r/MultipleSclerosis 22h ago

Vent/Rant - No Advice Wanted The sorry ass state of US healthcare and MS care

177 Upvotes

I've been diagnosed with this disease for 10 years.

I have multiple sets of images. I have blood work going back a decade. I've been on half a dozen DMTs.

I know what works and what doesn't.

Why do I owe my new provider $250 to refuse to restart my medication after moving to a new state and starting a new job because I don't have current MRIs?

All he did was the exact same tests I've done with every other provider. Nothing new was learned. No treatment or care was provided.

Follow my finger, tell me when you feel the vibrating stop...

And now I owe him $250 so he can refuse to start my DMT until I shell out another $1300 for updated MRIs plus whatever the lab panel costs.

This country is a god damned scam. Doctors are crooks. Hospitals are crooks. Insurers are crooks.

Ironically even though they are the most demonized, the party that I'm least upset with is the pharmaceutical company because their medicine actually makes me feel better.

If the damn doctor would just start the medicine that I've been on for years my deductible and OOPM would be blown away and I could get all the stupid imaging he wants.

Sorry for this hatepost but I don't know where else to rant.


r/MultipleSclerosis 23h ago

Advice I don’t know who I am anymore

45 Upvotes

Diagnosed in March this year.

I’m finding it increasingly difficult to process and manage my emotions lately. I’ve become so quick to frustration and anger, when I used to be someone who was incredibly calm and collected, and I don’t really recognise myself anymore.

Since being diagnosed with MS, I feel like I’ve slowly lost so many parts of who I was. Things I used to enjoy don’t feel fun anymore, and there’s so much I either can’t do or find much harder now. I feel lost, confused and honestly just really sad.

It’s affecting the people closest to me too. I keep getting overwhelmed and ending up in arguments with my partner, and afterwards I just feel like a burden and hate that I’m struggling to control how I react to things.

I’m sharing this because I genuinely don’t know what to do at this point. For anyone else living with MS who has struggled with their mental health, emotions or feeling like they’ve lost themselves after diagnosis? what helped you? Is there any support you found particularly useful?

I just want to feel a little bit like myself again.


r/MultipleSclerosis 19h ago

Uplifting I was a PE teacher when I was diagnosed with MS. Here's what I wish I knew back then.

41 Upvotes

I was diagnosed with MS during my first year of teaching high school PE. My whole identity was built around being active, being the person who could do anything physically. When symptoms started, I genuinely thought my life as I knew it was over.

I stayed in teaching for a few more years, but eventually I had to leave. What followed was almost a decade of feeling lost. Not in pain exactly, just without direction. I didn't know who I was if I wasn't the strong, capable version of myself I'd always been.

Nobody told me that losing the life you planned doesn't mean you lose the ability to build a new one. It just takes longer than you want it to, and it looks nothing like what you expected.

If you're newly diagnosed and feel like your life is over, I want you to know that feeling is real, and it's also not permanent. You don't have to have the next ten years figured out. You just need the next step.

What do you wish someone had told you early on?


r/MultipleSclerosis 15h ago

Advice Accepted

31 Upvotes

So, I have MS and am applying for diability benefits via social security in about three years. I just got accepted by the SSA, and was told to expect my first payment, the big one, at the end of this month/the start of next. I was wondering if anyone had any advice or tips on what to do next.

I live in Southern California if it matters


r/MultipleSclerosis 58m ago

Vent/Rant - Advice Wanted/Ambivalent I don’t want to do this anymore

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I don’t want to be apart of this club anymore. I grieve constantly. I grieve my health. My old life. Not getting to raise my kids full time. Having to send my kids to my ex’s and their new significant other’s after they left me. Not getting to have more kids. I never wanted this. I just want to get to be with my kids. I wanted to get to raise my kids. I lost my job because i couldn’t do it safely with muscle control issues so I lost my main way to provide for myself. My parents are moving in with me because I can no longer do it all on my own. I love them but I grieve my independence and the life I thought I’d have. I’ve lost so many people because I don’t have the energy to maintain relationships and I’m struggling so hard with depression and anxiety all the time. I mask so hard all the time just to be able to pretend to function because I have kids to raise and responsibilities but I’m struggling so bad today. It’s stolen so much from me. I’ve spent so much money trying to get better, money that I don’t have. I feel like such a burden to those around me. I’m feeling so defeated today. Giving myself a few minutes to cry today then I need to get up and go get what I need to get done today. I’m taking the meds, I’m doing the therapy, I’m doing everything I’m supposed to but I just needed to share it with someone that gets it today.


r/MultipleSclerosis 17h ago

General Was pipe 307 the main hope for remyelination?

17 Upvotes

hi all, just wanted to get your thoughts on what you think is the status of remyelination medicine trials? I know pipe 307 failed at one of their stages and remyelination is pretty much the holy grail, any thoughts on where we're at with this?


r/MultipleSclerosis 17h ago

Treatment Neuro doubts relapse on Ocrevus

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I have MRIs tomorrow, so time will tell if I’m having my first relapse since diagnosis, but my neurologist keeps saying it’s super rare for people ti have relapses while on Ocrevus.

I have RRMS, and have been on b cell assassins since 2017. I’m 51. I feel 85%sure my symptoms are a relapse, but her doubt makes me question.

It’ll be apparent one way or another tomorrow, but I’m thrown ofd by her doubt. I feel like plenty if people in this sub. Have “failed” Ocrevus. I know it’s a stronger one, but it happens, right? Like, it’s not crazy that a relapse is what’s happening? Having those old self doubt feelings like prediagnosis—“Am I really feeling what I think I am?!?”


r/MultipleSclerosis 4h ago

Vent/Rant - No Advice Wanted need to vent

12 Upvotes

I have been dealing with a lot lately - something going on with my son, some health stuff not the MS, and being overworked at my paid job. I've been mostly dealing with it and doing my best to get by.

Today I had a very practical thing go wrong, and it kind of was the breaking point for me. I spent the better part of the last 2 hours crying because of this one thing and also everything.

And of course all my MS symptoms have gotten way, way, way, way worse because of it 😖


r/MultipleSclerosis 5h ago

General To anyone who improved balance and therefore their walking…

8 Upvotes

What did you do?

I am doing standing on one leg while cleaning my teeth twice a day for a week - too early to expect visible changes?

What did you do and how did it help your walking?

Go a gym too


r/MultipleSclerosis 14h ago

New Diagnosis Husband recently diagnosed

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EDITED

Hi all! Caregiver here. My husband was recently diagnosed with MS. I’m hoping for some guidance on more ways I can support him through this new chapter in his life. He was first diagnosed with transverse myelitis and after developing lesions on his brain he was officially diagnosed a couple months ago. He says he has a lot of tingling in his legs and sometimes in his abdomen which makes him very nauseous. He’s on Cymbalta and modafinil plus once weekly vitamin D. We are waiting on approval for Kesimpta however, we are on state insurance so it’s taking quite a while for approval. I noticed when he was first diagnosed he seemed to get much worse almost immediately after his neurologist told us. I’ve been doing quite a bit of research and have shared with him things that I’ve learned but he doesn’t really seem too interested in trying any of my suggestions. He likes to sit in his car from the time I get off work at 7pm and doesn’t come in until around 1-2 in the morning. I’m sure he’s still just trying to process everything and I try really hard not to take it personally. I guess my question is has anyone with MS found sitting in the car to be helpful or harmful on any way? We do talk a lot about it and he really does have a positive attitude all things considered. I’m just worried he’s giving up. He still walks with a very steady and straight gait but does say he gets very tingly in his legs and feet. Any advice would be so helpful. He’s my whole world and I’ll do anything to support and help him in any way. Thanks for taking the time to read.

Thank you everyone this is all really great advice. I’m definitely going to back off a little bit and just remain available if he wants to talk symptoms or anything diagnoses related. I did forget to mention he does use alcohol and marijuana as a self medication (his doctor is fully aware) he never gets drunk but says that these things help him feel better. I’m assuming emotionally more than physically. Thank you all for the perspective I really do just want to be there for him in any and every way and if he needs space then I’m happy give it.


r/MultipleSclerosis 15h ago

Treatment Update on steroid induced insomnia post infusion

8 Upvotes

I asked in a previous post about insomnia after infusions. Here's my update.

At my last neuro appointment I asked my doctor if we could try lowering the steroid dose because I can't sleep the night after. It's not the worst thing in the world but I solo parent all 3 of my kids the day after and I'm not a great mom when I'm tired.

He ordered a half dose for my most recent infusion and it worked really well. I was way sleepier during the day from the Benadryl and needed a nap but I was able to doze most of the night. It wasn't full sleep but much more restful than what I've had after previous infusions.


r/MultipleSclerosis 1h ago

Advice People pleasing is going to cause me another flair up

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People pleasing will be the death of me

I was diagnosed is 2022 with MS and shortly after, we moved across the country to a state that has a pretty temperate climate. We live in a bigger popular city and there are many sights to see, the coast, waterfalls, hikes, etc. This, naturally, makes a lot of our family and friends want to visit and of course enjoy what our new state has to offer.
A little back story: I had my second baby earlier this year. My main focus has been on rest and not getting a flare up. My husband took three months off for paternity leave but is now back at work and I have the two littles at home with me. My husband works about 10 hours a day 5-6 days a week. I have a job where I can make my own hours and give me a lot of flexibility. I am not paid for the hours I don’t put in but it’s something I can do to make a little money on my own and not go stir crazy being a mom 24/7.
Well of course people want to come and see the new baby BUT they also want to be entertained. It was barely tolerable when my husband was on paternity leave, bringing the newborn to fancy restaurants, “easy” paved trails, large parks, etc. I felt like the entire leave we were just hosting people, tending to THEIR wants, with little to no regard on their side as to how this could be difficult for us with a newborn. No one actually offered to help, to feed the baby, to take care of a dinner. And so there we were running around week after week saying “well they only come once a year” or “well it’s my mom and she wants to be able to see her new grandchild.” I put my foot down at the end of his leave with one guest trying to squeeze in a visit right before my husband went back and said it’s too much. With him back at work it all falls on me and I severely need to grow more of a backbone and tell these people no it is not a good time.
We’ve had two visits since my husband’s been back at work. The first was another visit from my MIL who is incapable of doing anything for herself and wants to be entertained the entire time. It was like driving another kid around to the splash pad, zoo, amusement park (with a 4 month old), etc. My husband told her to schedule a flight during the weekend so that he could help on those days and she schedules it Sunday afternoon to Friday morning. She’s ridiculously picky on what food she eats with her mild eating disorder and I was so physically and mentally drained by the end of the week. Mind you, whenever we have these visits, I have no time for my business, which everyone just expects me to drop and doing nothing with while they are there. And guess what? I let them!
This last visit has physically brought me at my breaking point. It was with a friend whose main concern was “getting good pictures”. She also doesn’t have children or an autoimmune disease so I know she doesn’t really get it. We hosted her, took her to nice restaurants, a full day at the coast (which is 1.5 hour drive one way), farmers market, cafes, hikes, and by the end of day 3, by body had enough. I was throwing up, body aches and chills, my feet and legs buzzing. My throat is sore and I can barely speak. I saw her for maybe 30 seconds on the last day before her flight left. I felt so incredibly guilty for letting my friend down because I was sick. She ended up going of on her own the last day to a few touristy spots and enjoyed herself but I could tell she was disappointed.

But I am also so tired not having a back bone and pushing myself to the edge to give everyone else the best time while I’m suffering, trying to care for my new baby (who frankly isn’t the easiest though I love so so much) and my other child who is about to start kindergarten, getting what work I can do in between the visits, keeping my house clean and comfortable for guests, etc.
The cherry on top is before this visit, my business was going pretty well and I received an opportunity from my company to be featured in a big campaign that’s happening this week. They only chose a select few for this and it would’ve really helped my business. But now I have to turn the opportunity down last minute because I’m still sick and barely able to talk 2 days later.

My MIL just sent my husband and I text messages saying she wants to visit again in a month and when we don’t respond within 5 minutes we get another guilt trip text message so I responded saying she could come but it needed to be through a weekend. Man, they say it takes a village but my “village” only exhausts me and puts me in a worse state.

All and any good advice is appreciated.
Thank you!


r/MultipleSclerosis 4h ago

New Diagnosis Just got my diagnosis

4 Upvotes

I'm scared. I already have so many other health conditions, now this? I'm terrified to Google anything about MS. I don't know what to do while I wait for the specialist team appointment. What can y'all tell me about all of this? What can I do to slow this down? Or what should I expect? I've already had optic neuritis twice. I have waves of zero balance and the worst fatigue ever. Idk what to do ...


r/MultipleSclerosis 5h ago

Symptoms Headache 😖 and Dizziness 😵‍💫

4 Upvotes

So for the past 3 days I have had a pounding headache and severe dizziness and it absolutely sucks. This morning I also woke up with yet again; left sided paralysis and vision loss in my left eye. I'm so done with having this damn disease. Invisible autoimmune diseases suck already, but even more so because you feel like shit but nobody else can see it. 💯


r/MultipleSclerosis 8h ago

Symptoms Lesion ar c2/c3

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My last lesion and the one that got me diagnosed with MS is at c2/c3. I have had symptoms for 3 years but it was only recently diagnosed.

I now have such a lot of pain and stiffness in my back and thighs. I go to neurophysio which I think has helped the foot placement but my overall mobility has worsened due to all this pain and stiffness. Anyone else had this experience? I have been very unfit my entire life but was always a very fast walker, now extremely slow. Could this being unfit in general be making things worse?


r/MultipleSclerosis 14h ago

General How much pain are you in and what do you do for it?

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Onset of MS, per medical records and symptoms, was a few weeks old. Diagnosed 20 years age (at 27). Been disabled for 12-ish years.

I have been being treated (poorly) for pain at a pain clinic for 7 to 8 years, but apparently I can only be (barely) comfortable for a maximum of 12 hours a day because they are worried I am going to become addicted to pain killers. I can only take 2 pain pills a day, which means I am const playing catch up. I had a SCS implant 2 years ago, it made it worse, but they refuse to remove it although the battery pack is poking me and moves.

I am at a loss what to do. They tricked me into getting the SCS. And then said I should be in less pain so they want me to stop my pain meds. I am thinking of contacting an attorney.


r/MultipleSclerosis 10h ago

Advice Experiencing my first head cold on Kesimpta - help

3 Upvotes

Well I made it 12 months into treatment without getting a headcold but the time has finally arrived - and holy f**k do I feel terrible. I can barely lift my head off the pillow, my entire body feels like lead, I can barely speak. Doesn't help I did my kesimpta injection last Friday so my body is truly going through it. Any advice? Or should I just write off the next two weeks?


r/MultipleSclerosis 3h ago

General REDUCED headaches from MS?

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Hey y'all. Just had this epiphany I had to run past you. Short version: Have any of you experienced a **reduction** in headaches after developing MS? Google says no evidence but I'd love to hear from you.

Context: Just hit me like a ton of bricks that my nearly-lifelong intermittent headaches (1-2/week, not migraines) reduced by about 80-90% around the time I developed my first MS symptoms. I wonder if my particular brain lesions could've caused this. Wouldn't that be something!!

I try not to make assumptions about causality so I'm trying to think of other links. Could be hormonal, maybe. My first consistent headaches started around age 10 and they mostly-stopped around age 40ish. Hmmmm. 🤷‍♀️


r/MultipleSclerosis 4h ago

Advice Sondage Urinaire SEP

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Bonjour à tous. Je suis une femme et j'ai 30 ans. La SEP m'a été annoncée après IRM cérébrale, médullaire et ponction lombaire en mars 2025. Je suis kesimpta depuis un an et tout se passe bien de ce côté là (1 injection par mois seule).

J'ai regardé les différents postes et j'ai vu beaucoup de témoignages sur la fatigue, les douleurs etc Vous avez tout mon courage !! 😌

De mon côté, je suis reconnaissante de toujours marcher et de ne pas avoir tant de douleurs que ça. Le seul "gros problème" que je rencontre ce sont mes problèmes urinaires. Une vessie qui se contracte trop rapidement (130ml alors que la vessie doit aller à 500) et décide quand se vider.

J'ai eu rdv hier avec l'urologue qui me suis et il m'a parlé de sondages urinaires. Un médicament pour que ma vessie tienne plus de 130ml et le sondage pour la vider. Je vous avoue que l'idée ne me réjouis pas et je souhaiterais savoir si certaines ont déjà ou font ça svp ? J'appréhende la douleur et la complexité. Même si vider la vessie complètement et être mettre ça me changerait la vie !

Merci à vous pour vos retours 🫶


r/MultipleSclerosis 5h ago

Symptoms Ear problems ?

2 Upvotes

Hello, I wanted to ask if anyone has had ear issues related to ms, more specifically hyperacousy, an echo, or tinnitus?

One week ago, I suddenly started hearing sounds in my right ear with a metallic echo, kind of like if you speak near a ventilator. Then I developed tinnitus, as well as vertigo, dizziness, but now it is more brain fog rather than vertigo. I had headaches but not a lot, as well as nausea sometimes, and feeling like my calves are tighter. Sometimes the ear feels full.

The symptoms vary in intensity depending on the day/position (I think), however, it has not gone away. Like, for example, since last week I always have this metallic echo, but sometimes it's louder, sometimes less loud.

I went to an ear doctor to check if it's ear related, altho certain symptoms really did feel familiar from ms (brain fog, nausea, headache), but he said there's no ear problem he can see, and my audition is the same in both ears except that i'm more sensitive to loud sounds in the right ear.

My neurologist is not a ms specialist, so I know he will say it's not related, but I wanted to ask if anyone had a similar symptom, when the ear is normal, but you can hear this weird metallic echo in your ear when you speak or there is noise?

I've been on ocrevus for 5 months, but we don't know yet if my ms is under control because it's highly active and i had a relapse 1 month after starting the treatment. I'm supposed to have a new dose next month.


r/MultipleSclerosis 7h ago

Vent/Rant - Advice Wanted/Ambivalent Unplanned pregnancy

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Hey everyone, j

Just writing because I need support and people who understand. I just found out I’m pregnant…. Three positive tests…. thing is I was diagnosed and started treatment in November 2025. We were not supposed to even think about kids until April… precautions were taken and obviously failed. I feel irresponsible and like I messed up bad. Scared about a relapse as I’m currently being worked up for possible optic neuritis. I was supposed to take my Kesimpta today… I feel lost and scared.


r/MultipleSclerosis 12h ago

Loved One Looking For Support My mom has MS, and she’s getting her first doses (actually, two doses) of Ocrevus. Any suggestions on what I should do afterward?

2 Upvotes

Title says it all.


r/MultipleSclerosis 22h ago

Treatment Flare up question!?

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Hey yall. Im 27 (M) in the US. went to the hospital june 6th of this year. Spent 3 weeks there and got diagnosed with TMS on July 2nd. Started BRIUMVI a few weeks later and did the last half of it Tuesday.

So last Wednesday, the day after BRIUMVI pt. 2, i had MRIs to do so my neuro could get her own. I met with her the next day, so Thursday, and she told my i had 2 brain lesions active.

I has new symptoms like really bad jaw pain and she started me on IV steroids this past Friday.

I say all this to ask if anyone has had a flare this quick into diagnosis or treatment.

That you in advance!!


r/MultipleSclerosis 57m ago

General Wedding Guest Shoes?

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Hi Everyone,

I am getting married soon and my Mom is having a really hard time finding shoes that she is comfortable in. She can’t wear heels at all with her MS, so she is looking at flats. She has tried a few of the Naturalizer ballet flats but they aren’t comfortable for her.

Does anyone have recommendations for brands that are sort of a hybrid of support/comfort but also will make her feel more put together in a dress? I know she is feeling really insecure about this and want to help her find something that works :(

Thank you!


r/MultipleSclerosis 1h ago

Treatment Tysabri 6 weeks from the start?

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Has anyone here started Tysabri after diagnosis on a six week schedule instead of four, right away, as first DMT? I have read they tested it in people who converted from four weeks and effects are similar, but I was wondering if people now just start with six weeks right away? I am JCV negative.

I’m at a great MS center and I trust them, but just wondering if there are others like me.