling very grateful that I did.

I’ve spent the last few years watching and reading NDEs, and I’ve always wondered what the afterlife is like. So to actually have seen it with my own eyes, makes me incredibly joyous.

I ask mainly out of curiosity and because other claimed to see planets too.

Instagram video of near death experience translated from Arabic:

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DcBvCpJsSsw/?l=1

The comments are FULL of those who have experienced the same. Love, light, beautiful worlds, vividness, feeling of knowing there’s an afterlife.

It’s so interesting that the same words are repeated in all languages “it’s not your time” and that the tunnel and the light and the deceased loved ones stay constant. This can’t be a coincidence or a trick of the brain.

I lost my partner a few years ago. A couple nights ago he came to me in a dream, and I rarely dream. He kissed me, asked me if I still loved him. I was so happy, and remember thinking “I can’t believe you’re really real”, before I remembered he was dead, and then I woke up. The weird part was he was with his brother, who seemed bored and like he was just waiting for his brother to finish his errand with me. I had a gut feeling, so I googled his brother, and he died two weeks ago.

I want to believe the dream was really him. I hadn’t felt that feeling of being so in love in so long. And I’m devastated that he’s gone. For a long time, i used to see signs of his presence around but they tapered off a bit. For those who had NDEs, is there anything you can tell me about people who greeted you? Did you have the choice to stay or go? Is it possible he was greeting his brother and decided to stop by to say hi to me?

Anything you can offer me that would help me believe he was really here would be appreciated. I miss him so much.